[QUOTE=leetcaek;29908369]No, its not good. I'm just afraid if I tell them, they'll kick me out of the house like my older brother.[/QUOTE]
That's their problem if they have something wrong with it, they should just accept you for who you are.
Anyway, the urge to get wasted, high, and laid is starting to take over.
There's this one [i]friend[/i] I have that really pisses me off. He doesn't care about anyone but himself, he thinks that he can act like a jackass to everyone and still be liked, if anyone tries to talk to him about these things he shrugs them off and walks away, he spends most of his days playing TF2 and listening to Eminem.There's this girl I know who unloads her feelings to him about her struggles, and he [i]listens[/i], then comes to us later and starts bashing her and saying how whiny she is. He does this to pretty much anyone, listens, then bashes the person later when they're not around. He makes jokes about serious things like cutting and suicide, and claims he wants to do such things (he doesn't). He thinks his life is a living hell because his parents take over the computer to play Farmville. He loves to quote Eminem with things like "You got enemies? Good. It means you've stood up for something in your life." and treats him like he's a god. He also says he hates himself because he's a bit overweight, and when anyone recommends he goes on a diet or try exercising, he just says "meh", shrugs them off and walks away. He also [b]LOVES[/b] to troll, if I'm near any girl he instantly "ships" them with me, and makes subtle hints about sex and whatnot. If we go someplace without him he'll whine about it on Facebook. One time my brother said "come on, let's try to be nice to him" and when we did, he said "I don't need your love, I'll take it, step on it, and piss all over it." then when we confronted him about it, he made an excuse and walked away. He's crossed the line multiple times and I hate that most of our friends let him get away with it, it seems like only me and a few other people will notice it and want to do something about it, but like I said, whenever we do, he shrugs us off and walks away.
Ugh.
[QUOTE=Ceiling Man;29909003]There's this one [i]friend[/i] If we go someplace without him he'll whine about it on Facebook. One time my brother said "come on, let's try to be nice to him" and when we did, he said "I don't need your love, I'll take it, step on it, and piss all over it." then when we confronted him about it, he made an excuse and walked away. He's crossed the line multiple times and I hate that most of our friends let him get away with it, it seems like only me and a few other people will notice it and want to do something about it, but like I said, whenever we do, he shrugs us off and walks away.
Ugh.[/QUOTE]
Don't invite him to things. Let him whine on FaceBook. He's obviously not going to make improvements when you give him leeway, and you don't enjoy being around him so you're not getting anything out of the friendship so you don't need to put up with it.
Also, depending on how you feel, it might also be nice to the girl if you told her that everything she says gets told to everyone... I'd be pissed if a confidant I trusted spilled the beans everywhere like that.
[QUOTE=leetcaek;29908369]No, its not good. I'm just afraid if I tell them, they'll kick me out of the house like my older brother.[/QUOTE]
Ask them how they would feel if their youngest son told them he was bisexual. If their response is really negative, don't tell them.
[QUOTE=Mr.Ken;29920706]Ask them how they would feel if their youngest son told them he was bisexual. If their response is really negative, don't tell them.[/QUOTE]
Because that won't be obvious or anything.
I feel awfully tense and anxious, and I've no idea why I'm like this. It's like I just can't relax all of a sudden. I know it's not the exams coming up, in fact I can't concentrate on them in this condition. I could guess as to where the anxiety is coming from but I'd rather not go into it publicly.
Now it's just making me feel physically ill as well.
e: It went away.
e: It's come back again. What the hell is wrong with me?
I've skipped so many lessons this semester, I have to have a paper with my mom's autograph on it to pass courses, What the fuck do I do to not make her mad? :smith:
[QUOTE=Da_Maniac_;29950494]I've skipped so many lessons this semester, I have to have a paper with my mom's autograph on it to pass courses, What the fuck do I do to not make her mad? :smith:[/QUOTE]
You're not very good at "preventative measures" are you?
The solution [i]was[/i] to not skip...
I just saw recent pictures of someone who used to be one of the best friends I've ever had, someone who I haven't seen in two years... I couldn't recognize him, for some reason that made me feel like bursting into tears
[QUOTE=Ceiling Man;29909003]There's this one [i]friend[/i] I have that really pisses me off.[/QUOTE]
I know that feel, we have some guy who is seriously un-likeable. All he will ever talk about how he apparently got with some girl every week, sort of like Jay from the Inbetweeners, only worse because whenever I'm ever in a group and there's girls, he'll hit it. He doesn't even care if they are taken, he'll still try to hit it. What is more of a piss-take is that he stands there in a group of girls talking about tits & shit and not even notice that girls don't like that.
Want to know what's the worst part? He's one of those guys who thinks he can fail school and just join the army, and talks to me about it every day. He can barley do a 20 yard dash.
I've been 17 for three weeks now and I feel as though each passing day a countdown is ticking until I turn 18, when I will [I]still [/I]not have a girlfriend and thus lose all credibility as a human being
Holy shit. Something just happened for me.
And Now its weird, Its like I'm in a huge mix of happiness and disappointment, so I should be happy but can't because I'm disappointed (From my perspective it doesn't sound so obvious!). I just honestly don't know what to think about this.
Good to let that out, man.
[editline]21st May 2011[/editline]
I think the happiness is kinda dominating though :buddy:
I like country music and all my friends laugh at me for it :colbert:
Assholes.
Do you like good country music or bad country music?
[QUOTE=TheBrokenHobo;29970648]Do you like good country music or bad country music?[/QUOTE]
Define good country music and bad country music.
Wouldn't matter though, just mention "country music" to them and they go "lololol u gaeyh"
I like old old country music.
Note to my post above:
[B]Life is fucking beautiful![/B]
It's nice to see my thread growing up :sigh:
It's pretty shitty having a problem that nobody can help you with.
I always feel so shitty around/on my birthday
I have no idea why :(
edit: I fucking hate it when past mistakes catch up to you just to fuck you over.
I am 24m and have 1 (one) friend and had and have no relationships or experience at all, partly because of my dislike of public meetings and other quirks. I prefer to talk to peole one on one, I cant stand talking to someone if there are several other acquaintances around because they are distracting.
The other reason is that I need a long time to bond and that the other has to be the one to initialize the contact, the talking, the meeting etc all the time but then I can be pretty talkative and funny, "normal" so to speak.
So this one (and only) friend, who I meet only once or twice a year but maintain contact online, I know her now for ten years and can and have shared and still do almost everything with her.
She had her normal share of boyfriends and at the moment it seems pretty serious with this one..and i dont know what i am feeling with all this as i dont have any experience with seemingly anything. I am so grateful for her and do not want to change or destroy this.
She recently helped me setup a profile on a dating site after a long discussion regarding relationships, maybe thats the push i needed.
For the rest, most of the time I feel great, living from day to day, doing the stuff i want to do and not thinking further than 30 days in the future. But a constant friendly reminder from the family and sometimes from the conscience regarding age und relationships is not making me feel better.
I know what to do but for one I feel that changing my behaviour is also changing my character and therefore the "essence" of me. And everything else that needs to be done...who is there to give me the much needed push at least so far that i can push myself.
wow, it seems pretty bad to me now that this is all written down..i have to change lol
or find someone similar
great thread btw and sorry for my lurker status
[QUOTE=kenion;30108197]I am 24m and have 1 (one) friend and had and have no relationships or experience at all, partly because of my dislike of public meetings and other quirks. I prefer to talk to peole one on one, I cant stand talking to someone if there are several other acquaintances around because they are distracting.
The other reason is that I need a long time to bond and that the other has to be the one to initialize the contact, the talking, the meeting etc all the time but then I can be pretty talkative and funny, "normal" so to speak.
So this one (and only) friend, who I meet only once or twice a year but maintain contact online, I know her now for ten years and can and have shared and still do almost everything with her.
She had her normal share of boyfriends and at the moment it seems pretty serious with this one..and i dont know what i am feeling with all this as i dont have any experience with seemingly anything. I am so grateful for her and do not want to change or destroy this.
She recently helped me setup a profile on a dating site after a long discussion regarding relationships, maybe thats the push i needed.
For the rest, most of the time I feel great, living from day to day, doing the stuff i want to do and not thinking further than 30 days in the future. But a constant friendly reminder from the family and sometimes from the conscience regarding age und relationships is not making me feel better.
I know what to do but for one I feel that changing my behaviour is also changing my character and therefore the "essence" of me. And everything else that needs to be done...who is there to give me the much needed push at least so far that i can push myself.
wow, it seems pretty bad to me now that this is all written down..i have to change lol
or find someone similar
great thread btw and sorry for my lurker status[/QUOTE]
You don't need to be radically different. You can still like one-on-one activities. You just need to be able to start initiating things with people. Granted, that's kinda really hard to just start doing...
[QUOTE=TheBrokenHobo;30056812]It's pretty shitty having a problem that nobody can help you with.[/QUOTE]
Not sure at all what to do at this point.
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;30112430]You don't need to be radically different. You can still like one-on-one activities. You just need to be able to start initiating things with people. Granted, that's kinda really hard to just start doing...[/QUOTE]
Everything is hard the first time, but the second time it get easier and so on, trust me.
[QUOTE=gta-man12345;30112862]Everything is hard the first time, but the second time it get easier and so on, trust me.[/QUOTE]
Well you don't need to tell [i]me.[/i]
It was more oriented to kenion indirectly
The cutest girl I've ever seen talked to me last week
[b]CAN'T LET THIS THREAD DIE, MUST POST PROBLEM[/b]
Okay this is probably going to be poorly written and choppy and stuff in places because it's going to be really hard for me to explain. Let's just call her X.
I've known this girl since for 8 years and we've been friends since then, but we haven't been that close. I've kinda had a crush on her for the past year or so and over that time we've become really close friends. She's absolutely hilarious to be around, and could talk to each other about really personal stuff (e.g "Periods suck.", "SHIT, I'M OUT OF PANTYLINERS.", etc.) and she's just a really good friend. The past week me and her and some about 70 other kids from our year at school went to Wales for a week on a school trip. I guess I had been flirting with her a bit, and I think her and her friends had overheard me saying to my friends that I really liked her. One of my friends was sharing a room with her and she came up to me one day and asked "So, Fox, when are you going to ask X out?". I then told her that I don't think any time soon as I don't think she's really into me. She then goes onto explaining to me that I might have a wider chance that I imagined. At this point I nearly pissed myself in excitement. Could she really like me? Did I have a chance? She explains to me that I need to improve my personal hygiene (I wtf'd when she said this, as I'm a pretty clean guy if I'm honest) and I might have a chance with her. Later on she said that I should brace myself for a 'no', just in case. Even later on I saw her and X chatting, and they kept looking at me.
A couple of days of passed and we were at this little Museumy place called St. Fagans. I was sat on a bench with a couple of friends, just chilling as you do on a sunny day. I was flicking through my phone and noticed I had a new voicemail. I played it, and it went something along the lines of:
'Hey, it's Y (her name isn't really Y.) I just wanted to say that X is getting a bit annoyed because you keep flirting with her and stuff and she's really not interested. Could you just back off a bit? She really doesn't want to ruin your friendship. Just, back off a bit, okay?'
My heart sank in my chest. I felt like when you hear someone's died and you get that sort of shocked feeling. I don't want to go too deep into it but over the next couple of days I had been really unsettled, until I started hanging out with X again. In the two following days we had grown really close and had just become good friends again.
When I returned home I had waited all day for her to come on messenger. When she did, we talked for hours on end about loads of crap. Then, the subject of me and her popped up. I explained to her that if we did go out I didn't want anything too serious. I just wanted to see how it worked out. It didn't have to be weird and if it did become slightly awkward we'd still be good friends at it would just be water under the bridge. She said "D'aww now you're just making me feel bad." and there was just plain chat after that. Today I decided that I will ask her out. I'd say what I said about it just being to see how things worked out and how we could just break up and everything would just be normal again. I know she said that she wasn't interested but I just need to get it out of my system, [b]I just need to get it off of my chest.[/b]
So what do you think I should do? Do you think I should ask her out? I'm really quite confused myself.
[QUOTE=Thedashingrogue;30121065][b]CAN'T LET THIS THREAD DIE, MUST POST PROBLEM[/b]
Okay this is probably going to be poorly written and choppy and stuff in places because it's going to be really hard for me to explain. Let's just call her X.
I've known this girl since for 8 years and we've been friends since then, but we haven't been that close. I've kinda had a crush on her for the past year or so and over that time we've become really close friends. She's absolutely hilarious to be around, and could talk to each other about really personal stuff (e.g "Periods suck.", "SHIT, I'M OUT OF PANTYLINERS.", etc.) and she's just a really good friend. The past week me and her and some about 70 other kids from our year at school went to Wales for a week on a school trip. I guess I had been flirting with her a bit, and I think her and her friends had overheard me saying to my friends that I really liked her. One of my friends was sharing a room with her and she came up to me one day and asked "So, Fox, when are you going to ask X out?". I then told her that I don't think any time soon as I don't think she's really into me. She then goes onto explaining to me that I might have a wider chance that I imagined. At this point I nearly pissed myself in excitement. Could she really like me? Did I have a chance? She explains to me that I need to improve my personal hygiene (I wtf'd when she said this, as I'm a pretty clean guy if I'm honest) and I might have a chance with her. Later on she said that I should brace myself for a 'no', just in case. Even later on I saw her and X chatting, and they kept looking at me.
A couple of days of passed and we were at this little Museumy place called St. Fagans. I was sat on a bench with a couple of friends, just chilling as you do on a sunny day. I was flicking through my phone and noticed I had a new voicemail. I played it, and it went something along the lines of:
'Hey, it's Y (her name isn't really Y.) I just wanted to say that X is getting a bit annoyed because you keep flirting with her and stuff and she's really not interested. Could you just back off a bit? She really doesn't want to ruin your friendship. Just, back off a bit, okay?'
My heart sank in my chest. I felt like when you hear someone's died and you get that sort of shocked feeling. I don't want to go too deep into it but over the next couple of days I had been really unsettled, until I started hanging out with X again. In the two following days we had grown really close and had just become good friends again.
When I returned home I had waited all day for her to come on messenger. When she did, we talked for hours on end about loads of crap. Then, the subject of me and her popped up. I explained to her that if we did go out I didn't want anything too serious. I just wanted to see how it worked out. It didn't have to be weird and if it did become slightly awkward we'd still be good friends at it would just be water under the bridge. She said "D'aww now you're just making me feel bad." and there was just plain chat after that. Today I decided that I will ask her out. I'd say what I said about it just being to see how things worked out and how we could just break up and everything would just be normal again. I know she said that she wasn't interested but I just need to get it out of my system, [b]I just need to get it off of my chest.[/b]
So what do you think I should do? Do you think I should ask her out? I'm really quite confused myself.[/QUOTE]
That sounds like a problem for the love advice thread.
You probably shouldn't ask her out because she doesn't seem to be interested. As in: don't ask her out. The whole "we can talk about anything" is great. I have a friend who's like that and is a girl. That doesn't mean that you need to date them. It doesn't mean that they're romantically interested in you. It means that they trust you to a certain extent, and being creepy and aggressively flirty don't really do you any favors in that department.
Also, don't say "let's call her X". Use a name. Any name. We don't know the person, so you can use her name. Just don't use numbers or variables. Don't explain that that's not her name. Just say "Sally is my friend" or something. It doesn't matter if her name is sally, because to us the story is still the same. It's just hard to keep up with variables for a lot of people. Not fun to read.
Just keep your good friend a good friend if she obviously doesn't want to date you.
Okay then :sigh:
-edit-
I wasn't trying to say I wanted to date her because I can just talk to her, it's because I love her.
I genuinely love her. I haven't felt this way in a pretty long time
-edit again-
Her name's Ellie.
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