A kid today told me he didn't give a shit about his family and he meant it
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[QUOTE=Doomish;20892240]It was at work yesterday. There's this young guy named Doug. He is the most smug 20 year old I have ever met and I don't even know how he got this job. I'm about 10 years his senior and I gotta say, it really makes me sad. I know everyone has their reasons for dislike in the world, but the way he went on really made me sad inside because he reminded me of myself.
See, when I was about 26, my dad died of lung cancer. Smoked since he was 14. He went through more than a pack a day. He wanted to stop, he really did, but he just couldn't kick it before the inevitable happened. It made me sad to see him go when we were both so young (for his age, at least). But I was out of state taking my quarterly finals in college, and I wasn't even there to see him off before he died. The last thing he said to me was that he was going to miss me when he was gone and I didn't even register that he was going to die until after it happened. I got real depressed, almost failed out of college trying to cope by becoming a problem drinker. My mom remarried almost instantly but that doesn't mean I hate her for it. I graduated and fixed my life right up and here I am today.
But still, what that kid said to me really got to me. I just don't know how he could still think that. When people are 14 or 15 they gripe and complain and think their life is SO HORRIBLE because they can't buy MW2 or the newest Battlefield game. And here I am, listening to this prick go on and on about how his parents mistreated him as a kid. He sounded like he was a fucking teenager the way he was going on about how they didn't buy him what he wanted and things only he would care about. Material possessions and such things. I wanted to hit him but I didn't, I mean what he said hit me right where it hurts.
He didn't even intend to hurt me by saying he didn't give a shit, he was just going on about his troubles, which I can understand. Every person is their own person. But how can a fullgrown almost-legal adult say he hates his family and go down the list of things he hates them for? Most of them weren't even good reasons. I don't know why I'm ranting to Facepunch about this, but I guess I just need someone to talk to about it. I mean, there's nothing I could say back to him, and I know he really didn't mean it, but what can I do about it?
I guess what I'm asking is has anyone else here above the age of [teenager age here] encountered such a person? And, if you hate your family, what are your reasons? If it's legitimate I can understand your anger, but just thinking about the fact that his parents could die at any time for any reason and the only thing he thinks about them is how much he hates them is saddening.[/QUOTE]
You should seek professional council. If someone talking about their family that way makes you rage, you have issues that need to be worked out. Inner peace comes from within, remember that.
i love my family
I would honestly say that 99% of <20 year olds who gripe about their families need a good smack to the face. Have them go talk to some Hatians who had their whole families flattened by a falling building, or some kid in Iraq who had his family explode in a Mosque bombing. Ungrateful fucks.
Yeah well we all have our moments when we hate our parents.
Sometimes our parents did stupid shit, like my dad, but I don't care about that, he's still a fucking sweet dad, and so is mom.
My parents are awesome, and we've literally never had a serious fight. I guess it helps too that i'm not a whiny ignorant beeyotch.
Edit: I'm also humble.
My family abused me and starved me as a child.
force me not to hate them.
[QUOTE=Ahraz;20896491]My family abused me and starved me as a child.
force me not to hate them.[/QUOTE]
In your case, you have a legit reason to hate them.
Have you talked to the police about them yet? :cop:
No, I've moved out now. My brother is still stuck in that madhouse; I try and take care of him when I can.
It's strange, it's not as easy as going to the police and talking about it. Hell, the only people I've ever told about them are faceless strangers on the internet. No matter how bad they are, they're still my parents. Without them, I wouldn't even be here.
My dad hated his mum, so much so that when he had two children he refused for either of us to see her because he thought she'd either disappoint us or say something "so you think you can guilt me into giving you money when I die because you have children now?"
We never saw her and only my dad attended her funeral. Amusingly histroy repeats itself and I have very little contact with my parents, I use them as a financial crutch because they're dumb enough to let me.
I also resent my dad for being physically disabled, while I know it wasn't his fault it did ruin my childhood.
[QUOTE=Ahraz;20897060]No, I've moved out now. My brother is still stuck in that madhouse; I try and take care of him when I can.
It's strange, it's not as easy as going to the police and talking about it. Hell, the only people I've ever told about them are faceless strangers on the internet. No matter how bad they are, they're still my parents. Without them, I wouldn't even be here.[/QUOTE]
On the other hand if people are going to have kids they should know that the child actually has feelings and needs. By no means is their parenthood an excuse to treat you or your brother so poorly.
i don't care if anybody thinks you don't have a good reason for this "rant". i think it's the best reason in the world, such a prick kid... the worst is, he didn't know what effect it had. you can't do much besides let it go or find out more about it and tutor him.
i'd give him a sensible talking to about his behavior, hand him a wake-up call for free, no one else has. remind him of what's said about family... what is it? "friends come and go, but family sticks to the end"?
[QUOTE=Evanlution;20893510]I dislike being around my mum, but not because of material possessions. No, it's much more immature. She makes me feel dumb by speaking to me.[/QUOTE]
Because she's smarter than you?
[QUOTE=Xybjj;20892914]What's your job, OP?[/QUOTE]
I work in an office building from 5:30 to 2:00. The day this happened I was putting in some overtime hours after I was supposed to "clock out". My job right now specifically is to file and log and retype papers on the computer since the office itself just switched over to digitally keeping track of their files. I was lucky I got the job when I did, because I don't have to do too much and it pays pretty well. This happened in the break room over a cup of coffee.
Ah hell, I just realized I made an error in the thread title. It says today in the thread title but it actually happened the day before I posted it.
[QUOTE=Zeke129;20892924]Perhaps because, by your own admission, he had a few good reasons?[/QUOTE]
Some of what he said might have been a legitimate reason for disliking his parents. I'm willing to admit that. He said some things that might have been worthy of deeming your parents bad people, but they were far overshadowed by his other reasons. He hardly even went too much in detail into them.
[QUOTE=Callius;20897470]
I also resent my dad for being physically disabled, while I know it wasn't his fault it did ruin my childhood.[/QUOTE]
Just a question: How are you physically disabled and what caused it?
He sounds like a cunt.
Grr I hate my parents they didn't buy me any luxurious and expensive items. Fuck them.
Too many spoiled brats.
He'll understand that family is the only thing you can really count on..
i encountered a person like that.
I told him that wen his parents die, he's going to feel like complete and utter shit by saying things like that
Heh, my dad used to push me so hard to play soccer, but he stopped now. Only real thing I have to complain about is my dad being a problem drinker. It really makes me sick, and to never want to drink alcohol like he does, which I guess is a good thing for me.
OT: I don't think reading this thread while listening to Intensity in Ten Cities was a good idea... :smith:
Facepunch needs to look up to this guy, what you have been through and now married and such... Congratsz i take my hat off to you.
[QUOTE=firstblood;20899638]Facepunch needs to look up to this guy, what you have been through and now married and such... Congratsz i take my hat off to you.[/QUOTE]
Well I wouldn't go that far with it. I'm just a guy who has an extreme dislike for assholes.
[QUOTE=Doomish;20899676]Well I wouldn't go that far with it. I'm just a guy who has an extreme dislike for assholes.[/QUOTE]
He might have had good reasons. Rarely when people bitch about things do they get out what they really are annoyed by.
I remeber this fat ginger kid said his mum had breat cancer and that he hoped he died, that day was not a very good day for him. punched by everyone in the school then chased down the field and dog piled.
[QUOTE=Doomish;20899676]Well I wouldn't go that far with it. I'm just a guy who has an extreme dislike for assholes.[/QUOTE]
What i was trying to say is you have had a life breaking experience and you have ever came that graduated and got married. Sometimes people can't handle it, I know i would break down if one of my parents died. you have been through that and over came it, you sir are a real man and i wish you good and happy life you deserve it.
Fuck him, my mother has said several times that she wants to die because of me, and I still love her to death.
how could you hate your family...
[QUOTE=Peavy262;20899922]Fuck him, my mother has said several times that she wants to die because of me, and I still love her to death.
how could you hate your family...[/QUOTE]
Easily with the right circumstances.
I dislike my family for reasons I won't post on here but hating them because they won't buy you shit? That really is stupid.
[QUOTE=Doomish;20892240]But still, what that kid said to me really got to me. I just don't know how he could still think that. When people are 14 or 15 they gripe and complain and think their life is SO HORRIBLE because they can't buy MW2 or the newest Battlefield game.[/QUOTE]
No, no, no, you misunderstand, my nerdy 14-year-old life sucks because I can't RUN BC2 well!
Also, teenagers don't seem to get much respect anymore, but then again at that kind of a person its not hard to understand why.
Looks like somebody is too kool for skool.
:colbert:
Sometimes i get pissed off at my parents and they get pissed with me. Sometimes we have problems communicating and don't get along, but by no means is any family is perfect. I don't hate them at all, i don't think i've ever said "I hate my fucking parents" in my entire life.
They've gave me everything i could ever want and more as a child, i would consider myself lucky just to have both my parents and have nice things. Despite getting cool stuff and having a overall good childhood, sometimes i would misbehave and get something taken away. Sure i hated it, but i never said i "Fucking hate you, or i hate my fucking parents."
Whenever i hear it it makes me rage to no end. Kids these days man, all you hear is "My mom took away my phone because i went 100 dollars over our limit. She is such a fucking bitch, it is only 100 dollars." Or "my dad took away my car because i was driving like ass hat, he is such a fag." when i hear shit like that it makes me rage to no end, how can you say that about someone who gives you everything and feeds you? I mean if you have a legit reason to hate your parents (IE Abuse, ect) then fine. But don't act like a spoiled little prat.
TLDR; Respect your parents.
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