Even if your friends aren't popular, they're your friends because of you and not because of your social status. If you were to become popular you'd probably know more people but wouldn't be close with any of them.
I think it's pretty depressing that you'd even have to ask whether you should ditch your friends. If you're willing to let them go just like that because of some girl who won't go out with you because you aren't popular, then maybe you'd be doing them a favor by leaving them.
I doubt that's the reason she declined, though. You seem pretty shallow - there are a lot of things she might not like about you that could cause her to say no, including that.
[QUOTE=CoolCorky;21743400]I meant the new people you were [i]wanting[/i] to be friends with. The "popular" folk.[/QUOTE]
oh.
Of course they go to parties.
If you're considering dumping your friends to attain social status, go ahead. It means that you where never that close to them. Shallow motherfucker.
[QUOTE=Akilla;21742866]Hello facepunch, I have been lurking around for the last few days, and I've decided to ask for advice here, since I have nothing to lose I guess. Although this is my first post, please bear with me.
My name is Zack, and for all of my 16 years of life, there is something that I have never actually cared about, being "popular", "cool" or even accepted, and I was happy with my small group of friends.
Well, I'm sick of them now. Sick of who I am. My eyes have been opened, and the truth is blinding. I'm a loser to the eyes of my schoolmates (note, I never thought that I was popular or anything, I just thought that I was "there", you know?)
Why were my eyes opened, you ask?
Well, to make a long story short, a girl, who I begun talking to about 4 months ago.
She's beautiful, lovely, etc. I asked her out (because I never thought that I was THAT bad), and [B]she said no. I was crushed, as you may imagine[/B][/QUOTE]
Lost me right there, go cry in the love forum about how you got rejected. Also if you try that new friends bullshit. Whats going to happen is your going to find some new "fake friends" and then their gonna ditch you one day . Then your not going to have any friends at all.
[QUOTE=Akilla;21743215]Thanks, but I don't think you understand. This isn't about the girl anymore.She just made me realize how unhappy I am.[/QUOTE]
If you're unhappy, then find the reason why and change it. I think you already know the reason, you just need to release your inhibitions and do what you need to do to be happy. What you need to do to be happy should be about being with a particular group of people or fitting some high school image.
Ditch all of your friends. Get a girl for 3 months.
Totally worth it.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;21743477]Even if your friends aren't popular, they're your friends because of you and not because of your social status. If you were to become popular you'd probably know more people but wouldn't be close with any of them.
I think it's pretty depressing that you'd even have to ask whether you should ditch your friends. If you're willing to let them go just like that because of some girl who won't go out with you because you aren't popular, then maybe you'd be doing them a favor by leaving them.
I doubt that's the reason she declined, though. You seem pretty shallow - there are a lot of things she might not like about you that could cause her to say no, including that.[/QUOTE]
Exactly this, you shouldn't abandon people who could be life-long friends over something as ridiculous as social status, especially if your not sure thats what the girl wants
I'm friends with most of the "nerdy" people in my classes and most of the "popular" people in my classes. Do you know how I do that?
Don't be a selfish dick.
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If you really think like that though, you should leave your friends. You would seem like a horrible friend irl, willing to betray your own group of friends for something that isn't even tangible. Although I can't say which would be worse.
I think you guys misunderstood.
It's not like I'm going to completly ditch all of my friends, that's not what I meant.
I was planning on not hanging with them as much to hang out with other groups, but of course I would still be friends with them.
Get a twin brother named Cody.
I am friends with everyone in my year group. I go to parties whenever there is one and on weekdays I laze around on this forum or play games, I noticed the more active I was on this forum the less active I was irl but you know what? I don't give a shit.
I am about to leave school I have 4 maths exams tomorrow and I have lost my virginity to a ugly skank. I have always had a surplus of friends in my time of school but I tell you this now education is by far allot more important than social status, worry about how you are going to get laid and who your friends will be after you have left school because right now all they are going to do is go down the pan and bring you with them.
[QUOTE=Akilla;21742955]Asking fp is starting to seem like a bad idea actually.
I thought you were advice-giving gentlemen.[/QUOTE]
....lol
High school will last two more years for you, right? Are you going to abandon the people who genuinely give a damn about you to join a flock of sheep who won't actually care enough to keep in touch when you're done with school? Do you think they would talk to you if it wasn't convenient?
[QUOTE=Akilla;21742866]tl;dr a friend made a counterstrike map of the school, got arrested.[/QUOTE]
Haha, thank you for reminding me of that article.
Marijuana helps in social situations. I mean, don't smoke to fit in, smoke to be chill. :350:
Also, marijuana enhances social skills, makes shit like that easier for less outgoing people, such as myself.
Was the map good?
[QUOTE=Surreal;21744499]Marijuana helps in social situations. I mean, don't smoke to fit in, smoke to be chill. :350:
Also, marijuana enhances social skills, makes shit like that easier for less outgoing people, such as myself.[/QUOTE]
I'm willing to try marijuana actually, though I wouldn't know where to get any.
oh lawd. This turned from "hey guise should I ditch my loyal friends and go hang out with assholes so I can get a date?" to "help me get drugs!"
[QUOTE=pyrofiliac;21742892]You should have told that bitch to suck your dick instead of acting like a pussy and "asking her out".[/QUOTE]
Aren't you gay?
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;21744872]oh lawd. This turned from "hey guise should I ditch my loyal friends and go hang out with assholes so I can get a date?" to "help me get drugs!"[/QUOTE]
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[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;21744872]oh lawd. This turned from "hey guise should I ditch my loyal friends and go hang out with assholes so I can get a date?" to "help me get drugs!"[/QUOTE]
I don't want you to get me any drugs, lol.
And I'm not "ditching" my friends to get a date, I'm not "ditching" my friends at all.
Unless we have a different definition of "ditch".
[QUOTE=Akilla;21745003]I don't want you to get me any drugs, lol.
And I'm not "ditching" my friends to get a date, I'm not "ditching" my friends at all.
Unless we have a different definition of "ditch".[/QUOTE]
You said you would be spending less time with them. You'd still be neglecting or distancing yourself from them, even if not leaving them entirely.
A word of advice, don't go for the extremely hot chicks.
They'll always just reject you because they don't want to get screwed by someone less than a total jackass.
[QUOTE=LiveGrenade;21745065]A word of advice, don't go for the extremely hot chicks.
They'll always just reject you because they don't want to get screwed by someone less than a total jackass.[/QUOTE]
She seemed interested, I was wrong I guess.
All I did in my freshman years and onward, is be funny and outstanding, not necessarily to a group of people, but just in general. If a joke were to present it self, I would carry it out. If there were school assemblies, and I were to speak, I would make it fun.
If I were to make a joke in any class that is really good, alot of the girls, which in your case are all separated in to "Ugly" and "Good looking/popular" Would come over and talk to me and just have fun, which got most other people in the school to talk to me alot.
The only thing though you should focus on, is have fun. It wont matter if it is with all the "Cool" people, It wont matter if it is with the "Un-cool" people. Which a horrible way to look at people in a whole. The way I've found you group people is from someone not even in high school would describe high school. I know, I was in elementary before, I thought it was that exact way. But once I did get in high school, none of it was like that. Alot of people hung out with each other not even depending of who they hung out with anyway.
What i'm saying here is, and what im assuming is, I think you aren't really in high school and you just want attention by making up a really depressing thread, (About school by the way, which you really shouldn't) and are probably still in elementary thinking high school is full of Jockey assholes and slutty girls. So noone can really help you for a problem that isn't really there.
And if this is real. Don't talk to a forum full of self satisfied and smug people just like myself. Talk to an adult if it's really "Mindfucking" you and you don't know what to do.
[QUOTE=Toothpick;21746113]All I did in my freshman years and onward, is be funny and outstanding, not necessarily to a group of people, but just in general. If a joke were to present it self, I would carry it out. If there were school assemblies, and I were to speak, I would make it fun.
If I were to make a joke in any class that is really good, alot of the girls, which in your case are all separated in to "Ugly" and "Good looking/popular" Would come over and talk to me and just have fun, which got most other people in the school to talk to me alot.
The only thing though you should focus on, is have fun. It wont matter if it is with all the "Cool" people, It wont matter if it is with the "Un-cool" people. Which a horrible way to look at people in a whole. The way I've found you group people is from someone not even in high school would describe high school. I know, I was in elementary before, I thought it was that exact way. But once I did get in high school, none of it was like that. Alot of people hung out with each other not even depending of who they hung out with anyway.
What i'm saying here is, and what im assuming is, I think you aren't really in high school and you just want attention by making up a really depressing thread, (About school by the way, which you really shouldn't) and are probably still in elementary thinking high school is full of Jockey assholes and slutty girls. So noone can really help you for a problem that isn't really there.
And if this is real. Don't talk to a forum full of self satisfied and smug people just like myself. Talk to an adult if it's really "Mindfucking" you and you don't know what to do.[/QUOTE]
Before high school I didn't "believe" in those groups, as a matter of fact.
Heres a tip. The "Players" get rejected all the time, but the reason you always see them with girls is because when they get rejected they just shrug it off and ask another chick. So dont take it too personally, and instead of worrying about why she said no, just think that shes missing out.
Shiiit son.
HERE COMES THE STORY OF THE ME.
I am 16, righto. Last year I had reached a point where I had a couple of shitty friends and also, closer friends. I was also sad or rather academically depressed, my grades sucked ass, I had no girl, etc, etc.
I wasn't really popular, and I believed people would just like to step over and on me, like you, I got along with the cool kidz individually, but when grouped, I got singled out.
Life wasn't happy, shit was cracking, so I just let go on this. The year went through, I went to no parties (my best friend never goes to parties, so I used to).
On the end, I had a shit ton of exams to make up for my shitty grading, so I had to study the whole summer. I met this old girl friend while studying and we went out during january and a bit of february together. We studied a lot together, had fun times with each other, and so.
Then came the exams.
I had to do a shitload of exams, I passed around 4 or so subjects. Then I failed the rest. That was bad.
I got held back for the year.
Before school started, I was at an impasse of depression. I had lost most of my company and I was the eldest guy in my new generation. I thought I was gonna die, in a new place, with new people.
But I was wrong!
These new people were all interesting, and I had a blank sheet to start from. Also all the exams I passed paid out in full, leaving me with a lot of free time between subjects. I can help people in my free time, see if I can get along with my old friends (we are still in the same school), and I get along with all the girls, they notice I'm a happy guy, they notice I'm a relaxed man. I am getting invited to most, if not all parties, I get to chill with the young poontang, being the eldest and most mature, the chicks also dig that. I grew a goatee/beard of sorts. Facial hair is awesome. I met this special girl, and I'm still working my way up to her, she is fine, and she actually talks a lot to me. I talk to her too.
I realized, I am actually happy. How did this happen? I waited. I failed a year, yes, but so came all this awesome generation of cool people who consider me actually a cool guy.
tl;dr: 420 smoke weed erryday
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Shit, almost forgot.
I entered the YMCA this year too. I learned my kind need to exercise, or else. I do swimming and I also go to the gym to get pumped. All this, also takes part in the endorphin field. These make you feel good.
[QUOTE=DinoJesus;21747115]Heres a tip. The "Players" get rejected all the time, but the reason you always see them with girls is because when they get rejected they just shrug it off and ask another chick. So dont take it too personally, and instead of worrying about why she said no, just think that shes missing out.[/QUOTE]
I'm no player.
[QUOTE=Zero Ziat;21747715]Shiiit son.
HERE COMES THE STORY OF THE ME.
I am 16, righto. Last year I had reached a point where I had a couple of shitty friends and also, closer friends. I was also sad or rather academically depressed, my grades sucked ass, I had no girl, etc, etc.
I wasn't really popular, and I believed people would just like to step over and on me, like you, I got along with the cool kidz individually, but when grouped, I got singled out.
Life wasn't happy, shit was cracking, so I just let go on this. The year went through, I went to no parties (my best friend never goes to parties, so I used to).
On the end, I had a shit ton of exams to make up for my shitty grading, so I had to study the whole summer. I met this old girl friend while studying and we went out during january and a bit of february together. We studied a lot together, had fun times with each other, and so.
Then came the exams.
I had to do a shitload of exams, I passed around 4 or so subjects. Then I failed the rest. That was bad.
I got held back for the year.
Before school started, I was at an impasse of depression. I had lost most of my company and I was the eldest guy in my new generation. I thought I was gonna die, in a new place, with new people.
But I was wrong!
These new people were all interesting, and I had a blank sheet to start from. Also all the exams I passed paid out in full, leaving me with a lot of free time between subjects. I can help people in my free time, see if I can get along with my old friends (we are still in the same school), and I get along with all the girls, they notice I'm a happy guy, they notice I'm a relaxed man. I am getting invited to most, if not all parties, I get to chill with the young poontang, being the eldest and most mature, the chicks also dig that. I grew a goatee/beard of sorts. Facial hair is awesome. I met this special girl, and I'm still working my way up to her, she is fine, and she actually talks a lot to me. I talk to her too.
I realized, I am actually happy. How did this happen? I waited. I failed a year, yes, but so came all this awesome generation of cool people who consider me actually a cool guy.
tl;dr: 420 smoke weed erryday
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Shit, almost forgot.
I entered the YMCA this year too. I learned my kind need to exercise, or else. I do swimming and I also go to the gym to get pumped. All this, also takes part in the endorphin field. These make you feel good.[/QUOTE]
Shiit son
lol typical radiohead fan
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