• For men who keep falling in love with female friends
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[QUOTE=SomeRandomGuy18;25945602]I'm a nerd because I stated a fact Okay[/QUOTE] everything's a chemical reaction though. Im simply stating the typical view of love (Ie you love someone for ever ever bullshit) dosn't exist. I really don't have self-confidence nor care about my self that much, so I never peruse anything i guess on the base's I don't crave that personal/social gain as much as everyone els.
[QUOTE=SomeRandomGuy18;25945602]I'm a nerd because I stated a fact Okay[/QUOTE] no you're a nerd because you refer to it like that nerd
[QUOTE=Dysentery;25945584]typical nerd right here[/QUOTE] How can you say it is more? All that we feel, every stimuli, what makes us [i]conscious[/i] is neurons firing off in sequence within our brain.
[QUOTE=ScoutKing;25945680]everything's a chemical reaction though. Im simply stating the typical view of love (Ie you love someone for ever ever bullshit) dosn't exist. I really don't have self-confidence nor care about my self that much, so I never peruse anything i guess on the base's I don't crave that personal/social gain as much as everyone els.[/QUOTE] I don't think that's true at all. Love wouldn't be special if it wasn't rare.
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;25945706]I don't think that's true at all. Love wouldn't be special if it wasn't rare.[/QUOTE] conditioned to think its special. what do we tell our children since they're born? regardless if they're retarded "you're special/what you did today by building with blocks is special" We are told everythings special. Again I can ask any one I know who is in a relationship, each answer is "its special" huh real special for it to dissolve so easily heh? now before you say "ohh pff of course its not special its youth and high school love" look at the divorce statistic The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41% The divorce rate in America for second marriage is 60% The divorce rate in America for third marriage is 73% so even that "true love" were man and women get married dissolve just as easily over time.
[QUOTE=ScoutKing;25945756]conditioned to think its special. what do we tell our children since they're born? regardless if they're retarded "you're special/what you did today by building with blocks is special" We are told everythings special. Again I can ask any one I know who is in a relationship, each answer is "its special" huh real special for it to dissolve so easily heh? now before you say "ohh pff of course its not special its youth and high school love" look at the divorce statistic The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41% The divorce rate in America for second marriage is 60% The divorce rate in America for third marriage is 73% so even that "true love" were man and women get married dissolve just as easily over time.[/QUOTE] Just because you love someone doesn't mean you love them forever I think the problem is you watched too many Disney cartoons and have a very inaccurate picture of what love is. Anything but two people with a completely altruistic desire to do nothing but serve each other all day every day is love, sound about right?
[QUOTE=ScoutKing;25945756]conditioned to think its special. what do we tell our children since they're born? regardless if they're retarded "you're special/what you did today by building with blocks is special" We are told everythings special. Again I can ask any one I know who is in a relationship, each answer is "its special" huh real special for it to dissolve so easily heh? now before you say "ohh pff of course its not special its youth and high school love" look at the divorce statistic The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41% The divorce rate in America for second marriage is 60% The divorce rate in America for third marriage is 73% so even that "true love" were man and women get married dissolve just as easily over time.[/QUOTE] typical loveless facepuncher attitude
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;25945787]Just because you love someone doesn't mean you love them forever I think the problem is you watched too many Disney cartoons and have a very inaccurate picture of what love is. Anything but two people with a completely altruistic desire to do nothing but serve each other all day every day is love, sound about right?[/QUOTE] no I just don't care for the realistic definition of love. [editline]9th November 2010[/editline] [QUOTE=Dysentery;25945793]typical loveless facepuncher attitude[/QUOTE] I know kick ass isn't it.
The best thing to do in this situation is have casual, meaningless sex. If you're both mature enough about it, it shouldn't really change anything.
[QUOTE=Dysentery;25945697]no you're a nerd because you refer to it like that nerd[/QUOTE] Someone's defensive Also it was in response to the guy who said love wasn't real, not a random statement saying love is stupid
Respected User I agree to the fullest. I love you, man.
[QUOTE=SomeRandomGuy18;25945405]Love is just chemical reactions in the brain[/QUOTE] So is your every thought, emotion, dream, and aspiration. Your entire consciousness and self is just chemical reactions. [editline]9th November 2010[/editline] [QUOTE=SomeRandomGuy18;25946223]Someone's defensive Also it was in response to the guy who said love wasn't real, not a random statement saying love is stupid[/QUOTE] Oh, nevermind then.
[QUOTE=ScoutKing;25945680]everything's a chemical reaction though. Im simply stating the typical view of love (Ie you love someone for ever ever bullshit) dosn't exist. I really don't have self-confidence nor care about my self that much, so I never peruse anything i guess on the base's I don't crave that personal/social gain as much as everyone els.[/QUOTE] I respect myself enough not to put myself in a sticky situation where I or someone else may be hurt. And what's the point in going out in High School? I have college after this and I DO NOT want to screw that up for me or them.People change in that timeframe(4 years... Much can change), and perhaps nothing will come of it. So what's the point? I'm probably going to save dating for college/after college. Friendships are good enough. Infact, as my Health teacher says, "We're brain damaged". You are not mentally developed enough @ ~17-18 to handle these kind of things, and since you develop throughout HS, you will change, just as everyone else will. tl;dr: I'm much more comfortable at friendship(right now). Nothing is wrong with that.
[QUOTE=Latency;25946087]The best thing to do in this situation is have casual, meaningless sex. If you're both mature enough about it, it shouldn't really change anything.[/QUOTE] What would that accomplish? OP is lonely, not horny- though some people probably can't tell the difference.
Everyone should read this at least once.
I always cut off ties with most of my friends...I did it in fifth grade moving up to sixth. Then did it again when I went to private school and now its slowly happening again since I'm in college. Soon after I finish college and graduate and then move to where my new job is I'll cut myself off again and never hear from anyone from college. Its unhealthy and I know this, but its what has shaped who I am now and I'm not going to change myself to make others feel happy. I've done enough of that already.
What an oddly relevant thread... A good read I suppose, not that this is a thing I'd want to dwell on.
[QUOTE=Mingebox;25946336]So is your every thought, emotion, dream, and aspiration. Your entire consciousness and self is just chemical reactions.[/QUOTE] exactly
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;25933059]What a dumbass. What do you do? You ask them the fuck out. It's that goddamn easy, holy shit, you kids make a big deal out of the smallest shit. Who cares if you've been friends for a long time? There's no rule saying you can't ask out friends. The worst possible thing anyone could ever do is the retarded "spill your guts" crap that all of you autistic idiots tend to do. When you ask someone out, you're inferring that you are interested and have feelings for them, you don't need to make shit awkward and pull that "Hurr I like you" crap out.[/QUOTE] Was wondering how long it would take until some sense entered this thread. <3 you maverick.
[QUOTE=MachiniOs;25941358]Asking a friend out makes it akward in that if they say no it can be akward after. It's happened to me before, granted it wasn't that akward but i've been on the verge of asking someone out then finding out that they like someone else, there isn't really a surefire way when it comes to relationships. For the love of god though avoid situations like the OP's.[/QUOTE] Errr, asking out is almost never awkward unless you make it awkward. I asked out one of my friends, she said no, done deal no one cares anymore. Keep in mind my self-esteem in on a micron of a wire, and I find asking out girls, and getting rejected, easy. [editline]8th November 2010[/editline] [QUOTE=BigOwl;25944329]That goddamn easy, huh? You sure do sound like you're speaking from experience there, buckaroo.[/QUOTE] It is shit easy to ask out a girl, and most of the time (Unless if they're heartless bitches that you shouldn't really date in the first place) they won't make a big fuss out of it.
Who actually does the whole 'asking out' thing anyway? My girlfriend was my best friend for a long while, and then one night when we were both a bit drunk I kissed her. Been 4 years now, we live together and everything. Still never asked her out.
[QUOTE=Kade;25946895]Who actually does the whole 'asking out' thing anyway? My girlfriend was my best friend for a long while, and then one night when we were both a bit drunk I kissed her. Been 4 years now, we live together and everything. Still never asked her out.[/QUOTE] Normal people ask girls out. Not in the creepy spill your guts way but the "Hey want to catch a movie later" way.
[QUOTE=Perfumly;25946919]Normal people ask girls out. Not in the creepy spill your guts way but the "Hey want to catch a movie later" way.[/QUOTE] That wouldn't be 'asking out' in the sense I mean. I mean the kind of confirmation of commitment kind of way.
[QUOTE=Kade;25947096]That wouldn't be 'asking out' in the sense I mean. I mean the kind of confirmation of commitment kind of way.[/QUOTE] Relationships don't really have to be confirmed, as such. But you can't get into a relationship without asking someone out.
[QUOTE=SomeRandomGuy18;25946604]exactly[/QUOTE] I thought you were being one of those people who though explaining that love is a chemical reaction makes it somehow less real.
[QUOTE=Mingebox;25947180]I thought you were being one of those people who though explaining that love is a chemical reaction makes it somehow less real.[/QUOTE] No, that would be a stupid decision considering that everything is a chemical reaction, including sight, hearing, etc.
[QUOTE=zombiefreak;25946773]Errr, asking out is almost never awkward unless you make it awkward. I asked out one of my friends, she said no, done deal no one cares anymore. Keep in mind my self-esteem in on a micron of a wire, and I find asking out girls, and getting rejected, easy. [/QUOTE] Rejection doesn't really bother me that much. Unfortunately, I have a borderline phobia of awkward situations, and vividly remember every awkward situation from my past so well that it conjures the same feelings as it did when they first happened.
[QUOTE=Mingebox;25947272]Rejection doesn't really bother me that much. Unfortunately, I have a borderline phobia of awkward situations, and vividly remember every awkward situation from my past so well that it conjures the same feelings as it did when they first happened.[/QUOTE] The awkwardness is entirely self-imposed.
[QUOTE=SomeRandomGuy18;25947258]No, that would be a stupid decision considering that everything is a chemical reaction, including sight, hearing, etc.[/QUOTE] Yep, but there are plenty of members of the Jr. Nietzsche Scouts that think they've discovered some crushing truth that will dispel the magic of love for everyone. [editline]9th November 2010[/editline] [QUOTE=zombiefreak;25947318]The awkwardness is entirely self-imposed.[/QUOTE] Thanks for the tip, Freud, I'll just introspect myself until it's gone.
[QUOTE=Mingebox;25947336]Yep, but there are plenty of members of the Jr. Nietzsche Scouts that think they've discovered some crushing truth that will dispel the magic of love for everyone.[/QUOTE] I'm working on my gazing into the abyss merit badge
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