• Sex, Girlfriends and Shit II
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You're really wallowing in it mate... [editline]23rd December 2011[/editline] I'm not going to try and post advice here for you because frankly I don't have a clue and I'll most likely be wrong. But if you want some of the more experienced posters to actually give you some advice you might want to give more details. Best of luck though man.
I just don't want anyone to be the fucking scum that I am. Nobody deserves to go through what she is. Thanks, there's no advice to be given for me, I only want people to think before they do something stupid.
Maybe writing all of that out helped you but you're not dealing with this in a healthy manner. You fucked up, you need to accept that, learn from it, and then move through it. You can't beat yourself up and fall into this horrible vicious cycle of self-loathing and pity. It's not going to get you anywhere. Learn your lessons, pick yourself back up, and move on. It is possible to do so without turning into a massive vagina that hates itself.
Here's some advice. (Just in general) Candles are awesome presents. Scented candles are nice too. Just gotta make sure that people aren't allergic to the smell. Generally vanilla is a good one to go with. They're not extremely expensive and they're pretty. And useful. I think of them as the best gift to give.
I got my girlfriend a book on volunteer work around the world in 2012 and a kitchen mixer thing for making mixtures when baking.
[QUOTE=junker|154;33854472]I always wondred which one of these two options is the best. Having a meaningful and good relationship with someone or simply a sexbuddy without any complications.[/QUOTE] ROFL. Two options, not alike. It sounds more like a T.V influenced question. As in, "I watch the first option occur a lot on the general media, hear it everywhere, I don't know, is this something I should want?" Morally, you feel bad because you might want something else. Normatively, you feel as if you should have this and not the other way around. Did what feels right my friend, it's what matters. This middle-aged way of thinking is what prevents a lot of great relationships from happening.
a meaningful and good relationship should entail sex without complications [editline]24th December 2011[/editline] the question wasn't really detailed enough though for some people a good and meaningful relationship might be sex with a best friend, or it might be with multiple partners, or children or monkeys as Seith said 'ROFL' and 'Do what feels right'
I just walked around with my girl so she can tell me what she likes the look of. Got her a jacket and some leggings. Went to wrap my dads present, open the package and realise they've sent me a copy of some film called Xanadu. I didn't order xanadu.
[QUOTE=Doozle;33859816]I just walked around with my girl so she can tell me what she likes the look of. Got her a jacket and some leggings. Went to wrap my dads present, open the package and realise they've sent me a copy of some film called Xanadu. I didn't order xanadu.[/QUOTE] I'm sure he'll love it!
Gonna ask a girl from my course out when we get back to uni, was thinking first date, dinner, movie and then smores on the riverside. Not sure why the marshmallows i just fucking love marshmallows.
[QUOTE='[CWG]RustySpannerz;33859840']I'm sure he'll love it![/QUOTE] I've wrapped it anyway, it'll be a laugh and ordered another copy of what he wanted. [editline]23rd December 2011[/editline] I've outdone myself this year with wrapping, I'm useless at it and normally get someone to do it for me but wrapped it up with brown paper, string and a few bits of tape.
[QUOTE=Occlusion;33860104]Gonna ask a girl from my course out when we get back to uni, was thinking first date, dinner, movie and then smores on the riverside. Not sure why the marshmallows i just fucking love marshmallows.[/QUOTE] that's like five dates in one
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;33857680]Maybe writing all of that out helped you but you're not dealing with this in a healthy manner. You fucked up, you need to accept that, learn from it, and then move through it. You can't beat yourself up and fall into this horrible vicious cycle of self-loathing and pity. It's not going to get you anywhere. Learn your lessons, pick yourself back up, and move on. It is possible to do so without turning into a massive vagina that hates itself.[/QUOTE] I know, that's why I'm going through this with her. This isn't OOPS i messed up! I better get over it! It's I fucked up, I've fucked up horribly with the only person who's ever really been there for me. I simply wanted to write something up, and get my feelings out, in a basically anonymous place. Hoping that maybe someone out there will look at their own life before they fuck it up. This isn't about the pain that I feel, it's the pain I've put her through.
By allowing yourself to heal you allow others to feel the same.
[QUOTE=Contag;33859473]a meaningful and good relationship should entail sex without complications [/QUOTE] Damn. Fucking. Straight. For me, the biggest difference between friendship and relationship (or fuckbuddy) is intimacy. [editline]23rd December 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=Reaper3_3;33861847]I know, that's why I'm going through this with her. This isn't OOPS i messed up! I better get over it! It's I fucked up, I've fucked up horribly with the only person who's ever really been there for me. I simply wanted to write something up, and get my feelings out, in a basically anonymous place. Hoping that maybe someone out there will look at their own life before they fuck it up. This isn't about the pain that I feel, it's the pain I've put her through.[/QUOTE] Not to poke the wound or doubt your suffering, but how old are the two of you? I always find that quite interesting when reading stuff like this.
My schoolmates are telling me I'll always be a virgin but I lost it to my boyfriend a year ago :v: Edit: you rainbow bastards I couldn't help it >:(
So tell them that. They're probably all virgins if they're teasing you about it.
[QUOTE=Mlisen14;33887853]So tell them that. They're probably all virgins if they're teasing you about it.[/QUOTE] They actually all are. Problem is that I live in a city where gay and bisexual people are unaccepted. Stupid bigots.
They'll grow out of being retarded, hopefully. If they don't then they'll be the socially rejected ones soon enough. Wait it out, or find cooler people to be friends with. Also congrats on the sex.
[QUOTE=TheDamnWizards!;33888198]They actually all are. Problem is that I live in a city where gay and bisexual people are unaccepted. Stupid bigots.[/QUOTE] If they are childish enough to tease you about being a virgin or not, I don't think mentioning that you showed a dick up a guy's ass is going to help. No offence though. I like dicks too.
It's so different in the UK. Literally no one gives a shit what sexuality you are, no one i've ever met anyway. That being said i really hate camp people, absolutely nothing against anyone gay, but campness is just the most annoying thing in the universe.
[QUOTE=CAPSMAN!;33889021]If they are childish enough to tease you about being a virgin or not, I don't think mentioning that you showed a dick up a guy's ass is going to help. No offence though. I like dicks too.[/QUOTE] Nope, I don't think so either.
How old are you and your peers by the way? Not trying to mock you. [editline]25th December 2011[/editline] I'll let you keep your age private, but I must say that you seem much more developed than them. But I wouldn't mention your boyfriend any time soon were I you.
The women here are fugly and arseholes. The guys are straight AND fugly. What the fuck school?
[QUOTE=Reaper3_3;33857577]Snip[/QUOTE] Okay don't take this wrong but you are taking this a bit TOO hard. You think in a world with 7 Billion people you'll never find another partner or similar. So you made one mistake. WHICH if you are smart you will learn from. If you didn't make mistakes you'd never learn. Learning from mistakes is merely what teachs you from doing the same thing. When you know the consequences and such from it. If you put your hand in the fire and think "That's hot, that hurts" You'll know merely by learning that it's got a negative consequence to sticking your hand in it that you won't do it again. It's the same. You'll learn not to cheat on someone that loves you because you know that it's a mistake and it's fucked you over before. You made a mistake but I don't mean to seem condescending or negative but there's a lot of people in the world, and making one mistake doesn't make you scum nor does it mean you'll never be happy again. It's human nature. It's what we as a species do. Animals do the same things. Ease up relax. Yes it hurts and yes it's a dumb thing to do but you've done it and you've learnt (Hopefully) from it. If it doesn't work out it then it's a surefire indicator that you fucked up and that you need to take that into note and never do it again. You've got a lot of years to go. Can't live your life hiccuping because of that one mistake and become self loathing because of it. You've done it, it's in the past you can't change it. Don't worry about what you've done, worry about what it is that it causes afterwards. I hope this post makes sense and yes I repeated myself a couple times sorry for that. I hope you atleast get the point.
[QUOTE=TheDamnWizards!;33896978]The women here are fugly and arseholes. The guys are straight AND fugly. What the fuck city?[/QUOTE] Sounds pretty judgmental there.
[QUOTE=Megafanx13;33900700]Sounds pretty judgmental there.[/QUOTE] Yea I'm a judgemental little fuck. It'll change once I go to my new school though. They're a lot more tolerant and friendly and I already made a couple friends there. Wait you talking about me or them? If it's them they judge me quite a bit. Hell my hair style makes me gay to them. It's damn good that I'm leaving this school next year.
[QUOTE=TheDamnWizards!;33900985]Yea I'm a judgemental little fuck. It'll change once I go to my new school though. They're a lot more tolerant and friendly and I already made a couple friends there. Wait you talking about me or them? If it's them they judge me quite a bit. Hell my hair style makes me gay to them. It's damn good that I'm leaving this school next year.[/QUOTE] Then let them be like that. It's their problem not yours. You like who you like it's not exactly like you do it because you want to piss people off, you are like that because that's simply what you have a preference to. If they want to project their insecurities and narrowminded views towards you in the form of non constructive and negative ways, let them. Besides more you show them it bothers you, the more they will keep doing it.
it sure sounds like his problem to me there's a really small chance of every single person he knows being an asshole, but a pretty large chance that he's just the asshole
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;33905054]it sure sounds like his problem to me there's a really small chance of every single person he knows being an asshole, but a pretty large chance that he's just the asshole[/QUOTE] Contrary to what people think I'm actually pretty nice to them. I think they may just pick on me a lot because they know I won't injure them, even though I have the capability. [sub]I'm a pushover :suicide:[/sub]
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