The reason you have no friends is because your lazy ass won't make the effort.
You do not need to change a single aspect of your life, aside from the fact you need to get out and talk to people. Everyone has a twin in this world. Thinking that you can't get friends is ridiculous. Just try.
[QUOTE=swordoftheme;23699710]I made this post today just to let out my feelings, and make me feel better just to get it out. Well, I realized something today, and its how friends are important to every persons life. I'm 16 years old and I've only had a few friends throughout my life. I started gaining weight in the 4th grade and turned fat, making me lose all my self confidence and any desire to make friends anymore because everyone I had known then made fun of me.
Even all my relatives know that I'm lonely. My litte cousin once even called me a no-friend fatass, and well that really broke my heart. Yesterday, my uncle asked me if I even have any friends, I didn't know what to say.
The only person I hanged out was my cousin. Although he managed to get himself a girlfriend, and I don't see him anymore since then. All day, I just sit on the computer and waste all my time on it ever since.
Today the only friend I have is, well, online. He's homeschooled and we game with eachother everyday. It's awesome. But I fear there will be a day that he'll get outside homeschool and I'll be forgotten.
I don't know what it feels like to go to the mall with friends or even have a single friend over for my birthday.
Welp I got that off my back now and feel a bit better
If you read thanks.[/QUOTE]
If you think 16 sucks, try 21. And try having a full-time job with coworkers who you constantly have the keep up the charade of having a social life for.
why dont you just get the fuck outside, start jogging everyday, and maybe try to socialize with people. i know plenty of fat people who have friends, and your only excuse is because you're too much of a spineless fatass to try and make friends.
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Try to be social? Be nice?
[QUOTE=Used Car Salesman;23771815]If you think 16 sucks, try 21. And try having a full-time job with coworkers who you constantly have the keep up the charade of having a social life for.[/QUOTE]
Why do you have to keep up a charade?
This makes me feel very lucky that I have quiet a few friends who I can hang out with regularly.
You need to be yourself, not because you need to find someone who will be your friend for who you are but because you are more comfortable being yourself and you can open yourself up with confidence that you aren't going to be caught out in a lie.
Enough with all these "I has no freinds, plz comfort me" Threads.
I understand not having friends sucks major donkey balls, but you need to go out and meet people.
You can't be afraid to talk to people.
And keep your teeth and shoes clean, It makes a difference.
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[QUOTE=MrHeadHopper;23760790]stop being fat
stop being a furry
stop being an weeaboo
stop being an social outcast
and you will success in life
plus
i had a good friend
and it was only one good friend that i could trust and shit
he was my best friend,sadly i had to move in to some new fucking country
like that guy typed in
quality over quantity[/QUOTE]
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[QUOTE=MrHeadHopper;23760790]stop being fat
stop being a furry
stop being an weeaboo
stop being an social outcast
and you will success in life
plus
i had a good friend
and it was only one good friend that i could trust and shit
he was my best friend,sadly i had to move in to some new fucking country
like that guy typed in
quality over quantity[/QUOTE]
People like you is why i have Social Phobia/Social Anxiety.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;23780883]Those 'disorders' don't exist.[/QUOTE]
May I see your degree in Psychology?
human relationship's in any form , Love, family, friends are all unstable. Non of them will always be there for you love fades, and some people just stop getting along it sucks...
You're not missing much
I moved, going back to school in a few days. No friends here...yet.
The fact that your little cousin managed to break your heart simply by bad-mouthing your situation is pathetic. So what if he's right. In fact, his words should strengthen your determination to become a better person, even if your motivation becomes just to shut him the fuck up and your family.
The ends justify the means.
without having read the WHOLE thread there's a simple solution for your problem!
If you are not happy with your life, then DO something about it instead of crying about it on an internet forum.
I think it's a good beginning to do some sports, go into a gym or whatever and DON'T just sit on your lazy ass infront of your computer.
god dammit, how can you guys even have mercy with him? He's responsible for his own life!!!
What everyone else said.
It's fine if you feel bad. It is NOT fine to drown in a sea of self pity.
Just get the fuck out and do something. I dunno, get a job or go jogging or go to the beach. Anything. Talk to random people about random things.
Don't be afraid.
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No but seriously, join a gym or something.
Not only will you build self confidence from losing the weight (if that is your main issue) but you can meet some pretty cool people (and a lot of meathead douches) and exercise really stimulates the happy chemicals in your brain and will give you the motivation to get out and do other stuff.
Also don't be worried about being embarrassed at a gym, there will be plenty of people twice your size in spandex there, hot women in short shorts, and dudes with asses like rock cakes - noone will be looking at you that is for sure.
If you are miserable at 16 you should have nothing but hope for the future. No one who is happy with themselves at that age are happy later in life, they all become tools.
Feel depressed, be lonely. Remember this is a short period in your life and soon you will be happy and surrounded by love.
I have a simple and easy plan to get friends.
Step 1: Drive down a busy street.
Step 2: Run someone over, who ever looks the most appealing to you.
Step 3: Shove them in the trunk before someone sees you.
Step 4: Drive home and tie them to the radiator in your basement. If you do not have a basement or radiator, tying them to a bed works just as well.
Step 5: End world hunger
Step 6: Bring world peace
Step 7: Make me a sandvich
Step 8: ???
Step 9: Profit
I'm sorry.
Be your own friend. (Really.)
Not all fat people are hated. Look at Seth rogan or Jonah hill. There that type of fat guy that everyone loves.
Don't, the people whom are closest to you will always be the ones to betray you.
And despite my thinking, I still managed to get a few very good friends.
I've only had two friends my whole life. Since graduating High School, I rarely get to see them anymore. In fact, this summer they decided to take summer classes, leaving me with nothing to do.
Feel any better OP?
[QUOTE=swordoftheme;23699710]I made this post today just to let out my feelings, and make me feel better just to get it out. Well, I realized something today, and its how friends are important to every persons life. ....[/QUOTE]
Come on swordoftheme. Many guys would like to know you and play with you outside. You just didn't even see them!!
All you need to do is just smile and looking around. Got some interesting things (except the Internet) to do and enjoy! Life is full of fun and you have just started it!
I'd love to be your fiend ;-)
I don't think turning to the internet is likely to be of any help. In just this thread alone, I'm sure there are a ton of guys who would enjoy being your friend, but would enjoy more doing horrible things to you while you sleep.
Go outside. Seriously, it's not that bad.
[QUOTE=swordoftheme;23699710]I made this post today just to let out my feelings, and make me feel better just to get it out. Well, I realized something today, and its how friends are important to every persons life. I'm 16 years old and I've only had a few friends throughout my life. I started gaining weight in the 4th grade and turned fat, making me lose all my self confidence and any desire to make friends anymore because everyone I had known then made fun of me.
Even all my relatives know that I'm lonely. My litte cousin once even called me a no-friend fatass, and well that really broke my heart. Yesterday, my uncle asked me if I even have any friends, I didn't know what to say.
The only person I hanged out was my cousin. Although he managed to get himself a girlfriend, and I don't see him anymore since then. All day, I just sit on the computer and waste all my time on it ever since.
Today the only friend I have is, well, online. He's homeschooled and we game with eachother everyday. It's awesome. But I fear there will be a day that he'll get outside homeschool and I'll be forgotten.
I don't know what it feels like to go to the mall with friends or even have a single friend over for my birthday.
Welp I got that off my back now and feel a bit better
If you read thanks.[/QUOTE]
A few friends are all you need in this crazy world.
Don't trust every person you meet and be on your toe's.
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[QUOTE=wtf_Stormz21;23796627]I don't think turning to the internet is likely to be of any help. In just this thread alone, I'm sure there are a ton of guys who would enjoy being your friend, but would enjoy more doing horrible things to you while you sleep.
Go outside. Seriously, it's not that bad.[/QUOTE]
Lol its not that bad.
Bullshit, I can't even go down the damn street without a black person looking at me wanting to fight for no reason at all.
I'm black but I dont hold fast to that hood mentailty.
I wrote the OP a PM.
PM me if you're in a similar way to the OP and I'll attempt to help you too, seriously.
[QUOTE=White;23795897]Not all fat people are hated. Look at Seth rogan or Jonah hill. There that type of fat guy that everyone loves.[/QUOTE]
And Gabriel Iglesias.
[img]http://woodenspears.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/03/gabriel_iglesias-300x264.jpg[/img]
[QUOTE=Piggah;23699902]Wait till College/University. You'll be paired with people of your likeness and eventually you'll find people just like you <3[/QUOTE]
I don't mean to be a downer, but this isn't true.
Well... unless you go to a traditional 4 year college where you are forced to be around roomates and floormates for the first two years of your college life.
But even then it's not entirely true. Your dorm-mates arn't guaranteed to be your friends, and if anything it might suck if they are the type of people you completely hate (i.e. really "popular" fratty type guys).
Though you could get lucky and happen to be around dorm mates you can relate to or who are very open minded to friendships.
And if all else fails, chances are there are clubs in school that involve things you are interested in.
I go to a community college so none of this exsists here. At community college I'm finding it much harder to make friends and feel comfortable around new people, because we don't have dorms (I live in an apartment), the clubs suck, and half of the school is middle aged. My classmates who arn't, I only see twice a week for a period of a few months so there's not much ground to be had.
I have one friend. Malcolm.
Actually, I have another. You can't see him, he's in the bathroom right now. He is having some red fluid come out of him, but he's fine. He's just cold and not breathing. He's fine, right? heheh...
You don't need confidence to gain friends. I do not have a very high confidence, well it's not really low, but... I got several good friends, maybe not as many as others, but some people have many friends, and very few good friends/best friends. Others have several best friends, and few other friends. I made my friends just by... well being me. They come natuarly. Never sit alone in class. If people need help, help them. If you need help, ask for help. Just... Be your self, be normal, don't stress and friends will be made. If you get one good friend, he/she might introduce you to his/her friends, and they will also become your friends.
Hang in there! Go make friends!
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