• Pros and Cons to Online/Homeschooling
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I really suggest seeing a therapist. Knowing someone with severe anxiety, I feel for you man. I'd still get a pro's opinion before jumping into online schooling though. To everyone saying "just deal with it" or "you have to learn to live with it", it's not that simple - it's like an irrational fear pretty much. Again, therapist would be an excellent way to go before doing anything (seriously, please take this advice for your own sake). Hope you'll be alright, man.
There's two things I do to cope with anxiety in school: 1. Medicine. 2. I put myself in more social situations. The more you hide away, the more you foster your anxiety. I've done great at dealing with my fear by just putting myself out there. I'm still a bit of an anxious person, but I'm also definitely functional with people and happier.
I really hope I can get prescribed something to help honestly... I just don't feel like I can overcome it by "myself".
That's totally cool, but you need to make sure your doctor actually gives a damn and isn't just going to prescribe stuff to you the second you ask for it. Try and start with the cleanest stuff you can and increment it slowly. [editline]11th October 2014[/editline] I take medicine because I'm naturally anxious to the point of anxiety attacks full-time. My medicine takes most of it away and leaves me with anxiety I can overcome.
I did online homeschool for my seventh and eighth grade years because I have was miserable at public school. I had to force myself to go back to public after I started becoming a hermit. If you don't have friends that you hang with on a regular basis, I don't recommend it. Also, what exactly are you afraid of? I had really bad social anxiety (and I guess I still kind of do) when I was younger so I know how it feels. I talked so little that people thought I was mute. What kinds of things are you thinking?
If you can't keep up with HS I'd recommend it. Visit a psychiatrist and sort out your problems and then go back to HS.
[QUOTE=kr1f333;46212017]I did online homeschool for my seventh and eighth grade years because I have was miserable at public school. I had to force myself to go back to public after I started becoming a hermit. If you don't have friends that you hang with on a regular basis, I don't recommend it. Also, what exactly are you afraid of? I had really bad social anxiety (and I guess I still kind of do) when I was younger so I know how it feels. I talked so little that people thought I was mute. What kinds of things are you thinking?[/QUOTE] It's honestly indescribable, I guess just social anxiety is the only way I know to explain it.
[QUOTE=Th3applek1d;46214992]It's honestly indescribable, I guess just social anxiety is the only way I know to explain it.[/QUOTE] I actively think about what's causing me trouble. Ask yourself the "why's"? "Why am I so afraid? Am I afraid of being rejected? What's wrong with being rejected? Is rejection the end of the world, or the last I will ever hear from a human being? It doesn't matter does it? Is it a fear of how I appear? Well, if they don't like my appearance and use it against me they're probably not my type anyway..." I had to confront my fear of rejection and my fear of actually doing anything. I've constantly put myself into situations where I have to talk. That's actually something I used to meter whether or not it was a personality thing or a problem out of my control. I used to feel anxious [b]all[/b] the time, and so I got medicine for that, and then just kept testing myself around people. I got better and better at it, and now I'm a merchandiser in a store and I'm told all the time about how nice I am and how I am great at what I do. Compared to even a year ago, that's a major accomplishment to me and I'm proud of it. I feel like you need to ask yourself these questions and think long and hard about what specifically is ailing you. Is it something you can control? If not, talk to your doctor and see if he can't help. And then afterwards, repeat. [editline]13th October 2014[/editline] Another thing to note: I still deal with anxiety, and I imagine you will too. You've just got to accept it and learn to deal with it instead of fearing your fear of people. You have to have the mindset of conquering it and being out there instead of being scared. You have to want to be better, because otherwise, what's the point? I believe in you dude!
What everyone is saying about facing your anxiety is the only way to get over it is true, but high school might not be the best place to do it. Try finding a hobby you enjoy that requires you to interact with people. Trying to force your self to socialize in places you don't fit in doesn't really help, if anything it makes it worse.
Let me put you into my shoes, I have dealt with severe depression and anxiety issues since fucking up in the 4th Grade, and was pretty much pushed into internet classes that were on-campus for highschool. I actually enjoyed it, but I learned something real fucking quick. If you somehow managed to shoot yourself in the foot and get sent to those classes, you are on the last straw with the district, and it could be as simple as not coming to school for two days from being ill(and doing schoolwork!), and you'll get kicked out. Back in 2010, I tried to take back my life and start to re-coordinate myself, I joined something back in Tucson known as Rose Academy, and I spent a few weeks there, and even though I was making progress, I felt terrible. This may of just been a side-effect of having no friends at all in that school, but it ate me alive. I eventually got close to passing Freshmen year around the end of 2010, and then I was updated that my family was going to be moving up here to North Dakota. So back to stage one, right? Just find a new online school, and everything will be better, right? Nope. Getting shifted up here, all though dreamy in the respects of having job opportunities, really fucking hurts when you have no credible showcase for job employment. Even with some game testing and extra actor for a show on the military channel(Greatest Raids), I still have a lullygagging time with how far my hole has gone. Constant questions for why I quit both Rose Academy and Catalina Foothills, and why my mental problems are only being dealt with now. So the best I can give you is that unless you are directly motivated to do something, depression is going to get you off and on. It's better to stick with school and get some psychiatrist or counseling, whatever suits you, and try to get yourself sorted before you end up in a similar spot like I am where only now I'm taking General Education classes, starting to go out for employment later today, and do a few other things.
I think there is a problem in the employer eyes when you do home school, they will think you are lazy, at least some.
You should change classes or change the school.
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