• My girlfriend of three years just confessed to me that she used to be a man
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You've been together for 3 years; you're obviously pretty into each other And you've been knocking about in the sack, it seems, so the sexual attraction is there. If she got the surgery then it would have been because she felt like a woman in a man's body; it could also be that she already had a bunch of excess oestrogen and was already well on the way to being a lady. She's obviously not going to flop out a big ol' penis or start dressing like a lumberjack and going out into the wild to carry massive tree trunks on her back. She's a lady. You loved her before you knew what she [I]used/I] to be; I don't think it changes anything
[QUOTE=Riodoku;37675522]The surgery is astoundingly effective. Read up on it. It doesn't matter what she used to be, the person you've known for the past three years is who she is - she's not any different than before she told you.[/QUOTE] I in my infinite ignorance thought all they did was amputate your genitals v:v:v Is it functional at all?
[QUOTE=helpiminabox;37675523]Is there any possibility she's just messing with you?[/QUOTE] Cut her open and see if she has a uterus.
[QUOTE=Leader of Me;37675556]Cut her open and see if she has a uterus.[/QUOTE] what is wrong with you you can't just do that [editline]16th September 2012[/editline] at least ask first
[QUOTE=Autumn;37675397]i find it difficult to believe that you never noticed that she wasn't quite the same as other women... unless she was your first girlfriend and only person you've had sex with[/QUOTE] C'mon, remember which website you're on here :v:
[QUOTE=Maloof?;37675569]what is wrong with you you can't just do that [editline]16th September 2012[/editline] at least ask first[/QUOTE] i do it all the time
[QUOTE=Maloof?;37675569]what is wrong with you you can't just do that [editline]16th September 2012[/editline] at least ask first[/QUOTE] What if she's into that stuff tho?
[QUOTE=helpiminabox;37675523]Is there any possibility she's just messing with you?[/QUOTE] No, at first I was doubtful because she is so feminine, I could never imagine her as a man. So she gave me one of her medications, and I researched it, and it is what trannies take. [img_thumb]http://i.imgur.com/6x5J5.jpg[/img_thumb]
The fact that she hid it for 3 years is the worst part I would imagine. Clearly it doesn't affect you if you hadn't noticed for 3 years, but her not telling you for 3 years is a bit shitty.
So you joined this forum just to tell us this?
Change your sex too
She's a girl, plain and simple. What she used to be doesn't matter - she used to be a sperm in her dad's testicle, she used to be a baby, a kid, a teenager - that doesn't make you a cum guzzler or a peado. It might not be a natural progression but it's still a progression of nature and what she used to be shouldn't matter to you if you love her.
[QUOTE=Novangel;37675545]I in my infinite ignorance thought all they did was amputate your genitals v:v:v Is it functional at all?[/QUOTE] It's completely functional in every way except self-lubrication. Everything else is the same. Clitoris, labia, vagina. The surgery creates everything from the penis and scrotum. [QUOTE=andrey191919;37675586]No, at first I was doubtful because she is so feminine, I could never imagine her as a man. So she gave me one of her medications, and I researched it, and it is what trannies take. [img_thumb]http://i.imgur.com/6x5J5.jpg[/img_thumb][/QUOTE] I'm going to guess that you just don't know, but the word tranny is akin to the word faggot. The only people who call trans people that are bigots, plain and simple.
I hope this isn't a stupid question, but is there the possibility of her getting pregnant?
[QUOTE=Crimptor;37675676]I hope this isn't a stupid question, but is there the possibility of her getting pregnant?[/QUOTE] 0%, that is an incredibly stupid question, They don't transplant the uterus and ovaries of a dead person when you get a sex change operation.
Well Fuck. I would be scared (and scarred) as fuck. To be honest i think it would be best to move on, relationships just doesnt stay the same after these kind of things.
I'd feel really bad for punishing them for it, sure they've lied to you but they're not going to find many relationships admitting to everyone they were men.
[QUOTE=andrey191919;37675133]I have been with my current girlfriend for three years and she told me earlier today that she used to be a man. I don't know how I should be feeling, if I am gay or what. It was impossible for me to tell, apparently her parents spent €200.000 on her sex change operations. What should I do?[/QUOTE] Do you love her? Y/N If you love her continue dating and ignore everything else.
[QUOTE=Riodoku;37675659]It's completely functional in every way except self-lubrication. Everything else is the same. Clitoris, labia, vagina. The surgery creates everything from the penis and scrotum. [/QUOTE] That's pretty remarkable.
Give her the dick.
[QUOTE=Riodoku;37675659]It's completely functional in every way except self-lubrication. Everything else is the same. Clitoris, labia, vagina. The surgery creates everything from the penis and scrotum. I'm going to guess that you just don't know, but the word tranny is akin to the word faggot. The only people who call trans people that are bigots, plain and simple.[/QUOTE] in the car world we call our transmissions trannies, i find this offensive please apologize asap
take the d
If you love her, then stay with her.
And the reason she probably didnt tell you in the first place was because she was scared of what you would do to her if you found out but now she trusts you enough to tell you
Honestly, I'd just dump her and tell her that you'd like to raise a family in the future if that's what you're after. She shouldn't find it too offensive since she knew the risks when she took them or lied to you for three years. For me, it just wouldn't sit well knowing that my girlfriend was actually a guy at one point and I wouldn't actually be able to raise a family with them. It's just a huge natural turn-off, I guess. You have to think: Maybe it's a dick move in her opinion, but what's best for me? If you're going to be stuck with a person for your entire life, you need to make sure that both of you are alright with something like that. You need to make sure what's done is best in the interest of both people. If you honestly don't find her attractive now, then I'd just let it be done. It's not healthy for a relationship to continue even though there is some awkward hidden conflict.
I can see OP being worried if he wanted to have kids with her, and has now found out he can't without adopting. Other than that, I think this story is rather sweet. 3 years is a long time to keep that secret, but sweet all the same.
[QUOTE=andrey191919;37675133]I have been with my current girlfriend for three years and she told me earlier today that she used to be a man. I don't know how I should be feeling, if I am gay or what. It was impossible for me to tell, apparently her parents spent €200.000 on her sex change operations. What should I do?[/QUOTE] Umm, wouldn't you have noticed a bit earlier on that she's never had periods or something? It doesn't exactly require Sherlock Holmes levels of deduction
[QUOTE=RobbL;37676040]Umm, wouldn't you have noticed a bit earlier on that she's never had periods or something? It doesn't exactly require Sherlock Holmes levels of deduction[/QUOTE] There are things that cause ciswomen to not have periods their whole life you know. anyway OP she was probably just scared. She probably loves you and didnt want to lose you. You'd be surprised to know how much abuse transwomen face over this small fact. Be happy and take pride she loves and trusts you enough to tell you this. It really does mean a lot.
You've got a woman to love with a place to stick it in on a Thursday night. What she was in the past doesn't matter, happiness is happiness. Believe me, it's not worth cutting off. [editline]15th September 2012[/editline] The relationship, I mean.
I've been contemplating SRS for a long time now. The main reason I was/am afraid of doing it is because of situations like this. I've always had terrible trust issues and I don't know how I would handle telling someone about it that I love and see them not sure how they wanted to deal with me. I know by the time I would be ready to tell him that I would probably trust him, but it is still such a scary thing, which is somewhat why I've stayed a man and 'chosen' to be 'gay'. Although, I really do not feel like I am gay, I just want to love a man, and don't feel like I should be a man myself. Don't know what happened in that last paragraph or why I'm posting it. Meh. Backspace is so much work.
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