[QUOTE=polarbear.;32013673]long distance relationships can work, but they are annoying to maintain and usually result in wasted time.
I'd be too paranoid that my partner would be cheating on someone or something.[/QUOTE]
meh, i disagree and didn't really experience that mine was hard to maintain, aa waaste of time or the paranoia
also if you'd be paranoid because you thought your partner would chat, you're just a person with trustissues - part of being in a relationship, long distance or not, is trust, if it's not there, it won't work out
[editline]30th August 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=PrusseluskenV2;32015912]So your buddies all run after 15 year olds?[/QUOTE]
*16
considering that she's from 95 and he's from 93, i don't really see what's wrong that
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;32013212]Giraffen why do you need advice for every girl who wants to talk to you?
Talking doesn't mean she's ready to strip naked and jump on your cock[/QUOTE]
I don't need advice really, for some reason i like to talk about stuff :v:
[QUOTE=SaWAH;32013288]Note: He's from Sweden, which means she's in her first year of "high school", he's in his third and last. It's a different school system. You start out in first grade when you're 7, then you continue up to tenth grade, and after that it's called first, seccond and third again. She's not in first grade as in 7 years old. Had you read his post, you'd also know that she was born in 95, so she's 16/17, he's two years older, so he's 17/18.[/QUOTE]
Oh god. He really thought that? Well i'm 18 and she's just turned 16.
[QUOTE=Evilan;32015215]You could talk about anything. Hell, I started off a text convo with a friend of mine by saying "I just jizzed, and now I'm thinking of you." Funniest shit ever.[/QUOTE]
Still, i'm not comfortable talking about serious stuff until i REALLY know people.
[QUOTE=PrusseluskenV2;32015912]So your buddies all run after 15 year olds?[/QUOTE]
Don't ask me.
[QUOTE=SaWAH;32016407]considering that she's from 95 and he's from 93, i don't really see what's wrong that[/QUOTE]
95 sounds like 11 or something :v:
[QUOTE=thisispain;32006616]i abhor the derogatory use of the word feminism when applied to something that is obviously unrelated to feminism in any way.
the law isn't created to communicate or apply sexism to men, it's to protect victims from situations that they don't want to be in. it's utterly unimportant to the emancipation of women how rape is treated and to pretend so by repeating lines picked up from self-proclaimed "culture warriors" isn't helping your position.
putting yourself into a bad situation is not a crime and should not be used to excuse other crimes. it's essentially a higher form of saying "she dressed/acted provocatively".[/QUOTE]
You're right, I don't agree with the misuse of the term 'feminism' at all, and so perhaps it was wrong of me to mention it as really this issue has little to do with gender. In any case though, sure the law intends to protect those at risk in a general sense but isn't the result one that reflects a sexist mindset?
Your last line isn't really clear to me. Of course putting yourself into a bad situation isn't a crime, but willingly putting yourself into a situation which has risks, and then skipping responsibility of those risks due to self-inflicted intoxication? That's where it becomes a little questionable, at least in my opinion.
And also, why does this thread always seem to skew the whole 'long distance/Internet relationship' issue? Regorc's post really has little to do with the fact that it happened over the Internet and if you take that out of the equation, there is still a huge mess that should be dealt with appropriately. I urge you, Regorc, to read and digest what Octyl's said, and although I doubt it'll have any effect on how you choose to continue with your situation, I really do agree with him. You're going to end up missing out on many opportunities for real, valuable experience, and when whatever you have right now inevitably comes to an end, you're only going to be left with regret. Like he said, maybe it's just necessary for you to learn these lessons by yourself.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;32015338]ummmm
Maybe I just have some extreme short-term memory loss but weren't you just talking about how you were in an internet relationship? I mean, that doesn't exactly put you in a position to give others advice.[/QUOTE]
you don't seem to know anything about long-distance relationships, so you're probably not exactly in a position to criticize them
Yeah... Regarc, please read what I said, otherwise I wasted a lot of time typing that :v:
[QUOTE=pdp;32017187]you don't seem to know anything about long-distance relationships, so you're probably not exactly in a position to criticize them[/QUOTE]
LDR =/= internet relationship.
I don't really recall giving anyone advice on how to manage a long distance relationship. To me, it's not a LDR until you've spent time with your partner in person at least once. If you've never met your partner in real life, it's just a stupid internet relationship, something I have plenty of past experience in.
[QUOTE=Octyl;32017386]Yeah... Regarc, please read what I said, otherwise I wasted a lot of time typing that :v:[/QUOTE]
I did read it, then my internet cut out, sorry :v:
Basically, thank you too, your experience is certainly a warning and not something I want. Unfortunately, you are correct, I am immature, I want to believe in this and I'm not going to listen really. I mean, I am going to listen, but like you said, I'm going to continue, and regret it later if that is what happens. If there's anything I've learnt about how I live my life it's that I actually need to not worry about regretting in the future, but enjoy it now. Yes, I might waste time and money, but time isn't a thing I mind wasting, and my situation differs in that I'm not spending all the money :v:
But seriously, I want to believe that this will work, if it does then great, if it doesn't then oh well I'll deal with that when it comes.
Uh, there was going to be more to this but I lost my trail of thought talking to said girl.
I may come back and write more, but I think I've laid out most of my point. I'm going to go through with this and learn either way.
You could just talk to girls in real life and enjoy it much more than you'll ever enjoy what you're doing now. The flaw in your logic is that you assume everything is black and white, as if your only other option is to sit on your hands doing nothing. Instead of spending all that time and money for a barely fulfilling experience, spend it on a gym membership and doing social things. Not only will you enjoy it much more than you can ever enjoy this stupid endeavor, but it will reap rewards for the rest of your life.
[QUOTE=PrusseluskenV2;32023757]Three times hooray for meeting a really cute girl at work, then realising I probably won't ever see her again[/QUOTE]
Why didn't you get her numbers or something? :)
[QUOTE=Regorc's Chest;32022512]I did read it, then my internet cut out, sorry :v:
Basically, thank you too, your experience is certainly a warning and not something I want. Unfortunately, you are correct, I am immature, I want to believe in this and I'm not going to listen really. I mean, I am going to listen, but like you said, I'm going to continue, and regret it later if that is what happens. If there's anything I've learnt about how I live my life it's that I actually need to not worry about regretting in the future, but enjoy it now. Yes, I might waste time and money, but time isn't a thing I mind wasting, and my situation differs in that I'm not spending all the money :v:
But seriously, I want to believe that this will work, if it does then great, if it doesn't then oh well I'll deal with that when it comes.
Uh, there was going to be more to this but I lost my trail of thought talking to said girl.
I may come back and write more, but I think I've laid out most of my point. I'm going to go through with this and learn either way.[/QUOTE]
"It's not my money so i don't care :v:"
Were I your parents, I would not let you see her unless you paid all expenses. In a dire situation, sure, I'd LEND you money. And I might organize a family vacation to somewhat near the area... But other than that, you'd be on your own.
1000 pounds a visit is a fucking LOT of money.
And basically what maverick said... you're better off spending it on a gym membership and other shit. But I guess your parents won't buy that for you, so instead they spend that money on a LDR that is going to end because A) it's across the ocean B) it's a highschool relationship...
Have fun, don't say we didn't warn you.
Maybe his parents are glad hes not gay.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;32022187]LDR =/= internet relationship.
I don't really recall giving anyone advice on how to manage a long distance relationship. To me, it's not a LDR until you've spent time with your partner in person at least once. If you've never met your partner in real life, it's just a stupid internet relationship, something I have plenty of past experience in.[/QUOTE]
I guess I can agree with that, to an extent.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;32015338]ummmm
Maybe I just have some extreme short-term memory loss but weren't you just talking about how you were in an internet relationship? I mean, that doesn't exactly put you in a position to give others advice.[/QUOTE]
it wasn't bad advice at all
[QUOTE=Octyl;32026049]"It's not my money so i don't care :v:"
Were I your parents, I would not let you see her unless you paid all expenses. In a dire situation, sure, I'd LEND you money. And I might organize a family vacation to somewhat near the area... But other than that, you'd be on your own.
1000 pounds a visit is a fucking LOT of money.
And basically what maverick said... you're better off spending it on a gym membership and other shit. But I guess your parents won't buy that for you, so instead they spend that money on a LDR that is going to end because A) it's across the ocean B) it's a highschool relationship...
Have fun, don't say we didn't warn you.[/QUOTE]
Actually, the £1000 I spent on the trip was already mine either way, and the only other thing I was going to waste it on was a new computer, and I'm much happier I made this choice. And it's not like I'm reserving all my money for her, I still have money for me to spend on things I want to do, including possibly a gym membership once I get my part time job sorted around my college schedule.
Yes, you have warned me, and I have taken this warnings and considered them. So, if it works I can stick it to you, and if it doesn't, I wont come crying to you, ok?
But thanks, really. You have given me a lot to think about and it has been helpful. At the very least now I know the signs of when it's failing and when to cut my losses. But, so far it is working, and I just hope it continues to. Thanks guys, I'm going to go off naive again and live in a foolish dream now.
[QUOTE=Regorc's Chest;32035445]Actually, the £1000 I spent on the trip was already mine either way, and the only other thing I was going to waste it on was a new computer, and I'm much happier I made this choice. And it's not like I'm reserving all my money for her, I still have money for me to spend on things I want to do, including possibly a gym membership once I get my part time job sorted around my college schedule.
Yes, you have warned me, and I have taken this warnings and considered them. So, if it works I can stick it to you, and if it doesn't, I wont come crying to you, ok?
But thanks, really. You have given me a lot to think about and it has been helpful. At the very least now I know the signs of when it's failing and when to cut my losses. But, so far it is working, and I just hope it continues to. Thanks guys, I'm going to go off naive again and live in a foolish dream now.[/QUOTE]
So in other words you're saying: "I heard your answers, but I'm not going to listen to them."
Why are you suprised Mindmuncher? Every kid who asks in here or love advice always disreagrds all advice we give and then comes crying to us when whatever they are doing lands them in the shit.
You can study your girl for the type of music she like's.
If she likes JB, oh man, easy work, just say: "i love you, you and me forever".
Now without jokes, I need a girlfriend, my life is soooo booring
[QUOTE=Ruski v2.0;32039218]Why are you suprised Mindmuncher? Every kid who asks in here or love advice always disreagrds all advice we give and then comes crying to us when whatever they are doing lands them in the shit.[/QUOTE]
ive only ever seen you give horrible advice or regurgitate what others have said, and what the fuck are you talking about? sure there are plenty of people who ignore the advice they're given, but certainly not "every kid"
Horrible advice is still advice :v:
I dunno, I ignored the advice and it resulted in a pretty successful kickass relationship thus far. I think the problem isn't with the advice givers as much as it is with the people asking for it. Most people asking for advice either exaggerate/put most attention to the negative qualities so that it confuses everyone else in the thread. Either that, or some unknowingly vital info gets left out by people seeking advice.
I'll say the advice is usually right, but I'll also say that it may be in everyone's best interests to remain patient and continue attempting to build on the relationship and see what happens. Don't end it as early as seems right to do so. If I had done as I was advised, I would have missed out on this amazing girl. Regardless, I remain grateful to Maverick and Co. for their patience and understanding. It is a valuable thread, no doubt.
[QUOTE=Wux;32039258]You can study your girl for the type of music she like's.
If she likes JB, oh man, easy work, just say: "i love you, you and me forever".
Now without jokes, I need a girlfriend, my life is soooo booring[/QUOTE]
LoL, no. Music tastes don't mean shit about personalities. Anyone who has a wide variety of friends with wide variety of music tastes will know that these stereotypes are not as true as you make them out to be. I know metal heads who love long walks on the beach, and love physics. I know a girl who loves "JB" (nasty shit) but shes probably one of the more mature girls at my school who wouldn't fall for that shit.
Music tastes=/=personality type as much as you're making it out to be.
I mean, I listen to everything (everything).
So what kind of person does that make me?
Also the advice here is pretty broad it seems, because it seems to be only superficial most the time. Plus the advice in this thread is repetitive. Probably why I stopped reading this thread.
God damn it, my gaydar isn't functioning properly as of late. I'm pretty sure this one guy I like is gay, but I'm not sure. Straight people (no offense at all) have it so much easier
[QUOTE=ScoutKing;32052618]LoL, no. Music tastes don't mean shit about personalities. Anyone who has a wide variety of friends with wide variety of music tastes will know that these stereotypes are not as true as you make them out to be. I know metal heads who love long walks on the beach, and love physics. I know a girl who loves "JB" (nasty shit) but shes probably one of the more mature girls at my school who wouldn't fall for that shit.
Music tastes=/=personality type as much as you're making it out to be.
I mean, I listen to everything (everything).
So what kind of person does that make me?
Also the advice here is pretty broad it seems, because it seems to be only superficial most the time. Plus the advice in this thread is repetitive. Probably why I stopped reading this thread.[/QUOTE]
i don't know man can i really be with a girl who doesn't share my taste in obscure lo-fi acid techno
[QUOTE=ScoutKing;32052618]Also the advice here is pretty broad it seems, because it seems to be only superficial most the time. Plus the advice in this thread is repetitive. [B]Probably why I stopped reading this thread.[/B][/QUOTE]
then why are you still posting
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;32053673]then why are you still posting[/QUOTE]
Well, at least he explained why his posts do not make much sense.
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;32053673]then why are you still posting[/QUOTE]
Because he's way too cool to view this thread, didn't you read? He said it right there at the end of his post. The part where he pretty much said how he's above this entire thread.
[editline]1st September 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;32038560]So in other words you're saying: "I heard your answers, but I'm not going to listen to them."[/QUOTE]
In some cases it's useful to be wrong though. There's no sense in him not trying things because you already know they'll fail. His experience of a failed relationship will be far more constructive than hearing about it.
That's what SK does. Gets raped either here or in the LA thread, disappears for a while hoping everyone forgets about it, then comes back when he thinks the coast is clear. As much as he says he's above these threads, he can't seem to get enough of them.
V3 should be dedicated to Scoutking, our leader in all things autistic.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;32057696]V3 should be dedicated to Scoutking, our leader in all things autistic.[/QUOTE]
and just plain right retarded
I haven't been around these parts for long, and from what I've read Scoutking is a bit like a guy called "Pvt.Vain" that used to plague the PW sub-forum until we moved. Pvt.Vain came and left (dramatically and with much angst) at least six times. A member who got close to him has made a list of all the things he says he is, and he is alot of things (furry, mlp person and all sorts of creepy other things).
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