• Sex, Girlfriends and Shit II
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[QUOTE=Master Kief-117;32140120]So I'm in a bit of a quarry. A girl I never thought I would ever date literally just asked me if I wanted to date her. I obviously said yes since I used to have a nice crush on her a while back when we worked together. Here's the thing though. I'm going to basic and AIT (school to learn the basics of the army job) and I'll be gone for six months. She is being deployed to the middle east for about 7 months. Luckily we both should be back at the same time. I told her I wanted to hold off on committing to anything until we both get back, mainly because I haven't seen her in like forever (she's been in SC with her unit), and secondly, the school I'm going to has a 10:1 ratio of girls to guys (Ft. Sam Huston, TX). In other words there are like 10 girls for every guy at this school. Now my question is, would it make me a dick if I hook up with anyone at AIT? I technically wouldn't be cheating if I hook up with anyone since I'm not yet in any relationship with her.[/QUOTE] it's really just a choice you have to make. i started dating my girlfriend knowing that i was going into the air force, and knowing that girls in tech school are horny as fuck, and i'd be sacrificing that opportunity to be with her, but i've decided to. i'd say you either choose one or the other, because she'll definitely be hurt if she were to find out you messed, in a relationship or not also, you skip the possibility of catching an STD lolll
[QUOTE=Hana-San;32135794]I have $50..... ahh yes savings.[/QUOTE] Are you living away from your parents?
[QUOTE=Faren;32143458]Are you living away from your parents?[/QUOTE] No. I just don't earn enough money, along with my car and travelling to uni. And I just spent that money on anti-biotics.
Seems I always come to these threads for advice, not to help people. I hate that. I want to talk to a cute girl after class but I never have the balls, motivation and determination to go up to her and say fucking hi. I think it might be my attitude about myself (very negative) but I don't think I can change it. I should go to a psychologist.
If you get that worked up about it, just make sure to always say hi and smile when you pass in the corridor or where-ever, then it should feel more "natural" to just go up and talk sometime. She might just come up to you.
I have about 2,300$ in my savings, and im 14, I'm thinking I should save more?
[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;32151782]If you get that worked up about it, just make sure to always say hi and smile when you pass in the corridor or where-ever, then it should feel more "natural" to just go up and talk sometime. She might just come up to you.[/QUOTE] A girl coming up to me, that's rich. There's two things I could do. Go for her or let her come to me. I doubt neither will happen.
[QUOTE=falloutguy;32151887]I have about 2,300$ in my savings, and im 14, I'm thinking I should save more?[/QUOTE] Yes why would you stop saving ?
Jesus christ you really have low self-esteem. I thought I was bad, but you really need to have more faith in yourself. Really, what can go wrong with saying hi?
[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;32152021]Jesus christ you really have low self-esteem. I thought I was bad, but you really need to have more faith in yourself. Really, what can go wrong with saying hi?[/QUOTE] Nothing. But I don't have the balls and determination to push through whatever barrier is blocking me from talking to this girl.
Hey, anyone who's listening... I need your help to tell if I', being friend zoned, or if there's something more worth looking into. So there's a girl. You probably figgered that. To get it out of the way, she's fairly fantastic. I've had a thing for her as long as I can remember, really. A while back, I swallowed my pride and just decided to awkwardly ask her if she ever wanted to see a movie together or get together sometime. Surprisingly, she replied, and a little bit later we'd went out to see the new Harry Potter or whatever. In between, asking and going, each day I'd be greeted with lengthy messages detailing her day, quizzing me how I was doing, and generally friendly things that made my day. Just the other day, I was invited to her house (by her) just to spend the day together. Albeit, her sisters were there, but who knows. I'm not sure how to say it, but it does kind of seem like she acts a bit awkwardly around me, constant waving or whatnot in between pauses. I like it. I'm terrible at reading people. Is this the dreaded friendzone? Is there something else here? I mean, I've never explicitly said anything to her about being a couple/relationship, but I've been trying to take it slow.
These threads are kind of the same, not much point in posting in both.
There's most likely a connection between my negative outlook and my inability to get girls due to a lack of self-esteem and confidence.
Well obviously.
How do I change it then?
Well i'm not brilliant myself, but I've got a bit better the last few years. Part of that was to do with Army Cadets, being put in unfamiliar and quite difficult environments and having to deal with it, and having to work well with new people from the start. But you have to make some kind of effort to talk or something. Like I said just say hi and smile so you're known to her, and build up from there.
[QUOTE=AmericanInfantry;32153398]How do I change it then?[/QUOTE] Start with dudes. As in, just make more normal friends. Don't even worry about girls. Get comfortable with socializing with other males, go do shit together, all that jazz. That alone will boost your confidence drastically, confidence isn't always about talking to girls and shit. Once you develop the skills to talk to people in general in confidence, talking to girls becomes the same exact thing, just with "Will you go out with me on _____" tacked to the end of the conversation.
God damnit Maverick I am seriously considering getting your phone number so I can text you with questions and receive advice wherever I may be. I'm being serious.
[QUOTE=redBadger;32154710]God damnit Maverick I am seriously considering getting your phone number so I can text you with questions and receive advice wherever I may be. I'm being serious.[/QUOTE] Hey mav im speaking to a girl whose taking my order at mc donalds, shit shes asked for the money what do I do HELP!?!?!?!
[QUOTE=redBadger;32154710]God damnit Maverick I am seriously considering getting your phone number so I can text you with questions and receive advice wherever I may be. I'm being serious.[/QUOTE] I would not reply. I don't text nerdes.
:( i still love you bro <3
[QUOTE=DANKA;32152573]Hey, anyone who's listening... I need your help to tell if I', being friend zoned, or if there's something more worth looking into. So there's a girl. You probably figgered that. To get it out of the way, she's fairly fantastic. I've had a thing for her as long as I can remember, really. A while back, I swallowed my pride and just decided to awkwardly ask her if she ever wanted to see a movie together or get together sometime. Surprisingly, she replied, and a little bit later we'd went out to see the new Harry Potter or whatever. In between, asking and going, each day I'd be greeted with lengthy messages detailing her day, quizzing me how I was doing, and generally friendly things that made my day. Just the other day, I was invited to her house (by her) just to spend the day together. Albeit, her sisters were there, but who knows. I'm not sure how to say it, but it does kind of seem like she acts a bit awkwardly around me, constant waving or whatnot in between pauses. I like it. I'm terrible at reading people. Is this the dreaded friendzone? Is there something else here? I mean, I've never explicitly said anything to her about being a couple/relationship, but I've been trying to take it slow.[/QUOTE] That sounds to me like she's interested - but it also sounds like she's as nervous as you are. If you're still worried it's a friends thing on the date, then make a move at an appropriate time. Girls do sometimes invite guys over as friends but it seems kind of out of the blue for that. Good luck with it. [editline]7th September 2011[/editline] Oh someone answered it in the other thread.
[QUOTE=DANKA;32152573]Hey, anyone who's listening... I need your help to tell if I', being friend zoned, or if there's something more worth looking into. So there's a girl. You probably figgered that. To get it out of the way, she's fairly fantastic. I've had a thing for her as long as I can remember, really. A while back, I swallowed my pride and just decided to awkwardly ask her if she ever wanted to see a movie together or get together sometime. Surprisingly, she replied, and a little bit later we'd went out to see the new Harry Potter or whatever. In between, asking and going, each day I'd be greeted with lengthy messages detailing her day, quizzing me how I was doing, and generally friendly things that made my day. Just the other day, I was invited to her house (by her) just to spend the day together. Albeit, her sisters were there, but who knows. I'm not sure how to say it, but it does kind of seem like she acts a bit awkwardly around me, constant waving or whatnot in between pauses. I like it. I'm terrible at reading people. Is this the dreaded friendzone? Is there something else here? I mean, I've never explicitly said anything to her about being a couple/relationship, but I've been trying to take it slow.[/QUOTE] did you make some sort of move as to show her you're interested or did you just sit and talk awkwardly [editline]6th September 2011[/editline] whoops
[QUOTE=Godline;32152016]Yes why would you stop saving ?[/QUOTE] well I didn't mean I stopped saving, I meant should I save MORE
Thisispain would be proud of me. I spontaneously bought a Bjork album because me and this girl were in a music store and I felt like it would be good to try some new music. Besides that, she never tries anything new so it's probably healthy for her to do things like that... It's a little strange. Maybe an acquired taste. I listened to it in the car and have for a couple days though, and it's pretty good driving background music or maybe music to fall asleep to.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;32101106]I don't even think Zeke is a homo. He's an example of one of those people who gets more offended than the people who should get offended. I mean, at the most a homosexual person would see me saying faggot and think "That guy is dumb," not even caring enough to post about it. Same thing with black people. But there's always someone who doesn't even fit the group who's supposedly being insulted who goes and gets all butthurt about it. It's funny because Zeke always likes to attack me with shit like "You're not depressed so you could never know blah blah blah," whenever stuff like that comes up, but apparently he can talk for all the homosexuals and black people in the world. Unless he's a homosexual black person. In that case, he just needs to stop being a little bitch. Boo hoo some guy on the internet is saying things my mommy said were bad I'm so offended and everyone else should be too. AKA: Professional white knight.[/QUOTE]OMFG I hate this about living in Canada. There are so many people like that here who get so butthurt about everything you'd think they were androgenous monochrome asexual bi-polar autists with random bursts of bi-sexual tendencies who like dressing in both sex's clothing. All this anger here in Canada over the dumbest shit... but then when some crazy hardline Muslim dad kills his daughter for having sex with her boyfriend, barely a word is said (except "we need to try to understand their way of life"). Fuck that.
Fuck that shit, i'm moving back to hong kong now.
[QUOTE=FlakAttack;32159393]OMFG I hate this about living in Canada. There are so many people like that here who get so butthurt about everything you'd think they were androgenous monochrome asexual bi-polar autists with random bursts of bi-sexual tendencies who like dressing in both sex's clothing. All this anger here in Canada over the dumbest shit... but then when some crazy hardline Muslim dad kills his daughter for having sex with her boyfriend, barely a word is said (except "we need to try to understand their way of life"). Fuck that.[/QUOTE] Love you too honeybuns But yes I'm very sorry that the straight white males don't get to use these kinds of words, the oppression you've suffered is unfathomable
[QUOTE=falloutguy;32156217]well I didn't mean I stopped saving, I meant should I save MORE[/QUOTE] Dude of course you should, hell if you dont find something amazing to spend it on in the future at least it can go towards education or a house deposit.
I need £6000 to buy my uncles Valiant Scimitar ss1. I only have £1500...
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