• My problem with my gender; aka how I hate being a guy
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Hey, a Chinese guy.
[QUOTE=Klownox;23931809]Bad advice. I mean, really terrible advice. [editline]12:14AM[/editline] Her sex is XY. Her gender is female. Please learn about some basic science/behavioral psychology before making judgement calls.[/QUOTE] ... XY is male. And you're saying her/his gender is female. ... ARE YOU TAKING DRUGS?
[QUOTE=Aegis°;23931954]Hey, a Chinese guy.[/QUOTE] Half.
[QUOTE=TheKnowItAll;23931968]... XY is male. And you're saying her/his gender is female. ... ARE YOU TAKING DRUGS?[/QUOTE] As I said, learn some basic science/behavioral psychology. Your biological sex is determined by your sex chromosomes. XX is female. XY is male. Then there are things like XXY which are anomalies. Your gender, on the other hand is determined quite differently. Stuff like social roles, or different psychological disorders or differences. A person might feel that they are male, female or both genders. This may contradict their physical form and can cause depression or self-hatred. When this occurs it is commonly called gender identity disorder. The best way to treat it is on a case-by-case basis with counselling from a specialized therapist.
Or be a man (woman), and yank out the extra chromosome.
[QUOTE=Tukimoshi;23931488] [IMG]http://izismile.com/img/img2/20090717/kim_petras_00.jpg[/IMG] Left: Before Right: After[/QUOTE] what the fuck
Uh X is not a sustainable person.
[QUOTE=B1N4RY!;23931864]Not the best or the most recent image of myself, but here it is [IMG]http://i34.tinypic.com/2cp3ntc.jpg[/IMG][/QUOTE] Holy fuck you look just like me. Except that I have glasses and shorter hair.
I love being a guy. It gives you more opportunities in life.
[QUOTE=hl2poo;23932389]Holy fuck you look just like me. Except that I have glasses and shorter hair.[/QUOTE] Asian stereotype away.
[QUOTE=hl2poo;23932389]Holy fuck you look just like me. Except that I have glasses and shorter hair.[/QUOTE] You just ruined my day [editline]11:14PM[/editline] Are you full chinese or what? And post pics
Crying won't help you just need to accept who you are,have fun with your life,you only have one and wasting it just because you're not what you want to be is stupid.
Sorry to read your story OP. It could be your just going through the phases that every other teenager DOES go through. Usually this would be more typical between 12-14 year olds vs. 17. If you really do want to be a woman then there's not really much you can do currently. I'd advise going on the rainbow side of life, might help? Don't come out to anyone you know in real life yet. That's honestly the worst thing you could probably do. And if you plan on it just to relieve your chest, do it with your best friend. If it's a true friend then they won't judge you and realize your just a normal human being. Suicide is not the answer. It never is. I'm not going to give you the same speech that every other poster has said on how not to do it because that is pretty obvious. If you'd like to speak to people you came to the right place. It's best to speak online before you jump to any conclusions on real-life actions. If you wanna talk some more feel free to send me a PM.
I want to sympathize with you, OP. I really do. However, I'm finding it a little difficult. From what I've gathered, you tried the same thing two weeks ago and failed at, gaining a ban in the process. At that point you really should have realized that FP is not the place to go for the kind of emotional support that you say you need. Sure, there are some people who genuinely care, but it's a little overshadowed by the sheer amount of ridicule that's going to be thrown at you. The fact that you've tried, failed, and tried again gives me a bad "attention whore" vibe from you (I may or may not be correct, but it's what I feel). If you're not willing to accept surgery, then there's really nothing we can do to help you. We can't perform a pagan ritual to remove your manhood. Even if you did go through surgery, you wouldn't be able to live life as fully as you want. You can't have kids, you'll have to explain to any significant others that you were once a guy, and the sheer cost of all of this alone will probably ruin you. As much as I hate to admit it, guys are absolute cocks when it comes to a relationship. The idea that you were once a man is going to drive a lot of potential relationships in to near-instant nonexistence. It's an unfortunate way that most men think. The fact that you're willing to end your life over something you can't control shows that you have a lot of growing up to do. It'd be like if I wanted to kill myself because a cars don't run on feces or something. There's really nothing I can do about it (terrible analogy, but I tried). Again, you constantly saying you want to end yourself is giving off that "attention whore" vibe I mentioned previously. There's is nothing in this life that warrants ending yourself. If I suffered through horrible torture every day, I'd still stay alive for the sheer hope that the next day will be better. You can't change the way you are, but you should accept it and take all the good and the bad, regardless of what it is. As I said, I want to feel bad for you and sympathize, but I can't. I can't feel comfortable sympathizing with somebody who isn't comfortable coming out and revealing who they are. By choosing anonymity, you have shown that you knew your post would bring about a shitstorm of ridicule and idiotic posts. You need a reality check, not people holding your hand and tell you that everything is going to be ok. You need help, but I can't sit here and tell you that going to a therapist is going to solve all of your problems. Until further notice, you are stuck with the body you have, and everything that comes with that. You refuse surgery and cross-dressing, which are really your only options. By refusing these, you are telling us that you'd rather sit and feel sorry for yourself, and not take proactive steps to at least TRY and become closer to what you want to be. Not only does that make me feel less sympathetic, but all loses you a degree of respect on this end. Nothing gets done by people who sit on their asses and wish for something to happen, without either a) making it happen or b) trying to at least get damn close. I've said everything I can say without rambling too much. You are who you are. You can either accept that and be happy, or be miserable. Ending your life will not help you and is incredibly selfish. You might think it'll help, but you will destroy the people you left behind who truly cared about you. In the end, it's your choice. I'm just a guy, sitting on the other end of a computer monitor. I can't dictate the way you feel, but I can at least try to put it in to a little bit of perspective. Only you can choose whether or not you live a life of sorrow or happiness. I've said what needs to be said.
[QUOTE=B1N4RY!;23931864]Not the best or the most recent image of myself, but here it is [IMG]http://i34.tinypic.com/2cp3ntc.jpg[/IMG][/QUOTE] You look like your name is Jeffrey. You should be a Giraffe. [editline]08:38AM[/editline] Jeffrey the Giraffe.
Wow, um, get a sex change anyway?
[QUOTE=Dalndox;23934030]I want to sympathize with you, OP. I really do. However, I'm finding it a little difficult. From what I've gathered, you tried the same thing two weeks ago and failed at, gaining a ban in the process. At that point you really should have realized that FP is not the place to go for the kind of emotional support that you say you need. Sure, there are some people who genuinely care, but it's a little overshadowed by the sheer amount of ridicule that's going to be thrown at you. The fact that you've tried, failed, and tried again gives me a bad "attention whore" vibe from you (I may or may not be correct, but it's what I feel). If you're not willing to accept surgery, then there's really nothing we can do to help you. We can't perform a pagan ritual to remove your manhood. Even if you did go through surgery, you wouldn't be able to live life as fully as you want. You can't have kids, you'll have to explain to any significant others that you were once a guy, and the sheer cost of all of this alone will probably ruin you. As much as I hate to admit it, guys are absolute cocks when it comes to a relationship. The idea that you were once a man is going to drive a lot of potential relationships in to near-instant nonexistence. It's an unfortunate way that most men think. The fact that you're willing to end your life over something you can't control shows that you have a lot of growing up to do. It'd be like if I wanted to kill myself because a cars don't run on feces or something. There's really nothing I can do about it (terrible analogy, but I tried). Again, you constantly saying you want to end yourself is giving off that "attention whore" vibe I mentioned previously. There's is nothing in this life that warrants ending yourself. If I suffered through horrible torture every day, I'd still stay alive for the sheer hope that the next day will be better. You can't change the way you are, but you should accept it and take all the good and the bad, regardless of what it is. As I said, I want to feel bad for you and sympathize, but I can't. I can't feel comfortable sympathizing with somebody who isn't comfortable coming out and revealing who they are. By choosing anonymity, you have shown that you knew your post would bring about a shitstorm of ridicule and idiotic posts. You need a reality check, not people holding your hand and tell you that everything is going to be ok. You need help, but I can't sit here and tell you that going to a therapist is going to solve all of your problems. Until further notice, you are stuck with the body you have, and everything that comes with that. You refuse surgery and cross-dressing, which are really your only options. By refusing these, you are telling us that you'd rather sit and feel sorry for yourself, and not take proactive steps to at least TRY and become closer to what you want to be. Not only does that make me feel less sympathetic, but all loses you a degree of respect on this end. Nothing gets done by people who sit on their asses and wish for something to happen, without either a) making it happen or b) trying to at least get damn close. I've said everything I can say without rambling too much. You are who you are. You can either accept that and be happy, or be miserable. Ending your life will not help you and is incredibly selfish. You might think it'll help, but you will destroy the people you left behind who truly cared about you. In the end, it's your choice. I'm just a guy, sitting on the other end of a computer monitor. I can't dictate the way you feel, but I can at least try to put it in to a little bit of perspective. Only you can choose whether or not you live a life of sorrow or happiness. I've said what needs to be said.[/QUOTE] Very good points. We will never be able to fully switch genders. At least not for a long time. Your cock can be sliced off and you can take hormones and such but you're always going to know. You just have to accept what cannot be changed. I dunno why you feel the need for the anonymity. I personally don't care if your a man or a woman or both. I'll probably never meet you and neither will Facepunch. I do see where coming out to a person you know is hard though. You're not sure of their reactions and for some people it could end the relationship there. I say take caution and come out to a close friend to see how they take it. Odds are they will be the first to accept you, more-so then family.
You can not chage gender, you grew up as a girl/boy. Also, a famous austrian skier was mistaken for 30 years as a woman, but suddenly they found out that his penis was just small wehn he was born. Even he didnt know until that.
[img]http://userserve-ak.last.fm/serve/_/21179869/Kim+Petras+kimpetras.jpg[/img] Say hi to Kim Petras, Born Tim Petras. OP - xkcd forums has a lovelly LGTBQQ thread that you might want to check out.
You're born as you're born as you're born. My feet suck and I need glasses but there's no point crying about it.
[QUOTE=Capitulazyguy;23935061]You're born as you're born as you're born. My feet suck and I need glasses but there's no point crying about it.[/QUOTE] Well, bitches colour their hair when they don't like the colour. He should have the right to change what he is. And I understand him very well, since it's the same thing I feel. And, guys, FYI, the only ones who know how much descrimination againts black people sucks aren't white guys...
This is 100% wallid. Damn, this guy has no life.
To the people saying "you're born as you're born" or other related things: exactly. He was born as a female. Your gender is unrelated to your biological sex.
You're the way you are for a reason. Make the best of it.
[QUOTE=kenji;23934913][IMG]http://userserve-ak.last.fm/serve/_/21179869/Kim+Petras+kimpetras.jpg[/IMG] Say hi to Kim Petras, Born Tim Petras. OP - xkcd forums has a lovelly LGTBQQ thread that you might want to check out.[/QUOTE] Holy crap... :O
HaHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAH aAHHAHAHAHAHA HA [B]Edit:[/B] This story got me.
[QUOTE=Klownox;23931809]Her sex is XY. Her gender is female. Please learn about some basic science/behavioral psychology before making judgement calls.[/QUOTE] You can't just say "Oh hey I'm female, look at me I'm in a dress and I act like I'm on my period once a month to sound credible" and magically it's true, the world doesn't work by wishful thinking. You can trick people into thinking you're female by changing your appearance, but in the end all that is is a carefully constructed lie and can create a whole array of dilemmas for the person and any potential partners. It's not really becoming a different gender, it's just tricking others into believing you are what you aren't, and I fail to see how in this case simply believing it makes it true while in other cases it doesn't. I liken it to believing the guy on the street corner ringing the bell really is Santa Clause if he sounds convincing enough, and while this may not be the best analogy, it's more or less exactly what's going on in a sex change or when someone cross dresses. And while I feel for the op, there's nothing we can really do for him but give him the attention that he apparently so desperately craves. Op, if you know what's best for you you'll go see a therapist. There's no other option that will help you more than to go see a qualified, professional therapist. Facepunch will not offer moral support, we're just a bunch of teenagers online with varying political and moral views and that's not what you want when your faced with something like this. You'll only cause more problems. But in any case, I wish you the best of luck in your future.
Just like being gay being transsexual is a physiological oddity. What you don't understand or don't want to understand is physical "sex" can differ from mental "gender".
I understand what you mean, one of my friends went through this too. Youll get through it :D
[QUOTE=B1N4RY!;23931864]Not the best or the most recent image of myself, but here it is [IMG]http://i34.tinypic.com/2cp3ntc.jpg[/IMG][/QUOTE] Welcome to the asian club. PS: Which camera is that again? --- With that aside, to OP. I agree with some people about gender confusion but at the same time there's people who have thought about it but never really wanted to keep it in their head ya' know. By 2020 a full body transplant could be possible, but at the same time you lived how long of your life as a guy. Simply being in a new body doesn't automatically mean your a girl. Your just a guy in a girl body. It doesn't justify anything if you are able to "act" like it. There's no such thing as being the perfect girl without hypnosis or anything of the like. I mean hopefully shit works out. But in general your not alone when it comes to things like that. I'll be honest and say that I might have gone that path maybe once or twice. Even three times possibly. But you eventually give up the idea because you know that it seems almost impossible.
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