The story of how I lost my virginity at 13, and got my girlfriend pregnant at 14.
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[QUOTE=Cypher_09;29930183][img]http://img197.imageshack.us/img197/1883/2227293388a9208900832o.jpg[/img]
Here's a pic of me at Clitheroe Royal Grammar School Sixth Form (after finishing High School), aged 16.
I needed the grades to get in, and I got them. I'm not a failure, I still persevered with my studying despite events.[/QUOTE]
I'm really speechless from this story and I don't know what else to say at this point, but you are a handsome young man.
[QUOTE=Gar~;36689520]I'm really speechless from this story and I don't know what else to say at this point, but you are a handsome young man.[/QUOTE]
Thankyou. :)
I look more like this now though:
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[QUOTE=Cypher_09;36690197]Thankyou. :)
I look more like this now though:
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umm
get a new haircut
[QUOTE=lotusking;36690245]umm
get a new haircut[/QUOTE]
Thank you stranger on the internet you've changed my personal tastes for life.
I can not explain to what level I consider your parents horrible people for trying to make you make her get an abortion.
If you don't mind my asking how did it go with your parents (and everyone else for that matter) when she miscarried?
[QUOTE=Rhenae;36690507]I can not explain to what level I consider your parents horrible people for trying to make you make her get an abortion.
If you don't mind my asking how did it go with your parents (and everyone else for that matter) when she miscarried?[/QUOTE]
I had the most contempt for them that you could ever imagine. It felt like "I suppose you're happy now?", and everything they did that tried to comfort me I took and perceived as being incredibly false, like behind closed doors they were glad, and not mature enough to tell me so. They tried so hard to act like they really did have my feelings in mind with the best intentions.
I hated them, but nowadays, now that I've told them my account, they're very apologetic and do not justify any single one of their actions and admit to having "completely fucked up" and learned from their mistakes; like we all do. I forgive them.
What would've you done if she wouldn't have miscarried?
Also it is really sad story op, i wish you luck in life.
[QUOTE=overpain;36690689]What would've you done if she wouldn't have miscarried?
Also it id really sad story op, i wish you luck in life.[/QUOTE]
I push that to the back of my mind as often as possible. I've honestly never thought about that for more than 5 minutes since the miscarriage, since it was so distressing.
You know, in a way you're lucky you experienced this. Now, don't get me wrong here. It's because this was a very character building experience, like you said. What I'm trying to say is is that even such terrible events can carry positive things with them. I'm not saying that everyone should have such experiences.
[QUOTE=crodude;36691339]You know, in a way you're lucky you experienced this. Now, don't get me wrong here. It's because this was a very character building experience, like you said. What I'm trying to say is is that even such terrible events can carry positive things with them. I'm not saying that everyone should have such experiences.[/QUOTE]
You're right on the money, good sir. I've always believed that too.
[editline]9th July 2012[/editline]
Just re-read the OP. Suddenly I have the need to get back in contact with my ex and just tell her I'm thinking of her.
[editline]9th July 2012[/editline]
Done. :smile:
Let us know how it turns out with contacting her. This thread still remains one of the most heartfelt on Facepunch, I reckon.
Cypher, thank you for bumping this. This was an emotional read, to say the very least. But, from the sounds of it, you've grown into quite an admirable person, Hell, you were back then just because you made the manly, mature decision of staying with it all. Thank you for sharing your story over the past few years. I wish you the best of luck in life. Let us know if contacting her again goes well.
Hah this was one of the first threads I actually read all the way through when I found Facepunch, Never saw so many hearts in one place before then.
This actually reminds me of when my brother had his first kid at 20 by "accident". Needless to say he didn't handle it nearly as well as you did Cypher, lots of vengeful spite was had between him and my nieces mother; pretty much the worst way to go about it.
Now he's got three kids (two from a new mother who is generally inept at taking care of kids) and is generally the closest thing to white trash without being called it.
Funny how a 14 year old can be more wise than a 20 year old.
I feel like bumping this as these sort of threads are in-demand lately, and it would be interesting to see others' reactions and to inform.
[QUOTE=Cypher_09;39009202]I feel like bumping this as these sort of threads are in-demand lately, and it would be interesting to see others' reactions and to inform.[/QUOTE]
I'm kinda wondering why you two broke it off. If you two can make it through what you've been through, then you can make it through anything.
Also, I'm not trying to insult anyone or to think that anyone is a lesser person than they are, but I can't help but question the circumstances around the miscarriage. There is the strong possibility of stress induced, but I dunno.
[QUOTE=Irkalla;39009359]I'm kinda wondering why you two broke it off. If you two can make it through what you've been through, then you can make it through anything.
Also, I'm not trying to insult anyone or to think that anyone is a lesser person than they are, but I can't help but question the circumstances around the miscarriage. There is the strong possibility of stress induced, but I dunno.[/QUOTE]
I think it was stress-induced, what else could it have been? Also, we eventually broke it off because, although we to this day care about each other still, the whole thing screwed with her head and she ended up cheating on me :/
all the ugly people lose their virginity earlier with other ugly ppl
Reading that story has made me change my perspective to teenage pregnancies. I mean I often quickly judge when I see it and say in my head "slut" or what ever comes to my mind but this made me realise that it's not the case for most people and they just get caught up on the wrong end and need support not being shamed on.
[QUOTE=Cypher_09;39009387]I think it was stress-induced, what else could it have been? Also, we eventually broke it off because, although we to this day care about each other still, the whole thing screwed with her head and she ended up cheating on me :/[/QUOTE]
Bro, shit happens; especially given the circumstances. To be honest, I'da cheated on you too. I'd have wanted to get some space, and I wouldn't have had the heart to break it off with you.
But you two both need to figure out how you're gonna move on from this thing together. And at least consider getting back together or something.
I know I'm going to sound like an ass saying this, but this kinda shit happens, and lesser folks than you have come out of it better. It was probably for the better anyway.
[QUOTE=Hell_Kyrone;39009436]Reading that story has made me change my perspective to teenage pregnancies. I mean I often quickly judge when I see it and say in my head "slut" or what ever comes to my mind but this made me realise that it's not the case for most people and they just get caught up on the wrong end and need support not being shamed on.[/QUOTE]
I'm pretty sure ol' gal coulda kept her legs shut. But I agree, you do need support and not discipline. You've already fucked up and you know you're in a terrible situation, there's no need for punishment.
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[QUOTE=Irkalla;39009437]Bro, shit happens; especially given the circumstances. To be honest, I'da cheated on you too. I'd have wanted to get some space, and I wouldn't have had the heart to break it off with you.
But you two both need to figure out how you're gonna move on from this thing together. And at least consider getting back together or something.
I know I'm going to sound like an ass saying this, but this kinda shit happens, and lesser folks than you have come out of it better. It was probably for the better anyway.[/QUOTE]
Thanks man, but that ship has long sailed. We're both in our twenties now. She has her own little girl and is pregnant with her second.
[editline]28th December 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Hell_Kyrone;39009436]Reading that story has made me change my perspective to teenage pregnancies. I mean I often quickly judge when I see it and say in my head "slut" or what ever comes to my mind but this made me realise that it's not the case for most people and they just get caught up on the wrong end and need support not being shamed on.[/QUOTE]
That is exactly why I posted and bumped this.
[QUOTE=Irkalla;39009455]I'm pretty sure ol' gal coulda kept her legs shut.
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They were kids and didn't realise better. Have some sympathy.
[QUOTE=Hell_Kyrone;39009467]They were kids and didn't realise better. Have some sympathy.[/QUOTE]
I can have sympathy without criticising whoever didn't drill it into her head that sex = babies = motherhood = terrible in your teens.
I mean, were her parents even existent? How does a person not know (even in their teens) that unprotected sex WILL get you pregnant sooner or later, unless they haven't been talked to properly.
[editline]28th December 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Cypher_09;39009458]Thanks man, but that ship has long sailed. We're both in our twenties now. She has her own little girl and is pregnant with her second.
[editline]28th December 2012[/editline]
That is exactly why I posted and bumped this.[/QUOTE]
In that case, forget about it. Still think it shoulda been you two together, though.
I somehow get the feeling that it was a really empty relationship revolving around carnal desires, until you managed to get her knocked up, and then everything got real. That sort of foundation isn't the best thing to build a relationship off of.
This is the first time I've read this, and I would like to say that I'm glad you stuck it out like a man. Normally kids who get their girls pregnant cut off everything and leave the girl to raise the child on her own. I respect your decision, and it's just a shame the baby didn't make it. A true shame, it is.
Every time I've read this I feel sad and really anxious, and I haven't even had sex yet to have the risk of stuff like this :v I can only imagine how you felt, this really is one of those stories that makes you think fucking hard about being safe
I find it REALLY hard to sympathize with all of this.
You should be ashamed of yourself
[QUOTE=terike;39015466]You should be ashamed of yourself[/QUOTE]
Did you read any of it?
[QUOTE=343N;39015503]Did you read any of it?[/QUOTE]
I'm a straight christian.
I know this isn't the inappropriate thoughts thread but it's been hard for my penis to go flaccid ever since I read the story. This is pure viagra for me, well if I discard the pregnancy part.
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