• Sex, Girlfriends and Shit II
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my girlfriend wants to get a piercing, either a monroe or spiderbites. problem is i just cannot picture whether she'll look better or worse with either, but i dont want to tell her i dont want her to get them in case i dont like the way they look, because that seems controlling. and i think a monroe would be a safe bet, but i love her face without any weird piercings in it. solutions? [editline]1st December 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=brianosaur;33532684]Yeah dicks too big. I get the same problem :smug:[/QUOTE] you must have a fucking monster girth if your girlfriend cant fit her mouth around it without scraping her teeth on it
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;33532739]my girlfriend wants to get a piercing, either a monroe or spiderbites. problem is i just cannot picture whether she'll look better or worse with either, but i dont want to tell her i dont want her to get them in case i dont like the way they look, because that seems controlling. and i think a monroe would be a safe bet, but i love her face without any weird piercings in it. solutions?[/QUOTE] You're in a relationship. You are allowed to make requests of your girlfriend, just as she is allowed to make requests of you. Be honest with your feelings about the piercings and say something like "Hey, I don't want you to get piercings." If she asks why, tell her your reasons, but don't force her to do something or not do something she doesn't want to do. That would be controlling.
i've been discouraged for a while when it comes to women. what do i do?
[QUOTE=Variant;33533320]i've been discouraged for a while when it comes to women. what do i do?[/QUOTE] Keep at it? Your question is extremely vague.
i don't know there are a lot of things. usually i think that all other dudes are better looking and more likable than me. i feel inadequate when stacked up to other people. maybe it's a confidence issue.
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;33532739]my girlfriend wants to get a piercing, either a monroe or spiderbites. problem is i just cannot picture whether she'll look better or worse with either, but i dont want to tell her i dont want her to get them in case i dont like the way they look, because that seems controlling. and i think a monroe would be a safe bet, but i love her face without any weird piercings in it. solutions? [editline]1st December 2011[/editline] you must have a fucking monster girth if your girlfriend cant fit her mouth around it without scraping her teeth on it[/QUOTE] yeah she does scrape her teeth a bit, not too terribly bad though.
[QUOTE=Variant;33533977]i don't know there are a lot of things. usually i think that all other dudes are better looking and more likable than me. i feel inadequate when stacked up to other people. maybe it's a confidence issue.[/QUOTE] It's a confidence issue brought on by low self-esteem and insecurity. You're, in psychological terms, experiencing "relative deprivation" which is basically perceiving people as being superior or better off compared to yourself in any number of ways. Simple PickUp([url]http://www.youtube.com/user/SimplePickup#p/u/7/nIu20j0ecy8[/url]) might help you with overcoming some of the self esteem issues, but insecurity requires you to step out of your comfort zone and take chances that could embarrass or make you look bad. I'm certainly not qualified to guide you, but take it from someone who overcame social anxiety depression and work on seeing your positives and challenge what you view about yourself as negatives. Many times, you're putting yourself down unnecessarily because of failures in the past or cognitive distortions you may have. Changing your thoughts and challenging your negative opinions will go a long way in helping you overcome your insecurity.
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;33499298]i agree, it should definitely be the opposite. prevention should be more important than treatment[/QUOTE] surely they should both be given equal funding [editline]2nd December 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;33531060]teeth are the best thing wtf[/QUOTE] please explain, I disagree, they are straight up painful
[QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;33536179]It's not biting, but when they touch lightly it's p good[/QUOTE] It's not enjoyable for me, probably because I'm uncircumcised, and probably because it feels more like scraping than lightly touching idk [editline]2nd December 2011[/editline] e. ah okay, dunno what's up then
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;33532739]my girlfriend wants to get a piercing, either a monroe or spiderbites. problem is i just cannot picture whether she'll look better or worse with either, but i dont want to tell her i dont want her to get them in case i dont like the way they look, because that seems controlling. and i think a monroe would be a safe bet, but i love her face without any weird piercings in it. solutions?[/QUOTE] dude let her. piercings are hot! ;-] and those can be removed at like any time and look completely normal for the most part. [QUOTE=lil_n00blett;33532739]you must have a fucking monster girth if your girlfriend cant fit her mouth around it without scraping her teeth on it[/QUOTE] nahh its not that hard for them to teeth it if they're just very bad at it
[QUOTE=Turnips5;33536114]please explain, I disagree, they are straight up painful[/QUOTE] Light nibble on the shaft / dragging teeth over head.
[QUOTE=Evilan;33534562]It's a confidence issue brought on by low self-esteem and insecurity. You're, in psychological terms, experiencing "relative deprivation" which is basically perceiving people as being superior or better off compared to yourself in any number of ways. Simple PickUp([url]http://www.youtube.com/user/SimplePickup#p/u/7/nIu20j0ecy8[/url]) might help you with overcoming some of the self esteem issues, but insecurity requires you to step out of your comfort zone and take chances that could embarrass or make you look bad. I'm certainly not qualified to guide you, but take it from someone who overcame social anxiety depression and work on seeing your positives and challenge what you view about yourself as negatives. Many times, you're putting yourself down unnecessarily because of failures in the past or cognitive distortions you may have. Changing your thoughts and challenging your negative opinions will go a long way in helping you overcome your insecurity.[/QUOTE] dudes those videos cracked me up. thanks for those
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;33532739] [editline]1st December 2011[/editline] you must have a fucking monster girth if your girlfriend cant fit her mouth around it without scraping her teeth on it[/QUOTE] Not to [I]stroke[/I] my own ego but I have quite the dick
Just checked a girl I fancy's Facebook Page and... Voila [img]http://img42.imageshack.us/img42/8893/unsmith.jpg[/img] [img]http://sae.tweek.us/static/images/emoticons/emot-unsmith.gif[/img]
yay I like when relationships fall apart too!
[QUOTE=Gprimeisback;33553557]Not to [I]stroke[/I] my own ego but I have quite the dick[/QUOTE] I don't like to say that I have a big willy, but my girlfriend squeezed up to me after sex and said "You have a very big dick", I was like "oh really?" I'd never put much thought into and I've never gone comparing willies.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;33556693]yay I like when relationships fall apart too![/QUOTE] Hey, I didn't say I was ecstatic about it. If she's sad I'll be sad too. When she was dating him I was saying "If she's happy I am too."
ok but you're just telling yourself that so you can feel morally superior to other men. deep down inside you know you're happy about this.
I would be lying if I said I wasn't happy when my now girlfriend broke up with her ex. I didn't like the fact she was so upset about it though, so I cheered her up and took her out. And don't pretend you were happy as long as she was happy when she was with her boyfriend. I wasn't happy about that when I was in that situation, of course I wanted to be the one with her, but as there was nothing I could do about it without being a selfish prick I pushed it to the back of my mind and didn't let it get in the way.
[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;33570192]I would be lying if I said I wasn't happy when my now girlfriend broke up with her ex. I didn't like the fact she was so upset about it though, so I cheered her up and took her out. And don't pretend you were happy as long as she was happy when she was with her boyfriend. [b]I wasn't happy about that when I was in that situation, of course I wanted to be the one with her, but as there was nothing I could do about it without being a selfish prick I pushed it to the back of my mind and didn't let it get in the way.[/b][/QUOTE] That's how I felt. [editline]4th December 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;33569792]ok but you're just telling yourself that so you can feel morally superior to other men. deep down inside you know you're happy about this.[/QUOTE] I'm not going to lie about this. I have dignity.
I seriously don't understand women sometimes. I've known this chick for a whole year, we've talked everyday, and hooked up/had sex a few times as well. Lately she's been very moody (and no, it isn't her time of month). I have no idea what to do. We get into a few arguments here and then, and continue talking, but it seems like she is trying to hide something, or is to shy to say something? We've had arguments about getting into a relationship - distance between us is a problem, and committment. But when ever she see's me, she's always affectionate and playful - and her friends tell me she always talks about me. I still have a crush on her, and always had since I've first met her - she really caught my eye. [img]http://dl.dropbox.com/u/107294/screenies/IMG_0396.PNG[/img] [img]http://dl.dropbox.com/u/107294/screenies/IMG_0397.PNG[/img] [img]http://dl.dropbox.com/u/107294/screenies/IMG_0398.PNG[/img] [img]http://dl.dropbox.com/u/107294/screenies/IMG_0399.PNG[/img] (Sorry for the big-arse iPhone screenshots - I have no idea on how to media tag them)
So my girlfriend and I were getting busy not long ago, and after we'd finished she cuddled up to me and told me that my dick was quite the large one. I can't describe the ego boost you get from that.
because penis size is an important part of a healthy relationship.
[QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;33597236]if your own girlfriend tells you you have a small dick you might aswell just give up on sex[/QUOTE] Whelp, time to find a new hobby. I guess homosexuality or aesexuality is better than having a tiny peenor.
[QUOTE=Oman;33596857]So my girlfriend and I were getting busy not long ago, and after we'd finished she cuddled up to me and told me that my dick was quite the large one. I can't describe the ego boost you get from that.[/QUOTE] I think it's quite a common thing, but that doesn't diminish it in any way <:D
[QUOTE=Wablur;33596341]I seriously don't understand women sometimes. I've known this chick for a whole year, we've talked everyday, and hooked up/had sex a few times as well. Lately she's been very moody (and no, it isn't her time of month). I have no idea what to do. We get into a few arguments here and then, and continue talking, but it seems like she is trying to hide something, or is to shy to say something? We've had arguments about getting into a relationship - distance between us is a problem, and committment. But when ever she see's me, she's always affectionate and playful - and her friends tell me she always talks about me. I still have a crush on her, and always had since I've first met her - she really caught my eye. [IMG]http://dl.dropbox.com/u/107294/screenies/IMG_0396.PNG[/IMG] [IMG]http://dl.dropbox.com/u/107294/screenies/IMG_0397.PNG[/IMG] [IMG]http://dl.dropbox.com/u/107294/screenies/IMG_0398.PNG[/IMG] [IMG]http://dl.dropbox.com/u/107294/screenies/IMG_0399.PNG[/IMG] (Sorry for the big-arse iPhone screenshots - I have no idea on how to media tag them)[/QUOTE] She doesn't want to be your girlfriend and he's avoiding to talk to you. Typical. I don't get why girls are all like that. You deserve her sincerity for Christs sake. I can't understand why girls do this instead of just telling things face to face. And obviously arguing through text isn't gonna solve anything. She's being a little selfish, you know. She doesn't realize it but she is. She's not looking at your feelings the way she should. She's also afraid to be clear with you cause she don't want to lose you just in case, you know. She doesn't know what she wants but she wants you there as a last resort if everything fails. Your problem is that you're always there telling her you wanna be with her. And you're really playing the beggar giving her reasons to step away from you and throwing you to the "friend zone" shelf. It means that as long as you remain with that attitude she'll make you her doggy friend (sorry if I'm being too harsh), she'll make you watch her going out and having fun without you as her significant other and, one day, when she's enough of you, you'll get front row seats to watch her going out with other guys and moving away from you at each moment. That is frustrating and I believe you don't want that. One other problem is that you lack control. This situation makes you lose control and feel frustrated, confused and you feel like you don't know her anymore. Well, you gotta ask her out to have coffee with you or whatever. Something you'd still do without her because IT IS NOT A DATE. And talk to her face to face. tell her what you feel and that you can't be like this anymore. That you can no longer linger in her indecision and that you can't stay if she doesn't make up her mind! Don't say I love you, don't beg just tell it like it is, nice and simple and then just walk away and wait for her reply. Don't be rude by doing so either. This will show that you have control over yourself instead of showing that you need her. She will actually feel like she may lose you and, if she's a decent person, she will realize you're right and that she should be crystal clear with you! Remember that this won't make her run back to your arms. This will make her think about what she's doing with your feelings and act about it. This will make her come to you with a decision. Now that decision can be one thing or another. But you have to be prepared to face bad news too. 3 things may happen: If it doesn't work, well, you could still save your friendship. And it's not that hard to be friends with ex'es, you just need a little time. If she doesn't speak to you after you talk to her face to face, than it's not worth it and you don't deserve running after someone who's not being 100% sincere with you and what she wants. You have a life too after all. If she comes back to you, witch i doubt (but it's just my opinion) then congratulations but you two will have lots of things to set straight cause a relationship doesn't react well with frustrating arguments over the phone. Either way, don't be angry and don't fuel any more arguments over the phone. Do as I say and get a hold on the situation. There are lot's of girls out there too, man. And by your argument you can see that you're a decent caring person and not selfish at all and you can find better than her if you want. You really deserve better than that girl. Some girls take decent guys for granted and can't think how lucky they are. But hey. This is just my opinion. We all need to make our decisions and learn from them but we can't make others love us, just respect us.
Hey guys I'm defensive, really jealous and controlling despite not wanting to be what do
christ it's like a badly written sitcom "I only argue because what I think in my head is that.... oh... [i]nevermind[/i]...." she clearly isn't into you, and you need to get over her. too many people blame the fact that they are too scared to make a move before a girl loses interest on her being "confusing" or something.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;33599344]She doesn't want to be your girlfriend and he's avoiding to talk to you. Typical. I don't get why girls are all like that. You deserve her sincerity for Christs sake. I can't understand why girls do this instead of just telling things face to face. And obviously arguing through text isn't gonna solve anything. She's being a little selfish, you know. She doesn't realize it but she is. She's not looking at your feelings the way she should. She's also afraid to be clear with you cause she don't want to lose you just in case, you know. She doesn't know what she wants but she wants you there as a last resort if everything fails. Your problem is that you're always there telling her you wanna be with her. And you're really playing the beggar giving her reasons to step away from you and throwing you to the "friend zone" shelf. It means that as long as you remain with that attitude she'll make you her doggy friend (sorry if I'm being too harsh), she'll make you watch her going out and having fun without you as her significant other and, one day, when she's enough of you, you'll get front row seats to watch her going out with other guys and moving away from you at each moment. That is frustrating and I believe you don't want that. One other problem is that you lack control. This situation makes you lose control and feel frustrated, confused and you feel like you don't know her anymore. Well, you gotta ask her out to have coffee with you or whatever. Something you'd still do without her because IT IS NOT A DATE. And talk to her face to face. tell her what you feel and that you can't be like this anymore. That you can no longer linger in her indecision and that you can't stay if she doesn't make up her mind! Don't say I love you, don't beg just tell it like it is, nice and simple and then just walk away and wait for her reply. Don't be rude by doing so either. This will show that you have control over yourself instead of showing that you need her. She will actually feel like she may lose you and, if she's a decent person, she will realize you're right and that she should be crystal clear with you! Remember that this won't make her run back to your arms. This will make her think about what she's doing with your feelings and act about it. This will make her come to you with a decision. Now that decision can be one thing or another. But you have to be prepared to face bad news too. 3 things may happen: If it doesn't work, well, you could still save your friendship. And it's not that hard to be friends with ex'es, you just need a little time. If she doesn't speak to you after you talk to her face to face, than it's not worth it and you don't deserve running after someone who's not being 100% sincere with you and what she wants. You have a life too after all. If she comes back to you, witch i doubt (but it's just my opinion) then congratulations but you two will have lots of things to set straight cause a relationship doesn't react well with frustrating arguments over the phone. Either way, don't be angry and don't fuel any more arguments over the phone. Do as I say and get a hold on the situation. There are lot's of girls out there too, man. And by your argument you can see that you're a decent caring person and not selfish at all and you can find better than her if you want. You really deserve better than that girl. Some girls take decent guys for granted and can't think how lucky they are. But hey. This is just my opinion. We all need to make our decisions and learn from them but we can't make others love us, just respect us.[/QUOTE] Thanks for your input! [QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;33599856]christ it's like a badly written sitcom "I only argue because what I think in my head is that.... oh... [i]nevermind[/i]...." she clearly isn't into you, and you need to get over her. too many people blame the fact that they are too scared to make a move before a girl loses interest on her being "confusing" or something.[/QUOTE] Thing is, numerous times over the year she has said - "I want to be with you", "I love you", "Come see me", "I'm happy to see you" etc. But she changes her mind all the time, tells me different things - I'm probably being played.
so she's immature but you need to learn when to stop trying
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