• This Is What Happened When My Parents Found Out I Had Smoked Weed
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[QUOTE=Dark_Light;18639104]Sorry, been away for a while. Parents took the laptop from me but I got it back because of school work. Anyway, thanks again for all of the replies thus far, I appreciate them. The other day I got into another argument with my family. They got a call home from school because I didn't attend sport (it's fucking sport). They blew it way out of proportion and started with all of the shit about me not doing well at school or not having the right attitude. My father said that he's going to take me out of this school next year, to stop me from seeing all of my friends, to take me away from all of them. However he said that in the heat of the argument so it isn't exactly true yet. Later they told me that if I fuck up again, we're moving to another suburb completely, and I will be changing schools as well. So yeah, I think I'll try to avoid that :/. They told me that if I don't change my attitude (towards marijuana but also life in general), I will end up dead by 20, no doubt about it. I told them that nothing they ever say or do will EVER change my opinion towards marijuana, so to them I am already dead, and that they should just give up now to save them the trouble of worrying. They didn't say much else after that. Fumples, who the fuck are you? Did you even read the thread? I didn't hang out in the 'wrong crowd', these have all been friends for years and years before I even ever thought of smoking weed. I introduced it to the group. Also BackOnCrack, what's your problem? The few times I have seen you around DD, you've just been acting like a fucking prick. Chill out or fuck off dude. But anyway, I guess I can just look forward to moving out. 2 more years and I'll have my own life to live. Can't, fucking, wait.[/QUOTE] Damn, youre pretty patient. Id already have told them to fuck right the hell off and walked out the door with my shit.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;18639104]They told me that if I don't change my attitude (towards marijuana but also life in general), I will end up dead by 20, no doubt about it.[/QUOTE] You should become a house evictor person, and make them live on the street for that...
you can do two things 1. pretend you're views have changed and you found god or some stupid shit, while smoking herb secretly 2. tell them to fuck off.
[QUOTE=Luke510;18651482]you can do two things 1. pretend you're views have changed and you found god or some stupid shit, while smoking herb secretly 2. tell them to fuck off.[/QUOTE] Id go with the fake repentance. Thats the only way I got my parents off my ass and kept them from being all paranoid. I kinda wonder what my dad thinks though, cause hes said a couple times that I smell like cigarettes and that if Im smoking he cant really stop me, but that its only hurting me if I am. Hes not pro-pot, but I wonder sometimes if he just doesnt say anything as long as it doesnt get me in trouble. My car smells like pot and cigarettes most of the time and I come home smelling like dope pretty often too.
Yeah, I always tell my parents I'm sorry, and I'm gonna stop, and it's not gonna happen again, and blah blah blah blah It's the same every time, but they buy it
I saved your post to show my mum sometime, OP. My mum recently caught me and she refuses to have an intelligent conversation about it, but I'll keep on trying. My mum is like yours, however my parents are divorced and she hates my dad, so she will avoid talking to him about it thankfully.
You have the patience of a goddamn saint. Are you not at the end of your leash dealing with these ignorant fucks? If you have the means, move out. What they're doing to you is wrong. THEY'RE the ones fucking up your life!
Make sure to break your dad's nose before you move out, because he fucking deserves it, piece of shit...
Thanks again guys. I definitely thought about the fake repentance idea, but to be honest, I have too much pride in the green (and myself) to go against my personal beliefs and opinions just to please them. After everything I have said to them and all the arguments we've been through, I'm not ready to act like it meant nothing, and I don't think I ever will. I know that I'm being silly and causing myself to suffer by being so proud, but I would rather go with anything I get given than to deny what I believe to be true and a large part of me. I've been thinking more and more of leaving the house. However I don't know where I could go, or what I would do. I don't have much money nor do I have a job, and I would also like to continue schooling through to university and I think leaving home will hinder that goal. I dunno, as naive as it sounds, my family really are doing what they think is best for me. Parents inherently care for their children, and mine are no different. I know that their reaction is completely over the top and has caused so much more problems for me and the family as a whole than the drug itself will ever cause, but at the end of the day they are only trying to help. I think moving out or harming them or anything drastic like that will just cause them even more suffering which is just unfair. For now, I'll learn to put up with them, and they'll just have to learn to put up with me. That's the best I can do. [editline]10:58PM[/editline] Also AmberSanity, may I ask what you wish to achieve by showing your mother this thread? I don't mind or anything, by all means go ahead! I'm just curious as to why exactly you want to show her.
Well, I respect your choice my friend, but I don't think you're going to get far with it. Marijuana to them seems to actually mean heroin or something because of the way they're treating it. That ignorance is just astounding and disturbing. If they really do move schools, and move suburbs, you might want to reconsider that leaving home deal. They really have no idea what they're doing to you for such a harmless thing. In your situation, myself being rather hostile with my folks would have told them they were hurting me more than a plant ever could.
Yeah I have decided that if it gets out of hand again I will take some action. For example, if I somehow get caught again or something happens at school or whatever, I'll leave then. I don't want to cause my family the financial and emotional stress of moving house just because they are too narrow minded to accept my beliefs.
Holyshit wall of text. Not gonna read but gratz on smokeing the herb. Keep smokein.
When i read things like this, i realise how much i take my parents for granted. They are perfectly in the middle of not giving a shit and being super strict.
[QUOTE=Red3000;18662342]Holyshit wall of text. Not gonna read but gratz on smokeing the herb. Keep smokein.[/QUOTE] Uh, thanks for the reply.
Dark light, for a long time I felt the same way. I didnt want to give up the good fight, I didnt want to betray what I believed in by giving in to them and saying I didnt believe in it anymore. But I couldnt sway them no matter what because "theyre the smart adults" and they already know everything about life and its many facets. Eventually I just got weary of being watched like a hawk, and constantly harassed, so I just decided it was time to give up for the time being.
Mainly just your first post, I hope to show her what the social stigma surrounding it can cause, and how ignorant people can be. It's sad, man.
[QUOTE=Red3000;18662342]Holyshit wall of text. Not gonna read but gratz on smokeing the herb. Keep smokein.[/QUOTE] You probably should read the first post, dude... It's not exactly a happy situation here.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;18660771]Thanks again guys. I definitely thought about the fake repentance idea, but to be honest, I have too much pride in the green (and myself) to go against my personal beliefs and opinions just to please them. After everything I have said to them and all the arguments we've been through, I'm not ready to act like it meant nothing, and I don't think I ever will. I know that I'm being silly and causing myself to suffer by being so proud, but I would rather go with anything I get given than to deny what I believe to be true and a large part of me. I've been thinking more and more of leaving the house. However I don't know where I could go, or what I would do. I don't have much money nor do I have a job, and I would also like to continue schooling through to university and I think leaving home will hinder that goal. I dunno, as naive as it sounds, my family really are doing what they think is best for me. Parents inherently care for their children, and mine are no different. I know that their reaction is completely over the top and has caused so much more problems for me and the family as a whole than the drug itself will ever cause, but at the end of the day they are only trying to help. I think moving out or harming them or anything drastic like that will just cause them even more suffering which is just unfair. For now, I'll learn to put up with them, and they'll just have to learn to put up with me. That's the best I can do. [editline]10:58PM[/editline] Also AmberSanity, may I ask what you wish to achieve by showing your mother this thread? I don't mind or anything, by all means go ahead! I'm just curious as to why exactly you want to show her.[/QUOTE] Wow, I have so much respect for you. You still take the time to see your parents' point of view and try to understand their actions after they've put you through all this bullshit. You are a very mature individual, I hope to reach your level of understanding one day. If I were you I wouldn't be able to look at my parents. You are a good man.
[QUOTE=Red3000;18662342]Holyshit wall of text. Not gonna read but gratz on smokeing the herb. Keep smokein.[/QUOTE] rated autistic
dude just lie and say that you think it's bad or whatever, then they'll fuck off hopefully
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;18660771]Thanks again guys. I definitely thought about the fake repentance idea, but to be honest, I have too much pride in the green (and myself) to go against my personal beliefs and opinions just to please them. After everything I have said to them and all the arguments we've been through, I'm not ready to act like it meant nothing, and I don't think I ever will. I know that I'm being silly and causing myself to suffer by being so proud, but I would rather go with anything I get given than to deny what I believe to be true and a large part of me. I've been thinking more and more of leaving the house. However I don't know where I could go, or what I would do. I don't have much money nor do I have a job, and I would also like to continue schooling through to university and I think leaving home will hinder that goal. I dunno, as naive as it sounds, my family really are doing what they think is best for me. Parents inherently care for their children, and mine are no different. I know that their reaction is completely over the top and has caused so much more problems for me and the family as a whole than the drug itself will ever cause, but at the end of the day they are only trying to help. I think moving out or harming them or anything drastic like that will just cause them even more suffering which is just unfair. For now, I'll learn to put up with them, and they'll just have to learn to put up with me. That's the best I can do. [editline]10:58PM[/editline] Also AmberSanity, may I ask what you wish to achieve by showing your mother this thread? I don't mind or anything, by all means go ahead! I'm just curious as to why exactly you want to show her.[/QUOTE] Don't leave until you go to college. That way the college should be able to sort you out housing so you are able to stay at college, they can give you real good advice with how to keep good funds, how to take complete advantage of what your government can do to assist you with extra funding - be it something similar to EMA (education maintenance allowance, I get £30 a week and £100 bonuses every so often for turning up for every lesson and doing my work) you'll also be able to get shit for being underage, living by yourself, not having a job etc.
[QUOTE=Imaledgev2;18683138]Don't leave until you go to college. That way the college should be able to sort you out housing so you are able to stay at college, they can give you real good advice with how to keep good funds, how to take complete advantage of what your government can do to assist you with extra funding - be it something similar to EMA (education maintenance allowance, I get £30 a week and £100 bonuses every so often for turning up for every lesson and doing my work) you'll also be able to get shit for being underage, living by yourself, not having a job etc.[/QUOTE] I don't get EMA, my parents earn too much which is bad because my parents don't even have the money to give me to go to college.
[QUOTE=flyguy88;18680503]dude just lie and say that you think it's bad or whatever, then they'll fuck off hopefully[/QUOTE] Uhh, read thread? He already said this isn't an option as his opinion is too strong for him to bitch out and lie about it.
Hey guys. Thanks Dustbusta, that made me feel pretty good :). I'm glad at least someone can understand and appreciate my efforts, my parents certainly don't. Cheers dude <3. jonashappy, I can imagine it becoming difficult to put up with over some time but I've always been pretty patient. Besides, I think I've put up the fight for long enough for them to doubt me if I were to suddenly change my mind. It wouldn't be believable. AmberSanity, I thought so. It's definitely true though. I wish for you the best of luck with your mother! Imaledge, thanks for the heads-up, I didn't know of such a thing. But as I said, I think I'll try do my best to avoid having to leave the house.
My mum doesn't like me smoking weed, I have told her that I do, I just lied about how often. Reading this brought a tear to my eye, keep fighting the good fight!
[QUOTE=Madcap;18721751]My mum doesn't like me smoking weed, I have told her that I do, I just lied about how often. Reading this brought a tear to my eye, keep fighting the good fight![/QUOTE] Oh wow, thanks dude. Didn't think I'd get anyone crying, haha. I will keep fighting, until the day I die :350:. Minor update, second session with psychiatrist. I've been referred to a psychologist now. Fuck this, just leave me alone and let me smoke my pot, I ain't causing any fucking harm to anybody! :(
Are the psychs trying to blame all the bad shit in your life on weed?
Fortunately not. The counselor did her job, talked to me about it length, gave me a bunch of anti-drug pamphlets and shit, but respected my decision and was happy to hear it was an informed one (I told her I did my research prior to starting). She just told me to always check my sources and to be cautious when researching, especially when using the Internet (of course very true, however obvious lessons). I read the pamphlets, they are all the same shit. Highlighting and emphasizing the negative, dancing around the truth, avoiding difficult questions or facts, and providing no harm-minimization information. The psychiatrist spent one session talking about weed alone, and was much more neutral on the issue which was indeed a relief. He told me that he personally doesn't have a problem with it like some people do, however from a medical professional view, there is evidence that proves that there is indeed some negatives to it, which he personally thinks outweigh the positives. He agreed with me in saying that a lot of the anti-drug publications and media hoohaa is bullshit, which was very satisfying to tell my mother in the car. His main message in the end was that smoking weed is a risk, and that any risk involves certain risk management practices, which I can agree with and am confident that I am mature and responsible enough to use marijuana/other drugs safely. The psychologist I am yet to speak to, however I think it's going to be much more anti-drug than the psychiatrist, because the whole point I am seeing her is for cognitive behavioral therapy, which is aimed at removing negative coping habits such as self-harm and drug use. But whatever, let's just see what happens.
The counsellor and psychiatrist sound like decent people and I am glad to hear that people in their position are happy to accept the facts that weed isn't 100% evil. I guess the psychologist is going to be a prick about it and try to change your mind with uninformed bullshit. Whatever you do, don't let them go all Clockwork Orange on you.
Yeah that's pretty much correct. And don't you worry, no matter what, I'll defend Mary Jane to the grave :love:.
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