• Sex, Girlfriends and Shit II
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[QUOTE=Dark_Light;31216618]I'll stop being a dick for a moment. See really, you've known this girl for the whole of 6 days. I have no doubt that she's a lovely girl which you've found yourself to be quite attracted to, but the obvious lesson here is you're moving way, way too fast. It's noble of you that you want to communicate to her that she can trust you and that she should feel comfortable with you, but there's so many better ways of doing this than outright telling her, via a Facebook message of all things. You can let her know how much she means to you and the rest of it through your actions. Words are cheap, and in the grand-scheme of things, relatively meaningless. I mean look, prime example right there, "I want to let you know that I'm going to take this relationship steadily." If you call that message 6 days in 'steady' then I really wonder what your rushed would look like. I know you probably meant you're going to take it slow physically when you said that, and that's perfectly fine. But if you're going in with this "I love you, you're perfect" so early, why even bother take the physical aspect slowly at all? You've got it backwards if anything. You say she's the best thing that's ever happened to you, and that you think she's perfect. Seriously wake up to yourself man, you don't even know her yet! She could end up being the worst thing to ever happen to you, you have no idea where this relationship is going or how it could end. You need to slow the fuck down before you scare her away. I understand where you're coming from. That initial period in a relationship, especially early relationships, is great, it's exciting and it really does feel like everything is perfect. It's called the 'honey-moon period' for a reason, and it doesn't at all last forever. It's important to exercise self-control during that period and realize that what you're feeling is just a chemical reaction. Of course it feels great, but your rational side hasn't caught up yet. This was probably a bit of a blunder on your behalf, but don't panic. Don't try any awkward damage control either, just hope she accepts it positively, and in any case seriously start putting the breaks on for a while. Don't let your emotions control you, or you're inevitably going to get hurt.[/QUOTE] You are a very very good advice giver. I think your method is the antidote to all the anal anguish that Maverick's harsh words usually bring. You guys just need to set up a good-cop bad-cop routine and this thread/advice thread would be 100% more effective.
A good amount of marriages start at uni, but I don't know why you'd want to force it. [editline]20th July 2011[/editline] I think more marriages start in the few years after uni though
At BYU, half of attending students are married, compared to a national average of only 10% of college undergrads being married. Girls there are joked about pursuing their "Mrs. degree" because so many get married to college guys before they graduate. Lol Mormons. Just something interesting I read.
BYU and Utah are just weird in general. I don't quite get why anyone would want to go to that university and follow all the regulations that are required of you.
[QUOTE=Mlisen14;31221415]You are a very very good advice giver. I think your method is the antidote to all the anal anguish that Maverick's harsh words usually bring. You guys just need to set up a good-cop bad-cop routine and this thread/advice thread would be 100% more effective.[/QUOTE] I've had a really messy day, I'm running on less than an hour of sleep, and basically I feel fucking horrible. This short comment is the nicest thing that's happened to me today, hell it's the nicest thing I've heard said about me in a long while. I really appreciate it, I'm glad I'm able to help people and that some value can be extracted from my posts here.
You guys get too excited when a girl talks to you, fucking lol.
I'd love to post about all the wild sex I've been having. Problem is, I haven't. Therein lies the problem. What's the best way to find a serious, long term relationship? I don't have a job, I'm out of school for at least another year. Should I just give up on love and masturbate until my dick falls off?
[QUOTE=leptoon;31223805]I'd love to post about all the wild sex I've been having. Problem is, I haven't. Therein lies the problem. What's the best way to find a serious, long term relationship? I don't have a job, I'm out of school for at least another year. Should I just give up on love and masturbate until my dick falls off?[/QUOTE] go in public get a friend or two, go to a club or some other social setting, meet ladies, don't act like a creeper
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;31223838]go in public get a friend or two, go to a club or some other social setting, meet ladies, don't act like a creeper[/QUOTE] I've thought of that. It would help if I had any gay friends but I don't. Nor do I have any straight friends that would come with me to a gay club, and I really don't want to go by myself considering I've never been to one before. Oh yeah, did I mention I'm gay? lol
Shit guys, shit. I think I'm falling for an ex :v: That or I wanna bone her really badly, my dick is confusing my brain
mentioning that probably would have helped a little. i've been to a gay club a couple of times though, it's pretty intimidating at first because there are a lot of very eccentric people, but they're really pretty nice. just weird. i'm straight and i had a lot of fun.
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;31224009]mentioning that probably would have helped a little. i've been to a gay club a couple of times though, it's pretty intimidating at first because there are a lot of very eccentric people, but they're really pretty nice. just weird. i'm straight and i had a lot of fun.[/QUOTE] The ONE gay bar in Tucson is hilarious, I busk near there with my saxophone, and lot's of gay, traditionally-dressed Mexicans come out of there drunk. They always try and give me some weird gay secret handshake :v:
[QUOTE=ewitwins;31224054]The ONE gay bar in Tucson is hilarious, I busk near there with my saxophone, and lot's of gay, traditionally-dressed Mexicans come out of there drunk. They always try and give me some weird gay secret handshake :v:[/QUOTE] the one I went to is in Portland. when you pay, they stamp your wrist with a big rainbow "GAY," and you use it as a tool to see if someone's gay or not. approach girl, tap wrist, she shakes her head, you know she's down to dance. or in your case, with guys who nod their head at you.
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;31224088]the one I went to is in Portland. when you pay, they stamp your wrist with a big rainbow "GAY," and you use it as a tool to see if someone's gay or not. approach girl, tap wrist, she shakes her head, you know she's down to dance. or in your case, with guys who nod their head at you.[/QUOTE] Wait wait wait. So if you buy a ticket they stamp your wrist no matter what? Or, they do if your gay and they don't if you aren't, and girls will dance with you if you ask if they're gay or not? This sounds magical. [editline]20th July 2011[/editline] Also if anyone is seriously watching this thread I may have either stepped into a gold mine or a goddamned bees nest, need some advice here.
[QUOTE=ewitwins;31224126]Wait wait wait. So if you buy a ticket they stamp your wrist no matter what? Or, they do if your gay and they don't if you aren't, and girls will dance with you if you ask if they're gay or not? This sounds magical. [editline]20th July 2011[/editline] Also if anyone is seriously watching this thread I may have either stepped into a gold mine or a goddamned bees nest, need some advice here.[/QUOTE] You pay, they stamp your wrist. To identify others, you approach them, tap your wrist. If they nod their head at you, they are gay. If they shake their head, they are straight. That way you can find the appropriate dance partners.
Now that you've answered that question, here's what I need help with. Gentlemen, what is your opinion on this: Sex with an ex because it's convenient.
Not a good idea.
[QUOTE=FlapadarV2;31224250]Not a good idea.[/QUOTE] Even if it's just purely physical? [editline]20th July 2011[/editline] Shit man, she actually said yes now what the fuck do I do? v:v:v I may be the dumbest fucking person ever
I've been there, and I advise against it. You can tell yourself it's purely physical all you want, but an emotional connection is inevitably going to come about, it's simply a part of how our brain works. If you're willing to deal with that, then go ahead, the sex is great because it's familiar and with a person you were once very close with. However if you find yourself starting to fall for her more than you think is healthy, or vise versa, and if it isn't mutual, it really is a bad idea to continue. How long ago were you together?
it's a perfectly fine idea as long as you are interested in her again but if you plan on leaving it just sex, you will be disappointed.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;31224417]it's a perfectly fine idea as long as you are interested in her again but if you plan on leaving it just sex, you will be disappointed.[/QUOTE] Wouldn't the other way around make more sense? If he's interested in her again he's more likely to be disappointed because there's the chance she won't feel the same way. If he just wants sex, then he's just going to get sex, not much room for disappointment there.
Shiiiiit. Alright. I think I'm stuck, because I have to figure out which part of my brain is talking, my frontal lobe or my... well, whichever part of the brain is primal instincts.
Have a fap then re-evaluate the situation, serious advice.
[QUOTE=ewitwins;31224475]Shiiiiit. Alright. I think I'm stuck, because I have to figure out which part of my brain is talking, my frontal lobe or my... well, whichever part of the brain is primal instincts.[/QUOTE] I've done that with an ex and I would advice you not to do it. Yes the sex was great, but when the emotional side kicks in you'll be in a fucking rollercoaster.
[QUOTE=PrusseluskenV2;31224919]Just realised that Maverick pretty much was right here[/QUOTE] Great. Would like a golden star? :pwn:
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;31216618]I'll stop being a dick for a moment. See really, you've known this girl for the whole of 6 days. I have no doubt that she's a lovely girl which you've found yourself to be quite attracted to, but the obvious lesson here is you're moving way, way too fast. It's noble of you that you want to communicate to her that she can trust you and that she should feel comfortable with you, but there's so many better ways of doing this than outright telling her, via a Facebook message of all things. You can let her know how much she means to you and the rest of it through your actions. Words are cheap, and in the grand-scheme of things, relatively meaningless. I mean look, prime example right there, "I want to let you know that I'm going to take this relationship steadily." If you call that message 6 days in 'steady' then I really wonder what your rushed would look like. I know you probably meant you're going to take it slow physically when you said that, and that's perfectly fine. But if you're going in with this "I love you, you're perfect" so early, why even bother take the physical aspect slowly at all? You've got it backwards if anything. You say she's the best thing that's ever happened to you, and that you think she's perfect. Seriously wake up to yourself man, you don't even know her yet! She could end up being the worst thing to ever happen to you, you have no idea where this relationship is going or how it could end. You need to slow the fuck down before you scare her away. I understand where you're coming from. That initial period in a relationship, especially early relationships, is great, it's exciting and it really does feel like everything is perfect. It's called the 'honey-moon period' for a reason, and it doesn't at all last forever. It's important to exercise self-control during that period and realize that what you're feeling is just a chemical reaction. Of course it feels great, but your rational side hasn't caught up yet. This was probably a bit of a blunder on your behalf, but don't panic. Don't try any awkward damage control either, just hope she accepts it positively, and in any case seriously start putting the breaks on for a while. Don't let your emotions control you, or you're inevitably going to get hurt.[/QUOTE] Shit you're right, I don't really know what to say to her now though. I just hope she sees it in the way it was meant rather than some weird guy who has completely fallen in love with her in 6 days (which I haven't btw I was just trying to reassure her I wasn't going to cheat on her and shit). But she is great and I don't want fuck anything up which I may have slightly done now. Is there anyway that you lot could suggest I recover from this?
[QUOTE=joshdasmif;31224962]Shit you're right, I don't really know what to say to her now though. I just hope she sees it in the way it was meant rather than some weird guy who has completely fallen in love with her in 6 days (which I haven't btw I was just trying to reassure her I wasn't going to cheat on her and shit). But she is great and I don't want fuck anything up which I may have slightly done now. Is there anyway that you lot could suggest I recover from this?[/QUOTE] You were drunk, but don't take it back. :v:
[QUOTE=JohanGS;31224976]You were drunk, but don't take it back. :v:[/QUOTE] I was thinking of making that an excuse but the thing is that I left her at 9pm to go home and that would mean a drank myself to sleep, which seems a little odd...
[QUOTE=PrusseluskenV2;31225045]Would you please stop whiteknighting for someone that is contributing to his own misery and cease being an arrogant cunt? Thanks.[/QUOTE] Would you stop bringing it up and being a douche? Also, you are the black knight.
[QUOTE=PrusseluskenV2;31225131]Please tell me more about this "black knight" term of yours[/QUOTE] The black knight is the evil knight. [Draw your own conclusion].
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