Do any of you guys have a song with your significant other? As in its your special song between you?
[QUOTE=pyschomc;33060278]Anyone Like Clinginess?
I love it..[/QUOTE]
It's nice being on the receiving end for a few weeks. After that it gets a bit annoying.
[QUOTE=Man Without Hat;33061096]It's nice being on the receiving end for a few weeks. After that it gets a bit annoying.[/QUOTE]
I see. Many people will get sick of it after a while, but for me.. I'm not too bothered by it haha.
[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;33061049]Do any of you guys have a song with your significant other? As in its your special song between you?[/QUOTE]
we don't
we have several songs we both feel are special, however, no particular song
[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;33061049]Do any of you guys have a song with your significant other? As in its your special song between you?[/QUOTE]
our song:
[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sqJhY9-qziU[/media]
very special
[QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;33062313]Do blowjobs give like 5000% times more pleasure than regular sex for everyone else too?
I can barely feel anything with simple penetration and it kinda worries me[/QUOTE]
maybe you're just lazy
[QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;33062313]Do blowjobs give like 5000% times more pleasure than regular sex for everyone else too?
I can barely feel anything with simple penetration and it kinda worries me[/QUOTE]
oh god same here man, same here
don't worry you're not alone
[editline]31st October 2011[/editline]
lol TIP what are you getting at, I'm not lazy about it and I doubt he is either
high five for not being able to feel a fucking thing with a condom on lmao
[QUOTE=pyschomc;33060278]Anyone Like Clinginess?
I love it..[/QUOTE]
I like it to an extent. That extent being a factor of how much of my free time is taken up by the person minus how much stress I've had this week minus my need for introvertedness.
[QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;33062313]Do blowjobs give like 5000% times more pleasure than regular sex for everyone else too?
I can barely feel anything with simple penetration and it kinda worries me[/QUOTE]
Yeah, because regular sex requires you to do effort whereas a blowjob is a reward for keeping your girlfriend/date happy and requires little effort from your part.
[QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;33062683]no condoms :([/QUOTE]
huh well, the one blowjob I received so far was pretty bad and short, didn't feel much there, it was a foreplay thing
I probably wouldn't feel much different w/o a condom
are you circumcized or what?
[editline]31st October 2011[/editline]
feels like i'm highly unqualified to talk about this kind of stuff but who cares
I used to share this song with my significant other:
[video=youtube;GUQcPnjlvLY]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GUQcPnjlvLY[/video]
She still listens to it. Judas Priest rule.
[QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;33062790]usually doing sex we go oral, and its the only time i really feel real good
and nope, im not cut, but its the same thing
[editline]31st October 2011[/editline]
ive been even thinking about going to see an urologist to ask about this stuff, its how worried i am[/QUOTE]
is it possible you have mild phimosis or just tighter foreskin than normal, I think that can affect things
anyway man don't fret over it, least you know other people have the same thing
[QUOTE=Evilan;33062674]I like it to an extent. That extent being a factor of how much of my free time is taken up by the person minus how much stress I've had this week minus my need for introvertedness.[/QUOTE]
I love it so much is that because I rarely get to see her albeit once a week due to her parents being restricted on many things. THe only communication I have wit hher is aim and when I contact her to pick her up.
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[editline]1st November 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;33062683]i mean while my gf is screaming and almost crying from enjoyment i stick to having fun by giving her a good time
and i dont think thats how its supposed to be, is it? while im getting a blowjob i can barely control myself its insanely good
[editline]31st October 2011[/editline]
no condoms :([/QUOTE]
Those Ultra Thin Condoms..? How about those ones?
[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;33061049]Do any of you guys have a song with your significant other? As in its your special song between you?[/QUOTE]
i wanna hold your hand
[editline]31st October 2011[/editline]
she's a huge beatles fan, and it made sense
[QUOTE=pyschomc;33063273]I love it so much is that because I rarely get to see her albeit once a week due to her parents being restricted on many things. THe only communication I have wit hher is aim and when I contact her to pick her up.[/QUOTE]
You don't know what clinging is. Clinging is despite those rules she is around you or keeps in constant contact with you for as many hours of the day as you have available. What you're talking about is normal because she never gets to see you so she tries to whenever she has the chance.
So, this dumbass I know was dry-humping (both of them fully clothed) his girlfriend and jizzed in his pants. He's now completely convinced she's going to get pregnant. I tried talking him down, but he's all like, "Nuh-uh man, I had a wet spot on my pants. She's gonna have a baby, I know it!" How do I talk him out of it? He seems really concerned.
[QUOTE=Ekalektik_1;33066088]So, this dumbass I know was dry-humping (both of them fully clothed) his girlfriend and jizzed in his pants. He's now completely convinced she's going to get pregnant. I tried talking him down, but he's all like, "Nuh-uh man, I had a wet spot on my pants. She's gonna have a baby, I know it!" How do I talk him out of it? He seems really concerned.[/QUOTE]
Let him believe he got a girl preggers. I want to hear about the reaction when he finds out that she isn't pregnant because semen doesn't soak through pants+girls clothing+panties(plus the tampon factor)+work its way up to an egg at least 3 inches up into the vaginal canal.
[QUOTE=Ekalektik_1;33066088]So, this dumbass I know was dry-humping (both of them fully clothed) his girlfriend and jizzed in his pants. He's now completely convinced she's going to get pregnant. I tried talking him down, but he's all like, "Nuh-uh man, I had a wet spot on my pants. She's gonna have a baby, I know it!" How do I talk him out of it? He seems really concerned.[/QUOTE]
Explain to him how babies are made. His sperm would have to travel through his clothes, through her clothes, up her vagina to her ovaries. I'm guessing the only sex ed he's ever had is the stereotypical Mean Girls type of sex ed ("If you touch each other, you will get pregnant, and DIE!")
[editline]31st October 2011[/editline]
actually I think Evilan's idea is better. Go with that.
[QUOTE=Turnips5;33062882]is it possible you have mild phimosis or just tighter foreskin than normal, I think that can affect things
anyway man don't fret over it, least you know other people have the same thing[/QUOTE]
If he can't come while having sex it is something to fret over. That isn't normal.
Guys, I'm in need of some advice. I broke up with my Ex about a month ago, it was mutual as we both felt the relationship had fizzled out (mainly due to recent events that put strain on the relationship). So anyway, we both decided we still wanted to be friends and we chat on a regular basis (pretty much the same amount we talked before) we even hang out on the odd occasion.
I'm going to admit I miss her as a partner a lot but I can live with her just as a friend, now this is where my problem is. I cannot for the life of me tell if she still has any feelings for me, I don't want to flat out ask her because that seems a bit weird. She keeps telling me she is really lonely and misses having someone there for her, as well as things like she can't listen to our songs anymore because it makes her want to cry, this is completely out of the blue too.
The other thing is she has gone to a couple of parties over the last week and after she gets back (while quite drunk) she calls me and tells me all this stuff how she doesn't want to get with anyone she knows, and that I am one of the nicest guys she's met and that I'm so unique and caring that she will never find someone like me again, she told me and this is a direct quote "I need you in my life in one way or another". Plus if she has any problems or panic attacks she will phone me and I will chat to her and calm her down, she doesn't even ring her best friend to help with these kind of things. I have no clue about anything at the moment and I would really appreciate all your help. Sorry for the massive post too.
[QUOTE=Boomslang;33068408]Guys, I'm in need of some advice. I broke up with my Ex about a month ago, it was mutual as we both felt the relationship had fizzled out (mainly due to recent events that put strain on the relationship). So anyway, we both decided we still wanted to be friends and we chat on a regular basis (pretty much the same amount we talked before) we even hang out on the odd occasion.
I'm going to admit I miss her as a partner a lot but I can live with her just as a friend, now this is where my problem is. I cannot for the life of me tell if she still has any feelings for me, I don't want to flat out ask her because that seems a bit weird. She keeps telling me she is really lonely and misses having someone there for her, as well as things like she can't listen to our songs anymore because it makes her want to cry, this is completely out of the blue too.
The other thing is she has gone to a couple of parties over the last week and after she gets back (while quite drunk) she calls me and tells me all this stuff how she doesn't want to get with anyone she knows, and that I am one of the nicest guys she's met and that I'm so unique and caring that she will never find someone like me again, she told me and this is a direct quote "I need you in my life in one way or another". Plus if she has any problems or panic attacks she will phone me and I will chat to her and calm her down, she doesn't even ring her best friend to help with these kind of things. I have no clue about anything at the moment and I would really appreciate all your help. Sorry for the massive post too.[/QUOTE]
She clearly misses you, yet she's not letting you know for your same reasons. You both are afraid of it sounding a bit awkward. That's normal. And sometimes couples that are together for a long time tend to break up for a while just to blow off some steam. And in my opinion I think being there all the time is not helping you nor your girlfriend move on, instead it makes both of you feel handy and drags you even further to the friend zone, closing some possibilities of you getting back together.
I think that relationships break up for some reason, and this is just my opinion, you do as you see fit, but if you wanted her back and loved her you wouldn't feel that ok with "just" friends. You wouldn't be ok by having front row seats for watching her moving on with other men, would you? You're just ok because you know she's vulnerable now and needs you. What if she moves on and cuts off that dependence on you that you like so much?
From my personal experience I think your problem is that both of you didn't have enough time to move on from each other.
I'm not telling a friendship is bad, but moving on is the only way both of you have of realizing what you really feel for each other instead of just miss the things that used to give you comfort on each other.
If there was actually a problem that made you break up, that problem will still be there if you get back together now.
What I recommend is that both of you take some time apart (It won't kill you) to think about your feelings. and of course letting her know. Be sincere, there is no point hiding what you think because people can always tell when you're hiding something.
Take a while to go out with friends, get a hobby, change certain aspects in you that you think are necessary and date other women, she should do the same too.
Don't be always there for her, I mean you are friends, but you have your own life too.
You need to let go of some of the contact you have with her. And after that, after moving on that's when your real feelings will start to come up and you'll be sure of what to do and what you want. Don't mind if you take weeks or months to move on, take as much time as you need.
If you see her while walking on the streets, smile and say hi, if she talks to you be nice and friendly, just don't talk about that relationship crap yet.
If you miss her after that time, give her a call, ask her for coffe, for small things, things you would do even if she wasn't there with you. Just like if she was a brand new girl you were starting to meet and date again. Just go through the steps you went that made her love you in the first place.
However, regardless of what I said up there, if you really feel in your heart that she's the right girl for you than just go for it.
This was just my opinion and I think you should follow your heart in this matters. Life is a constant gamble, sometimes you win and sometimes you lose, but you always have to make decisions. The good thing is we always learn from mistakes.
Good Luck, my friend. I hope I was able to be helpful.
Thanks a lot guys I really appreciate your advice. When I say I'm ok with being her friend I meant it in a way which for our own good. I just told her when she rung up I'd rather be friends and both of us be happy rather than me begging for her to come back and being together because she pities me. If I'm honest with you guys this was my first break up, I have been single for the whole 18 years of my existence so I suppose this has made it harder for me.
One thing that makes it harder to move on and see less of each other is that we both work at the same place on the same days. She always likes to chat when we pass each other and she always smiles when she walks past my isle. Plus my friends all left for university in September so she is one of the only friends left to talk to now, despite that though I feel like I'm more independent now and I believe I am moving on slowly but surely. Plus I always remember how things felt by the end so I guess it's for my own good really. Thanks again guys for taking the time to help with these things.
[QUOTE=Evilan;33066170]Let him believe he got a girl preggers. I want to hear about the reaction when he finds out that she isn't pregnant because semen doesn't soak through pants+girls clothing+panties(plus the tampon factor)+work its way up to an egg at least 3 inches up into the vaginal canal.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=robmaister12;33066210]Explain to him how babies are made. His sperm would have to travel through his clothes, through her clothes, up her vagina to her ovaries. I'm guessing the only sex ed he's ever had is the stereotypical Mean Girls type of sex ed ("If you touch each other, you will get pregnant, and DIE!")
[editline]31st October 2011[/editline]
actually I think Evilan's idea is better. Go with that.[/QUOTE]
Thanks guys. Evilan's idea is the winner, definitely. At least now I can explain it to him eventually. Also, that stereotypical style of sex ed is pretty much what I and everybody I know had, so that probably explains why I couldn't come up with a convincing counter-argument. Thanks again, he was starting to get seriously annoying.
[QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;33067829]i cant ENJOY regular sex i think thats a bit less normal
[editline]1st November 2011[/editline]
i mean like i enjoy spending the time with her and making her have a nice time but its not PHYSICALLY good (like blowjobs as i said (they feel incredible (i suppose thats how its supposed to feel?))) yknow[/QUOTE]
My hunch is that it has to do with a lack of muscle control on her part. From my understanding, sex is far, far better when they have good control over their vaginal muscles. Which makes a lot of sense, because then they can clench and vary the tightness. Might be that.
[QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;33062313]Do blowjobs give like 5000% times more pleasure than regular sex for everyone else too?
I can barely feel anything with simple penetration and it kinda worries me[/QUOTE]
Your issue is your anxiety, and you are likely to think otherwise, but I assure you that is your issue. The real tell for this is lasting too long and not having any issues where your performance isn't being measured (like in receiving a blowjob). This is really common for people who just started having sex. The next couple times you have sex, you'll likely notice it. The anxiety is likely not manifesting consciously, so you'll have to look for physical signs.
[QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;33068680]Your relationship sucked before and would still suck if you got back together (likely for the same reasons).
If being friends with her isn't being a good thing for you, you know what to do - face it.
[editline]1st November 2011[/editline]
(Talking from experience here)[/QUOTE]
Things are not that linear. People change over the years. From my experience, I would never conceive of getting back with my ex. But I know lot's of people who broke up, dated other people through years and got back together after some years.
I'm just saying that things are not that linear.
Maybe you're nervous during the act. I mean, for my first times I felt like you. I couldn't feel a thing and sometimes it even hurt. Or maybe you rush things, no?
Have you tried a different type/size of condom? Or even no condom at all? (this last one only if she's on birth control).
My problem was with the condoms. I was using Durex and they were very tight on me. (that and I was a noob at putting my condoms). They actually cut off my circulation during the act, removed all the pleasure and therefore made me last longer.
I started using Control ones and the problem was fixed. But yeah. In my case every time I have sex with a girl for the first time I get the same problem as you. Only over time I am able to relax and take real pleasure from sex.
Maybe she's not good at sex? :v:
I'm kidding, but it may be a possibility. That same thing happened to me with a girl I was dating. We had sex frequently and I couldn't feel a thing either. I used to take hours with her, and sometimes we would even stop because I was getting tired.
But, hey, I hope not, but your problem might be more serious. I recommend you to visit your doctor or psychologist about that issue. It may be a subconscious problem or a physical one, either way both are easily treatable. However if you let things keep going like that without taking some kind of action you'll start dwelling in the matter and start taking less and less pleasure frim sex over time.
Maybe it would be good to visit a specialist. Better to know what your problem is and deal with it that to face the unknown.
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