[QUOTE=Farm;30345284]So my whole life up until about 14 I was Christian. Hardcore Christian. Hell, my father is a pastor, and a good man. But I think of myself as a scientist. And once I had the logic and courage to evaluate what I believe, I found that it was all bullshit, through and through. So now everything that I balanced my life on is gone. I told my parents a few moths ago, and it did not go well. They refuse to hear logic, and I tell them that I can't change what I believe. Christianity is founded on making yourself believe. They call it faith. If you have doubts, it's a trial and you have to force yourself to trust God. So now I am apparently the center of a battle over my soul. But I digress.
I have one friend that I really get along with, that I agree with. But he is my brother's best friend, and they are both seniors. They graduated a few weeks ago, and will be gone soon. So I will be stuck at home without my older brother who has been my best friend my whole life, and stuck with my parents who are [i]not[/i] happy with me and my younger brother whom I really do not like, as much as I hate to say it. Just three more years, then I'm gone too... The day can't come quick enough.
Round three I guess... I have a crush on this one guy, but I am not gay, I like women too. In fact, this guy is the [i]only[/i] guy I like so I can't really even call myself bisexual. I would much rather be gay or plain straight than this. It's so damn confusing. And I think he's bi, but I'm not sure. Oh, I don't know.[/QUOTE]
Well first of all, don't rub it into your parents' noses that you don't share their faith anymore. It's not really their business unless you let it be.
Secondly, don't worry about their concern for your soul. They're just worried because they legitimately think that bad things will happen to you, and as all good parents would, are trying to prevent that.
Granted you don't agree with them, and I'd have to say that I don't either, but they do really do have your well-being in mind when they worry, I'm sure.
Also, why do you have to fit yourself into a sexual preference category? You can like whoever you like. If you only like one guy, and you want to call yourself heterosexual for simplicity's sake, then go right ahead. It really doesn't matter and trying to define yourself isn't going to do you any favors. If you don't know if he's bi, you can try and flirt with him. If he's weirded out, then you two just aren't going to work out. If not, hey, it all worked out.
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;30345953]Well first of all, don't rub it into your parents' noses that you don't share their faith anymore. It's not really their business unless you let it be.
Secondly, don't worry about their concern for your soul. They're just worried because they legitimately think that bad things will happen to you, and as all good parents would, are trying to prevent that.
Granted you don't agree with them, and I'd have to say that I don't either, but they do really do have your well-being in mind when they worry, I'm sure.
Also, why do you have to fit yourself into a sexual preference category? You can like whoever you like. If you only like one guy, and you want to call yourself heterosexual for simplicity's sake, then go right ahead. It really doesn't matter and trying to define yourself isn't going to do you any favors. If you don't know if he's bi, you can try and flirt with him. If he's weirded out, then you two just aren't going to work out. If not, hey, it all worked out.[/QUOTE]
Have to admit, wasn't expecting good advice from Facepunch :3:
I have too much shit bothering me to write it all down. Mostly I currently just wish things will get better soon. I've got issues with my social life, with my self confidence, with how I look, with my sexuality, with my stress, with my lack of goals, with decisions I have to make, and the general depression of all this combined.
I start working soon... hopefully this might be a turn for the better.
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;30343629]Would it matter?
If you've read through the thread and the previous one, you would know that almost everyone here takes what people say in a very friendly way. No one really calls people out on things they say unless they're actively trolling. People might give you advice, but other than that it's not a big deal.[/QUOTE]
Okay to get something off my chest, I feel like a fuckhead because I fucked something up the other week so I've been drinking every weekend by my self and on Sunday night when I have school the next day. I also cut my self so I have cuts on my wrists. Not expecting advice or anything just wanted to get that off my chest.
I once fucked a vacuum cleaner and told all my friends about it.
Beauty about this way is there's no cleanup involved, PlugNplay.
[QUOTE=nixxez;30347440]I once fucked a vacuum cleaner and told all my friends about it.
Beauty about this way is there's no cleanup involved, PlugNplay.[/QUOTE]
I don't see any problem with this. Did she suck in bed?
[QUOTE=nixxez;30347440]I once fucked a vacuum cleaner and told all my friends about it.
Beauty about this way is there's no cleanup involved, PlugNplay.[/QUOTE]
We have a Dyson... No way am I letting my dick near that thing.
[editline]9th June 2011[/editline]
Thing would probably suck out my sexual bits like a horror movie.
[QUOTE=OvB;30352901]
Thing would probably suck out my sexual bits like a horror movie.[/QUOTE]
[i] I must devour your gonads to invoke the binding ritual that will call forth the demon army![/i]
[QUOTE=Camp er Joe;30347074]Okay to get something off my chest, I feel like a fuckhead because I fucked something up the other week so I've been drinking every weekend by my self and on Sunday night when I have school the next day. I also cut my self so I have cuts on my wrists. Not expecting advice or anything just wanted to get that off my chest.[/QUOTE]
Well developing a drinking problem isn't going to make you feel better in the long run. Try and invite people over to drink. Lots of people wouldn't deny themselves free alcohol. That way you can be a little more social and eventually you might just go out and doing something with friends instead of drinking. Really, social contact usually helps with personal issues a lot more than anything else.
[QUOTE=Simski;30346097]I have too much shit bothering me to write it all down. Mostly I currently just wish things will get better soon. I've got issues with my social life, with my self confidence, with how I look, with my sexuality, with my stress, with my lack of goals, with decisions I have to make, and the general depression of all this combined.
I start working soon... hopefully this might be a turn for the better.[/QUOTE]
Well, when you start work, be prepared to feel really stupid as you learn and make mistakes. Try not to let that get to you. You're learning.
Focus on the positive for now. Congratz on getting a job!
Feel kind of stupid drinking an energy drink that will give me 1200% of the recommended daily consumption of Vitamin B12
I live in Sweden why is it so HOT
GODDAMN IT SHOULD BE SNOWING IM SWEATING.
[QUOTE=FPChris;30372597]I live in Sweden why is it so HOT
GODDAMN IT SHOULD BE SNOWING IM SWEATING.[/QUOTE]
It's not winter :downs:
My dog is dying slowly from tetanus and there is nothing I can do about it :smith:
[QUOTE=cathal6606;30374137]My dog is dying slowly from tetanus and there is nothing I can do about it :smith:[/QUOTE]
You can make him die quickly...
:suicide:
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;30384735]You can make him die quickly...
:suicide:[/QUOTE]
oh shit dude
I really do not like my life. I really wish I could end it all, but both my morals and my lack of guts prevents me.
I have no fear of death itself, I don't expect a better life after death, I expect complete nothingness after death. No misery, no joy, no worrying, no stress, no regrets, no dreams, no fears, no emptiness, absolutely no form of consciousness. It would be an end to everything that has been bothering me, the ultimate calm achievable.
However I can't kill myself, and not just because I fear the process you need to go through to die.
I can't kill myself because killing myself would make other people I value become miserable with grief. There are people in my life that still cares about me, people who would take my loss seriously. So I'm forced to stay alive in misery, my only reason to exist being to make other people not miserable.
[QUOTE=Simski;30385936]I really do not like my life. I really wish I could end it all, but both my morals and my lack of guts prevents me.
I have no fear of death itself, I don't expect a better life after death, I expect complete nothingness after death. No misery, no joy, no worrying, no stress, no regrets, no dreams, no fears, no emptiness, absolutely no form of consciousness. It would be an end to everything that has been bothering me, the ultimate calm achievable.
However I can't kill myself, and not just because I fear the process you need to go through to die.
I can't kill myself because killing myself would make other people I value become miserable with grief. There are people in my life that still cares about me, people who would take my loss seriously. So I'm forced to stay alive in misery, my only reason to exist being to make other people not miserable.[/QUOTE]
Have you tried to better your situation in anyway at all at least while having a positive outlook?
[QUOTE=Simski;30385936]I really do not like my life. I really wish I could end it all, but both my morals and my lack of guts prevents me.
I have no fear of death itself, I don't expect a better life after death, I expect complete nothingness after death. No misery, no joy, no worrying, no stress, no regrets, no dreams, no fears, no emptiness, absolutely no form of consciousness. It would be an end to everything that has been bothering me, the ultimate calm achievable.
However I can't kill myself, and not just because I fear the process you need to go through to die.
I can't kill myself because killing myself would make other people I value become miserable with grief. There are people in my life that still cares about me, people who would take my loss seriously. So I'm forced to stay alive in misery, my only reason to exist being to make other people not miserable.[/QUOTE]
i felt like this a week ago but I'm getting better. It sucks that you want freedom but you're being selfish if you off yourself.
I'll keep typing a hello message into skype when someone comes online, then feel all inhibited and think "well they haven't messaged me yet, maybe they don't want to talk to me, in which case I shouldn't bother them". The thing is with this one person I'm usually the one to message first, and I don't want to feel like I'm smothering them with attention. Chances are I'm just making a big deal out of this and I should just go "fuck it" and hit enter.
I feel like talking to people would cheer me up, but again I just keep thinking that I'm going to distract them from something more interesting, and they'll talk to me because they want to be polite rather than because they really want to have a conversation.
[QUOTE=loco;30385951]Have you tried to better your situation in anyway at all at least while having a positive outlook?[/QUOTE]
Yes. I'm an epicurean, I believe that the best way to live your life is to avoid suffering. To avoid it by doing enjoyable things, spending time with your loved ones, not having fear of death, to not let gods rule how I want to live my life, and not causing suffering onto anyone else as my conscience will suffer if I do.
Sadly, I still live in regret of things I have done, I live in regret of things I have not done, I suffer from a terrible loneliness, I suffer from self-loathing, I suffer from the things I see people do to each other, and I lack any real goals in life.
Turns out he does not have tetanus he just has chronic arthritis.
[QUOTE=Pringles.;30372855]It's not winter :downs:[/QUOTE]
Yeah, i forgot it usually is 30 degrees celcius during summers in Northern Sweden.
:downs:
[QUOTE=Simski;30388029]Yes. I'm an epicurean, I believe that the best way to live your life is to avoid suffering. To avoid it by doing enjoyable things, spending time with your loved ones, not having fear of death, to not let gods rule how I want to live my life, and not causing suffering onto anyone else as my conscience will suffer if I do.
Sadly, I still live in [u]regret of things I have done[/u], I live in [u]regret of things I have [i]not[/i] done[/u], [b]I suffer from[/b] a terrible loneliness, [b]I suffer from[/b] [u]self[/u]-loathing, [b]I suffer from[/b] the things I see [u]people[/u] do to [u]each other[/u], and I lack any real goals in life.[/QUOTE]
I've underlined/bolded things I think you should have a look at and have a think about what you've said, and see if what you said has made sense or if you think you've might have been a bit too strong in the heat of the typing-moment. I think one problem with things like this is that people take poetic licence when they say how upset they are, they sort of dramatise it. Then they start to believe that they [i]are[/i] that upset, and it becomes this weird spirally circle of silliness. In the same way, more and more people start to tell Justin Bieber he's amazing, and now he's starting to believe it. Regardless of how true it is. I'm sure you can find news stories of his temper tantrums he has when people shatter this illusion.
ANYWAY, [b]Massive Self-Indulgent Speculation Where, In Retrospect, I Read Way Too Much In To One Post To Make Myself Feel Clever, Ahead:[/b]
It sounds like to me that you think you're quite clever and you like to look at the world a lot. What was the most striking about what you said is that you suffer from the things you see people do - as if you're not a person yourself, and you're on the outside looking in. This is great for letting you feel sorry for yourself (I don't mean that in a horrible way, we've all done it) because what you think you're saying is "Oh woe is me, the world is such a messed up place and I just can't bare to witness it, if you need me I'll be the strong silent one in the corner", but it isn't a good attitude to have because you're putting yourself apart from everyone else, which you shouldn't be, people are fun! (I don't mean murderers though).
Also you said you suffer from these things. Is suffer really right? Or does it just get you down a lot? I saw a lady in a hospital once suffer from something, she would cry all night and sleep all day, because of that the doctors didn't know how much pain she was in. Well, that's not true actually, one of my friends told me that - but let's say it is, would you rather be you, or her right now? As well as that you said that you suffer from these things, as if they've seeked you out and you're their victim. Perhaps if you're suffering from terrible loneliness you should meet more people? "But it's not that easy" Yeah I know but come on it isn't going to be is it. Why not think about some steps you can take by next week to get better at one of your problems? I'm sure forum members will help or whatever.
Anyway if it's all really that bad then there's these people who's job it is to help you get past these problems called psychologists, or councellors, or whatever their job title is, but I'm pretty certain they have a high success rate. The shame is a lot of people would feel too proud to go and see one or embaressed. I don't see the problem. It's not like I didn't go to the doctor when I had like this illness or whatever.
Also I'm new to this thread but I'll pop in a lot to complain about things that annoy me (which is nearly all of the things). I'm a massive stress head so this should be nice.
This belongs here too:
[QUOTE=KingKombat;30402086]I
[B]fucking[/B]
[I]hate[/I]
[B][I][U]assholes[/U][/I][/B]
I am so sick and fucking tired of dealing with fucking incompetent degenerate inbred shit-sucking ass-rubbing dick-licking assholes. I hate dealing with people who exist solely to make your day that much fucking worse, who were put on this earth simply to fucking antagonize you and fucking make it so that you want to fucking rip their goddamn internal organs out through their mouths, but you can't because they are protected by other assholes, I hate people who fucking act like they're smarter than you when really they are incompetent idiots who fucking don't think about anything they say and never think to themselves, "Hm, maybe what I am doing is fucking stupid!" or "Maybe this IS dumb!", if it weren't for these people, if it weren't for assholes I would be able to get through school, work, and life all that much easier. I am so tired of going through society every day and dealing with idiots. Not idiots as in a relative term, but if I were to explain in detail why I thought these people were idiots, it'd be quite obvious why and how they were so damn dumb.
It's like nobody even tries to take responsibility for themselves or anyone. I hate people who have this stupid fucking "I DO WHAT I WAWNT!" mentality, who think that they can do anything just because they're a certain age. That shit should be heard from little kids who just go into middle school, not a fucking adult.
People need to realize that there's a difference between "you can become whatever you want when you grow up" and "you can do whatever you want without consequence or thought when you grow up, as long as nothing too bad happens to you". It's called thinking logically, and for some reason not too many people do it these days.[/QUOTE]
thoughts on a 19 year old guy dating a 17 year old girl?
I know there are a lot bigger age gaps out there in dating, but the last person I dated and the people my friends date are always the same age as me/them. It's not so much the age thing anyways as much as it is she's going into her final highschool year and I'm going into my second year at university (it just seems weird to me for some reason) (currently just friends, no relationship thus far). I work with her, I've been to a few work parties with her though (she was there, I was there, not [i]with[/i] her though) and we've talked a fair bit there. I'm sort of interested right now, not sure about her, she seems to be. I'll wait a bit and see how things go before taking it any further. I just want some feedback to see if a 2 year age gap is acceptable at our ages.
Doesn't seem too big of an issue.
You'll want to wait until she's legal though to get into any major relationship territory. 2 years isn't too bad a difference.
[QUOTE=Pascall;30444733]Doesn't seem too big of an issue.
You'll want to wait until she's legal though to get into any major relationship territory. 2 years isn't too bad a difference.[/QUOTE]
Yeah yeah haha obviously. I just edited my post too, not that it makes that big a difference on your opinion.
Yeah I think you'll be fine, unless her maturity level is too different from yours.
hmm, not really sure but she seems pretty mature. I've never seen her outside of work besides the couple of parties so I can't really judge her maturity level at the moment. But from what I've seen that wouldn't be an issue.
[QUOTE=JenkinsJ;30412508]I've underlined/bolded things I think you should have a look at and have a think about what you've said, and see if what you said has made sense or if you think you've might have been a bit too strong in the heat of the typing-moment. I think one problem with things like this is that people take poetic licence when they say how upset they are, they sort of dramatise it. Then they start to believe that they [i]are[/i] that upset, and it becomes this weird spirally circle of silliness. In the same way, more and more people start to tell Justin Bieber he's amazing, and now he's starting to believe it. Regardless of how true it is. I'm sure you can find news stories of his temper tantrums he has when people shatter this illusion.[/QUOTE]
I have terrible moodswings, so yes, that might have been a bit in the heat of the moment. I don't write poetically just to sound edgy and things, I do it because sometimes it's just an easier way of writing.
I didn't start writing and THEN become depressed though, I've been depressed for years. I've tried to deal with it myself, gone to therapy, and taken pills to prevent it. I don't quite understand if you wish to imply that I'm only living under the illusion of being depressed, and that I'm really a happy person. This is not the case for me; I do things that make me feel better and I try to get by as best I can, but in the end I always go back to feeling miserable.
[QUOTE=JenkinsJ;30412508]ANYWAY, [b]Massive Self-Indulgent Speculation Where, In Retrospect, I Read Way Too Much In To One Post To Make Myself Feel Clever, Ahead:[/b]
It sounds like to me that you think you're quite clever and you like to look at the world a lot. What was the most striking about what you said is that you suffer from the things you see people do - as if you're not a person yourself, and you're on the outside looking in. This is great for letting you feel sorry for yourself (I don't mean that in a horrible way, we've all done it) because what you think you're saying is "Oh woe is me, the world is such a messed up place and I just can't bare to witness it, if you need me I'll be the strong silent one in the corner", but it isn't a good attitude to have because you're putting yourself apart from everyone else, which you shouldn't be, people are fun! (I don't mean murderers though). [/QUOTE]
I think I expressed myself too generically which is why you got this impression of me, because I did not quite state in what manner "I suffer from the things I see people do to each other". This sentence I admit, was a poetic dramatization, but none the less true.
Humanity's progress makes me proud to be human, but there are also a lot of people that holds back this progress. When humanity develops greater means of survival, better living standards for each individual, makes new discoveries, and generally makes the world a better place; this makes me proud to be human.
However there are a lot of things in the world that should not exist, people making large-scale irrational decisions, creating war, and creating worse living standards for other human beings; these are things that holds humanity's progress as a species back.
Seeing the things other people do to each other doesn't make me feel bad because "they're make the world worse for me", they make me feel bad because they disappoint my expectations of humanity's capabilities.
[QUOTE=JenkinsJ;30412508]Also you said you suffer from these things. Is suffer really right? Or does it just get you down a lot? I saw a lady in a hospital once suffer from something, she would cry all night and sleep all day, because of that the doctors didn't know how much pain she was in. Well, that's not true actually, one of my friends told me that - but let's say it is, would you rather be you, or her right now?[/QUOTE]
I do suffer. I do not suffer physically, but I do suffer mentally.
I don't know if I'd rather be her or if I'd rather be me. Her being in physical pain does not make me feel that she is ultimately worse off.
[QUOTE=JenkinsJ;30412508]As well as that you said that you suffer from these things, as if they've seeked you out and you're their victim. Perhaps if you're suffering from terrible loneliness you should meet more people? "But it's not that easy" Yeah I know but come on it isn't going to be is it. Why not think about some steps you can take by next week to get better at one of your problems? I'm sure forum members will help or whatever.[/QUOTE]
I'm the victim and perpetrator. There are some things I have brought onto myself that I can never undo, and there are things I have not brought onto myself that I can not undo. I try to meet new people, but it's not easy. I'm not good at first impressions, I have limited free time, I live in a country with limited amount of people, and I don't live in a big city. NEW people are scarce.
[QUOTE=JenkinsJ;30412508]Anyway if it's all really that bad then there's these people who's job it is to help you get past these problems called psychologists, or councellors, or whatever their job title is, but I'm pretty certain they have a high success rate. The shame is a lot of people would feel too proud to go and see one or embaressed. I don't see the problem. It's not like I didn't go to the doctor when I had like this illness or whatever.[/QUOTE]
I'm going to one right now, it still haven't worked it out for me.
[QUOTE=JenkinsJ;30412508]Also I'm new to this thread but I'll pop in a lot to complain about things that annoy me (which is nearly all of the things). I'm a massive stress head so this should be nice.[/QUOTE]
Well here's a challenge for ya :v:
exes birthday party/bus crawl is on friday an i've been invited. We're "friends" now but I still find it awkward as fuck to be around her, especially when alcohol is involved because I don't know what will happen. There's one thing that's making this a hard decision, it's a joint party with her and one of my good friends. If it wasn't for that I would just not go, but now I don't know because I don't want to let my friend down. I've already explained my situation to my friend, and she says she understands, but I don't know if she actually does and I don't want to upset her. The ex knows too, but the thing is she brought it up, she asked me if I was going, which I found weird, anyways I'm trying not to get the wrong ideas about what she wants but she knows that I might not go as well not that it really matters.
Do I go and try to avoid my ex or not go and risk upsetting my other friend/friends? What do?
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