giraffen you really need to stop taking everything so seriously
either make a move or don't, either she's interested or not, just go with the flow
i've seen you sit here and over-analyze the tiniest of "hints" over and over, and it will get you nowhere.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;32260469]giraffen you really need to stop taking everything so seriously
either make a move or don't, either she's interested or not, just go with the flow
i've seen you sit here and over-analyze the tiniest of "hints" over and over, and it will get you nowhere.[/QUOTE]
Yeah that's my problem, i think too much.
ugh i really have no idea what to do now.
it sounds like she isnt even into you as anything more than a friend, youre just a shoulder to cry on
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;32261416]it sounds like she isnt even into you as anything more than a friend, youre just a shoulder to cry on[/QUOTE]
hmm, that sounds plausible too.. dangit
So I found out my girlfriend was cheating tonight... I'm not as mad as i feel like i should be.
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;32261416]it sounds like she isnt even into you as anything more than a friend, youre just a shoulder to cry on[/QUOTE]Personal experience makes me agree here. About a year and a half ago my junior prom date told me she that she was still kind of dealing with it and wasn't ready to be more than friends. While she did indeed go through a bad breakup, this was a polite way of saying that she wasn't interested.
[QUOTE=VOSK;32261593]So I found out my girlfriend was cheating tonight... I'm not as mad as i feel like i should be.[/QUOTE]
you look pretty mad!
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[QUOTE=VOSK;32261593]So I found out my girlfriend was cheating tonight... I'm not as mad as i feel like i should be.[/QUOTE]
Have you dumped her?
[QUOTE=Giraffen93;32258507]yeah i'm into her, she went over to my house saturday, and we saw some movies and stuff, being social.[/QUOTE]
Woah, I like this girl, and I had this totally intimate moment where I tucked her into bed and everything.
Except that we're just friends and it's going to stay that way because when you're friends and they aren't attracted to you, things like watching movies doesn't mean anything other than "This person is pleasant to hang out with". Accept the position or don't, but it won't change it.
[QUOTE=VOSK;32261593]So I found out my girlfriend was cheating tonight... I'm not as mad as i feel like i should be.[/QUOTE]If you truly cared, you'd get angry. And I don't mean that as an insult or a suggestion, what I'm saying is, you don't care about her as much as you think you do, and after something like that... it's time to go. Sorry bro.
[QUOTE=Giraffen93;32258507]yeah i'm into her, she went over to my house saturday, and we saw some movies and stuff, being social.[/QUOTE]
Leave it be, do not fuck over a bro with that. It is simply not worth it. I agreed with all my friends that the ex-girlfriends of friends should be left alone. It only creates problems.
[QUOTE=junker|154;32266261]Leave it be, do not fuck over a bro with that. It is simply not worth it. I agreed with all my friends that the ex-girlfriends of friends should be left alone. It only creates problems.[/QUOTE]
hnnng, and i thought this would be something, oh well.
[QUOTE=junker|154;32266261]Leave it be, do not fuck over a bro with that. It is simply not worth it. I agreed with all my friends that the ex-girlfriends of friends should be left alone. It only creates problems.[/QUOTE]
My friend started to date my ex a week after we broke up.
Needless to say, he's not my friend anymore.
Met a girl my age, but shes a single mother
[QUOTE=PrusseluskenV2;32268338]go for it???????[/QUOTE]
I am, I just don't want to end up with huge commitments to her and this kid and what if she ends up being a wifey and wants another one?
Like I said in the other thread (didn't see you posting here saying you were going for it), I really don't think an 18 year old single mother is a very healthy prospect. How did she end up with a kid in the first place?
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;32268472]Like I said in the other thread (didn't see you posting here saying you were going for it), I really don't think an 18 year old single mother is a very healthy prospect. How did she end up with a kid in the first place?[/QUOTE]
Shes 19, I don't know yet, we met on the bus (im just confident so I just approached her and made conversation) will ask her on Friday and see what the story is and lay down my morals, will report back later
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I know that she likes people being individuals, she doesn't like liars - she was very open about having a kid, that she wouldn't hide the fact, she thinks I'm really put off because she has a kid, shes been single for 2 years,
Guys I don't mean she literally doesn't let me play games, but it really bores her.
[QUOTE=Giraffen93;32267735]hnnng, and i thought this would be something, oh well.[/QUOTE]
I am only a guy on the internet who gives and advice, you still control the situation. But as an advice leave it be, a relationship with an ex of a good friend is horrible and will cost you a lot more in the end.
[QUOTE=junker|154;32268875]I am only a guy on the internet who gives and advice, you still control the situation. But as an advice leave it be, a relationship with an ex of a good friend is horrible and will cost you a lot more in the end.[/QUOTE]
every time i see advice i take it priority #1, if you would say something positive about it would take it. i hate my mind.
yeah i got that.
Cinemas are somewhat a bad place for first dates, maybe later on. But you know during a movie you can't do anything related to her. It's bad to build up contact and all that jazz.
Go rather for a drink, maybe something with sports. Sometimes bowling works. It really depends.
[QUOTE=junker|154;32269019]Cinemas are somewhat a bad place for first dates, maybe later on. But you know during a movie you can't do anything related to her. It's bad to build up contact and all that jazz.
Go rather for a drink, maybe something with sports. Sometimes bowling works. It really depends.[/QUOTE]
Drink? She's underage. Sports? I hate sports. Bowling? Worst thing ever. That's the problem.
[QUOTE=Giraffen93;32269024]Drink? She's underage. Sports? I hate sports. Bowling? Worst thing ever. That's the problem.[/QUOTE]
Well with that attitude you will get nowhere. You can still got for a drink without alcohol being involved. There are also a lot of sports which are fun in couples. Like climbing or Kayak, which also provide an adventure like feeling. Sport is pretty satisfying. Bowling is pretty fun in a group, although I understand that some dislike it.
So whenever I try to let my girlfriend knows if she's doing something bad, she just acts all sad. It throws me off completely. She doesn't hesitate to tell me if I'm doing something wrong, and I listen. What do I do?
[QUOTE=junker|154;32269081]Well with that attitude you will get nowhere. You can still got for a drink without alcohol being involved. There are also a lot of sports which are fun in couples. Like climbing or Kayak, which also provide an adventure like feeling. Sport is pretty satisfying. Bowling is pretty fun in a group, although I understand that some dislike it.[/QUOTE]
really? where? yeah sure a cafe but..
i'm the opposite of an outdoor person, so nope.
and i [B]hate[/B] bowling with a passion.
Are you retarded, no offense. But there's tons of nice cafes and cool pubs around the world which offer a cool atmosphere. Going for a drink is pretty cool and you can have a nice conversation and all that jazz.
Then change your personality a bit. It's not like you have to sit all day at home. You will never get a decent girl if you do not move your ass outside. I do not want to be mean but seriously change that. I have friends which are "geeks" or "nerds", they never go out and it really reflects on their lifestyle, some of them do not give a shit about it, then it's fine. But if you want more contacts and a decent social life get outside.
Fuck bowling.
[editline]13th September 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=geogzm;32269101]So whenever I try to let my girlfriend knows if she's doing something bad, she just acts all sad. It throws me off completely. She doesn't hesitate to tell me if I'm doing something wrong, and I listen. What do I do?[/QUOTE]
Tell her the truth that she should take your comments seriously and try to change it. Such things will annoy you heavily after a while and will eventually hurt your relationship really bad.
[QUOTE=junker|154;32269186]Are you retarded, no offense. But there's tons of nice cafes and cool pubs around the world which offer a cool atmosphere. Going for a drink is pretty cool and you can have a nice conversation and all that jazz.
Then change your personality a bit. It's not like you have to sit all day at home. You will never get a decent girl if you do not move your ass outside. I do not want to be mean but seriously change that. I have friends which are "geeks" or "nerds", they never go out and it really reflects on their lifestyle, some of them do not give a shit about it, then it's fine. But if you want more contacts and a decent social life get outside.
Fuck bowling.[/QUOTE]
around the world? we live in a relatively small city.
she is KIND of a geek.
[QUOTE=Giraffen93;32269206]around the world? we live in a relatively small city.
she is KIND of a geek.[/QUOTE]
Then ask her to come over and watch a movie at your place or vice versa?
[QUOTE=Giraffen93;32269206]around the world? we live in a relatively small city.
she is KIND of a geek.[/QUOTE]
I do to. There is not much to do around here and the public transportation sucks, besides I do not own a car. With around the world I meant that pubs and cafes are nearly everywhere. It's a good business and sometimes the owners of the pubs have great ideas and have cool interiors or concepts.
Even if she's a geek, you still can go out with her. Being a geek doesn't mean that you have to sit in a room allday. I know some people who study computer science and really sit a lot infront of a pc but they sitll manage to go outside, have loads of friends and be cool with girls. Besides the categorization of people is dumb. Just do whatever you please.
eh so she's unsure because i'm nervous/unsure. great.
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