• Sex, Girlfriends and Shit II
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It's not right to hit anyone for any reason except in self defense, and to a certain degree, provocation. Someone poking you shouldn't be reason enough to punch them, which is why I say to a certain degree. And I think the reasoning behind the whole "don't hit girls because they're fragile" idea is more about them being less likely to hit back. Guys have some sort of moral code when it comes to violence. Although, now that I think about it, women can be pretty nasty when they get into fights. They don't seem to restrict themselves as much as guys do. And when I say that, I mean scratching, biting, going almost directly for the scalp/back of the head... Of course there are exceptions to everything, but from what I have observed, these are generally the rule.
Hitting is stupid. I don't understand people who turn to violence as soon as they feel like it - without really being in a position where violence would be the way out. Turning to violence is a mental defect imo which is why people who like boxing are usually stupid [editline]1st October 2011[/editline] And when it comes to hitting women - sure you shouldn't hit a woman, but you shouldn't hit a man either. They're equally bad.
[QUOTE=SaWAH;32567725] which is why people who like boxing are usually stupid [/QUOTE] [img]http://milesdavisonline.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/milesboxing2.jpg[/img] know who that is?
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[QUOTE=thisispain;32567808][img]http://milesdavisonline.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/milesboxing2.jpg[/img] know who that is?[/QUOTE] no but i'm talking pro-boxers i've never heard a pro boxer say an intelligent thing
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;32567813]im definitely feeling better writing it out, but if anybody has something to say about this, go ahead. [editline]30th September 2011[/editline] longest goddamn non-op ive ever made on facepunch[/QUOTE] I doubt she did anything, so stop thinking so much into this. If you notice her doing anything out of the ordinary after this, then you may have cause for alarm, but one meet up shouldn't concern you too much. I'd say you're doing a good job bro.
[QUOTE=SaWAH;32567868]no[/QUOTE] miles davis the biggest musical genius of the 20th century [QUOTE=SaWAH;32567868]but i'm talking pro-boxers i've never heard a pro boxer say an intelligent thing[/QUOTE] well i imagine getting hit in the noggin a lot tends to cloud the mind process.
Jesus dude, I know I'm not one to talk but that was a whoooole lot of irrelevant info. Sure there's some history with this Josh dude, but your problem can be summarized in a few paragraphs; your girlfriend spent time with some guy she's had a history with and you're feeling a bit anxious. I would suggest just talking to her about it, you have ample reason to feel slightly uncomfortable and it sounds like you have a solid relationship which can accommodate for such conversations. If you feel better already though and there's no doubt in your mind without bringing it up, then don't bother. However I'm sure there're some lingering doubts which are bound to put a crack in this strong foundation of trust you've described. I'm out atm so I'll give it another read over tonight.
Lol I knew there was going to be things that didnt directly affect it, i just wanted to give the entire picture and not risk leaving things out. i'm considering talking to her about, but i'm going to at least sleep on it tonight and think about it tomorrow. i really don't have any reason not to trust her, but i'll see tomorrow whether this is going to nag at me. we're really good at talking things out though.
It doesn't sound like anything to worry about dude, just relax. If you're a better boyfriend than he ever was then she'd have no reason to be doing anything more than friendly with him. If you do talk to her about it just make it clear that you only feel uncomfortable because he was known to be a bad boyfriend and you care for her, otherwise you may come off as paranoid.
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;32566224]because you just don't hit a girl unless you're a redneck were you honestly never taught this[/QUOTE] I don't hit anyone unless it's in self-defense, and should the situation come up I'll make no distinction between sexes. Do you think I just go around hitting women or something? [QUOTE=GoldenGnome;32566224]sometimes the only thing a guy will respond to is a nice fist to the jaw though. i mean i know it kind of goes back to archaic gender roles but i still think that there is never any circumstance when a man should be striking a woman unless she is actively trying to bring harm to him or loved ones[/quote] So there are acceptable situations for hitting men where it isn't self-defense, but there aren't any for women? Sorry, I don't subscribe to sexism.
I rule with an Iron fist when I'm with my girl. seriously though, it's been a whole week since I last saw her, but I'm going to stay with her from tuesday to saturday which is cool. Seriously missing her
[QUOTE=SaWAH;32567868]no but i'm talking pro-boxers i've never heard a pro boxer say an intelligent thing[/QUOTE] "It isn't the mountains ahead to climb that wear you out; it's the pebble in your shoe."
[QUOTE=Megafanx13;32568546]I don't hit anyone unless it's in self-defense, and should the situation come up I'll make no distinction between sexes. Do you think I just go around hitting women or something? So there are acceptable situations for hitting men where it isn't self-defense, but there aren't any for women? Sorry, I don't subscribe to sexism.[/QUOTE] if you're in a situation where a guy is trying to get you to hit him, and won't shut up unless he's on the floor, i say hit him. if a girl is doing the same thing, i say don't hit her, because then you'll look like a big asshole (and you'll be a big asshole, too). i don't think that's sexism, i think it's common sense.
I have no qualms about hitting a man, that doesn't mean I got around punching people willy nilly. If it's justified then I have no problem. But the I find the idea of hitting a girl or woman totally abhorrent, unless it genuinely is in self defence.
I suppose it's in our nature to view other men as threats more than women, who we feel we should protect. And the fact is, even if a girl was going berserk at you, and you hit her in self defence, if you end up breaking her nose or something accidently you will look extremely bad in the eyes of everyone around you.
[QUOTE=thisispain;32567185]i wouldn't really say fragile considering they have exactly the same bones and body structure considering they're like the same species or something. less aggressive would be the proper term.[/QUOTE] My wrists are twice the circumference of my girlfriends. Regardless of how we have the same bone structure I'd be hard pressed to say we're equals as far as bone strength. I'd say it's good practice to assume women are fragile. Anyways, they usually like to be considered fragile, in so much as guys want to be considered strong. Basically, don't hit girls and don't let girls hit you, man up.
Just being honest here, I've never been in a fight before but I'm actually quite keen to be in one. I don't go around staunching up to people, and I'm not an aggressive or intimidating person at all, but I am honestly just looking forward to being presented with a situation where I have to defend either myself or someone I care about. Sure this might be slightly primitive of me, but I think the whole adrenalin rush of the situation and being forced to defend myself with nothing but my own body... I just find the idea somewhat exciting really. I'd never hit a girl though unless she was massive and actually a sizeable opponent, and was actually attacking me, so yeah again it'd only be out of self-defence.
There's nothing stopping someone from responding violently if, for instance, a female attacks. They should accept the possibility of getting hit back regardless of their gender.
I am all for the whole "Don't hit people, regardless of gender" idea and I do think that having different standards is sexist, but everyone needs to stop using the "same bone-structure" argument. Men and women [i]do[/i] have different bone structure. That's the main reason that researchers can tell the difference between the genders of almost entirely different genders. Granted: their bones are just as sturdy, but they are not exactly the same, so don't keep using that point. I'd be pissed if someone hit me, but it doesn't matter what gender they are, it matters how strong they are. If a big beefy girl was attacking me, then I would get out of there as fast as possible or fight back, because she is capable of doing some damage. If a wimpy guy were doing the same thing, I would get out of there or attempt to talk some sense into them, but it's not nearly as urgent. It depends on how much danger of being hurt you are in. In a lot of the cases, women aren't going to hurt you severely, just humiliate you. Not all cases of course. Either way I would definitely not stand up to repeated assault from someone I'm supposed to be in a nice relationship with. That's stupid. [editline]1st October 2011[/editline] Being hit once is also no reason to retaliate. It's a one time thing. Especially if other people see it- the other dude looks like a douchebag, or the girl looks like a bitch if you can play it off right. You win the situation. Hitting someone back after one blow is just childish.
I have never had sex I don't have a girlfriend. I have taken a shit. Have I covered everything this thread offers?
I think girls who hit guys and act like it's perfectly acceptable are just as bad as guys who hit girls. I wouldn't hit a girl, [i]or[/i] a guy, unless I actually felt like my life was threatened. If a girl hit me, I would handle it the same as if a guy hit me, which is to break up with them (or stop being friend with them) if they were someone close to me, or to walk away if they were a stranger
[QUOTE=Clovernoodle;32573425]I have never had sex I don't have a girlfriend. I have taken a shit. Have I covered everything this thread offers?[/QUOTE] Kind of. You need to describe your latest shit.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;32574821]I think girls who hit guys and act like it's perfectly acceptable are just as bad as guys who hit girls. I wouldn't hit a girl, [i]or[/i] a guy, unless I actually felt like my life was threatened. If a girl hit me, I would handle it the same as if a guy hit me, which is to break up with them (or stop being friend with them) if they were someone close to me, or to walk away if they were a stranger[/QUOTE] Except with a stranger you won't know their intention and can go into a full fight-or-flight response. Anything can happen from that point.
[QUOTE=GreenDolphin;32575217]Except with a stranger you won't know their intention and can go into a full fight-or-flight response. Anything can happen from that point.[/QUOTE] Yes, I'd consider walking away flight. Unless there was no way to leave, I guess I'd have to fight them.
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;32571706]if you're in a situation where a guy is trying to get you to hit him, and won't shut up unless he's on the floor, i say hit him. if a girl is doing the same thing, i say don't hit her, because then you'll look like a big asshole (and you'll be a big asshole, too). i don't think that's sexism, i think it's common sense.[/QUOTE] So if a guy's being aggressive to you and "is trying to get you to hit him", that's fine, but if a girl does it then you shouldn't? That is by definition a double standard.
[QUOTE=Megafanx13;32577944]So if a guy's being aggressive to you and "is trying to get you to hit him", that's fine, but if a girl does it then you shouldn't? That is by definition a double standard.[/QUOTE] [del]Life[/del] Society is full of double standards.
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;32573359]everyone needs to stop using the "same bone-structure" argument. Men and women [i]do[/i] have different bone structure. That's the main reason that researchers can tell the difference between the genders of almost entirely different genders. Granted: their bones are just as sturdy, but they are not exactly the same, so don't keep using that point.[/QUOTE] no it's pretty scientific actually, the reason we can tell genders apart in their bones is due to size differences in the pelvis and other uh birth related things. bone structure-wise they are 100% the same and treated the same when treating injuries in bones. i'm gonna continue to use that argument considering i'm studying medicine and go by what's in my book and not what someone on the internet says. [editline]1st October 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=Ajacks;32571900]My wrists are twice the circumference of my girlfriends. [/QUOTE] that just means you are bigger. if a girl was bigger than you you'd have smaller wrists.
[QUOTE=thisispain;32578589]no it's pretty scientific actually, the reason we can tell genders apart in their bones is due to size differences in the pelvis and other uh birth related things. bone structure-wise they are 100% the same and treated the same when treating injuries in bones. i'm gonna continue to use that argument considering i'm studying medicine and go by what's in my book and not what someone on the internet says. [editline]1st October 2011[/editline] that just means you are bigger. if a girl was bigger than you you'd have smaller wrists.[/QUOTE] Of course, but on average men are bigger than women, thus making them frailer, on average, than men.
[QUOTE=Ajacks;32578804]Of course, but on average men are bigger than women, thus making them frailer, on average, than men.[/QUOTE] yeah but that tends to change depending on location. for instance men and women in the far east have far less differences in size and because of diet they tend to have far brittler bones. it's still stands that it's silly to not wanna hit women because you think they are fragile, not because hitting people is wrong.
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