• For men who keep falling in love with female friends
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[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;25947395]I'm working on my gazing into the abyss merit badge[/QUOTE] god that badge takes ages to get.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;25933059]What a dumbass. What do you do? You ask them the fuck out. It's that goddamn easy, holy shit, you kids make a big deal out of the smallest shit. Who cares if you've been friends for a long time? There's no rule saying you can't ask out friends. The worst possible thing anyone could ever do is the retarded "spill your guts" crap that all of you autistic idiots tend to do. When you ask someone out, you're inferring that you are interested and have feelings for them, you don't need to make shit awkward and pull that "Hurr I like you" crap out.[/QUOTE] :ohdear:
[QUOTE=Mingebox;25947336] Thanks for the tip, Freud, I'll just introspect myself until it's gone.[/QUOTE] I speak from experience.
[QUOTE=Mingebox;25947336]Yep, but there are plenty of members of the Jr. Nietzsche Scouts that think they've discovered some crushing truth that will dispel the magic of love for everyone. [/QUOTE] I didn't know having a opinion made me such a horrible person. [sp] Yes im playing the opinion card [/sp]
[QUOTE=ScoutKing;25947476]I didn't know having a opinion made me such a horrible person. [sp] Yes im playing the opinion card [/sp][/QUOTE] It would be fallacious to assume that love being a chemical reaction makes it less substantial, because it's still as real as any other though or emotion, and even if there was some transcendental part of us that felt "real" emotion, it would still feel the same as chemical emotions.
[QUOTE=Guniv;25947429]yeah but facepunch is full of people like me awkward idiots that aren't getting anyone in the next 10 years :smithicide:[/QUOTE] I think one of the points of this thread is that it doesn't have to be this way.
My main issue seems to be that all the women that I've been attracted too, for the most part, are already in a relationship and I never get the chance to ask them out because as soon as I see an opportunity they've gone to someone else. [editline]8th November 2010[/editline] It's probably because of my major procrastination problem.
[QUOTE=CondolentSarge;25947625]My main issue seems to be that all the women that I've been attracted too, for the most part, are already in a relationship and I never get the chance to ask them out because as soon as I see an opportunity they've gone to someone else. [editline]8th November 2010[/editline] It's probably because of my major procrastination problem.[/QUOTE] [img]http://75.101.147.23/image.php?u=247599&dateline=1281240669[/img] :respek: [img]http://75.101.147.23/image.php?u=27396&dateline=1280342134[/img] Same boat, mate. Same boat.
[QUOTE=fixture;25932945]shakespeare wrote romeo and juliet, not you[/QUOTE] It's places like this I want the Bad Reading and Bad Spelling ratings back.
[QUOTE=Mingebox;25947578]It would be fallacious to assume that love being a chemical reaction makes it less substantial, because it's still as real as any other though or emotion, and even if there was some transcendental part of us that felt "real" emotion, it would still feel the same as chemical emotions.[/QUOTE] never said its just a chemical reaction. I think most people get involved in relationships now a days just for the personal gain. but thats just high school, I also notice a trend of more divorces (backed up by statistics) Maybe love is real, but in this day in age I doubt how many people really MEAN what they say about they're relationships.
[QUOTE=Gmod4ever;25947734][img_thumb]http://75.101.147.23/image.php?u=247599&dateline=1281240669[/img_thumb] :respek: [img_thumb]http://75.101.147.23/image.php?u=27396&dateline=1280342134[/img_thumb] Same boat, mate. Same boat.[/QUOTE] Don't worry bro, I'm sure we can get through this somehow.
[QUOTE=Mingebox;25946415]What would that accomplish? OP is lonely, not horny- though some people probably can't tell the difference.[/QUOTE] Fooling around feels good. You can have sex without being in a relationship and still be friends. It's called a fuck buddy. [editline]8th November 2010[/editline] What BDA is talking about is lust, anyway.
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;25945397]Yes because I'm the one who came into the thread just to say it was shit[/QUOTE] You're now saying something is bad is fighting. Bug off.
[QUOTE=Latency;25948932] What BDA is talking about is lust, anyway.[/QUOTE] Oh, never mind then. No BDA, you are the douchebags.
[QUOTE=Butthurter;25934109]you poor thing[/QUOTE] beeotch I ain't po' I got like fiddy dollahs
Great read, pinpointed the reasons for my feelings atm :p
[QUOTE=amcwatters;25949090]You're now saying something is bad is fighting.[/QUOTE] Where's the shut-the-fuck-up rating?
[QUOTE=Zer0;25951892]Where's the shut-the-fuck-up rating?[/QUOTE] nah let him keep it up, I don't think I've ever seen johnnymo completely wipe the floor with anyone like that before its actually pretty hilarious
fck, yeah!
:bravo: ENCORE!
[QUOTE=Twipsters;25932696]WOAH man[/QUOTE] [img]http://gyazo.com/c17fe15a639270b7a6884662a445e219.png[/img] [editline]9th November 2010[/editline] Bet on ALL horses. It's what they do also, why else would she be laying her head on some douche's shoulder? It's because you didn't have the initiative, you didn't grab your chances. It's not slutty, lowering your standards (and I don't mean the looks-standards) can help you a lot. My first girl friend was someone I'd never could have imagined before, we were completely different, we had opposite interests yet it lasted 11 months. Did I get hurt (eventually)? Yes. Do I regret it? No! We had good times and you only learn from it. To OP (who's right): Seems to me that this is due to low self-esteem, or the bad habit of choosing one chick and thinking that she's the only one that you'd have your chances with (it's not easy to avoid thinking this, I admit!) It's important not to fall into this hole because it'll fuck you up big time. As soon as you notice that you won't get her, drop it, put HER in the friend zone. On top of that, you actually increase your chances if you try to create some distance. If you offer yourself completely to her, then she won't have as much desire as if you appeared a bit 'unreachable'. Sounds cliché, but it all comes down to not showing yourself too vulnerable. Self-esteem & confidence are huge factors.
That was a very good way of putting into words what had been going through my own head just the other day. Someone who's read Ralph Waldo Emerson's "Self-Reliance" will know just what I'm talking about.
My philosophy: a girl already has a pussy, she doesn't need another one.
My problem: I've started going out with a pretty, funny, kind and smart girl, but I'm really in love with another one. Unfortunately the girl I'm in love with has a boyfriend ten times better than me. I honestly don't know where to go from this point.
[QUOTE=Spetzaz;25961875] I honestly don't know where to go from this point.[/QUOTE] Try going to Wendy's, their spicy chicken burger is really good.
So true, so true...
You're a very good writer. Although in retrospect of the story, it seems like people make it into too big a deal.
It hurts so bad to read this because it hurts even more to know it. Dear everyone: Act now. Try, at least fucking try. Because there is always that perfect moment that almost no one can ever reach; right after a decent amount of friendship, but right before she thinks that even though you're a nice, smart, funny, attractive guy, you are only treating her as a friend, and do not like her that way, so she looks elsewhere and finds someone who she isn't as close with, but can still have a nice relationship with; the one she could have had with you. A lot of people here just can't do it at the moment. They can't find it. It takes years of heartache, dozens of chances you pass because of a single stupid sentence you could have spilled out weeks ago. Because you can end up on the happiest place on Earth: the friend zone. TL;DR: He who waits masturbates. Related: It's much easier to know that that douchebag who's neck she's resting her head on is a complete fuck than it is to know that he's actually a decent guy; albeit not you. Now I'm reminded of all this past shit I've had in High School, god damn it. This sucks.
Cry some more, god damn. When it comes down to girls, shit or get off the pot. Either make a move or let it go, this crap you kids do where you sit there wondering what you should do and being all mopey blah blah blah is just retarded. Nothing about that is productive. If you make a move, get rejected and then cry like a little girl about it, you're smart, but a gigantic pussy. If you sit there all "hurr durr I like her but dunno what to do bawwww," you're both borderline retarded and a gigantic pussy.
This is [i]pretty much[/i] me. My only difference is that I'm not interested in the physical aspect of a relationship (I'll admit, I've never been in one to begin with.) and my thoughts never drift to how she looks. It's always about personality for me. But in the end, I always tell her how I feel. Whether it's a battle I've always lost, or one she doesn't know I'm in. Nothing ever happens, but, I move on.
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