• For men who keep falling in love with female friends
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Big Dumb American, I salute you.
Get the girl, THEN make friends with her. I got it. Alright, thanks BDA!
The same thing was about to happen to me with my current wife. She liked me and I liked her, but we both were too nervous to share the true feelings. She was almost about to go with someone else, (some douchebag with art gallery or something) when I did the only thing I know I do well: Sing I sang her Elton John´s "Your song". Long story short we had sex.
[QUOTE=Dr. Strangelove;29568482]The same thing was about to happen to me with my current wife. She liked me and I liked her, but we both were too nervous to share the true feelings. She was almost about to go with someone else, (some douchebag with art gallery or something) when I did the only thing I know I do well: Sing I sang her Elton John´s "Your song". Long story short we had sex.[/QUOTE] But, I thought you loved the nuke! Dr. Strangelove, are you an adulterer?
Never talk to members of the opposite gender - problem solved, the Facepunch way.
Well good thing I don't have any friends. Dodged a bullet there.
My girlfriend and I did this for half a year, tried not to fall in love with eachother... Well then we made out at a party, I confessed my love to her like the drunk idiot I was, she told me she felt the same way So, friend crushes don't always go to hell :v:
[QUOTE=Xolo;25933209]Oh. So, you're just repugnant, Jewish, and never get out? Not that the median necessarily lessens your chance for social interaction, but the former and latter do.[/QUOTE] FYI, those black-wearing, beard-growers, who you think are Jews, are just the minority, the god-believers minority. Not all Jews are like that, and assuming someone not going out with girls because he is Jewish is stupid. We are in the 21st century, for fucks sake.
I started to -like- my really close friend (who is a female I might add) asked her to hang out, ended up holding her hand, we found somewhere private and we were joking around, she said I was silly and I told her to shut up, she said "nope" so I replied with "Bet you I can make you" halfway through saying "go for it" it I kissed her, the kiss must have lasted a minute and I still remember what my first kiss with her felt like. I had been friends with her for a pretty long time before that, but that day I asked her out and she said yes, a few weeks later I told her I was seriously in love with her and she said she felt the same. I've been with her for around two months now, hoping it'll last and it seems to be going in that direction :) a little confidence goes a long way, guys.
I've just learned to go straight for the kill, so I generally just hook up now and date later.
I've met this amazing girl, good looking, awesome personality, cool. I coddled her so much that I tried to beat myself because I know that women like assholes but she's different. We spoke about love and relationships. She said that she doesn't like relationships and that she never had a boyfriend. This hurt so much, I thought damnit, what can I do know. I told her my feelings about her, that I'm different, polite, nice and that I don't want to be this asshole guy. And now the good happy end, she said that she wants someone like me, we both haven't had sex before and she wants to do it with me and that she wants a relationship just with me, because I'm different. [B]Best. Feeling. Ever![/B]
Yeah. Just voice your opinion, for God's sake! Tell that lady you love her.[QUOTE=Mlisen14;25933138]Haha saw this exact post coming. It's like 90% of threads in Love Advice.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Pascall;25934873]And then there's the guys who fall for EVERY female friend they have. Had that problem with a guy who asked me out, saying he was border-line in love with me and when I said no, then turned around two hours later and asked another girl out. One of my close friends, no less. The guy's still my friend but he's still hopeless when it comes to women.[/QUOTE] Gender swap [img]http://25.media.tumblr.com/7UhDdGJJ6oid9ppgbvxyp7flo1_500.png[/img]
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;25933059]What a dumbass. What do you do? You ask them the fuck out. It's that goddamn easy, holy shit, you kids make a big deal out of the smallest shit. Who cares if you've been friends for a long time? There's no rule saying you can't ask out friends. The worst possible thing anyone could ever do is the retarded "spill your guts" crap that all of you autistic idiots tend to do. When you ask someone out, you're inferring that you are interested and have feelings for them, you don't need to make shit awkward and pull that "Hurr I like you" crap out.[/QUOTE] Spared my time of writing a decent reply.
[i]This[/i] thread again. Long story short: Maverick had it pretty much spot on.
i always get the two mavericks mixed up hot damn
I had a really rough experience with a girl over the past year and a half that's made me feel like it'd be hard for me to do more than hook up with most girls. You always end up meeting someone very different that you feel the same way about, but when you reach a really high level of compatibility with someone but it doesn't work out, it can get pretty scary.
[QUOTE=Teal Moose;26020381]You put down in words what I was always too ashamed to admit. Bravo. god i love your threads[/QUOTE] this this and this!
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;29573603][i]This[/i] thread again. Long story short: Maverick had it pretty much spot on.[/QUOTE] no really i can't believe it (this means i was spot on by saying maverick was spot on :smug:)
OP, can I make one point? The examples provided in your post were rather... specific.
:smith: This is exactly what is happening to me.. But im afraid that our friendship will break apart..
I know a woman who is more intelligent than anyone I've yet met - and statstically, that I'm ever likely to meet. She's got a dry/dirty sense of humor, a playful nature, and a great bod. We're more than friends but less than a couple. I do have feelings for her, but I'm not governed by them, because I value the friendship more.
[QUOTE=archangel125;29575533]I know a woman who is more intelligent than anyone I've yet met - and statstically, that I'm ever likely to meet. She's got a dry/dirty sense of humor, a playful nature, and a great bod. We're more than friends but less than a couple. I do have feelings for her, but I'm not governed by them, because I value the friendship more.[/QUOTE] Who says you can't display your feelings for someone while retaining a friendship? You make it out like taking action on your feelings would ruin it. That would only be the case if you were retarded and pulled a "hurr durr I love you" card instead of just asking her out. It's always interesting to hear the girl's side of things. I've heard plenty of dudes talk about the whole "more than friends but less than a couple" thing and it turns out the girl just thinks they're friends. When you're infatuated with someone, you interpret trivial shit as flirting. Anything vaguely intelligent they say turns into the most amazing thing you've ever heard. 10 bucks says that girl isn't nearly as intelligent as you're making her out to be. Sure, she could be a smart girl, but plenty of smart girls exist among us. I assume that you're exaggerating it out of infatuation simply due to the nature of how you talk about her. It's like you're shoving her up on some pedestal "OH MAN NEVER GONNA MEET ANOTHER GIRL LIKE HER OH MAN SHE'S PRETTY AND SMART AND FUNNY OH MAN," is what I got out of what you just said. People that play the "I value the friendship" card are virtually always afraid of something and just trying to hide it. Like I said, it's not like being in a relationship would destroy the friendship, if anything it'd make it better. It just sounds like you're making up an excuse for your inability to take action.
I agree with OP so. Freaking. Much.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;29575819]Who says you can't display your feelings for someone while retaining a friendship? You make it out like taking action on your feelings would ruin it. That would only be the case if you were retarded and pulled a "hurr durr I love you" card instead of just asking her out. It's always interesting to hear the girl's side of things. I've heard plenty of dudes talk about the whole "more than friends but less than a couple" thing and it turns out the girl just thinks they're friends. When you're infatuated with someone, you interpret trivial shit as flirting. Anything vaguely intelligent they say turns into the most amazing thing you've ever heard. 10 bucks says that girl isn't nearly as intelligent as you're making her out to be. Sure, she could be a smart girl, but plenty of smart girls exist among us. I assume that you're exaggerating it out of infatuation simply due to the nature of how you talk about her. It's like you're shoving her up on some pedestal "OH MAN NEVER GONNA MEET ANOTHER GIRL LIKE HER OH MAN SHE'S PRETTY AND SMART AND FUNNY OH MAN," is what I got out of what you just said. People that play the "I value the friendship" card are virtually always afraid of something and just trying to hide it. Like I said, it's not like being in a relationship would destroy the friendship, if anything it'd make it better. It just sounds like you're making up an excuse for your inability to take action.[/QUOTE] I mean that we're very good friends and we're intimate, but she hasn't explicitly shown a greater interest than that in me and I'd really rather not risk offending her or damaging our relationship by bringing love into the picture. And I really don't think I'm exaggerating her. Think IQ of 189, tall, fit Irish girl, amazingly quick wit, mischevious smile, kinky as hell. And eight goddamn years older than me.
[QUOTE=archangel125;29575923]I mean that we're very good friends and we're intimate, but she hasn't explicitly shown a greater interest than that in me and I'd really rather not risk offending her or damaging our relationship by bringing love into the picture. And I really don't think I'm exaggerating her. Think IQ of 189, tall, fit Irish girl, amazingly quick wit, mischevious smile, kinky as hell. And eight goddamn years older than me.[/QUOTE] Older women are fun :q:
I'm in a few of those "friends" relationships. The difference is that I'm having sex with all of them :wink: On a more serious note, it actually took a failure of a relationship to cure me of my "nice guy syndrome". [editline]2nd May 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=MaverickIB;29575819]Who says you can't display your feelings for someone while retaining a friendship?[/QUOTE] This. Really, don't be afraid to put your arm around her or something if you're sure she would be comfortable with it.
[QUOTE=Ender_Wiggin;29576062]I'm in a few of those "friends" relationships. The difference is that I'm having sex with all of them :wink:[/QUOTE] I wish I was like you. :smith:
I used to be like this, and I am ashamed to say it. Now, I'm still not getting pussy, but I stop really caring about what girls have to say. I'm pretty happy right now, I could just do with less fapping and more flapping. Like a whale?!
[QUOTE=kayOkay;29576254]I wish I was like you. :smith:[/QUOTE] Then do it. No, really. The only thing keeping you from being who you want to be is your delusion that you are who you are and that's that. You need to get over it.
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