• Sex, Girlfriends and Shit II
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I used to be like you where I used to get more pleasure from pleasuring her, but after a while you'll be more relaxed about it and then you'll have amazing sex. With my girl at uni, it's normally been about a week or two before we see each other (I said a good few pages back how I was getting angry and stuff when she was away, I'm over that now, I talked to my mum about it and stuff and it really helped) and when we do and we have sex for the first time in two weeks, it's amazing and she most reveals her kinkiness.
[QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;33079231]It's weird because I'm not... I mean, at least not consciously. Sex feels, to me, like just the logical following to intense making out. I don't use condoms with my current gf. What's it like being nervous during sex? Could you describe it? Maybe if I can actually realize I am, I can chill? I dunno [editline]1st November 2011[/editline] And I'm not discarding any possibilities, but I (consciously at least) find it unlikely that the root of my problem is me being focused on my performance being judged, because with this girl I'm almost always spot on - she makes it pretty clear, be it by just saying I'm good, body language or by the loads of fluid on my bed. I never actually thought about my performance (consciously!) but on my first time with her.[/QUOTE] You could always use one of the ultra-thin condoms instead of using none. You may be subconsciously nervous about cuming in her. I noticed that I didn't really enjoy sex when I wasn't using a condom; for the first while. Using a condom might get you past that stage, and then you could go back to not using one.
ok guys, this is the most happy moment of my life I just kissed the girl on the right today [img]http://a2.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/s720x720/309829_2290278694854_1185575020_2235049_621555056_n.jpg[/img] in the end, she gave me a hug, and said with low voice in my hear "i love you, you dont need to be alone anymore"
Threesome with girl on left is obvious course of action :v:
Oicani is your girl on the pill
[QUOTE=Wux;33093030] in the end, she gave me a hug, and said with low voice in my hear "i love you, you dont need to be alone anymore"[/QUOTE] That's creepy.
[QUOTE=Mlisen14;33100269]That's creepy.[/QUOTE] Id be bringing a weapon for self defence if she wants to meet up.
[QUOTE=Mlisen14;33100269]That's creepy.[/QUOTE] I think it's hilarious.
okay uh... long story short, condom ripped a bit, did not notice for about 4 seconds, withdrew, did not finish acquired levonelle with girlfriend and she took it just 13 minutes ago, woman at boots quoted ~90% efficiency, got it free because of something to do with the university health centre. holy shit facepunch. those intervening 14 hours were the most worried I've ever been in my life. thank fuck my girlfriend is responsible and not an idiot, and thank science for medicine. god damn, what a fucking nightmare. I just got here and pretty much wept in relief. [editline]3rd November 2011[/editline] I love you guys [editline]3rd November 2011[/editline] I know the chances of getting her pregnant were probably tiny anyway, but aieee that is just the worst thought ever I'd never even had a girlfriend a month ago, never in a million years expected this to happen lol I'm glad I can chalk it up to a learning experience and hopefully that'll be that. e. now that I'm less freaked the fuck out, this post looks highly silly. I'll leave it as a reminder to myself.
lol if you're THAT scared of getting a girl pregnant - .. don't have sex i don't want a child right now, so we use protection, however, if i were to get pregnant i wouldn't sob and cry over it, i'd simply get an abortion and deal with it
[QUOTE=SaWAH;33103061]lol if you're THAT scared of getting a girl pregnant - .. don't have sex i don't want a child right now, so we use protection, however, if i were to get pregnant i wouldn't sob and cry over it, i'd simply get an abortion and deal with it[/QUOTE] yeah I know, my girlfriend would too, but that's still not something I want her to have to go through, I know she'd be alright with it but I'm not sure about her parents, or even my mum really we're both 18 so there's no reason anyone's parents should have to know, but still lesson hopefully learned anyway
One time my girlfriend and I had unprotected sex and it wasn't until after that she remembered she'd missed her pill the day before. The next day we went to boots, was free as well. I was expecting it to cost like £30. The consultant lady was really helpful and talked us through it, and said that normally they say to double up the pill the next day. It was somewhat scary, glad I went into the consultation though. I learnt stuff from it.
The pull out method really isn't that risky. There is a 4% chance of pregnancy with perfect use. That may seem a bit high until you compare it to the 2% perfect use of condoms. These statistics were generated over the course of a year. You want to make sure you have good control being trying the pull out method, other wise you might pull out too late.
[QUOTE=Pepin;33110239]The pull out method really isn't that risky. There is a 4% chance of pregnancy with perfect use. That may seem a bit high until you compare it to the 2% perfect use of condoms. These statistics were generated over the course of a year. You want to make sure you have good control being trying the pull out method, other wise you might pull out too late.[/QUOTE] Condoms when used perfectly have a lower failure rate than 1%.
Alright to make a long story short, this girl asked me out and I said yes because I was on the spot and nervous from a previous encounter some minutes earlier. Well it's 5 days later, we've hung out once and kissed once etc. I've realized I don't really love this girl or even like her romantically. I would break up with here, but all her friends have said shes so much happier and all that jazz.(she's liked me for a while.) Well I'm under a lot of anxiety because of it and I really just want to end the relationship, I just don't want to make her all depressy again. I don't know how I should go about it. Someone help. [editline]3rd November 2011[/editline] Just posted that here because the other thread is closed. :v:
[QUOTE=Pepin;33110239]The pull out method really isn't that risky. There is a 4% chance of pregnancy with perfect use. That may seem a bit high until you compare it to the 2% perfect use of condoms. These statistics were generated over the course of a year. You want to make sure you have good control being trying the pull out method, other wise you might pull out too late.[/QUOTE] I've never used to pull out method before, primarily because there is risk to it and because I prefer to finish inside the women I'm fucking. No offense, but it's a stupid practice and it's probably why we have the tv show "16 and Preggers" because 4% of a huge population of teenagers leads to tens of thousands of pregnancies. Learn statistics because percents without a population don't mean shit in the real world. Also, condoms have a lower failure rate than 1%, and most problems are caused by the consumer.
[QUOTE=JakeIsWin;33112957]Alright to make a long story short, this girl asked me out and I said yes because I was on the spot and nervous from a previous encounter some minutes earlier. Well it's 5 days later, we've hung out once and kissed once etc. I've realized I don't really love this girl or even like her romantically. I would break up with here, but all her friends have said shes so much happier and all that jazz.(she's liked me for a while.) Well I'm under a lot of anxiety because of it and I really just want to end the relationship, I just don't want to make her all depressy again. I don't know how I should go about it. Someone help. [editline]3rd November 2011[/editline] Just posted that here because the other thread is closed. :v:[/QUOTE] You don't love her after five whole days? It's doomed man give up now. Not but really, why don't you go out a couple more times? It's rarely the first date that sees a relationship blossom. You could get to know her and really like her. I wouldn't dismiss it after you've hung out once.
it's hardly a "method"
[QUOTE=Mlisen14;33113789]You don't love her after five whole days? It's doomed man give up now. Not but really, why don't you go out a couple more times? It's rarely the first date that sees a relationship blossom. You could get to know her and really like her. I wouldn't dismiss it after you've hung out once.[/QUOTE] I never said I loved her. Doesn't matter now, I've done the deed.
[QUOTE=Man Without Hat;33111260]Condoms when used perfectly have a lower failure rate than 1%.[/QUOTE] You are incorrect. Here is one study [url]http://www.contraceptivetechnology.org/table.html[/url] Here is another [url]http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/fb_contr_use.html[/url] Both have male condoms at 2% with perfect use. Female condoms are at 5%.
[QUOTE=JakeIsWin;33114071]I never said I loved her. Doesn't matter now, I've done the deed.[/QUOTE] I know, but you shouldn't expect to have feelings for a girl after one date, much less love her.
[QUOTE=Pepin;33114260]You are incorrect. Here is one study [url]http://www.contraceptivetechnology.org/table.html[/url] Here is another [url]http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/fb_contr_use.html[/url] Both have male condoms at 2% with perfect use. Female condoms are at 5%.[/QUOTE] [url]http://www.niaid.nih.gov/about/organization/dmid/documents/condomreport.pdf[/url] Slippage and breakage rates are exceptionally low. There's no reason for pregnancy unless you blow your load after it breaks, which definitely doesn't classify as 'perfect use' [quote]In a recent well-controlled randomized clinical trial of monogamous couples using latex male condoms for contraception over six months, the pregnancy rate during “typical use” was reported at 6.3%, with a 1.1% pregnancy rate during “consistent use” (45)[/quote] And that isn't with perfect use; a 1.1% failure rate.
[QUOTE=TheDestroyerOfall;32601157]she's not legal/She's hardcore christian[/QUOTE] Enjoy having her force you to vote republican and work while she sits at home watching QVC buying diamond jewelry with your credit cards. And usually "hardcore christian female" implies hipocracy, misinformation, and a henpecked marriage. gl with ur life tbqh.
Is it strange that I'm still affected by my ex even though I've got a new girlfriend? I would NEVER go near her again with all the shit she put me through, so it's not that I still have feelings for her. I've just noticed her getting a little close to one of my friends recently, and seeing even just a facebook post involving both of them makes me feel tight in the chest. Is this normal? it's been about 6 months since she broke up with me, after an almost a year long relationship. [editline]4th November 2011[/editline] It doesn't affect me all that much, and nowhere near as much as it used to. It barely affects me, I just find it strange that it's still there.
Normal when you've been close to a person.
[QUOTE=Man Without Hat;33116450][url]http://www.niaid.nih.gov/about/organization/dmid/documents/condomreport.pdf[/url] Slippage and breakage rates are exceptionally low. There's no reason for pregnancy unless you blow your load after it breaks, which definitely doesn't classify as 'perfect use' And that isn't with perfect use; a 1.1% failure rate.[/QUOTE] The slippage and breakage rate should not be taken as the rate of pregnancy. The argument cannot be that the pregnancy rate is equal to the condom failure rate. Consistent use is the same as perfect use. They likely changed it to term because "perfect use" confuses people who don't look up the definition. Also, I would say you just found a study with conflicting numbers, but they tested over a period of six months as opposed to twelve months. Doubling the figure would to estimate a twelve month period would get 2.2%, which ends up to be the same result actual twelve month studies come up with.
The fact that you double up the timespan shouldn't really double up the percentage. If you have x amount of people who get pregnant the first 6 months and that equals to 1.1% then you'll have another x amount of people in the next 6 months and that equals to 1.1% too. If you add 1.1% + 1.1%, yes, you will get 2.2%, however, you forget that the amount of people tested doubled so naturally there will be twice as many pregnancies, however, the percentage of pregnancies out of the people tested is still the same, 1.1% blurgh hope this makes sense
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The first time a condom broke for me was because it exploded when I ejaculated. I pulled out and the top half was completely detached and had to be 'retrieved'. Hope that makes you feel better.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;33121505]had to be 'retrieved'.[/QUOTE] Round Two.
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