Well Facepunch, I've next to hit rock bottom. What do I do?
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[QUOTE=Bordellimies;29862538]Best thing you can do is to show evidence. Ask if your cousins have a camera/tape recorder, if they have good for you.
If it goes physical, bruises can always be shown at the hospital. If verbal, you need visual evidence, or at least recorded the "conversation"[/QUOTE]
As I said, one is in the Army (In Germany, to be exact), one is in Georgia, I know neither of their numbers.
recording would help but if you cant im sorry dont know what to tell you,same shit happens here in japan to sometimes child welfare just completely miss abusive parents and these children fall right threw the cracks,hate to say this but if she does attack you again especially with something like a metal rod you do have the legal right to kill her im not saying you should murder her but i am telling you you can kill her it is your right to live and you can protect yourself from serious bodily harm attacking a child with a metal pipe is intent to kill so you do have that right to self defense
[QUOTE=Archonet;29862549]As I said, one is in the Army (In Germany, to be exact), one is in Georgia, I know neither of their numbers.[/QUOTE]
You could try and look them up in some catalog or phone book if you have their names.
[QUOTE=nVidia;29862530]And i thought my life was miserable. : <[/QUOTE]
Yeah so miserable with that 2k$ computer of yours and shit.
Go on a rampage
Your mom sounds like a bitch, but that's clearly only part of the problem. Go make some real friends. Internet friends don't count for shit. It's cool having people online you can have casual chats with, but it's a far cry from the real thing. As a homeschooled student, you're obviously missing out on a very important social opportunity, but there are perhaps options available to you nontheless. Go to the local public school and ask to speak to the counseler there, he/she might be able to give you some information about enrolling. If attending an actual school isn't an option, look into local youth groups. Things like the Boys and Girls Club or the YMCA often have clubs where you can just go chill out, or teams and groups that let you pursue interests with other kids (I liked swim groups a lot when I was young).
However you go about meeting people and trying to make friends, make sure that you do. Being proactive about improving your situation is the best way to make a positive change in your life. Your mom's attitude might be a bit demoralizing, but it seems that the root of your depression most probably lies in simple loneliness. A lot of people have fucked up families, but as long as you can make one good friend you're set.
[QUOTE=ColdWave;29862525]Also if your computer is going to get blocked you should download Ultrasurf. It is one of the best block avoidance programs out there.[/QUOTE]
Would do but I can't for this reason: Rollback RX.
My school ships their computers with this software so that you can undo malware, crashes, accidental deletes, etc? Well the software has a password on it, I know the password, but so does IT support. I will download it to my MP3 player though, thanks. But if I installed it, all they would need to do is rollback and then it wouldn't be installed.
I'm here for you, OP
[QUOTE=Archonet;29862549]As I said, one is in the Army (In Germany, to be exact), one is in Georgia, [b]I know neither of their numbers.[/b][/QUOTE]
You didn't mention that in your post. Anyways..
Don't try to harm her as a revenge, and if she does something to you and you do something such as punch her, she might get even more mad. This can mean blood on the carpet.
[QUOTE=johan_sm;29862561]Yeah so miserable with that 2k$ computer of yours and shit.[/QUOTE]
Lol.
Seriously though a good pc and a big tv doesn't always ensure happiness.
But reading stuff like this makes me realize how well things really are.
Arch, if she attacks you again, always remember the basic human survival instinct: fight or flight. If you can run, RUN. If you can fight back, FIGHT. This advice can mean the difference between life and death, or at least the difference between a few bruises and a coma.
[QUOTE=Bordellimies;29862589]Don't try to harm her as a revenge, and if she does something to you and you do something such as punch her, she might get even more mad. This can mean blood on the carpet.[/QUOTE]
Only attack in defence, and if there's blood on the carpet, that can logically constitute as evidence of a struggle.
you should go to police everytime she starts, they'll have to do something if you keep coming back.
[QUOTE=ironman17;29862613]Arch, if she attacks you again, always remember the basic human survival instinct: fight or flight. If you can run, RUN. If you can fight back, FIGHT. This advice can mean the difference between life and death, or at least the difference between a few bruises and a coma.[/QUOTE]
Thing is, if he fights and actually injures his mom, she can and most likely will sue him. Kid got no evidence? Case closed, boy assaulted mother.
[QUOTE=sam.clarke;29862474]Speak to someone at your school, someone who you can talk to about this kinda shit. They'll know who to talk to and have a lot more sway in dealing with the authorities. Maybe they think you're just a whiny kid and don't realise the full situation, if your school gets involved they can notify the proper authorities and even help you deal with this.
Keep your chin up and don't let her win, you're better than her.[/QUOTE]
He's on an online school. I don't exactly see how he can do this.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;29862569]Your mom sounds like a bitch, but that's clearly only part of the problem. Go make some real friends. Internet friends don't count for shit. It's cool having people online you can have casual chats with, but it's a far cry from the real thing. As a homeschooled student, you're obviously missing out on a very important social opportunity, but there are perhaps options available to you nontheless. Go to the local public school and ask to speak to the counseler there, he/she might be able to give you some information about enrolling. If attending an actual school isn't an option, look into local youth groups. Things like the Boys and Girls Club or the YMCA often have clubs where you can just go chill out.
However you go about meeting people and trying to make friends, make sure that you do. Being proactive about improving your situation is the best way to make a positive change in your life. Your mom's attitude might be a bit demoralizing, but it seems that the root of your depression most probably lies in simple loneliness. A lot of people have fucked up families, but as long as you can make one good friend you're set.[/QUOTE]
I already have one good friend. We pretty much share every single common interest and for college I'll be taking a plane trip to his state, and we're going to be roommates. While it sounds like a stupid plan, I've already thought out most of the options.
As for the public school thought, that also isn't an option. I have Aspergers Syndrome (I'll prepare for incoming purposeful misspellings and Aspergers jokes), and due to it, combined with Athsma and a peanut allergy I have, social interaction at school was... an incredibly difficult issue. With Aspergers its hard enough to make friends by yourself, but due to my peanut allergy, at public school they kept me fairly isolated from other students. I had to sit alone at lunch, because if someone had been eating peanut butter and the peanut dust got on my food, I could possibly die without an epinephrine shot.
And, in public school, they always moved the desks in a certain way so there were "groups" of desks, and they apparently saw Aspergers akin to mental retardation, and always grouped my desk in with the mentally disabled children. So as you can see, Public school was part of the problem and the reason why I went to cyberschool, and it didn't help with my social skills either. When you're sitting net to a Downs syndrome kid who can't speak straight, social interaction is next to impossible.
also when you do go out youth groups are a great idea hell even goto homeless shelters reason why these places usually have counselers that will talk to you and will listen to you you can even find abuse groups that will listen cause we all know the authorties arent perfect and dont always listen until its too late
[QUOTE=Contag;29862526]There is NOTHING helpful about telling someone who's a victim of domestic abuse that they are making it up. Nothing.
My girlfriend's father was an alcoholic, and used to kick her repeatedly in the stomach from about ages 6 to 12. She wasn't taken seriously (despite physical evidence), and she had to refuse to go to his house when she was old enough for it to stop.[/QUOTE]
You've misunderstood me completely, I meant I struggled to believe that his mother is a completely normal, happy person, and has no reason for doing these things. I don't doubt the OP at all, I just think there is some other reason behind why she would act like this. Sorry to hear about what happened to your girlfriend, but as an example, you said what was probably a big factor in that problem, which was that he was an alcoholic.
Just to expand on why I was trying to ask for more information, I had a friend who was in a very similar situation. Everyone constantly said that this guys mother was just mean, evil etc. but for ages I wondered why she would be like this, and eventually we find out she's an alcoholic. If we had of known about her problem years ago, someone could of got her help, and instead of him getting kicked out at 17 and going through a lot of shit in his childhood, they could of had a normal, happy relationship like they do now since, she's no longer an alcoholic.
I'm guessing OP's mother isn't an alcoholic, but there could be a reason behind her behaviour which OP hasn't thought about.
Sorry for the misunderstanding, I see how I worded my post poorly.
[QUOTE=Bordellimies;29862627]Thing is, if he fights and actually injures his mom, she can and most likely will sue him. Kid got no evidence? Case closed, boy assaulted mother.[/QUOTE]
Exactly, sometimes she'll actually say WHILE attempting to kick the crap out of me "Don't you fucking hit me, elder abuse"
So apparently she thinks that abuse is only a one-way street, and, I am not a violent person. She herself is actually a small person, and I am actually quite tall and strong for my age (a half inch away from being 6 feet) so if I really wanted to I COULD fight back but I don't want to get arrested for kicking the crap out of my mom.
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[QUOTE=Contag;29862415]...did you even read it? Asshole.
In all honesty, I don't know how much anyone can help you. It seems like the authorities are massively failing their duty to you. I would get a job, and save. Don't let her have access to the money, and don't inform her. And move out as soon as possible (probably 17 or 18, depending on where you live?). It's what I did.
I don't know that living in foster care would be better, either; unfortunately most foster carers are abusive, too. Do you have any other family? Any online friends that might take you in?
I'm sorry, dude. I really am.
ETA: Was writing this when you posted that relatives aren't an option.[/QUOTE]
We have child labor laws here, you have to be 16 to get a job, and don't worry. As soon as I turn 18 I'm packing my bags, buying a plane ticket and getting as far as I can away from this hellhole.
Jesus, who [i]doesn't[/i] have aspergers here? Can I get a show of hands, please? Anybody?
I've only met a small handful of people in real life who have claimed to have Asperger's syndrome (one of whom was a former clown, and was discharged from the military after trying to commit suicide by slamming his head against the wall. I saw it. It was sickly funny. Went [i]THONK[/i]), but here on the great big internet, 8/10 children claim to suffer from debilitating levels of social ignorance--be it through autism, injury, or medication. What's up with that?
I'm sympathetic to your situation and all, but don't use your supposed condition as a crutch. You're going to have a hell of a time making friends if you just resign yourself to failure. Asperger's syndrome isn't a death sentence, man. There are a lot of people out there, you know? Go find some.
Maybe you could position yourself so that she does maximum damage while she's beating you?
I'm sure they'd take notice if you had broken bones etc.
[QUOTE=silverblu;29862826]Maybe you could position yourself so that she does maximum damage while she's beating you?
I'm sure they'd take notice if you had broken bones etc.[/QUOTE]
While that does sound like fun, human instinct would probably prevent that. When something is going to hurt me, and quick, the first thing I think of is "Time to get the hell out of the way", Not "Time to get the hell in the way!"
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[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;29862805]Jesus, who [I]doesn't[/I] have aspergers here? Can I get a show of hands, please? Anybody?
I've only met a small handful of people in real life who have claimed to have Asperger's syndrome (one of whom was a former clown, and was discharged from the military after trying to commit suicide by slamming his head against the wall. I saw it. It was funny. Went [I]THONK[/I]), but here on the great big internet, 8/10 children claim to suffer from debilitating levels of social ignorance--be it through autism, injury, or medication. What's up with that?
I'm sympathetic to your situation and all, but don't use your supposed condition as a crutch. You're going to have a hell of a time making friends if you just resign yourself to failure. Having asperger's syndrome isn't a death sentence, man. There are a lot of people out there, you know? Go find some.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I know, but currently the neighborhood I live in is... Well, its full of asshole teenagers. You know the typical angsty 15-17 year old kid that basically will pick on a kid for anything - ANYTHING? My neighborhood is full of them. Years ago one almost cracked my head on the pavement. If not physically harming me they usually just call me "Peanut boy" and ask if I want some peanut butter.
And also, on the subject of Aspergers, shit happens man. Basically all I know is that it makes me pause in the middle of words to take a breath, and it makes me apparently shitty at making friends. The internet is the only place where I actually have friends, and some very good ones at that.
[QUOTE=Archonet;29862677]
And, in public school, they always moved the desks in a certain way so there were "groups" of desks, and they apparently saw Aspergers akin to mental retardation, and always grouped my desk in with the mentally disabled children. So as you can see, Public school was part of the problem and the reason why I went to cyberschool, and it didn't help with my social skills either. When you're sitting net to a Downs syndrome kid who can't speak straight, social interaction is next to impossible.[/QUOTE]
cocks
[QUOTE=krakadict;29862907]cocks[/QUOTE]
Yeah I LOATHED public school for that bunch of bullshit. Its not that I hate the retarded but being grouped in with them as if I WAS retarded just pissed me off to no end. I'll admit, yes, I legally have a mental problem, but grouping me in with a bunch of kids who are... Well, if you have ever met a kid with Downs you know what I mean. Imagine having to do schoolwork all day while one babbles in some other-dimensional language and the other one drools all over their desk. THAT is a living hell.
[QUOTE=sam.clarke;29862474]Speak to someone at your school, someone who you can talk to about this kinda shit. They'll know who to talk to and have a lot more sway in dealing with the authorities. Maybe they think you're just a whiny kid and don't realise the full situation, if your school gets involved they can notify the proper authorities and even help you deal with this.
Keep your chin up and don't let her win, you're better than her.[/QUOTE]
He's homeschooled, read the whole thing.
[QUOTE=Archonet;29862979]Yeah I LOATHED public school for that bunch of bullshit. Its not that I hate the retarded but being grouped in with them as if I WAS retarded just pissed me off to no end. I'll admit, yes, I legally have a mental problem, but grouping me in with a bunch of kids who are... Well, if you have ever met a kid with Downs you know what I mean. Imagine having to do schoolwork all day while one babbles in some other-dimensional language and the other one drools all over their desk. THAT is a living hell.[/QUOTE]
i knew your pain
Man, this is a sad story.
Look, tr yand find your uncle through your genealogical tree. Or your father.
[QUOTE=sam.clarke;29862474]Speak to someone at your school, someone who you can talk to about this kinda shit. They'll know who to talk to and have a lot more sway in dealing with the authorities. Maybe they think you're just a whiny kid and don't realise the full situation, if your school gets involved they can notify the proper authorities and even help you deal with this.
Keep your chin up and don't let her win, you're better than her.[/QUOTE]
As others have said, homeschooled.
And on the "You're better than her" thing, I know that (Not to sound egotistical), but sometimes she just wears my nerves bare... And now she wants to cut off my only contact to my friends. I personally think she wants to make me kill myself and sometimes she makes it so goddamn tempting.
[editline]16th May 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=MountainWatcher;29863324]Man, this is a sad story.
Look, tr yand find your uncle through your genealogical tree. Or your father.[/QUOTE]
My uncle probably wouldn't help either, he only wants to visit us when his latest girlfriend dumps him.
He apparently has an aversion to being alone.
And as for my father, the only thing I know is that his first name is Alan. And no, my last name is not inherited from him so I can't find him that way, my mom and him never married, apparently he was addicted to crack.
[QUOTE=Contag;29862457]You clearly have no idea what it's like to live with domestic violence. Fuck you. Don't talk shit about stuff you don't know.[/QUOTE]
Please stop being a dick to everyone, this guy was actually trying to help.
What about your neighbors? Do you know any of them well enough to help you?
You need to be patient with her.
Just do what she tells you to, spend more time with her, watch TV with her, talk with her, eat lunch on the same table.
Even if she's a huge cunt she's still your mother, deep inside that rotten heart of hers is still a loving and caring mother.
Trust me on this. Just do as she says and spend less time on the PC and spend more time with her.
Hope this helps!
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