I need a girlfriend, too bad that the girls that like me only annoy me even if they are pretty. And it is really rare so the girls liked by me like me. Now I know a girl I am trying to go out with, and she seems to like me sort of. But she can only meet me next sunday.
[b]The WAIT![/b]
[QUOTE=Evilan;33670283]I stopped telling my mom where I was when I was 17 and still lived at home because she trusted me (mainly because I didn't do anything to set her over the edge). College made it even easier to avoid having her know where I was every few hours because I was 10 miles away. She still asked every now and then when I lived at home/home for the holidays because she's my mom and she does care. That doesn't mean I want her to know everywhere I've been on an average day.
Unless your parents ask where you're going you really shouldn't tell them. I'd ween yourself off from doing this because it is in a way a sort of psychological dependence on them.[/QUOTE]
That's exactly my case. I tell them that I'm in college, but if afterwards I feel like going to the pub and arriving home late, I don't feel the need of letting them know. If I take to long to get home, however, they call me to know if I'm going to dine at home or some place else.
I'm not constantly informing them of my status. I only tell them if they ask.
[QUOTE=MuffinZerg;33673039]I need a girlfriend[/QUOTE]
Worst attitude ever.
A friend asked me for advice, but I'm not really sure what to say. His friend (girl) asked if he liked her and he responded to her that he likes her just as a friend. She is now upset.
What should he do?
If he answered truthfully I don't see what there is to do.
If he does like her then maybe he should say something along the lines of "I thought about what you asked me and I wondered if you wanted to go to x on y"
It sounds like she is trying to guilt trip him and I get the impression that she's an immature bitch.
Then he should leave it then, if she is immature she might kick up a stink but he should definitely not give in to her if he doesn't like her.
[QUOTE=MuffinZerg;33673039]I need a girlfriend, too bad that the girls that like me only annoy me even if they are pretty. And it is really rare so the girls liked by me like me. Now I know a girl I am trying to go out with, and she seems to like me sort of. But she can only meet me next sunday.
[b]The WAIT![/b][/QUOTE]
Why do people actually think that they genuinely need a girlfriend? It's nice having someone that you can be more intimate with and communicate on a higher level than anyone else but being with someone is definitely not a necessary part of life.
[QUOTE=mookman22;33676413]Why do people actually think that they genuinely need a girlfriend? It's nice having someone that you can be more intimate with and communicate on a higher level than anyone else but being with someone is definitely not a necessary part of life.[/QUOTE]
Social conditioning from the media, friends, novels, love stories, and music all tell you that if you don't have someone to be with you won't be happy.
I doubt jumping at every opportunity and being with someone for the sake of it actually satisfies the genuine reasons for wanting a girlfriend anyway.
[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;33676657]I doubt jumping at every opportunity and being with someone for the sake of it actually satisfies the genuine reasons for wanting a girlfriend anyway.[/QUOTE]
Pretty much. But i am in high school still, and I feel that it is more younger people (HS students) who usually date just to "date" as Mookman22 implied.
I still think that our society has an unhealthy view on love to some degrees, that mostly affects more of the younger participants.
[QUOTE=ScoutKing;33676942]Pretty much. But i am in high school still, and I feel that it is more younger people (HS students) who usually date just to "date" as Mookman22 implied.
I still think that our society has a unhealthy view on love to some degrees, that mostly affects more of the younger participants.[/QUOTE]
I'm still in your equivalent to high school, aged 17. I wouldn't want to jump into one for the hell of it, it's only going to end in a mess. Thinking about it, not many people in my year are actually in a relationship, the whole asking out and dating thing doesn't really happen here, it all seems to be friends that develop into more. I know that kind of thing doesn't always work out and would be a difficult approach to take later on, but it does seem to lead to a more meaningful relationship than some of the guys and girls I know who just ask every person they have a hint of feeling for. They never last more than a couple of months.
[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;33677091]I'm still in your equivalent to high school, aged 17. I wouldn't want to jump into one for the hell of it, it's only going to end in a mess. Thinking about it, not many people in my year are actually in a relationship, the whole asking out and dating thing doesn't really happen here, it all seems to be friends that develop into more. I know that kind of thing doesn't always work out and would be a difficult approach to take later on, but it does seem to lead to a more meaningful relationship than some of the guys and girls I know who just ask every person they have a hint of feeling for. They never last more than a couple of months.[/QUOTE]
The whole friendship developing into relationship usually yields better relationships, but i notice they tend to have the same life span at my school, and usually end with a bad taste in everyone's mouth, and ruined friendships.
[QUOTE=ScoutKing;33677540]The whole friendship developing into relationship usually yields better relationships, but i notice they tend to have the same life span at my school, and usually end with a bad taste in everyone's mouth, and ruined friendships.[/QUOTE]
Normally last at least 6 months-1 year+ here.
[QUOTE=mookman22;33676413]Why do people actually think that they genuinely need a girlfriend? It's nice having someone that you can be more intimate with and communicate on a higher level than anyone else but being with someone is definitely not a necessary part of life.[/QUOTE]
I am saying that I need a girlfriend because I do need a girlfriend. Why? Because:
- Tired of being alone really
- Having a girlfriend makes you 1 step forward in social
- Having a girlfriend will take my unused time
- Having a girlfriend makes you feel confident and sure about stuff you do, higher self estem, more productive social interactions with everybody
- I can meet my male friends and make dirty jokes about women psychology.
- All the media, social concidioning and all the stuff ScoutKing mentioned. I don't deny that affects me.
I wouldn't say it's so much a need as in you absolutely require it as something you want a lot. Not so much need as desire.
But you're probably thinking of some bad reasons there. Social standing just from having a girlfriend is stupid and taking up your free time just sounds absurd. Don't think it'll give you all that, it doesn't solve all your problems.
I seriously hope the whole "dumb bimbo"-phase is just an age-thing. It sucks that every girl I meet has this whole spoiled-brat thing going on.
[QUOTE=MuffinZerg;33684394]I am saying that I need a girlfriend because I do need a girlfriend. Why? Because:
- Tired of being alone really
[B]A girlfriend will only help you so much. If you're unhappy with yourself when you're alone, then you're never going to find actual happiness with anyone else.[/B]
- Having a girlfriend makes you 1 step forward in social
[B]This is plain retarded (and false).[/B]
- Having a girlfriend will take my unused time
[B]You shouldn't use a girl for this reason. You should have enough going on in your life to live comfortably happily without [I]needing[/I] a girl to fill your time. A relationship should compliment an already comfortable life, not create it.[/B]
- Having a girlfriend makes you feel confident and sure about stuff you do, higher self estem, more productive social interactions with everybody
[B]This isn't really true at all. It will for a period of time, but as soon as that period is over and you actually have to start dealing with her as a person, you'll probably be left with more problems than you started out with. It will help with self-esteem, but like everything else I've said, a relationship shouldn't be the [I]only[/i] source of positive feelings in your life, you should be confident enough in yourself without a girl constantly telling you you're great.[/B]
- I can meet my male friends and make dirty jokes about women psychology.
[B]I don't even[/B]
- All the media, social concidioning and all the stuff ScoutKing mentioned. I don't deny that affects me.
[B]The media presents skewed visions of what a relationship/love is really like. There are many MUCH more worthwhile influences in your life, don't let shit that isn't even close to true affect you, especially not in ways that bring in other people around you. Don't be an idiot.[/B][/QUOTE]
Impossible to talk to you normally guys. You just can't respect somebody else's opinion. I stated the reasons because they are valid to me. Understand me or not. I am outta here now, nothing to see in that thread but some gold members telling me I am a piece of shit and I have to keep on fapping.
And media affects you all. You know that, it creates your self identity (not fully, but still it affects your personality really much).
Um okay what the fuck, I offered you genuine advice but sure, go fuck off back to your crusty socks then if that's what you want to read.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;33684893]Um okay what the fuck, I offered you genuine advice but sure, go fuck off back to your crusty socks then if that's what you want to read.[/QUOTE]
Yeah telling me that I don't need a girlfriend instead of helping is a great advice.
[QUOTE=MuffinZerg;33685026]Yeah telling me that I don't need a girlfriend instead of helping is a great advice.[/QUOTE]
He meant in the way you said. You said that you need her like your life depends on it.
[quote]gold members telling me I am a piece of shit and I have to keep on fapping.[/quote]
He never said that, he gave you fairly good advice. You're just being retarded now.
Yes, telling you that you don't need a girlfriend [I]is[/I] great advice. I'm sorry that it isn't what you want to hear but it's the truth. If you found yourself a girlfriend in your current state then she'd be miserable and the relationship would be destined to fail because you're an intolerable piece of shit.
And from the looks of it, it doesn't really look like you want girlfriend as a love interest, it's more like you want her so you could feel better about yourself.
What the fuck man.
Dark_Lights advice is solid. I was "looking for a girlfriend" for a while, then I stopped that nonsense and just started talking to fucking everyone. Built my social confidence hugely, and now I can talk to girls (or anyone) with no issue at all.
You DO NOT. NEED. A GIRLFRIEND.
Are they nice to have? Sure, at some points in your life.
From the sounds of things, you need to fix your insecurities before you get a girlfriend, or you'll just be super clingy and she'll leave and you'll be sad when you shouldn't be.
[QUOTE=MuffinZerg;33685026]Yeah telling me that I don't need a girlfriend instead of helping is a great advice.[/QUOTE]
If you do ever find a girl, I really hope your attitude towards relationships has changed otherwise she's going to end up hating you.
[QUOTE=MuffinZerg;33684394]I am saying that I need a girlfriend because I do need a girlfriend. Why? Because:
- Tired of being alone really
- Having a girlfriend makes you 1 step forward in social
- Having a girlfriend will take my unused time
- Having a girlfriend makes you feel confident and sure about stuff you do, higher self estem, more productive social interactions with everybody
- I can meet my male friends and make dirty jokes about women psychology.
- All the media, social concidioning and all the stuff ScoutKing mentioned. I don't deny that affects me.[/QUOTE]
Really those reasons sound kind of disgusting since it seems like you're thinking of a girlfriend as a tool to fix your problems rather than an actual person with emotions.
[QUOTE=MuffinZerg;33684394]
- I can meet my male friends and make dirty jokes about women psychology.
[/QUOTE]
As a female, I would never go out with a guy who would thought he could get away with making jokes about me. I would dump his dumb ass faster than I would a hot coal.
[QUOTE=MuffinZerg;33685026]Yeah telling me that I don't need a girlfriend instead of helping is a great advice.[/QUOTE]
I don't know why I laughed so hard at this statement. Probably because he did help you by saying your ideas are incorrect.
My mother asked for my boyfriend's wishlist for christmas.
His mother asked for mine.
Was a bit weird to realize that we're so "together" now that even the in-laws gives us presents. But it's okay, it's going to go that way sooner or later anyway, so what the hell!
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