• Help me change my life
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[QUOTE=Akilla;21742955]Asking fp is starting to seem like a bad idea actually. I thought you were advice-giving gentlemen.[/QUOTE] Very wrong.
I would have gone out with you, OP.
Alas I kind of suffer from the same problems as the OP, however it's gotten better lately. Although now that I've said that everything will probably go shit for me, whenever some good happens to me something alot worse happens in return.
Listen OP, do you really want to change? If the answer is yes, do what I do, be yourself. Now I don't mean act like a total pussy who can't stand up for his or herself. I mean state your opinion loud and proud. I find it a lot more fun to be a leader, not a follower. I'm in the popular crowd even though I still play Pokemon. (I ended up reviving its popularity in my school, ironically) How I did this you ask? When someone asked me, "Why are you playing Pokemon?" I would always reply, "Why not?" After that, they knew that insulting me about this would be futile. People love to insult people the higher they are on the social level. It's a dog eat dog world. You just have to be yourself and remain optimistic. Basically, it's like saying "Fuck you" with a smile on your face.
1. Get alcohol 2. Find a pary to go to 3. Start socialization 4. Become popular
[QUOTE=Akilla;21742866]Hello facepunch, I have been lurking around for the last few days, and I've decided to ask for advice here, since I have nothing to lose I guess. Although this is my first post, please bear with me. My name is Zack, and for all of my 16 years of life, there is something that I have never actually cared about, being "popular", "cool" or even accepted, and I was happy with my small group of friends. Well, I'm sick of them now. Sick of who I am. My eyes have been opened, and the truth is blinding. I'm a loser to the eyes of my schoolmates (note, I never thought that I was popular or anything, I just thought that I was "there", you know?) Why were my eyes opened, you ask? Well, to make a long story short, a girl, who I begun talking to about 4 months ago. She's beautiful, lovely, etc. I asked her out (because I never thought that I was THAT bad), and she said no. I was crushed, as you may imagine. This got me thinking, "why would she say no? she has shown some interest, we had fun together talking and whatnot, and I'm not bad looking at all." and then I realized. No matter how much we like each other (if she liked me that way at all), someone as popular as her wouldn't be with a loser like me. I started analyzing 'why' I could be considered a loser, and what I saw I did not like. I'm quiet, you never see me outside school (and if you do see me at school, you probably don't notice). SO, I decided to change. This year I have been slowly but surely changing my ways, trying to talk to random people, and they actually seem to accept me, which makes me happy. There is still a lot of things to change, though. But, as much as I hate to say this, since it makes me a huge asshole, the main thing that is holding me back is my current group of friends, which is probably the lowest on the social spectrum of my school. Holy shit, I cannot stand them anymore. I just can't stand them, the things they do and say. We've grown apart I guess. Here is where this huge mind-clusterfuck begins for me. What the fuck do I do. Do I stay with my current group of friends, which bores the bejesus out of me, or do I try and 'force myself' into the more popular groups? I'm already friends with some of the popular people, singularly I get along with them just fine, but as soon as they begin hanging on a table or something I don't know how to approach them, since I feel like I'm an outsider, and that they won't like me there since I don't belong there. The excuse that I used to make about the more popular kids and why I didn't like them was that they were assholes, that they judged me and shit. i realized that I was judging them as well, and that the things that they did that "makes them assholes" I do to others as well, so I'm no different. NOTE: I'm not trying to change myself for them, nor am I conforming. I just want to break out of this cage, it didn't seem to bother me before. I also know that my realization of me being a loser is based on overannalayzing, but it made me realize that I hate my current life and I needed to change, so I guess it was a good thing. tl;dr a friend made a counterstrike map of the school, got arrested. Also, I realize my social life sucks, I hate the image everyone seems to have on for me, and I guess I want to be popular now.[/QUOTE] Most of my life has kind of been like yours, except I had to switch schools and every female at my old school was a bitch. Even the women of the school were bitches who treated me like shit because I got C's and D's.(plus everyone at the school was a douche bag) While I still went to this school I had nerd friends and I was considered a nerd because I liked video games and because I only played on the PC at home. But In 2008 I went to an ALC, was considered A 12 year old because of my bowl cut and my glasses.(even though I was 14) But when I entered 10th grade this year, I was respected by the ALC students. (who almost all are the "gangster" types and they all talk about going to parties and going to parks to use their bongs) They all are quite nice and have a better attitude than the stories they have told me about the schools they went to. But long story short, Deal with the people at school because none of it will matter when you graduate.
I have 1 friend, i stutter, i'm somewhat fat, i take Antidepressant and i barely get out. Your life is better than mine, be happy! :buddy:. Yes i'm serious.
And we would know how? Edit: Pants your friends in lunch: Instant bromance with everyone
I feel like we're selling OP's soul to the pop culture devil. :(
[QUOTE=Chekko;21783458]I have 1 friend, i stutter, i'm somewhat fat, i take Antidepressant and i barely get out. Your life is better than mine, be happy! :buddy:. Yes i'm serious.[/QUOTE] everyone has problems. What's important is whether you're able to cope with them.
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