• Relationships is it eaiser for girls or guys ?
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There may be aspects that are easier for each gender, but I'd reckon it's overall 50/50.
For getting laid, it's easier for a girl.. for maintaining a relationship, it's just as hard/easy for both guys and girls.
[QUOTE=thisispain;34352390]the concept of easiest confuses me. how do we objectively say something is the easiest when no-one can be both genders at the same time?[/QUOTE] The least amount of effort :v:
Easier for girls.
Because men usually ask women out, it's harder for men to start a relationship. Though I dunno, maybe it's hard for the woman to wait for the one who will ask her out. Really depends on the case, but I guess that building up confidence to ask someone out 'is' harder than waiting for someone to ask you out. But damn, asking someone out sure feels good for the very few first times. Adrenaline rush and all that, I guess it gets easier and duller.
usually the guy has to take initiative to ask the girl out. So the guy.
I personally feel that there is an equal amount of weight upon both genders. Males: The first thing that comes to mind is confidence. The male is usually the one to instigate the communication with the female and with that they are the ones that face judgment. Now there are many males who don't have a lot of confidence which makes it a lot harder for them to ask out girl. The other problem males face is the simplicity of which they live their lives. Males don't ask for much but at the same time don't expect much either for the most part which will lead onto my argument at the bottom. Females: Females are the choosers but what allows them the capability to do this is their appearance towards males. Females have to endure the constant struggle to make themselves look extremely presentable towards males which is hard to do. The other problem is that females tend to be much more emotional than their male counterparts which is what leads them to beg for attention or try to gain acceptance. The reason that both genders have an equal amount of trouble is that they have attributes that conflict with each other. The females relentless need for comfort doesn't connect with the males need for simplicity. Once a male is in a relationship it is more or less cruising on from there unless they are unable to cater to the needs of the female which is why they tend to cheat (both genders). I probably just rambled off topic but I hope that gets my point across.
This is extremely subjective to who is the one looking for a relationship. Like, god, this guy must have SUCH trouble getting girls [img]http://images.zap2it.com/images/celeb-1366/brad-pitt-2.jpg[/img] and on the other hand, these girls can get whoever they want [img]http://tnation.t-nation.com/forum_images/b/8/b8e0a_ORIG-FatChicks.jpg[/img] Even beyond appearance, the personality and who they actually are is also important. Gender is a minor factor.
My girlfriend made a move before I did because she was worried I wouldn't.
I can relate to this! :P I would say, as a person with a low amount of experience with women (I've asked out about 4 women now and the first 3 were really awks, while the fourth one said they wanted to get to know me better and got in a relationship with a guy a week later :P) I would have to say a majority of guys who interact with girls are unsure of themselves, confidence wise, and logic wise. For example, this weekend, I "studied" with a bro, and a girl who the bro knew I was going after. We didn't really study at all, it was more of a flirtfest between the two of us. (I kept messing around with her drawing she was doing, until she "deathgripped" my wrist super hard, cut me with her nail, and followed me into the bathroom when I went to go wash off the blood.) I then proceeded to say, driving her home, "Oh, we should hang out together sometime" and she answered yes excitedly. The problem is now (as I think it is with a multitude of men), is she the kind of girl that flirts with a guy and then gets scared or offended or shocked when they DO finally get asked to a coffee or something? Is she the kind of person to laugh and think she wasn't really flirting with you? Is she the kind of girl to think that "hang out together sometime" means "JUST FRONDS"? Lots of confusion on our side here. Now this week, I've only seen her twice at school, once to give her help for a math exam and the other just in the hallway saying hi. Usually I see her every day or so at lunch. :P It's more of a confidence Issue I believe, especially when you have no experience going out or doing things with girls. I for one know that after asking out various women, it DOES get a little easier after time. You just gotta take the chance, believe that when you hear "You only get one shot, take it now, or else you'll be old and wondering what would have happened if you DID ask her out or DID do something"... Well, I think I digressed here a little (a fair(a shitload))) amount but yeah. I think it's a lot harder for men, but then again, it's speaking from personal experience. I've never had a vagina and tits, so I wouldn't know.
I would love to live in a world where women are the majority and therefor have to fight over the men while we merely choose which suitors that fit our preferences the most.
[QUOTE=Simski;34380908]I would love to live in a world where women are the majority and therefor have to fight over the men while we merely choose which suitors that fit our preferences the most.[/QUOTE] Depending on the people you hang around with, this can very much be the case already.
[QUOTE=Upgrade123;34381084]Depending on the people you hang around with, this can very much be the case already.[/QUOTE] go to a Liberal Arts College in the middle of nowhere with 60% female population bam.
It's not easier for any gender. I've known very attractive (by social "standards") girls who got asked out maybe once or twice a year, and got rejected plenty of times.
[QUOTE=Simski;34380908]I would love to live in a world where women are the majority and therefor have to fight over the men while we merely choose which suitors that fit our preferences the most.[/QUOTE] Go to eastern Europe, most of the former Soviet countries have more women than men.
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