• My girlfriend of three years just confessed to me that she used to be a man
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[QUOTE=Da_Maniac_;37676649]If you've been with her for 3 years, this shouldn't change anything.[/QUOTE] I never thought I would say this but "Think of the children!" If your goal is to have kids of your own then the fact that she can't properly reproduce means that you can't achieve this goal.
[QUOTE=daijitsu;37676371]Progynon Depot is also used to treat the symptoms of low estrogen in women who do not produce enough estrogen naturally. four viable situations I see in this, and you probably know the real one already 1- it's face value and she's a man, baby 2- Crazy-girlfriend-level test of faith 3- Crazy-girlfriend tactic of making [I]you [/I]break up with [I]her [/I]so she doesn't feel guilty for being the one to initiate it 4- this was all just a fun little experiment to see how FP would react to the situation [B]4a (bonus round)- and [I]you [/I]are actually the transperson[/B][/QUOTE] "but i must not fuck the transpeople" "no andrey, [I]you[/I] are the transperson" and then andrey was a girl. Seriously though, this is a decision only you can make, if i were in your place the last thing i would do is ask the internet.
[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;37676630]Because when I want to contribute to society it makes me a douche-bag?[/QUOTE] Having a kid is hardly contributing to society. Earth is overpopulated as it is and adding your kid to the equation isn't going to do anything to help.
[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;37676689]I never thought I would say this but "Think of the children!" If your goal is to have kids of your own then the fact that she can't properly reproduce means that you can't achieve this goal.[/QUOTE] has it ever occurred to you that maybe they dont want kids
[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;37676495]But it's hard to trust that person back after she told you after [I]3 years[/I] into the relationship[/QUOTE] If she's lied about that for 3 years it wouldn't be surprising if the next thing OP hears is she's actually a terrorist on the run from the FBI who had a sex change to hide her identity
I'd probably break up with her because the fact that she kept a huge secret from you for 3 years really says a lot about her character. I mean, what else could she not be telling you? That just screams trust issues to me.
I think this is the least amount of transphobia ive seen in a trans related thread in awhile! [editline]15th September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=PollytheParrot;37676736]I'd probably break up with her because the fact that she kept a huge secret from you for 3 years really says a lot about her character. I mean, what else could she not be telling you? That just screams trust issues to me.[/QUOTE] It screams "I'm afraid to be hurt by the person I love because of who I am." Quit acting as if in a society like ours she had no reason to hide it.
[QUOTE=Skelmech;37676782]I think this is the least amount of transphobia ive seen in a trans related thread in awhile![/QUOTE] How the fuck is this transphobia. I support LGBT rights and whatnot. I have no problems making friends with one, but I don't want to be in a serious mother-father or father-father relationship with one. You're like saying "People who do not want to have sex with homosexuals are homophobic"
I'm p sure that OP is transgendered, tho I could be wrong. It just looks like an advice thread to me.
I am sure that this thread is metaphor for something,not sure what....
[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;37676815]How the fuck is this transphobia. I support LGBT rights and whatnot. I have no problems making friends with one, but I don't want to be in a serious mother-father or father-father relationship with one. You're like saying "People who do not want to have sex with homosexuals are homophobic"[/QUOTE] Because you're expressly stating you wouldnt date one because they make you uncomfortable. There's 2 reasons you'd be uncomfortable: 1. You still think of them as a man and it doesn't sit right with you 2. You think dating one makes you gay because again you still think they're a man. She's a woman and you're a Man. If you're straight then theres no difference between dating and fucking her than there is a cisgirl.
[QUOTE=Kabstrac;37676526]a lot of you seem to be shrugging this off pretty easily, and I don't think most of you would in his situation.[/QUOTE] The biggest problem here is trust. A three year secret is a long one. [If this is all true.] Second is if OP is flamboyantly straight and the idea being with a once-man frightens OP. Third if family, which people range from "I don't give a fuck." to "I [B]must[/B] have kids when I get older." So yeah, it's a bit shocking, but once that factor wears off; it's really not a difficult situation. I use to be semi-intimate with a trans person years ago - when she told me about it, I basically just went: "Oh, cool." Then again, I'm pansexual and the idea of kids isn't near the top of my to-do list; so it didn't really affect me much.
well they're not a real girl, that'd freak a lot of people out
[QUOTE=Skelmech;37676875]Because you're expressly stating you wouldnt date one because they make you uncomfortable. There's 2 reasons you'd be uncomfortable: 1. You still think of them as a man and it doesn't sit right with you 2. You think dating one makes you gay because again you still think they're a man. She's a woman and you're a Man. If you're straight then theres no difference between dating and fucking her than there is a cisgirl.[/QUOTE] Or, he doesn't feel comfortable with the fact that he wont be able to have a child with her (later on), which kind of makes relationship useless unless you're just looking for some fun.
[QUOTE=NuclearAnnhilation;37676910]well they're not a real girl, that'd freak a lot of people out[/QUOTE] They are real girls
[QUOTE=Skelmech;37676875]She's a woman and you're a Man. If you're straight then theres no difference between dating and fucking her than there is a cisgirl.[/QUOTE] there is a huge fucking difference between a sexual relationship and a normal relationship Not all women you meet will be used for fucking
[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;37676931]there is a huge fucking difference between a sexual relationship and a normal relationship Not all women you meet will be used for fucking[/QUOTE] you clearly didnt read "no difference between [B]dating[/B] and fucking her"
[QUOTE=DeathBacon;37676930]They are real girls[/QUOTE] not really. they werent born as a girl and dont have like a uterus and such
[QUOTE=Spirit_Breaker;37676919]Or, he doesn't feel comfortable with the fact that he wont be able to have a child with her (later on), which kind of makes relationship useless unless you're just looking for some fun.[/QUOTE] Because relationships are all about having kids. Yep. The only way this is relevant is if OP/man is desperate to have his own/biological kids through natural means. If you cut out the natural parts, there is always gestational/commercial surrogacy.
[QUOTE=xxncxx;37676954]you clearly didnt read "no difference between [B]dating[/B] and fucking her"[/QUOTE] My mistake. But same thing applies. Dating is different than a committed relationship.
[QUOTE=Skelmech;37676875]Because you're expressly stating you wouldnt date one because they make you uncomfortable. There's 2 reasons you'd be uncomfortable: 1. You still think of them as a man and it doesn't sit right with you 2. You think dating one makes you gay because again you still think they're a man. She's a woman and you're a Man. If you're straight then theres no difference between dating and fucking her than there is a cisgirl.[/QUOTE] I have no problem with LGBT people, but here's an analogy for how ROFLBURGER (and I) feel about it. A cisperson is pork bacon. A srsperson is turkey bacon. We have no inherent problems with turkey bacon, its just that we prefer pork bacon.
[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;37676931]there is a huge fucking difference between a sexual relationship and a normal relationship Not all women you meet will be used for fucking[/QUOTE] What? I never said there wasn't a difference between a normal and sexual relationship? I said there's no difference between a transgirl and a cisgirl. That includes a sexual and non sexual relationship or just simple friendship FFS. They're both "real" girls do there's no reason for you to be uncomfortable with the idea of dating a transgirl. Not being able to have kids may be something you dislike but not something to be uncomfortable over. [editline]15th September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=LordCrypto;37676995]I have no problem with LGBT people, but here's an analogy for how ROFLBURGER (and I) feel about it. A cisperson is pork bacon. A srsperson is turkey bacon. We have no inherent problems with turkey bacon, its just that we prefer pork bacon.[/QUOTE] Except in that analogy theyre both still pork.
[QUOTE=Skelmech;37677004]What? I never said there wasn't a difference between a normal and sexual relationship? I said there's no difference between a transgirl and a cisgirl. That includes a sexual and non sexual relationship or just simple friendship FFS. They're both "real" girls do there's no reason for you to be uncomfortable with the idea of dating a transgirl. Not being able to have kids may be something you dislike but not something to be uncomfortable over. [editline]15th September 2012[/editline] Except in that analogy theyre both still pork.[/QUOTE] except that turkey bacon has no pork in it
This is fucked up if I were in that position I would kick his ass.
separate the bacon title from the turkey. bacon is just really a cut of pork. turkey bacon is made to be like the cut of pork. it isn't pork though.
[QUOTE=Nick Mason;37676121]You've got a woman to love with a place to stick it in on a Thursday night. What she was in the past doesn't matter, happiness is happiness. Believe me, it's not worth cutting off. [editline]15th September 2012[/editline] The relationship, I mean.[/QUOTE] oh god i took this thread seriously up until this post absolutely brilliant nothing else matters only this post trans people are cool tho if you were fine porkin her before why would it be any different now
[QUOTE=DeathBacon;37676930]They are real girls[/QUOTE] They're not physiologically real girls
im so confused bacon is delicious
[QUOTE=RobbL;37677072]They're not physiologically real girls[/QUOTE] [quote]Female (♀) is the sex of an organism, or a part of an organism, which produces non-mobile ova (egg cells).[/quote] i'm agreeing with you.
Facepunch is literally referring to women as slabs of meat now. Good job.
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