What Are You Thonking? v. "I am postals bitch" - Gurant 2015 - General

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[QUOTE=SuperHoboMan;48618316]the fact that you're letting her guilt trip you. if you see it as guilt tripping, it means you feel guilty, and if you took time off school for your own mental health you have nothing to feel guilty [I]about[/I]. [editline]5th September 2015[/editline] yeah i had to clarify what i meant, as posted above[/QUOTE] yooooo don't blame the victim for having to deal with that shit

[QUOTE=SuperHoboMan;48618316]the fact that you're letting her guilt trip you. if you see it as guilt tripping, it means you feel guilty, and if you took time off school for your own mental health you have nothing to feel guilty [I]about[/I]. [editline]5th September 2015[/editline] yeah i had to clarify what i meant, as posted above[/QUOTE] yeah but apparently almost 2 years is a long time to take a break 2 years not figuring out what I wanna do and all that shit pathetic

[QUOTE=TheBrokenHobo;48618323]yooooo don't blame the victim for having to deal with that shit[/QUOTE] i'm in no way blaming him for anything. i'm saying he doesn't have to feel guilty about the shit his mom is bitching at him for because it sounds like she either doesn't understand, or doesn't want to understand, the situation.

[QUOTE=SuperHoboMan;48618335]i'm in no way blaming him for anything. i'm saying he doesn't have to feel guilty about the shit his mom is bitching at him for because it sounds like she either doesn't understand, or doesn't want to understand, the situation.[/QUOTE] she has depression as well so I'm sure she understands, but as a parent she wants what's best for me she probably forgets why I dropped out and just remembers that I dropped out

[QUOTE=SuperHoboMan;48618335]i'm in no way blaming him for anything. i'm saying he doesn't have to feel guilty about the shit his mom is bitching at him for because it sounds like she either doesn't understand, or doesn't want to understand, the situation.[/QUOTE] yeah but i think most people who deal with this are keenly aware they don't [I]have[/I] to feel bad but like guilt-tripping makes you feel like shit about it, that's the point saying it's just someone "letting themselves feel guilty" kinda just sounds like "deal with it"

[QUOTE=TheBrokenHobo;48618344]yeah but i think most people who deal with this are keenly aware they don't [I]have[/I] to feel bad but like guilt-tripping makes you feel like shit about it, that's the point saying it's just someone "letting themselves feel guilty" kinda just sounds like "deal with it"[/QUOTE] i'm starting to think i'm just not wording things right because i think my intentions are coming off as something completely opposite. i would never be the kind of person that just tells someone to "get over it" or "deal with it" because i'd be a total hypocrite. doesn't matter though, i guess i jumped on the situation and tried to help when i shouldn't have because i didn't know the full story.

[QUOTE=kijji;48618333]yeah but apparently almost 2 years is a long time to take a break 2 years not figuring out what I wanna do and all that shit pathetic[/QUOTE] no it's not too long it's what you needed you're not pathetic [editline]5th September 2015[/editline] [QUOTE=SuperHoboMan;48618353]i'm starting to think i'm just not wording things right because i think my intentions are coming off as something completely opposite. i would never be the kind of person that just tells someone to "get over it" or "deal with it" because i'd be a total hypocrite. doesn't matter though, i guess i jumped on the situation and tried to help when i shouldn't have because i didn't know the full story.[/QUOTE] yea tbh i just kinda got a bit upset because it all hit pretty close to home didn't mean to go off on you or anything

Just came back from a show where the super cute lead singer invited me out to brunch tomorrow. Feeling pretty good right now.

in my opinion, it's too long, I feel I need to put my personal dreams and wants on hold while I decide wtf I wanna do both parents are frustrated but my dad's a bit calmer and said that soon I'll be 45 and still pushing carts at a grocery store idk it makes me feel a bit pressured and rush :ohno: [editline]5th September 2015[/editline] I'm 21, just an fyi, he meant that time can move fast as hell :v:

takin breaks is fine, there's nothin' wrong with it and people who say there is somethin' wrong are dumb and i hate them

[QUOTE=Pascall;48618379]takin breaks is fine, there's nothin' wrong with it and people who say there is somethin' wrong are dumb and i hate them[/QUOTE] I'm not saying it's dumb, I'm saying that I feel it's been too long and I gotta figure out shit soon gah I hate being indecisive about major shit

[QUOTE=kijji;48618376]in my opinion, it's too long, I feel I need to put my personal dreams and wants on hold while I decide wtf I wanna do both parents are frustrated but my dad's a bit calmer and said that soon I'll be 45 and still pushing carts at a grocery store idk it makes me feel a bit pressured and rush :ohno: [editline]5th September 2015[/editline] I'm 21, just an fyi, he meant that time can move fast as hell :v:[/QUOTE] i mean if you're literally been doing absolutely [I]nothing[/I] at all for 2 years then i would say yeah it's probably good to start doing something but like i'm sure you've been doing [I]something[/I] productive so i wouldn't say it's a total waste i mean it's good to have initiative and work towards your goals but don't force yourself into something just because you feel obligated

that was a fun time in the arcade with old friends

[QUOTE=kijji;48618387]I'm not saying it's dumb, I'm saying that I feel it's been too long and I gotta figure out shit soon gah I hate being indecisive about major shit[/QUOTE] i mean it's kinda good to be indecisive about major stuff in the sense that you wanna think about it and research it and not just jump in

[QUOTE=TheBrokenHobo;48618392]i mean if you're literally been doing absolutely [I]nothing[/I] at all for 2 years then i would say yeah it's probably good to start doing something but like i'm sure you've been doing [I]something[/I] productive so i wouldn't say it's a total waste i mean it's good to have initiative and work towards your goals but don't force yourself into something just because you feel obligated[/QUOTE] heh, it goes back to high school, I felt I absolutely had to go to a 4-year school because the school counselors went on about how it's that or community college I didn't even know what a vocational/tech school was until I was in college :what:

Good morning!

[QUOTE=kijji;48618387]I'm not saying it's dumb, I'm saying that I feel it's been too long and I gotta figure out shit soon gah I hate being indecisive about major shit[/QUOTE] no I know but people who are telling YOU that it's bad are dumb it's cool to not enjoy taking breaks but people need to mind their own business

[QUOTE=kijji;48618398]heh, it goes back to high school, I felt I absolutely had to go to a 4-year school because the school counselors went on about how it's that or community college I didn't even know what a vocational/tech school was until I was in college :what:[/QUOTE] this is hitting very close to home so i'm just gonna say this don't feel forced into doing something you're not gonna enjoy because you were told you "have to" that said, definitely work on doing [I]something[/I] seek out advice and stuff if you're not sure what you wanna do, just remember that college isn't like a giant tattoo on your forehead that says "YOU MUST DO THIS FOREVER"

[QUOTE=TheBrokenHobo;48618411]this is hitting very close to home so i'm just gonna say this don't feel forced into doing something you're not gonna enjoy because you were told you "have to" that said, definitely work on doing [I]something[/I] seek out advice and stuff if you're not sure what you wanna do, just remember that college isn't like a giant tattoo on your forehead that says "YOU MUST DO THIS FOREVER"[/QUOTE] I'm working with a counselor for OVR (Office of Vocational Rehab, deals with helping disabled people) to figure out what I wanna do; she, I and my therapist have all agreed that taking a psychological exam or whatever it's called will help basically a questionnaire that lets me know what type of schooling would fit how I think and all that shit my parents seem to be against it because "a test can't tell you what you wanna do"

[QUOTE=TheBrokenHobo;48618239]i'm very offended[/QUOTE] This offends me.

[QUOTE=kijji;48618419]I'm working with a counselor for OVR (Office of Vocational Rehab, deals with helping disabled people) to figure out what I wanna do; she, I and my therapist have all agreed that taking a psychological exam or whatever it's called will help basically a questionnaire that lets me know what type of schooling would fit how I think and all that shit [B]my parents seem to be against it because "a test can't tell you what you wanna do"[/B][/QUOTE] well neither can they so fuck that do what will help you, do what you gotta do to get where you wanna be

[QUOTE=TheBrokenHobo;48618425]well neither can they so fuck that do what will help you, do what you gotta do to get where you wanna be[/QUOTE] I wish I could just tell them to fucking quit but would it fair to them? They just want me to succeed and all that shit giving me a good lesson on what not to do when I have kids imo :v:

[QUOTE=kijji;48618432]I wish I could just tell them to fucking quit but would it fair to them? They just want me to succeed and all that shit giving me a good lesson on what not to do when I have kids imo :v:[/QUOTE] just because they want what's best for you doesn't mean they know exactly what you need to do to get there if you've got actual trained experts who are telling you they think something will be good for you it's probably a very good idea

Oh while we're talking about this I'm doing VR as well and I just finished my [URL="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/General_Educational_Development"]GED[/URL]/[URL="http://www.hiset.org/"]HISET[/URL]/WHATEVERTHEFUCKTHEY'RECALLINGTHEM equivalency diploma test things cause I didn't actually graduate highschool and fuck going back I'm sort of accomplishing stuff in life yay?

[QUOTE=TheBrokenHobo;48618438]just because they want what's best for you doesn't mean they know exactly what you need to do to get there if you've got actual trained experts who are telling you they think something will be good for you it's probably a very good idea[/QUOTE] They don't know what I want though, I haven't brought up the whole Sweden thing in a long-ass time cuz they seem to be very against it makes me want to give up on the idea imo

[QUOTE=kijji;48618448]They don't know what I want though, I haven't brought up the whole Sweden thing in a long-ass time cuz they seem to be very against it makes me want to give up on the idea imo[/QUOTE] well that's what i was saying like they might want you to be happy and successful doesn't mean they know what it will take for you to be there their route and your route can and probably will be different and that's perfectly ok

Also probably gonna enlist in the us navy or something hopefully cause working in a grocery store or fast food hole sounds soul-crushingly depressing

[QUOTE=kijji;48618419]I'm working with a counselor for OVR (Office of Vocational Rehab, deals with helping disabled people) to figure out what I wanna do; she, I and my therapist have all agreed that taking a psychological exam or whatever it's called will help basically a questionnaire that lets me know what type of schooling would fit how I think and all that shit my parents seem to be against it because "a test can't tell you what you wanna do"[/QUOTE] Vocational rehab got my ass into college. Hopefully they help you with what you need too.

[QUOTE=fear me;48618457]Also probably gonna enlist in the us navy or something hopefully cause working in a grocery store or fast food hole sounds soul-crushingly depressing[/QUOTE] it is, don't do it but idk how I feel about joining the armed forces tbh I can't do it anyways cuz my vision sucks dick :vs: