This Is What Happened When My Parents Found Out I Had Smoked Weed
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God bless you.
Make sure to revise as much as you can on MJ before you turn up at the psychologists, so you can shoot down any misinformed claims.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;18780813]Minor update, second session with psychiatrist. I've been referred to a psychologist now.
Fuck this, just leave me alone and let me smoke my pot, I ain't causing any fucking harm to anybody! :([/QUOTE]
Well...they're not trying to medicate you in that case, which is a good start.
You might yet get out of this quibble-free if you play your cards right. Good luck man
If they do decide at some point to medicate you(I hope they do for this reason) you can throw it right back in their faces as uneducated bullshit my friend.
You're a brave man my friend, and I do believe you have most of, if not all of DD's respect. You most certainly have mine for sticking in there.
[QUOTE=HumanAbyss;18790016]You're a brave man my friend, and I do believe you have most of, if not all of DD's respect. You most certainly have mine for sticking in there.[/QUOTE]
I absolutely agree with this statement. This is a horrendous situation, and I feel for you.
The worst hypocrisy is that they'd rather have you on a potentially dangerous anti-depressant. Those pills can actually fuck you up bad.
[QUOTE=Deathbyfire;18783485]Make sure to revise as much as you can on MJ before you turn up at the psychologists, so you can shoot down any misinformed claims.[/QUOTE]
He can't just shoot down their claims or they'll pull the whole "it's confusing your judgement" card.
Whatever you do, don't get any sort of aggression in your voice at the psychologist.
Bump, fuck this shit. I am so fucking close to walking out right now.
I just had another argument with them, which started from me asking if I could sleep over at a friend's house. I'm apparently wasting my life and my time because I want to be with friends all of the time. I told them I am happier when I am with my friends and was told that I have major problems and that I'm a 'big loser' and that I am going nowhere in life. I hinted at the fact that our family was the problem (been pretty disfunctional for as long as I can remember), and got into trouble for that as well. They compared our family to other families and asked me questions like, what's so wrong with ours or what is normal about them and not us. Stupid fucking questions like that, when it is fucking obvious that our family is far, far from perfect. Even my sister agrees, she just knows to keep her mouth shut. The other day when they were talking to me about my counselor, I suggested family counseling instead because I consider myself more of a symptom of a larger problem, than the problem itself. However I am of course wrong, I'm the complete problem and if it weren't for me the family would be totally perfect.
My dad was asking me why I don't do what other 'normal' kids do, because apparently they are all studying and reading books and 'contributing to the family'. I've had this shit since I started school, they've always been so strict with studying. It doesn't help that my sister does so fucking well at school because she has higher ambitions or whatever. They again compared me to her, saying that I don't do anything for the family, the least I could do is help out around the house (which I do when I am asked, but apparently I am supposed to all the time). Either that, or I bring home good results 'like my sister'.
He went on to tell me to go knock on the door of any other 'normal' or Baha'i kid and see what they are doing. I fucking hate that shit so much, they always compare me to Bahai's like they are fucking infallible, when most of them have equally stupid parents (Iranian) who force their kids into the same shit, and they are just stupid enough to go with it. I'm choosing to stand up against it and do what I want to do, and I am getting into all of this shit for it.
They put so much shit on me, they always argue with me and allow themselves to say whatever the fuck they want and treat it like gospel, except I'm not allowed to ever have my say, because when I do it ends with me being hit or told to shut up or told that I'll be dead in a few years, or whatever the fuck else they come up with. Then they ask me what makes me so angry and frustrated. I keep my mouth shut now whenever they talk to me to protect myself, because whenever I say what I think, it just gets worse.
I appreciate all of the positive replies, DD. They mean a lot to me, even if none of you know me or ever will know me. I just want this to be over.
Peace <3.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;18796052]Peace <3.[/QUOTE]
Fuck.
An alternative is to tell the psychologist what you parents have said to you, then they'll know what the problem is...
I tried that. My psychiatrist asked me why I still have low moods recently (I told him that I am confident I've overcame any depressive illnesses etc), and I told him that it is only because of all of the shit that has happened since my parents found out I had been smoking. It didn't change much, he gave me a plan which involves daily exercise, and a dose of St John's Wart as well as fish oil capsules. I don't see why I need to stick to a plan with mild anti-depressive qualities when I don't even feel depressed, and the only reason I do is when I am with my family or they are talking to me or imposing more of their bullshit on me.
The counselor agreed with me and suggested family counseling. However there is no way our family would do that, and even if they did, it'd hardly fix anything. My dad has too much pride and is too stubborn to admit that he could possibly be part of the problem.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;18796052] I suggested family counseling instead because I consider myself more of a symptom of a larger problem, than the problem itself. However I am of course wrong, I'm the complete problem and if it weren't for me the family would be totally perfect.[/QUOTE]
actually in rehab they said addiction is a "family disease". But I really wouldn't want you to get into that shit, inpatient is alright(minus the part where everyones talking about how much they wish they had weed/pills/dope) but outpatient absolutely sucks. Atleast in inpatient you get to do fun shit with other kids who are going through the same shit you are, counseling(it was group counseling) isn't fun and niether is pissing in a bottle every other day.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;18796190]I tried that. My psychiatrist asked me why I still have low moods recently (I told him that I am confident I've overcame any depressive illnesses etc), and I told him that it is only because of all of the shit that has happened since my parents found out I had been smoking. It didn't change much, he gave me a plan which involves daily exercise, and a dose of St John's Wart as well as fish oil capsules. I don't see why I need to stick to a plan with mild anti-depressive qualities when I don't even feel depressed, and the only reason I do is when I am with my family or they are talking to me or imposing more of their bullshit on me.
The counselor agreed with me and suggested family counseling. However there is no way our family would do that, and even if they did, it'd hardly fix anything. My dad has too much pride and is too stubborn to admit that he could possibly be part of the problem.[/QUOTE]
Sounds like your dad is a certified idiot. I would have run away by now.
[QUOTE=HumanAbyss;18796291]Sounds like your dad is a certified idiot. I would have run away by now.[/QUOTE]
I would of got earplugs.
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I still don't see why you just don't try to say that you found out pot is horrible and just bullshit your parents to make them happy and stop nagging at you, join a afterschool club or someshit. Obviously the pro-pot statements aren't helping you/ getting through to your parents.
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it's like trying to explain evolution to a creationist, they're always going to say "SO YOUR SAYING MAH GRANDMAH WAS A MONKEY? THAT'S STUPID!" just like if you say pots good to a prohibitionist their going to say it's bad.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;18796190]The counselor agreed with me and suggested family counseling.[/QUOTE]
Get that in writing.
[QUOTE=Zeke129;18796378]Get that in writing.[/QUOTE]
Agreed.
Even if your dad is too stubborn to admit anything, it might get through to the rest of your family.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;18796052]it ends with me being hit[/QUOTE]
Next time beat your dad's ass hardcore with something hard so it leaves marks then spit on him and tell him he's a fucking douche.
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That's what I would do if an adult hit me.
I want to kill your dad...
[QUOTE=Kyle v2;18828221]I want to kill your dad...[/QUOTE]
Yeah, same here. Your dad sounds like a fucking moron who needs to get his ass beat
Dude, leave...
I understand how hard it would be, but can't you find a reasonable family member or friend to move in with? Your parents... I'm raging just reading about them dude. To still have put up with them for this long only earns you so much more respect from me and I'm sure everyone else on DD. You're a fucking champ, keep your head up.
My mom would react like that but my dad won't he thinks weed isn't too bad.
[QUOTE=vachon644;18827921]Next time beat your dad's ass hardcore with something hard so it leaves marks then spit on him and tell him he's a fucking douche.
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That's what I would do if an adult hit me.[/QUOTE]
pull out a knife and get 5150'd.
Man that sucks, my dad was pretty mad when he found out.
[QUOTE=Anubis678;18828279]Yeah, same here. Your dad sounds like a fucking moron who needs to get his ass beat[/QUOTE]
We should book flights to where he lives, and jump that piece of shit...
I'd just say "SHUT THE FUCK UP, I'M LEAVING BECAUSE YOU DO NOT WANT TO TOLERATE MY CHOICES IN LIFE." If they say otherwise, tell them That you will kill them in their sleep if they do not drop it right away, and walk out on them. Works with my parents.
One thing I'd say, is just be careful. The way I see psychiatrists, they're just befriending you and agreeing with you, staying on your terms to make you happy. They aren't being completely positive and accepting towards everything you say as to make it look too obvious, but I feel the whole thing is just to break down your wall of defences before trying to change you.
But from what i've read, you've got intelligence and courage to say the least, hope all is going well man.
[QUOTE=blah45;18946409]I'd just say "SHUT THE FUCK UP, I'M LEAVING BECAUSE YOU DO NOT WANT TO TOLERATE MY CHOICES IN LIFE." If they say otherwise, tell them That you will kill them in their sleep if they do not drop it right away, and walk out on them. Works with my parents.[/QUOTE]
lol good advice scooter
You know I wouldn't care if my mother or father wouldn't speak to me ever again, but I would if it was my brother or sister. That's what would upset me the most. Sorry you have to be going through this bullshit. Have you ever confronted her?
Hope things turn out for the best for you in the future.
[QUOTE=blah45;18946409]I'd just say "SHUT THE FUCK UP, I'M LEAVING BECAUSE YOU DO NOT WANT TO TOLERATE MY CHOICES IN LIFE." If they say otherwise, tell them That you will kill them in their sleep if they do not drop it right away, and walk out on them. Works with my parents.[/QUOTE]
what a great way to show that people who smoke weed are completely normal.
I really don't know what the fucks up with our societies, if you get caught from smoking pot you will be considered as a heroin junkie. Marijuana is a harmless herb, product of our nature, even alcohol which all of our parents use or have used is much more dangerous than pot but they don't realise it. Smoking pot is far from being harmful. Of course if it goes too far and you are every day so fucking stoned that you really can't do enything besides sitting in sofa and lighting up another joint/bowl – then i would understand that your parents would really want you to stop and maybe even start threatening. If you can't persuade your parent's to accept your way of living then you should really leave, i am sorry that you have had to endure all this bullshit. Take care my mate, one love.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;18560925]*story*
Keep smoking the good herb my friends, and don't take your accepting and chill parents for granted.
Peace and love <3.[/QUOTE]
Dude, I'm so sorry you had to deal with all the abuse your family did to you. When this shit gets legalized you should cook it in their food for revenge.
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