• Sex, Girlfriends and Shit II
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Definitely? Were you the one having sex in this relationship? Trust me, sometimes it's not the girth...
[QUOTE=Seith;33965748]Definitely? Were you the one having sex in this relationship? Trust me, sometimes it's not the girth...[/QUOTE] Well unless she has an infection down there, or he has a spike growing out of his penis, I don't see a lot of other options. [editline]30th December 2011[/editline] But yes, sometimes it is not the girth.
I know this chick who's been having some issues with penetrating and it's not size related. Doesn't have to be an infection. Forgot the name.
[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;33948138]I can't fucking believe it... Me and my girlfriend attempted to have sex for the first time last night, I was(am?) a virgin but she'd done it quite a few times with her ex. So I thought if anyone had a problem it'd be me right? Turns out no...to put it straight, I'm too big for her. I don't think I am particularly big, not that I really know, but obviously I am a lot bigger than her ex... As soon as I entered her she screwed her face up in pain, dug her nails into my arse and let out this long drawn out "fuuuccccckkk!!". I said what the fuck is wrong, but she said to carry on going, which I did, extremely slowly and it barely felt that I was in there... but still she was swearing and obviously in pain, and I had to pull out and ask her what was wrong when she told me, I was too big for her, especially deeper in.. She had to lie there for about 5 minutes and let the pain die down, and we tried again a couple of times, with breaks in between, but yet again we had to stop because she was in so much pain. We just gave up in the end, and used our hands, at least I can do that pretty well. But seriously, I don't think I'm that big and does anyone know if this is going to get better? She said she never really enjoyed it that much with her ex, she said it was to do with the fact it wasn't meaningful, but now I'm thinking it might of also being the fact he might have been pretty small...[/QUOTE] She has an issue with flexibility, lubrication and arousal. It's normal for a woman's vagina to close a bit after a while without sex but it easily gets better with regular sex. You have to try lube, man and avoid forcing your penis in like a battering ram, cause that won't work. You're struggling to get it in with continuous effort and then have a break. That's terrible and it will only hurt her further and destroy all possible arousal. You have to gently caress her parts first and then you do the same with your penis. When you feel she starts to get wet, you gently move deeper with soft motions, always back and forth until it will gradually open up for you. This can take some time so don't rush things, don't try to pull it all the way in cause it won't work, and no, you don't have an abnormally large penis. Vaginas are build for babies to come out, unless your penis is bigger than a babie's head. (I really doubt it!) The problem is that this whole situation is stressing you both and when it comes to it, you two start seeing sex as a stressful challenge rather than a pleasurable moment. You should also use your hands or mouth to try and arouse her, and ask her to guide your penis in to a more comfortable position for her. Once you're inside her it may feel tight but it will get normal as you go as you gently move in and out. Remember to be gentle and "aim" for the lower part of her vagina. Also since you're a little inexperienced in sex, I would advise again for you to ask her for help in guiding your penis in. Also you must remember lubrication, because it's never going to work without it! And you can't count on your bodies to produce enough (although in time it will). I don't doubt that if you try again keeping all these things in mind you will succeed. Otherwise, you're doing it wrong!
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;33966746]She has an issue with flexibility, lubrication and arousal. It's normal for a woman's vagina to close a bit after a while without sex but it easily gets better with regular sex. You have to try lube, man and avoid forcing your penis in like a battering ram, cause that won't work. You're struggling to get it in with continuous effort and then have a break. That's terrible and it will only hurt her further and destroy all possible arousal. You have to gently caress her parts first and then you do the same with your penis. When you feel she starts to get wet, you gently move deeper with soft motions, always back and forth until it will gradually open up for you. This can take some time so don't rush things, don't try to pull it all the way in cause it won't work, and no, you don't have an abnormally large penis. Vaginas are build for babies to come out, unless your penis is bigger than a babie's head. (I really doubt it!) The problem is that this whole situation is stressing you both and when it comes to it, you two start seeing sex as a stressful challenge rather than a pleasurable moment. You should also use your hands or mouth to try and arouse her, and ask her to guide your penis in to a more comfortable position for her. Once you're inside her it may feel tight but it will get normal as you go as you gently move in and out. Remember to be gentle and "aim" for the lower part of her vagina. Also since you're a little inexperienced in sex, I would advise again for you to ask her for help in guiding your penis in. Also you must remember lubrication, because it's never going to work without it! And you can't count on your bodies to produce enough (although in time it will). I don't doubt that if you try again keeping all these things in mind you will succeed. Otherwise, you're doing it wrong![/QUOTE] Is it bad that I got an erection from reading this?
Well Behemoth.. thanks for the advice, I might be a total novice but I'm, not a complete idiot ok? of course I fingered her a bit first and made sure she was wet, and as I've said before, I doubt extra lube would have done anything, the condom was extremely slippy from it. And as I said in the other thread, when I saw her today she told me she was very nervous due to the fact her last relationship went down the shitter as soon as sex came in to the equation. That of course led to tension and stuff.
Last night i got smashed with my best friend. So we're sitting down watching lightshows and then all the sudden we make out like in a flash i'm pretty sure she did it. cause i didn't even have my eyes closed. Then we keep kissing while watching videos and she walks with me home cause i'm fucked UP. She's slightly buzzed cause she ate before. we talked this morning and she said she was talking to someone else and i should just forget about it. I explained how i felt. she said she really likes this other guy. but she attacked me last night. CONFUSED AS FUCK.
she was drunk, how is that confusing
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;33969666]she was drunk, how is that confusing[/QUOTE] I was drunk and she had around 2 i had around 10. she was kinda buzzing was all. Before i could do anything she was all over me like white on rice.
[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;33969145]Well Behemoth.. thanks for the advice, I might be a total novice but I'm, not a complete idiot ok? of course I fingered her a bit first and made sure she was wet, and as I've said before, I doubt extra lube would have done anything, the condom was extremely slippy from it. And as I said in the other thread, when I saw her today she told me she was very nervous due to the fact her last relationship went down the shitter as soon as sex came in to the equation. That of course led to tension and stuff.[/QUOTE] Then, that is really weird, cause either there is some weird phenomenon or she has a problem with getting aroused due to those insecurities. try lube, then if it doesn't work, come tell us of your adventure :v:
[QUOTE=TheDestroyerOfall;33969720]I was drunk and she had around 2 i had around 10. she was kinda buzzing was all. Before i could do anything she was all over me like white on rice.[/QUOTE] drinking makes you forget about shit she was horny and she just forgot about her guy and then when it was over she realize how much of a mistake it was move on
[QUOTE=TheDestroyerOfall;33969546]Last night i got smashed with my best friend. So we're sitting down watching lightshows and then all the sudden we make out like in a flash i'm pretty sure she did it. cause i didn't even have my eyes closed. Then we keep kissing while watching videos and she walks with me home cause i'm fucked UP. She's slightly buzzed cause she ate before. we talked this morning and she said she was talking to someone else and i should just forget about it. I explained how i felt. she said she really likes this other guy. but she attacked me last night. CONFUSED AS FUCK.[/QUOTE] Welcome to the world of Alcohol. Soon you'll wake up in someone's bed sneaking out of the room hoping she doesn't wake up, remember your face or call you.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;33971042]Welcome to the world of Alcohol. Soon you'll wake up in someone's bed sneaking out of the room hoping she doesn't wake up, remember your face or call you.[/QUOTE] Actually that already happened except we woke up at my place. This isn't the first time i've drunk but it's the first time my best friend made out with me. She is my best friend.
[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;33969145]Well Behemoth.. thanks for the advice, I might be a total novice but I'm, not a complete idiot ok? of course I fingered her a bit first and made sure she was wet, and as I've said before, I doubt extra lube would have done anything, the condom was extremely slippy from it.[/QUOTE] Additional lube always does SOMETHING, man. And it doesn't sound like any of you were relaxed when you tried. Put lube in HER, not on the condom. Keep fingering and see how much you can get in when she relaxes. There's no point saying "IT DUN WORK" and ignore it or keep ramming. [QUOTE=Mort and Charon;33969145] And as I said in the other thread, when I saw her today she told me she was very nervous due to the fact her last relationship went down the shitter as soon as sex came in to the equation. That of course led to tension and stuff.[/QUOTE] This just proves behemoth even more right, as she's stressed and tense when it comes to sex, since it has never really worked for her. [editline]31st December 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=TheDestroyerOfall;33969546]Last night i got smashed with my best friend. So we're sitting down watching lightshows and then all the sudden we make out like in a flash i'm pretty sure she did it. cause i didn't even have my eyes closed. Then we keep kissing while watching videos and she walks with me home cause i'm fucked UP. She's slightly buzzed cause she ate before. we talked this morning and she said she was talking to someone else and i should just forget about it. I explained how i felt. she said she really likes this other guy. but she attacked me last night. CONFUSED AS FUCK.[/QUOTE] Drink with her again. Fuck her. Tell her to forget about it. But really, just because you made out with her when both were drunk, it doesn't guarantee(sometimes not even suggest) that she has feelings for you. Informing her of feelings, instead of seeing if it happens again just gives her the option to "friendzone" you. You kinda blew it, just hope it doesn't get awkward. [editline]31st December 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=Hana-San;33959983]Something doesn't seem right. The only problem I could see is if: 1) You we're doing it wrong. 2) You're a bit to wide. 3) There's something wrong with her. I hope things get better for you though.[/QUOTE] I'm quite sure "any length" is kind of optimistic. I'm 16-19cm, and if I go too deep it actually hurts her. Sure it's not supposed to be about the vagina being able to accommodate to any girth?
If she's not bleeding or dying, I'd say she accommodated well enough.
Well i have two choices at the moment. Try to get her to kiss me outside of being drunk, OR do nothing and let their relationship work out. Either or.
[QUOTE=TheDestroyerOfall;33982967]Well i have two choices at the moment. Try to get her to kiss me outside of being drunk, OR do nothing and let their relationship work out. Either or.[/QUOTE] how about neither both of those sound retarded find another girl
She told you to forget it, then do it. Think about it...
[QUOTE=Seith;33981980]If she's not bleeding or dying, I'd say she accommodated well enough.[/QUOTE] :v:Sounds good enough for me.[editline]31st December 2011[/editline][QUOTE=TheDestroyerOfall;33982967]Well i have two choices at the moment. Try to get her to kiss me outside of being drunk, OR do nothing and let their relationship work out. Either or.[/QUOTE]Get her to kiss you? No. Stuff like that WILL make it awkward. Drink with her, do whatever you want, just, you know, forget it. Don't go thinking she's "the one" or anything just because she kissed you.
Everyone is telling me to do nothing. Time to do the opposite. [editline]1st January 2012[/editline] If anything she wants proof that i'm not who i used to be.
[QUOTE=TheDestroyerOfall;33997354]Everyone is telling me to do nothing. Time to do the opposite. [editline]1st January 2012[/editline] If anything she wants proof that i'm not who i used to be.[/QUOTE] why do you even post in this thread if you are planning to do the opposite of the advice you get
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;33997690]why do you even post in this thread if you are planning to do the opposite of the advice you get[/QUOTE] To see what people think so i can come to a choice. I feel it's in mine and her best interest if i do.
Drunk sex is best sex It's also the most regretful sex, so I wouldn't recommend it.
[QUOTE=TheDestroyerOfall;33997920]To see what people think so i can come to a choice. I feel it's in mine and her best interest if i do.[/QUOTE] Tell us the results then... I love to be proved wrong.
Drunk sex with girlfriend is best sex Drunk sex single is great but its also the one that makes you hate yourself either while doing it, or after its done and as a result, not a fan at all Also thedestroyerofall, you really are living up to your name if you keep pursuing this girl
[QUOTE=TheDestroyerOfall;33997354]Everyone is telling me to do nothing. Time to do the opposite. [editline]1st January 2012[/editline] If anything she wants proof that i'm not who i used to be.[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=TheDestroyerOfall;33997920]To see what people think so i can come to a choice. I feel it's in mine and her best interest if i do.[/QUOTE] You're obsessed. Period. You clearly have no experience in relationships or with girls, and since this one gave you the attention you so much needed you're attached and you lost control over yourself. You can try as much as you like, I bet whatever you want you have 0% chance of having a relationship with her. Those kinds of things happen, you just haven't got the balls to let it go and prefer to be in denial. Ok, if you want to crash and burn go ahead, at least you'll learn by yourself, if you need to be sure, then go make a huge mistake then, we warned you. I even guess you're probably bombarding her with proposals and text messages and all that crap. You're hot headed and you need time to let it go and move on. You only have a chance of being with a girl once you're able to move on instead of being needy. That's just the shittiest logic I've ever heard, saying it's "the best for you both". How come? How come forcing a relationship, begging can be of any good to her? How is going against her will and lying to yourself thinking she just needs to see the supposedly "new you" is going to helo you or anybody? You're being a big baby, and a big selfish one I might add. You're not thinking of what's ideal for her or you both, you're just thinking about what you want. And since advice isn't just about listening to what we like to hear, you're just being sad. But hey, who am I to tell you what to do? If you want to ruin that friendship further, I say you're going pretty well with your poor excuse of a plan...
It's called being ballsy. Do the thing they least expect to keep them interested. Call me what you want. I'm not obsessed. I know her and i've known her most my life. If she wants anyone it's someone who cares and stands up for her. I'd rather live for the moment than break for a year. Thing is i can move on. I can leave. The only reason i remain is because of this all. I've been in and out of relationships the past year. And finally i find someone i feel something for. I thought i might as well fuck it. Go with it. Run with it. I'm probably the most selfless person you'd know if you knew me. [editline]2nd January 2012[/editline] I just don't care anymore. I'm 19 now.
You fall in love with the first person that gives you attention and you hold on to her with the poor excuse of your long term friendship. Been there, done that. It doesn't work. Go ahead. It's your funeral.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;34001940]You fall in love with the first person that gives you attention and you hold on to her with the poor excuse of your long term friendship. Been there, done that. It doesn't work. Go ahead. It's your funeral.[/QUOTE] If i fuck it up i can live with the consequences.
Well I hope it works out between the two of you, but don't hang on too close, and be prepared for anything.
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