• Corporal Punishment?
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I got slapped in the ass and in the face. I also got my ears pulled, when I acted like a spoiled ass. I'm still a nice guy in real life, not a psychotic murder/rapist.
[QUOTE=CoolKingKaso;24240603]I got slapped in the ass and in the face. I also got my ears pulled, when I acted like a spoiled ass. I'm still a nice guy in real life, not a psychotic murder/rapist.[/QUOTE] Hehe, hehe. :3: (backs away slowly)
Eh my dad spanked me when I was younger. Not traumatized one bit.
It's good in moderation. Look at Singapore, they have a fairly low crime rate, and you can get caned for shit like parking violations. *Officer gives parking ticket* "Hey officer, there's no fee on this ticket, only a time and place!" "Yeah. Make sure you show up, and don't wear your best pants. Also, bring some skin cream."
From what I understand almost all scientific research on the matter has concluded that it does not help and only increases violent tendencies. [editline]09:08PM[/editline] [QUOTE=ElectricSquid;24245277]It's good in moderation. Look at Singapore, they have a fairly low crime rate, and you can get caned for shit like parking violations. *Officer gives parking ticket* "Hey officer, there's no fee on this ticket, only a time and place!" "Yeah. Make sure you show up, and don't wear your best pants. Also, bring some skin cream."[/QUOTE] Singapore is a shithole where porn is illegal. Fuck Singapore.
I don't care how people raise their kids. It's none of my business.
[QUOTE=Fosty99;24239051]Slap the fuck out of them if they get out of line.[/QUOTE] Unfortunately that doesn't really work. Actually it hasn't ever worked. In fact, in just about every circumstance in which such a policy has been instated, it hasn't worked. Ever.
I used to get smacked for being naughty. I think it's made me respect my parents as I love at the same time as slightly fearing them.
[QUOTE=Hobo4President;24238085] Please stop attempting to make yourself sound like a psychologist.[/QUOTE] Please stop the ad hominem attacks- they have no place here. [editline]10:26PM[/editline] [QUOTE=Fenriswolf;24245112]Eh my dad spanked me when I was younger. Not traumatized one bit.[/QUOTE] Do you have a short temper
Once my dad threw me into a brick wall because he was angry at my sister
[QUOTE=Destitide;24247356]Please stop the ad hominem attacks- they have no place here. Do you have a short temper[/QUOTE] lol
[QUOTE=Lizzzard;24247208]I used to get smacked for being naughty. I think it's made me respect my parents as I love at the same time as slightly fearing them.[/QUOTE] Yeah there's something wrong if you fear your own parents.
[QUOTE=MegaJohnny;24248448]Yeah there's something wrong if you fear your own parents.[/QUOTE] Yeah, you shouldn't need to fear them. Obedience is key. OBEY
Its funny, whenever i do something bad, my parents spanked my ass by the way. I have this terrible gut wrenching feeling, like getting a C on a test or doing something bad. Helps me stay on track.
[QUOTE=The Aussie;24250479]Its funny, whenever i do something bad, my parents spanked my ass by the way. I have this terrible gut wrenching feeling, like getting a C on a test or doing something bad. Helps me stay on track.[/QUOTE] This, but I only remember getting it once and it really wasn't anything bad. It really did help deter me away from doing anything bad as a kid.
My parents never hit me and I am a good kid (I do what they tell me) and I don't fuck around in school. My parents raised me well and they always explained what I had done wrong and answered any questions I had.
Violance is wrong but in the real world, it is survival of the fittest. What a bollox real world cant we all get along?
I got spanked when I was little, even got the belt once or twice. I, like every other person who was spanked, am perfectly fine, and my parents are very nice and we get along really well. And what BmB said (and loves to quote): [QUOTE=BmB;24210949]Please realize and distance yourself from this phenomenon, see through the veil of your own perception before taking a stance.[/QUOTE] Also applies to you. You did not get smacked, so you think that your parents method was correct, and that since you turned out fine and weren't spanked/slapped, anyone who was is a fucked up violent asshole. I bet that most of these studies were about children who were heavily beaten/abused, not those who got the occasional hit to the back of the head, as well.
Its obvious that most postres here where abused and simply say it is ok because they "became better people" and dont want to change their ideology.
My Dad made me go get my own switch off of trees when I was a kid when I did something really bad, always picked the smaller ones because I thought they'd hurt less, needless to say that isn't how it worked at all :v:
I was beat a couple times during my younger teens when I fucked up a decent bit. It straightened me out, but the few times it happened kind fucked with how I saw my parents for a short while, I wouldn't ever recommend it because their are much better, safer, and more efficient ways to get a point across, it just takes a tiny bit more thought than "make the lil fucker fear the shit out of you"
I'm disturbed by the amount of "Yes"es.
I was raised just like how my father was raised - You got a slap if you did something you're older man did not approve of, and depending on the seriousness of it, it could of been a real stinger if you did something very bad. However despite this in my recent years I haven't been punished as such, I respect my old man and I love him, sometimes I think I deserved the beatings for being an asshole. Recently my parents decided to have another child but instead of raising him the "old way" phyiscal action is rather rarely used. It's always yelling and it annoys me because it goes on for ages when a single slap can get it done near immediately. Things like "go to your room!" or "eat your pasta!" are always bother-some. All he (brother) says back is constantly a "no!" and it's a yelling battle. However this is generally between my mother and him but when it's between him and my dad it usually ends after two minutes with a slap. Also FYI my brother is 4. If children think they're the king shits and not listen to what you are saying to them you have failed as a parent. Physical action is the only way to get the message across because they can't challenge you over that and well - It can be painful sometimes. I personally don't believe this "go to the naughty corner" bullshit everyone goes on about; I'd rather raise my kids (that isn't yet of course) to NOT disrespect me, to LISTEN to me and give just respect everyone in general. However going on about that - I don't approve of absolute abuse of children. Just one slap will do, not kicking your kids to death. It's good if it ain't that harmful but as soon as you do the hits you'd normally do to other adults to cause a moderate-great amount of pain it is an absolute no-go. However anyways don't get confused - Just because I might need to beat my children doesn't mean I don't love them, I myself still love my dad for helping me through life. Life just isn't meant to be easy, but then again if I wasn't beaten as a child for all you know I might be on the streets now. Also I hate going shopping to hear some toddler screaming at his mother because "I want this toy!" or "I want to go home!" or any other reason. The mother always tries in vain to get the child to shut up but what I don't understand is that why DON'T they hit the child to get them to shut up? Oh but then again because of our twisted society you'd instantly be criticised for it and labelled as a bad parent. Fuck.
[QUOTE=Mister B;24258035]I'm disturbed by the amount of "Yes"es.[/QUOTE] I'm not, corporal punishment used correctly can be quite effective.
My parents used corporal punishment very, very lightly but even looking back at it I [B]do[/B] [B]not [/B]regard it as okay. Children don't need to feel physical pain in order to gain a mutual understanding. What parents need is patience and to me corporal punishment is just the easy way for the lazy. I know a guy whose son was playing with matches when he was 4 years old. When the son lit the match the father took his hand and held it so the boy could not drop the match. The father kept holding his hand until the match burnt the fingers of his son which obviously made him cry in pain. All the father had to say was: "Now you won't play with matches again." Oh, and this was while the father had GUESTS over. Way to be an uncomfortable dick.
My dad would grab me and yell at me if I did some serious shit. He never like, hit or anything though, he didn't want to be like his father, who beat him, tried to kill him twice, even shot a gun at him. [editline]06:24AM[/editline] but actually hitting your kids isn't the answer, especially with children.
[QUOTE=DragonGenX;24225229]Time-out won't do shit, the kid'll just think that all that happens when he does this is he has to sit down for a bit, he doesn't have any negative assosciations with the action except a bit of boredom. My parents slapped me some times, but they always made sure I knew why and it was never hard enough to cause lasting damage, just a little sting so I remembered what I did and why it was wrong. [editline]09:56AM[/editline] Also parental respect is important, if a child respects you then they don't need to be punished as they will do what you say to do and stop doing what you say not to do.[/QUOTE] Yea but I'd overdo it. 6 hours of sitting down doing nothing sounds worse than a smack.
[QUOTE=Kagrs;24260139]My parents used corporal punishment very, very lightly but even looking back at it I [B]do[/B] [B]not [/B]regard it as okay. Children don't need to feel physical pain in order to gain a mutual understanding. What parents need is patience and to me corporal punishment is just the easy way for the lazy. I know a guy whose son was playing with matches when he was 4 years old. When the son lit the match the father took his hand and held it so the boy could not drop the match. The father kept holding his hand until the match burnt the fingers of his son which obviously made him cry in pain. All the father had to say was: "Now you won't play with matches again." Oh, and this was while the father had GUESTS over. Way to be an uncomfortable dick.[/QUOTE] Uh, the second part of your post is pretty irrelevant. That's not corporal punishment, that's abuse.
Think about it, the greatest people were raised with a smack on the wrist only when they did something wrong. It's not bad if you only do it when they do something seriously wrong like saying a curse word when they know its bad.
Using a belt is too much. Actually, using any instrument is wrong. But a little slap is okay.
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