• Help, my brother thinks he's a woman and has dressed like one secretly before
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I have advice: quit being a bigot and don't treat your sister any differently than you did before you found any of this out. [editline]ff[/editline] For all the bandwagon ratings: I mean treating her differently in a negative standpoint, obviously she's going to be treated differently.
[QUOTE=AxelTheReal;38412055]I don't know of trans people so that's why I'm asking what to do. And yeah its freaking me out because I never thought he had girls clothes and tried them on and wears them. It makes no sense to me at all how he could be like that[/QUOTE] Please explain the post from July? How'd you get on this account? Why are you using it?
"This is actually his account" ????
[QUOTE=LordCrypto;38412076]"This is actually his account" ????[/QUOTE] I'm not believing it.
I sense someone is trying to get attention
[QUOTE=LordCrypto;38412076]"This is actually his account" ????[/QUOTE] Surely he would have logged out of it forever ago, and how would his brother know the password?
[QUOTE=0FucksGiven;38412073]Please explain the post from July? How'd you get on this account?[/QUOTE] I said this was his account. He writes his accounts down and uses the same passwords on everything
[QUOTE=LordCrypto;38412013]hey hey hey look so one day you find out your brother in the room next to you has been posting pictures of his dick online and people were commenting on it it doesn't matter if it was a persecution complex facepuncher or not it's still kinda "I thought I knew you"[/QUOTE] Why would you react to that? That's like, completely normal for many people. My oldest sister has posted images of her on a site made for showing off the natural human body by having people all over the country submit pictures of themselves naked, so you don't have this "the normal body is a models body" thing going around. Me and my two other sisters watched that site together with her as she explained the concept of the site and showed the image she had posted of herself as well. Because you know, seeing your brother or sister naked isn't something you should react to in the first place or be foreign with. [QUOTE=NuclearAnnhilation;38411996]maybe because its a completely alien concept to him?[/QUOTE] So? Just because it's alien doesn't mean it's ok to hate for no reason whatsoever. I'm not saying it's unnatural for him to react this way because people are so accustomed to what's "normal", but that doesn't mean it's okay to accept his reaction. Two different things there.
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[QUOTE=GhostProject;38412069]I have advice: quit being a bigot and don't treat your brother/sister any differently than you did before you found any of this out.[/QUOTE] That would have to be the worst advice yet. He wants to be treated as a girl, so obviously he would need to behave very differently against her to respect her life choice.
Advice? Mind your own damn business.
[QUOTE=GhostProject;38412069]I have advice: quit being a bigot and don't treat your brother/sister any differently than you did before you found any of this out.[/QUOTE] It's easy to say that, but when it's the person you've known as your brother for your whole life it takes just a bit more 'effort' Being understanding of people's views and situations they're in works both ways you know [editline]11th November 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=mugofdoom;38412145]Advice? Mind your own damn business.[/QUOTE] That's a bit difficult when they live together
[QUOTE=dgg;38412125]That would have to be the worst advice yet. He wants to be treated as a girl, so obviously he would need to behave very differently against her to respect her life choice.[/QUOTE] That's not what I mean; I mean don't treat her worse based on her life decision. Obviously there's gonna be some sort of changes to be accounted for behavioral differences, but what I meant was don't treat her negatively based on the sole fact that she wants to be a girl and not a guy. [QUOTE=RobbL;38412154]It's easy to say that, but when it's the person you've known as your brother for your whole life it takes just a bit more 'effort' Being understanding of people's views and situations they're in works both ways you know[/QUOTE] I do know that, lol. I'm in a similar boat; my brother has a hard time coping with me being gay.
Well, your sister thinks she's a woman because she is a woman. There's nothing wrong with her, and outing her to the family is about the worst thing you can do. As a fellow transgender woman I can tell you one thing: She's dealing with more than enough as it is.
Just leave it be and pretend you don't know anything, continue and live your life as it were when you didn't know. I found a fleshlight in my bro's room but I just pretended I didn't see jackshit.
[QUOTE=AxelTheReal;38412055]I don't know of trans people so that's why I'm asking what to do. And yeah its freaking me out because I never thought he had girls clothes and tried them on and wears them. It makes no sense to me at all how he could be like that[/QUOTE] You don't have to try and make sense out of it. It's like trying to find out why someone thinks something is funny. You can try and delve deep down and find out all sorts of details about the use of words, voice, timing and so one and so forth, but in the end it boils down to "I thought it was funny". She has girl clothes, she likes to wear them and she wants you to think of her as a girl from now on. You just need to accept that, it's her life choice, and if you try and [I]oppress[/I] that you can ruin her, cause her great pain and probably depression and in worst case cause her to suicide. You wouldn't want to be the cause of all that for your own sibling would you? Just because "you don't get it". I do however recommend you to look up information on the subject and ask her yourself to figure out why, not for her sake, but for your sake.
[QUOTE=RobbL;38412154]That's a bit difficult when they live together[/QUOTE] Just because you live with someone does not make his or her sexual preferences your business.
[QUOTE=WaffleCopter;38412184]Just leave it be and pretend you don't know anything, continue and live your life as it were when you didn't know. I found a fleshlight in my bro's room but I just pretended I didn't see jackshit.[/QUOTE] masturbation aid != lifestyle choice
I dunno if you really are violation and are just trying to get attention but if you really do have a brother who dresses up in female clothes just ignore it. Telling your parents is probably the worst of ideas because even the coolest of parents are shocked when soemthing like this happens, they don't know how to react and then your household just becomes awkward as hell. On a side note, it's gonna be awkward for me if you're telling the truth and I start up any more conversations with violation on steam.
I too would be kind of freaked out if my brother was doing that kind of stuff but in the end people do all kinds of freaky stuff and the best thing you can do is continue with life and deal with it.
[QUOTE=WaffleCopter;38412184]Just leave it be and pretend you don't know anything, continue and live your life as it were when you didn't know. I found a fleshlight in my bro's room but I just pretended I didn't see jackshit.[/QUOTE] How the hell can you even try and compare discovering a fleshlight to discovering your brother is actually a girl? Discovering a fleshlight is like discovering lube. Big fucking whoop.
You won't think so two dimensionally when you get a bit older. Or you will...
[QUOTE=mugofdoom;38412192]Just because you live with someone does not make his or her sexual preferences your business.[/QUOTE] It's more than just sexual preference though...
If she sees herself as a girl, let her. [I]If[/I] you are indeed her brother the least you could do is to accept her as she is.
to all the "accept him/her/it unconditionally without breaking step" i'd like to see your sibling lie to you for months about something as big as this sng wasn't just not saying anything he/her/it was lying to his/her/its brother's face
[QUOTE=LordCrypto;38412320]to all the "accept him/her/it unconditionally without breaking step" i'd like to see your sibling lie to you for months about something as big as this sng wasn't just not saying anything he/her/it was lying to his/her/its brother's face[/QUOTE] She was probably scared of the outcome to even say anything. I understand hes probably shocked and it might take him awhile to accept it but flipping out severely isn't exactly going to help.
[QUOTE=Ban Camp;38412348]She was probably scared of the outcome to even say anything. I understand hes probably shocked and it might take him awhile to accept it but flipping out severely isn't exactly going to help.[/QUOTE] backpedal harder darling
[QUOTE=Herr Sven;38412168]Well, your sister thinks she's a woman because she is a woman. There's nothing wrong with her, and outing her to the family is about the worst thing you can do. As a fellow transgender woman I can tell you one thing: She's dealing with more than enough as it is.[/QUOTE] That doesnt make sense. How can he he a woman if he is a guy, last I knew he had a dick so...... I don't think I'll tell other people because that seems a little cruel but I think I'm going to talk to him tonight and ask him or something. I cant just forget I saw him in a dress and these other clothes or anything
[QUOTE=LordCrypto;38412369]backpedal harder darling[/QUOTE] How am I backpedaling?
Recent studies conducted by orthodox priests(ordered by me,of course) show that these problems are most easily solved with a metal rod to the head.
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