[QUOTE=gufu;31184314]Well, tell her that if she won't do it for you and doesn't trust you, then she doesn't love you. How can you trust her, if she doesn't trust you.
Damn it, that sounds manipulative. Well, that's certainly a reason why I'd never pull this out, myself.[/QUOTE]
Holy shit that's like some sort of emotional rape, "Fuck me or you don't love me."
Even though people don't have to share all the same interests and hobbies etc to be a good couple, I always think that their fundamental ideals should be similar. As Jo said, in the long run things are bound to get turbulent when you have such a difference in your core values.
You can stick it out, and hope that over time she becomes more receptive to the idea, or just leave. As has been mentioned, sex does a lot for a relationship, and it really strengthens the connection between two individuals. If she doesn't even think you're going to get married, and only wants to fuck the guy she's going to marry, then it doesn't sound like she's all that comfortable with you.
How long have you been together anyway?
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;31185305]Holy shit that's like some sort of emotional rape, "Fuck me or you don't love me."[/QUOTE]
Yup, I completely agree with you on that regard. As I said, it's pretty damned evil thing to say, certainly not something I should've came up with.
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[QUOTE=FlakAttack;31185954]Uhh you got it backwards, he was saying YOUR position is akin to emotional rape.[/QUOTE]
How is my position being an emotional rape (except me hating myself for that)?
[QUOTE=FlakAttack;31185954]Uhh you got it backwards, he was saying YOUR position is akin to emotional rape.[/QUOTE]
he's just backpedalling now.
I think there's been a series of misunderstandings here. I was talking about gufu's idea, and then he agreed that it was emotionally manipulative. I don't really understand your post, Flak.
A few parties coming up. I've yet to have sex, though I'm of the age of consent. I don't really feel a big rush.. What are peoples thoughts? One of my friends says I shouldn't even kiss any girls at these parties (lolwat) and another says I should get laid at one of these parties.. so yeah, thoughts?
Parties are good to get laid at.
[QUOTE=Octyl;31186815]A few parties coming up. I've yet to have sex, though I'm of the age of consent. I don't really feel a big rush.. What are peoples thoughts? One of my friends says I shouldn't even kiss any girls at these parties (lolwat) and another says I should get laid at one of these parties.. so yeah, thoughts?[/QUOTE]
Have fun and let whatever wants to happen, happen. Don't hold back, but don't force anything either.
What is more desirable to you guys? Regular sex with one person or sporadic sex with different people?
Regular as in a couple of times a week, sporadic as in once every few weeks.
[QUOTE=Mlisen14;31188411]What is more desirable to you guys? Regular sex with one person or sporadic sex with different people?
Regular as in a couple of times a week, sporadic as in once every few weeks.[/QUOTE]
Couple of times is regular?
But I prefer regular and same person. Means that you get to know what your partner likes and you can improve the experience as things go along.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;31185305]Holy shit that's like some sort of emotional rape, "Fuck me or you don't love me."
Even though people don't have to share all the same interests and hobbies etc to be a good couple, I always think that their fundamental ideals should be similar. As Jo said, in the long run things are bound to get turbulent when you have such a difference in your core values.
You can stick it out, and hope that over time she becomes more receptive to the idea, or just leave. As has been mentioned, sex does a lot for a relationship, and it really strengthens the connection between two individuals. If she doesn't even think you're going to get married, and only wants to fuck the guy she's going to marry, then it doesn't sound like she's all that comfortable with you.
How long have you been together anyway?[/QUOTE]
If she's adamant that she'd marry you, it doesn't sound like the best relationship you've got. I'm not saying that she should be rushing down the aisle, but the future doesn't seem good if she's sure that the pair of you won't have one.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;31186280]I think there's been a series of misunderstandings here. I was talking about gufu's idea, and then he agreed that it was emotionally manipulative. I don't really understand your post, Flak.[/QUOTE]
Right, I kinda skimmed over the part right after where he stated that idea was manipulative. Ok, I suppose I meant to say that his idea (as opposed to his position) was akin to emotional rape. Oops.
[QUOTE=Mlisen14;31188411]What is more desirable to you guys? Regular sex with one person or sporadic sex with different people?
Regular as in a couple of times a week, sporadic as in once every few weeks.[/QUOTE]
Well, for one, I know guys who can have a different girl every day, so they're having sex regularly. Might want to rephrase this a bit (especially because almost anyone would take regular sex over sporadic sex).
But I get the spirit of the question, and I prefer sticking to one person and getting to know them better over time. I did experiment with some really casual stuff in the past, it wasn't my kind of thing.
Alright, so there's this girl in the bus I see everyday.
She made it quite obvious that she likes me (starts walking/talking to me even if I'm not waiting for the bus and just walk past it, smiles when she sees me, giggles and that crap).
I never had a GF before and I'm not really interesed in her, how the hell she got interesed in me is a goddamn miracle because I'm the guy who has a ":( dont talk to me" face. Sadly I'm too light hearted to go "yeahyeahyeah sure shut up", and so when I talk I smile and talk nicely, too much of a pussy to do otherwise.
What the fuck doIdo. She's at the same exact time's when I'm at the bus, takes the same one, and keeps sitting next to me (which I hate, even if it's a bro or family).
Ask her out.
Ask her out, or for her number or something
ooo, she might come over sometime this week :dance:
[QUOTE=Aerkhan;31191226]Alright, so there's this girl in the bus I see everyday.
She made it quite obvious that she likes me (starts walking/talking to me even if I'm not waiting for the bus and just walk past it, smiles when she sees me, giggles and that crap).
I never had a GF before and I'm not really interesed in her, how the hell she got interesed in me is a goddamn miracle because I'm the guy who has a ":( dont talk to me" face. Sadly I'm too light hearted to go "yeahyeahyeah sure shut up", and so when I talk I smile and talk nicely, too much of a pussy to do otherwise.
What the fuck doIdo. She's at the same exact time's when I'm at the bus, takes the same one, and keeps sitting next to me (which I hate, even if it's a bro or family).[/QUOTE]
Wait, you're complaining that a girl likes you? Atleast you talk to one, where i don't really know any girl to talk to IRL, except family.
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oooh holy shit, we talked for almost 4 hours, at first she wanted to tell me something.. as you guys guessed she used me for attention. gratz. but the thing is, i managed to talk her out of it, and now she tells me she has feelings for me after all, and the dad isn't overprotective, she just doesn't want to say anything. Everyone is ok that i'm there actually, she just hasn't admitted it yet. Now she actually is gonna come home to me someday :dance:
Sure she will.
[QUOTE=FlakAttack;31190379]
Well, for one, I know guys who can have a different girl every day, so they're having sex regularly. Might want to rephrase this a bit (especially because almost anyone would take regular sex over sporadic sex).
But I get the spirit of the question, and I prefer sticking to one person and getting to know them better over time. I did experiment with some really casual stuff in the past, it wasn't my kind of thing.[/QUOTE]
Oh I asked because the other night my friends were having a discussion with a girl who gets with a guy every few weeks and says that's preferable to having sex with the same person every day.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;31199704]Sure she will.[/QUOTE]
She's pretty certain now.
Uh huh.
Probably just attempting to make you feel okay about everything. Say stuff that makes you happy, hope you forget about it so she can keep using her as an attention outlet. Good job, you're being used and you're happy about it. If you socialized more you'd realize how much of a horse shit situation it is and ditch the girl, but since you think you're the coolest fucking guy in the world laughing at mean people and doesn't afraid of anything while sitting at your computer all day, you're happy just because this has been the only instance where a girl talks to you.
I mean, seriously, just think for a second god damn. She pretty much told you, "Yeah I lied this whole time to avoid you but I actually like you now." As if you can just flip a switch in your brain that changes someone from "creepy" to "romantic interest."
She's lying to you, smart guy. You say you don't need relationships or whatever but if that was true, you'd ditch the lying bitch in a heartbeat. It's pretty clear that you're desperate for some form of female interaction, even willing to be outright used by a girl for it.
Go outside and meet girls that aren't a complete waste of your time.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;31199921]Uh huh.
Probably just attempting to make you feel okay about everything. Say stuff that makes you happy, hope you forget about it so she can keep using her as an attention outlet. Good job, you're being used and you're happy about it. If you socialized more you'd realize how much of a horse shit situation it is and ditch the girl, but since you think you're the coolest fucking guy in the world laughing at mean people and doesn't afraid of anything while sitting at your computer all day, you're happy just because this has been the only instance where a girl talks to you.
I mean, seriously, just think for a second god damn. She pretty much told you, "Yeah I lied this whole time to avoid you but I actually like you now." As if you can just flip a switch in your brain that changes someone from "creepy" to "romantic interest."
She's lying to you, smart guy. You say you don't need relationships or whatever but if that was true, you'd ditch the lying bitch in a heartbeat. It's pretty clear that you're desperate for some form of female interaction, even willing to be outright used by a girl for it.
Go outside and meet girls that aren't a complete waste of your time.[/QUOTE]
I have someone to talk to that listens to me. I'm fine with it.
[QUOTE=Giraffen93;31199516]oooh holy shit, we talked for almost 4 hours, at first she wanted to tell me something.. as you guys guessed she used me for attention. gratz. but the thing is, i managed to talk her out of it, and now she tells me she has feelings for me after all, and the dad isn't overprotective, she just doesn't want to say anything. Everyone is ok that i'm there actually, she just hasn't admitted it yet. Now she actually is gonna come home to me someday :dance:[/QUOTE]
I am sorry, but this is just painful to watch.
Instead then, let's discuss the most romantic simple occurrence/action/locale.
[QUOTE=Giraffen93;31199516]oooh holy shit, we talked for almost 4 hours, at first she wanted to tell me something.. as you guys guessed she used me for attention. gratz. but the thing is, i managed to talk her out of it, and now she tells me she has feelings for me after all, and the dad isn't overprotective, she just doesn't want to say anything. Everyone is ok that i'm there actually, she just hasn't admitted it yet. Now she actually is gonna come home to me someday :dance:[/QUOTE]
"I lied to you before, in fact, most of our 'relationship' (and I use that term extremely loosely) has been a lie, but now I'm telling the truth. I promise. take my word for it."
you know what, I'm happy for you. I'm glad that you're going to see a psychiatrist. maybe then you'll have someone else to talk to instead of this girl. you need a friend.
[QUOTE=Giraffen93;31199946]I have someone to talk to that listens to me. I'm fine with it.[/QUOTE]
AKA, maverick just nailed the head on the head with his rant.
[QUOTE=Giraffen93;31199946]I have someone to talk to that listens to me. I'm fine with it.[/QUOTE]That's not the question. The question is, can you trust her? I don't think so.
[QUOTE=FlakAttack;31201882]That's not the question. The question is, can you trust her? I don't think so.[/QUOTE]
Trust her with what?
[QUOTE=GraniteMouse;31200897]"I lied to you before, in fact, most of our 'relationship' (and I use that term extremely loosely) has been a lie, but now I'm telling the truth. I promise. take my word for it."
you know what, I'm happy for you. I'm glad that you're going to see a psychiatrist. maybe then you'll have someone else to talk to instead of this girl. you need a friend.[/QUOTE]
I have alot of friends.
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