My girlfriend of three years just confessed to me that she used to be a man
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[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;37694570]
Someone said this.
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I know but I felt it needed to be reiterated
if i said that this wouldn't change anything about your relationship i'd be lying because personally i would also find it really jarring
but you've been dating for 3 years and you haven't noticed anything so just try not to pay it any mind because she's a girl now in the present
just imagine she's only saying that to see if you liked her and was just testing you to see if you were loyal or something
To me your "experience with trans people" seems to not go anywhere out of making them feel like shit, being disrespectful, and ignorant in this thread. I'd hate to see how you would treat one of us outside of the Internet.
I'm pretty sure the OP's situation was solved a few pages back.
That was the green light for the transgender debate to release the floodgates iirc
[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;37694717]if i said that this wouldn't change anything about your relationship i'd be lying because personally i would also find it really jarring
but you've been dating for 3 years and you haven't noticed anything so just try not to pay it any mind because she's a girl now in the present
just imagine she's only saying that to see if you liked her and was just testing you to see if you were loyal or something[/QUOTE]
If a girl pulled something like this to 'test me' she'd be in pretty hot water regardless
[QUOTE=Maloof?;37694751]If a girl pulled something like this to 'test me' she'd be in pretty hot water regardless[/QUOTE]
and i don't disagree
but personally i'd find it jarring either way
[editline]17th September 2012[/editline]
anyways if you really have to think about breaking up with her after finding this out you really must not love her enough for this to not bother you anyways so you might as well break up
Forget his mood. It's about the truth. As far as sign up I was here before .[QUOTE=TCB;37679410]i like how you signed up to post that
you shouldnt refer to op's gf as "him", might not help his mood[/QUOTE]
[editline]16th September 2012[/editline]
He. Forget what he's turned himself into. That's only reason we're discussing anything. He started as male, and physically transformed himself to accomodate his " she " mindset. Still not female. Only in his mind. Blame biology. [QUOTE=Boxbot219;37679420]She*[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=extatik;37694948]Forget his mood. It's about the truth. As far as sign up I was here before .
[editline]16th September 2012[/editline]
He. Forget what he's turned himself into. That's only reason we're discussing anything. He started as male, and physically transformed himself to accomodate his " she " mindset. Still not female. Only in his mind. Blame biology.[/QUOTE]
I hope you realize how rude, inconsiderate, and how much of a bigot you are. Here's some advice: Grow up. Realize that not everyone is going to be exactly the same as you. Learn to give others respect. Don't be an outright asshole just because you can hide behind a screen. Just grow up and get your fucking facts straight. People like you make me sick.
Huge trust issue aside, the only reason I could see breaking up would be..
1. This causes you to realize your values won't work with her, seeing as how you might want kids (your kids, not adoption) and she can't offer that.
2. If it bothers you, but I read the entire thread and apparently it doesn't so no big deal.
I love how if someone isn't 100% on the "lets surgically modify my body, and use drug therapy" to solve an internal sexual conflict/feeling of being trapped in someone else body train is arrogant, ignorant, rude, and an asshole.
Most people aren't transgender, the idea of getting their parts surgically removed, going through drug therapy, and doing other things in the name of sexual orientation seems extreme to a majority of people.
You can't act hostile towards them when they have the slightest opinion that isn't up to par with yours. IE stop being so fucking black and white, its a touchy subject, and a weird/extreme subject for most people. If you want people to understand you, and understand why someone would go through sexual reassignment surgery, you're better off educating them instead of yelling at them and calling them a bigot because they aren't in your mindset.
[QUOTE=Maloof?;37675531]
She's obviously not going to flop out a big ol' penis or start dressing like a lumberjack and going out into the wild to carry massive tree trunks on her back.
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I'm a lumberjack and I'm okay,
I sleep all night and I work all day
I cut down trees. I wear high heels,
Suspendies, and a bra.
I wish I'd been a girlie,
Just like my dear Papa.
[QUOTE=VIOLATION_SNG;37694737]To me your "experience with trans people" seems to not go anywhere out of making them feel like shit, being disrespectful, and ignorant in this thread. I'd hate to see how you would treat one of us outside of the Internet.[/QUOTE]
I don't say anything because I'm busy with other shit and I just agree with whatever they say.
Can anyone tell me what the OP's last post was or what he decided to do if he has said? Haven't seen a post from him in the browsing over the last couple of pages.
[QUOTE=DeathBacon;37695412]Can anyone tell me what the OP's last post was or what he decided to do if he has said? Haven't seen a post from him in the browsing over the last couple of pages.[/QUOTE]
He doesn't mind and considers it cool because she is a girl and a bro too.
Not saying he is going to marry her necessarily, but it looks like a positive outcome.
Cool, thanks. Glad to hear it, too.
[QUOTE=DeathBacon;37695412]Can anyone tell me what the OP's last post was or what he decided to do if he has said? Haven't seen a post from him in the browsing over the last couple of pages.[/QUOTE]
It got settled, iirc. He was okay with it in the end.
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Damn German ninjas
[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;37695384]I don't say anything because I'm busy with other shit and I just agree with whatever they say.[/QUOTE]
Sounds like the fact that you submit yourself to other people's beliefs and opinions in real life is forcing you to find another outlet for your very human (and natural) tendency to disagree on some thing. Seeing as you can't bring yourself to disagree with anything in real life, it makes sense that you would disagree with things on the internet (in this case you choose to go against the majority opinion); it's just the way you give yourself some authority and individualism in what is otherwise a life of agreeing with everybody and conforming.
Maybe if you started taking some authority of opinion in real life and openly disagreeing with people instead of saying 'yeah you are right' you would not have the urge to disagree with people online when, in reality, you probably don't feel all that strongly about what you are saying here other than using it as an outlet for your frustration.
That's how I'm coming to understand you anyway
[QUOTE=Maloof?;37695495]Sounds like the fact that you submit yourself to other people's beliefs and opinions in real life is forcing you to find another outlet for your very human (and natural) tendency to disagree on some thing. Seeing as you can't bring yourself to disagree with anything in real life, it makes sense that you would disagree with things on the internet (in this case you choose to go against the majority opinion); it's just the way you give yourself some authority and individualism in what is otherwise a life of agreeing with everybody and conforming.
Maybe if you started taking some authority of opinion in real life and openly disagreeing with people instead of saying 'yeah you are right' you would not have the urge to disagree with people online when, in reality, you probably don't feel all that strongly about what you are saying here other than using it as an outlet for your frustration.
That's how I'm coming to understand you anyway[/QUOTE]
He didn't ask for a therapy analysis of his life.
[QUOTE=G3rman;37695509]He didn't ask for a therapy analysis of his life.[/QUOTE]
too bad, sucka fool got one anyway
[editline]17th September 2012[/editline]
yolo
[QUOTE=Maloof?;37695495]Sounds like the fact that you submit yourself to other people's beliefs and opinions in real life is forcing you to find another outlet for your very human (and natural) tendency to disagree on some thing. Seeing as you can't bring yourself to disagree with anything in real life, it makes sense that you would disagree with things on the internet (in this case you choose to go against the majority opinion); it's just the way you give yourself some authority and individualism in what is otherwise a life of agreeing with everybody and conforming.
Maybe if you started taking some authority of opinion in real life and openly disagreeing with people instead of saying 'yeah you are right' you would not have the urge to disagree with people online when, in reality, you probably don't feel all that strongly about what you are saying here other than using it as an outlet for your frustration.
That's how I'm coming to understand you anyway[/QUOTE]
Pffffahahahaha what are you doing.
I'm not even listing to what the transgendered person is saying because I don't care. I'm focused on other important things such as working towards a lifelong career. I disagree with people in real life too like any normal person.
i don't have time to argue with trans people irl but I have time for it on the Internet!
[QUOTE=Itachi_Crow;37695759]i don't have time to argue with trans people irl but I have time for it on the Internet![/QUOTE]
Because I'm totally preoccupied at the moment
[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;37695777]Because I'm totally preoccupied at the moment[/QUOTE]
So you're only a judgmental bigot when you're not busy with something
I think for the safety of yourself and those around you, you ought to get a hobby and spend all of your time doing it
[QUOTE=Maloof?;37695840]So you're only a judgmental bigot when you're not busy with something
I think for the safety of yourself and those around you, you ought to get a hobby and spend all of your time doing it[/QUOTE]
But wouldn't that make me submissive.
[QUOTE=ScoutKing;37695319]I love how if someone isn't 100% on the "lets surgically modify my body, and use drug therapy" to solve an internal sexual conflict/feeling of being trapped in someone else body train is arrogant, ignorant, rude, and an asshole.
Most people aren't transgender, the idea of getting their parts surgically removed, going through drug therapy, and doing other things in the name of sexual orientation seems extreme to a majority of people.
You can't act hostile towards them when they have the slightest opinion that isn't up to par with yours. IE stop being so fucking black and white, its a touchy subject, and a weird/extreme subject for most people. If you want people to understand you, and understand why someone would go through sexual reassignment surgery, you're better off educating them instead of yelling at them and calling them a bigot because they aren't in your mindset.[/QUOTE]
You have completely misread everything I said. He's an ignorant asshole because despite him knowing very well that she is female, he refers to her as a male throughout the entire post. Not to mention he lacks any understanding of what we are and what we go through, and he decides to not learn but just be completely ignorant and lack any care or respect for anyone. He knows how touchy the subject is yet he blatantly insults her and every other Transgendered person in his post. Therefore, he can burn.
[QUOTE=VIOLATION_SNG;37695960]You have completely misread everything I said. He's an ignirant asshole because despite him knowing very well that she is female, he refers to her as a male througrhout the entire post. Not to mention he lacks any understand of what we are and what we go through, and he decides to not learn but just be completely ignorant and lack any care or respect for anyone. Therefore, he can burn.[/QUOTE]
You should really run a spellcheck before you post.
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And your grammar
[QUOTE=VIOLATION_SNG;37695960]You have completely misread everything I said. He's an ignirant asshole because despite him knowing very well that she is female, he refers to her as a male througrhout the entire post. Not to mention he lacks any understand of what we are and what we go through, and he decides to not learn but just be completely ignorant and lack any care or respect for anyone. Therefore, he can burn.[/QUOTE]
I wasn't referring specifically to his posts.
Leafing through this thread and i see a shit ton of hostility when it comes to the slightest questioning, and differing in opinion regarding transgenderism and reassignment surgery.
[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;37695976]You should really run a spellcheck before you post.[/QUOTE]
It's called mobile. I fix it after I post.
I think I can tell who the trannies are in this thread
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[QUOTE=garry 2;37696085]I think I can tell who the [B]trannies[/B] are in this thread[/QUOTE]
They find that word extremely offensive
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