Not sure why this needed bumping, but he stopped driving it for the most part, but he's still going to most likely break it because he thinks he knows everything, which means that he can put oil in the car without measuring it. spoiler: he overfilled it.
And there is no public transportation here, I live in a smaller town, not a city, but it isn't small enough for everything to be in walking\biking distance.
What kind of car is it?
2002 Honda Accord
Hiding the key is a great idea, glad it worked. Why not just confront your mother, point out she's wrong for standing up for your stepfather (She's probably known you longer, am I right?). If she punishes you, just ignore the punishment. It can't be worse than a broken car, impounded car, or even the price of gas. Play hardball.
For him going through your stuff, get a safe. they don't cost too much. Don't tell anyone but your grandfather your combo. Then, if they try to force it out of you, you can resist, as it is, legally, your stuff in there. They can't prove you have keys in it, since it's closed.
If all else fails (if he becomes violent), go for emancipation. It's possible to get for kids with horrible domestic situations.
As for your mother, as someone else stated, it sounds like he may be beating her. Look up Stockholm Syndrome. She doesn't have the right to hand out keys to your stepfather, if your grandfather said no to it. Nor does she realistically have the right to take them from you since your grandfather handed them to you.
Honestly, if my parents split up, and my mother ended up with a jerk husband, I'd buff up and beat the shit out of him if he pushed my mother and I around. Show him who's boss. But I wouldn't recommend that.
[QUOTE=CjienX;22371801]So my stepdad basically stopped paying child support because he doesn't have a job and we barely pay the bills at the end of the month, so they took away his license about a year ago now maybe longer.
Since then he still drives my moms van, and since that was her car I didn't say anything because it doesn't involve me, but now my grandpa got me a car from his friend for my birthday, and he feels entitled to drove my car just because he doesn't want to take the babies car seat out and put it in the van. To start he drives fairly recklessly most of the time, and he's Dominican, which means that he's way more likely to be pulled over with arizonas new law. If he does, the car would get impounded, and then I wouldn't have a car because he's a lazy bastard who can't get a fucking job. Now this WAS purchased as a family car, but even my grandpa says that he shouldn't be allowed to drive it, which is why he didn't make a key for him, but of course he just uses my moms key, and if he can't get to that then he takes my key and I can't say anything because he'd flip out and then my mom would probably take my keys away. Now it is a little hypocritical because he drives with me because I'm on a permit, but if I got pulled over the chances of them giving me anything but a warning because I don't speed or drive recklessly are pretty high, and the only reason I wod get pulled over is because I used to not drive straight after a turn because I had to learn how to turn out smoother, but that lasted all of a day and now I have no reason to be pulled over because like I said I always make sure if I go over the limit I don't go more than 4 over and I rarely to never do that unless there's a guy on my ass and even then I normally just let them stay there and flash my emergency lights to get them to back off.
On top of all this, when I drive twice the distance he does, I manage to use a fraction of the gas that he does, and my car gets returned with half a tank missing as if he was just driving around to waste gas, and I wind up having to pay for him driving my car.
The last time I talked to my mom about something that he does that I wanted him to stop was him breaking into my room when I have my door locked because as far as I'm concerned the only one who has the right to go into my room is my mom because she pays for the house and bills and food etc, and he literally will go in there and only move my shit around and look through my shit. I've set my webcam up to monitor it and watched him just sit in my room for an hour going through all of my shit and move everything around, and when I talked to her about it he got all pissed off and started yelling at me like I'm the one that did something wrong, so something tells me that telling her that I don't want him driving my car will end well. I'm thinking of asking my grandpa to say something, but he doesn't like to get involved because 99% of the time my mom will blindly defend him even if she doesn't know what she's arguing.
What do you guys think I should do? I sure as fuck am not paying for him to joyride, and i'm thinking of just telling my mom that if he's gonna take the car that he has to fill it up, but obviously I ultimately want her to enforce that he can't drive until he gets a license again because if the car gets impounded that's a few hundred that we don't have to get it back, she owes me around 250-300 for working with her on jobs (catering) already and she's owed me that for a few months now. Obviously I don't say anything, she's brought it up a few times saying she has it all written down, in fact $100 of that is from when I was working at an event at the store here and she had to take my paycheck.
Not to mention he'd go to jail as well.[/QUOTE]
Sue your mom for the owed money and charge your dad for invasion of privacy
If that car was a gift to you then take away all the keys. He can't do shit because he doesn't have a license and your not supposed to let him drive.
If they start arguing with that just call the cops over and they can talk with them.
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[QUOTE=FoxMeister;22371887]Next time he takes it report to the police that it was stolen. Then when he says you let him just say you didn't.[/QUOTE]
this, no license means hes fucked no matter what
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[QUOTE=CjienX;22372088]Trust me, that won't work. I'd get in more trouble then him.
No, he's just a lazy ass who found a family to leech off of and my mom can't seem to realize that.
I've considered it, but again I'd get in more trouble, and my mom would probably say that she gave him permission to drive it and then it'd also be filing a false police report.
somebody would bitch at me for not keeping the tank full because everybody in my family but my mom says you should keep at least a half tank at all times.
The door isn't really an issue anymore because he hasn't done it since he tried to make me look like a bad guy and I schooled him by bitching him out and saying i left my cam on.
And as for the keys, like I said it's a family car and my grandpa actually made the key because it was $70 because it has a chip needed to start the car. My grandpa says he shouldn't have a key, but if my mom has one he might as well have one anyways because he just takes her keyring out of her car. she knows each time he goes with it, so he isn't stealing it, just taking the car.[/QUOTE]
If your over 18 you have rights dude.
what the fuck are they going to do send you to your room?
[QUOTE=CjienX;22371801]So my stepdad basically stopped paying child support because he doesn't have a job and we barely pay the bills at the end of the month, so they took away his license about a year ago now maybe longer.
Since then he still drives my moms van, and since that was her car I didn't say anything because it doesn't involve me, but now my grandpa got me a car from his friend for my birthday, and he feels entitled to drove my car just because he doesn't want to take the babies car seat out and put it in the van. To start he drives fairly recklessly most of the time, and he's Dominican, which means that he's way more likely to be pulled over with arizonas new law. If he does, the car would get impounded, and then I wouldn't have a car because he's a lazy bastard who can't get a fucking job. Now this WAS purchased as a family car, but even my grandpa says that he shouldn't be allowed to drive it, which is why he didn't make a key for him, but of course he just uses my moms key, and if he can't get to that then he takes my key and I can't say anything because he'd flip out and then my mom would probably take my keys away. Now it is a little hypocritical because he drives with me because I'm on a permit, but if I got pulled over the chances of them giving me anything but a warning because I don't speed or drive recklessly are pretty high, and the only reason I wod get pulled over is because I used to not drive straight after a turn because I had to learn how to turn out smoother, but that lasted all of a day and now I have no reason to be pulled over because like I said I always make sure if I go over the limit I don't go more than 4 over and I rarely to never do that unless there's a guy on my ass and even then I normally just let them stay there and flash my emergency lights to get them to back off.
On top of all this, when I drive twice the distance he does, I manage to use a fraction of the gas that he does, and my car gets returned with half a tank missing as if he was just driving around to waste gas, and I wind up having to pay for him driving my car.
The last time I talked to my mom about something that he does that I wanted him to stop was him breaking into my room when I have my door locked because as far as I'm concerned the only one who has the right to go into my room is my mom because she pays for the house and bills and food etc, and he literally will go in there and only move my shit around and look through my shit. I've set my webcam up to monitor it and watched him just sit in my room for an hour going through all of my shit and move everything around, and when I talked to her about it he got all pissed off and started yelling at me like I'm the one that did something wrong, so something tells me that telling her that I don't want him driving my car will end well. I'm thinking of asking my grandpa to say something, but he doesn't like to get involved because 99% of the time my mom will blindly defend him even if she doesn't know what she's arguing.
What do you guys think I should do? I sure as fuck am not paying for him to joyride, and i'm thinking of just telling my mom that if he's gonna take the car that he has to fill it up, but obviously I ultimately want her to enforce that he can't drive until he gets a license again because if the car gets impounded that's a few hundred that we don't have to get it back, she owes me around 250-300 for working with her on jobs (catering) already and she's owed me that for a few months now. Obviously I don't say anything, she's brought it up a few times saying she has it all written down, in fact $100 of that is from when I was working at an event at the store here and she had to take my paycheck.
Not to mention he'd go to jail as well.[/QUOTE]
[quote=OP]...warning because I don't speed or drive recklessly are pretty high, and the only reason I wod get pulled over is because I used to not drive straight after a turn because I had to learn how to turn out smoother, but that lasted all of a day and now I have no reason to be pulled over because like I said I always make sure if I go over the limit I don't go more than 4 over[/quote]
Chances are, they'll give you a fucking ticket without having a license. If they pull you over because you're too inexperienced to drive, like you don't know how to make a fucking turn; are high. You getting a ticket, are extremely high. You not able to get your license till your 18+, are higher after that. Drive with your mother.
For your stepfather, I don't see why he would be joy riding in a motherfucking [b]VAN[/b]. He has his own things to do.
yeah, and go call the cops on him. if you're going to be a little bitch that hes driving your van, and your so super invincible with your permit. Do it.
Forum name.
[quote=Rigged237]Move in with your grandpa
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or the next time he takes your car without your permission call the police.
He's technically stealing it and driving without license to boot.
Talk some sense into your mom and tell her to get some fucking balls. [/quote]
Exactly what i was thinking, apart from maybe just ignore your mum if she only sides with him.
[QUOTE=w0lfeh;23523472]Forum name.[/QUOTE]
What?
[QUOTE=technologic;22374454]Here's an idea, frame him for murder. It's not killing him as per say, it's killing someone else so he gets shanked in prison.[/QUOTE]
*wearing gloves* hey dad look at my new hammer
*Dad holds it* Nice.
*Dad gets down for 15 years*
[QUOTE=thf;23523535]What?[/QUOTE]
I believe he means: punch him in the face.
Or something similar.
[QUOTE=markg06;22371890]Cut the brake line so when he kills himself you claim off the insurance.[/QUOTE]
this
Alex bro, seriously. Next time he drives it, tell the police he's driving your car without a license, and without your permission. This is, if he somehow gets a key. Also, make it clear to him next time he leaves with your car, that you're not giving him permission to drive it, and make sure you have someone else than him hear that.
kill him lol
[QUOTE=CjienX;22371801][b]So my stepdad basically stopped paying child support because he doesn't have a job[/b] and we barely pay the bills at the end of the month, so they took away his license about a year ago now maybe longer.
[b]Since then he still drives my moms van[/b], and since that was her car I didn't say anything because it doesn't involve me, but now my grandpa got me a car from his friend for my birthday, and he feels entitled to drove my car just because he doesn't want to take the babies car seat out and put it in the van. To start he drives fairly recklessly most of the time, and he's Dominican, which means that he's way more likely to be pulled over with arizonas new law. If he does, the car would get impounded, and then I wouldn't have a car because he's a lazy bastard who can't get a fucking job. [b]Now this WAS purchased as a family car[/b], but even my grandpa says that he shouldn't be allowed to drive it, which is why he didn't make a key for him, but of course he just uses my moms key, and if he can't get to that then he takes my key and I can't say anything because he'd flip out and then my mom would probably take my keys away. Now it is a little hypocritical because he drives with me because I'm on a permit, but if I got pulled over the chances of them giving me anything [b]but a warning because I don't speed or drive recklessly are pretty high[/b], and the only reason I wod get pulled over is because I used to not drive straight after a turn because I had to learn how to turn out smoother, but that lasted all of a day and now I have no reason to be pulled over because like I said I always make sure if I go over the limit I don't go more than 4 over and I rarely to never do that unless there's a guy on my ass and even then I normally just let them stay there and flash my emergency lights to get them to back off.
On top of all this, when I drive twice the distance he does, I manage to use a fraction of the gas that he does, and my car gets returned with half a tank missing as if he was just driving around to waste gas, and I wind up having to pay for him driving my car.
The last time I talked to my mom about something that he does that I wanted him to stop was him breaking into my room when I have my door locked because as far as I'm concerned the only one who has the right to go into my room is my mom because she pays for the house and bills and food etc, and he literally will go in there and only move my shit around and look through my shit. I've set my webcam up to monitor it and watched him just sit in my room for an hour going through all of my shit and move everything around, and when I talked to her about it he got all pissed off and started yelling at me like I'm the one that did something wrong, so something tells me that telling her that I don't want him driving my car will end well. I'm thinking of asking my grandpa to say something, but he doesn't like to get involved because 99% of the time my mom will blindly defend him even if she doesn't know what she's arguing.
What do you guys think I should do? I sure as fuck am not paying for him to joyride, and i'm thinking of just telling my mom that if he's gonna take the car that he has to fill it up, but obviously I ultimately want her to enforce that he can't drive until he gets a license again because if the car gets impounded that's a few hundred that we don't have to get it back, [b]she owes me around 250-300 for working with her on jobs (catering) already and she's owed me that for a few months now. Obviously I don't say anything, she's brought it up a few times saying she has it all written down, in fact $100 of that is from when I was working at an event at the store here and she had to take my paycheck.[/b]
Not to mention he'd go to jail as well.[/QUOTE]
Call the police. Or will Find your IP and do it for you. This guy is indangering your mother,you your property and driving on a suspended license and a ILLEGAL ALIEN!. Thats a new fucking record. This has happened to me. Get your ass on the phone.
Car Bomb.
[QUOTE=CjienX;22382060]ITT: you fail to read that I already took my moms key off the keyring and won't be giving him mine so he can't use my car anymore. The only thing I said I won't do is call the cops because that would end bad for me because it's a false report. And if my mom blindly defends him over everything, do you REALLY think she'd side with me if I basically try to send him to jail?[/QUOTE]
it's not a false report you dense fuck
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[QUOTE=RacistRace;23525935]Or will Find your IP and do it for you.[/QUOTE]
lol
[QUOTE=CjienX;22371801]
...when I talked to her about it he got all pissed off and started yelling at me like I'm the one that did something wrong, [b]so something tells me that telling her that I don't want him driving my car will end well. [/b]I'm thinking of asking my grandpa to say something, but he doesn't like..[/QUOTE]
Then do it.
[QUOTE=opaali;22372181]Sounds like a typical narcissist person
From my experience only way to deal with it is to get fuck away from the person[/QUOTE]
Thats his car you're dealing with. JESUS, HIS CAR!!!
Get a steering wheel lock, hide the key and tell him to fuck off. If you own the car nobody can force you to allow that asshole to "borrow" it. Grow some fucking balls.
Shove his head up his ass.
Keep the keys on you.
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