This Is What Happened When My Parents Found Out I Had Smoked Weed
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[QUOTE=Pr0vologne;19767310][sp]When this shit gets legalized you[/sp]You should cook it in their food for revenge.[/QUOTE]
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Gee haven't seen this thread for a while. In terms of the situation, not much has changed at all. I'm still seeing a counselor. They have suggested family therapy as well, and my whole family agrees except my dad. He is still under the impression that our family is perfect and the only problem is that the son smokes pot. This is so fucking far from true, but eh I can't do anything about it.
I was going to sit down with my family and watch The Union with them, sort of like a final, last ditch attempt at getting some understanding/rationality from them. However the night before I planned on doing that, I tried to initiate a conversation with my parents. I began with "So what is your actual problem with it anyway", and so one by one I shot down and dismissed each of their concerns (using factual and statistically backed arguments), and about 5 minutes in my dad just got up and walked away, calling me fucking hopeless and whatnot, so yeah I gave up on that idea, and by extension have given up on trying to win them over.
But whatever, I can cope. It's stressful and frustrating but I'm not going to do anything drastic, and instead just put up with it. I've already caused them enough suffering by just being myself, I don't want to do anything else on top of that. Besides, whilst it could obviously be much better, it could also be much worse, so I should be grateful for what I have.
Thanks again, to all of you, for your support.
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But whatever, I can cope. It's stressful and frustrating but I'm not going to do anything drastic, and instead just put up with it. [B]I've already caused them enough suffering by just being myself, I don't want to do anything else on top of that.[/B] Besides, whilst it could obviously be much better, it could also be much worse, so I should be grateful for what I have.
Thanks again, to all of you, for your support.[/QUOTE]
Dude your parents are making you suffer. Keep trying dude. Your dad sounds so ignorant and close-minded, how do you go through an entire day without stabbing him?
They care and worry for me and are doing all of this out of their love. It sounds naive but it's true, they aren't doing anything to intentionally make me suffer. They just don't have the open mindedness or trust to accept 'drugs', at all. Which is why they've reacted so negatively and ultimately made things worse for me.
They want me to be happy, I want to be happy, however my means of happiness is completely opposite to theirs.
Do you see the irony of the situation? :frown:
Well good luck man. Hopefully my parents don't find out my hobby until I move out
This thread made me sad. I'm glad you're dealing with it. I would never be able to handle it. Good luck. Seriously.
I think DD has the chillest people in all of facepunch.
<3 Cheers. Agreed though, seriously imagine this shit in GD, "LOL U SMOKE DRUGS U DESERVE IT STUPID STONERS".
Ask them if it's so bad, why is california, and many other governments around the world strongly considering legalizing it? Does he think he knows better than anyone?
That's horrible, OP. I kind of understand what you're going through. Whenever my parents even SUSPECT I did something wrong, they go apeshit and starts saying "WHAT WOULD JESUS DO?" (when I was kid, my dad actually used to abuse me (choke me) as "punishment" for extremely minor things such as saying "butt". When I got DCFS to come to my house, they didn't do shit because of course, choking me left no marks. After that my parents fucking sent me into therapy for 4 years, AKA living nightmare) and if I actually do something for a reason and it's logically fine, they just reject anything I say and go "Well we're your parents it's our job to be like this." I am extremely grateful they haven't found out I smoke or anything, or else I would be in a much worse situation than you, OP. They are really hardcore Christians, and even though I have all the proof I need that weed is actually beneficial instead of harmful, they'd just ignore it. Really though, I do use it for a legitmate reason, partially. It can help out with autism a little bit, and since I'm autistic, some of the time I act really awkward, naturally. My main problem is that I just simply don't want others to hear my voice some of the time for whatever reason, but when I smoke, I don't worry about that, I just talk and overcome those barriers that keep me back. If my parents do catch me, I will try explaining it them and if given a chance, I'll print out an article that directly says it helps autism, but knowing them, they would just rip it up and such... In any case, OP, try not to let it get you down. In a couple years, you'll be out of there and boom, 60+ years left of your life to smoke, relax, and hang out with people.
Hey OP, what would they actually do if you didn't tell them where you were going? They can't physically stop you or refuse you food/shelter without Child Services intervening. I suppose they would probly tell them bout the reefer though.
HumanAbyss, well yeah I have said that many times. I always bring up the various states/countries considering reforming their laws but they always argue that the vast majority of the world are still against it (like that means anything), as well as the fact that it is still illegal here in Australia. Also whenever I bring up Amsterdam they just say that it's a dirty country and so it doesn't count either (yeah I know).
Ouendanation, wow that sounds fucking terrible. Reading that post gave me chills though, I'm so glad you're able to alleviate the problems of autism using marijuana, that's so nice to hear. But as with my situation (using it to help with depression/anxiety), my parents weren't even happy with that, so yeah probably a good idea you keep it hidden. Maybe one day they'll understand, we can only hope.
You're right though, I just need to keep my head up for a few more years and I'll be out of the house with my own life :).
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BurningPlayd0h, yeah of course I could just leave without saying anything and they couldn't do shit about it, but like I said a few replies up, that would just make them feel worse and wouldn't really achieve anything.
If I had parents like this I would constantly say : "You're doing hard drugs, you should consider seeking help or change drug and go for a safer choice. " every time they started drinking a beer/wine/alcohol in general. They'd get pissed probably but I'd be right anyway.
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Oh, that makes sense.
This is really scary to me. I thought my Mom was a christ loving psycho bitch. I have it easy. It probably won't mean much, but I know how you feel.
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Ouendanation, wow that sounds fucking terrible. Reading that post gave me chills though, I'm so glad you're able to alleviate the problems of autism using marijuana, that's so nice to hear. But as with my situation (using it to help with depression/anxiety), my parents weren't even happy with that, so yeah probably a good idea you keep it hidden. Maybe one day they'll understand, we can only hope.
You're right though, I just need to keep my head up for a few more years and I'll be out of the house with my own life :).[/QUOTE]
Well, I had a lot of other pretty bad things going on, but I didn't want to go on too long, so I only posted relevant stuff. Back then, I talked about suicide and things (if you knew my whole situation you probably wouldn't blame me), and around age 10, I realized I had to stop acting like that and I had to crawl out of the pit I dug myself, and no matter what I knew I had to always be optimistic and that things would get better. I also began to be extremely grateful for everything remotely good in my life. I've gradually improved and since I've started trying my best to be happy, I've in general been an extremely happy person (though I don't always look it) and my life feels like it has so much more value.
The point of this is that as long as you keep your chin up and try your best to be optimistic and happy, you'll get through it just fine. Hell, it might even end up changing you for the better like my situation ultimately did.
[QUOTE=Ouendanation;19775535]The point of this is that as long as you keep your chin up and try your best to be optimistic and happy, you'll get through it just fine. Hell, it might even end up changing you for the better like my situation ultimately did.[/QUOTE]
:love: Love for you wiseman. :love:
:love: Love for you all people, One Love for you all. :love:
This thread really puts my current situation in a new perspective.
You have my respect, Ouendanation <3. You're certainly right and I will remember your words.
I hope for the best for your situation.
Also vachon, I wish I could say that, but see with my parents I can't hold anything against them. Neither of them drink or smoke :(.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;19775811]my parents I can't hold anything against them. Neither of them drink or smoke[/QUOTE]
That's not something necessarily good. Maybe their religion faith is more irrational than studies (on marijuana in that case). Wait, it IS MUCH more irrational! You should try to print something official and show it to them, if they deny they're pretty much giving you a go for calling them ignorant. And tell them you forgive them for being ignorant of their ignorance.
Yeah pretty much, they really only have two arguments that I can't argue against. 1, it's illegal in the country we are currently in and therefore there is the risk of being caught and charged, and 2, it is against their religion. I can't really say much against that, as irrational as it is. It's fucking ridiculous but there's really nothing I can do about it.
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This is what misinformation did to me, this is what ignorance and government lies and propaganda did to my family. I smoked marijuana, a natural plant which has been demonized and criminalized to such an extent where a family can react in such a way when their son chooses to try and overcome a problem through the use of weed.
All this has done to me has strengthened my love and passion for cannabis and inspired me to become an activist as soon as I am old enough to make a difference.
It has also motivated me to become the best father I can for my children in the future (if I end up having any. I say I don't want kids but it happens). I'll make sure they know the truth and are given a good education from an early age. I'll let them smoke regularly but I will teach them the right principals of responsible and moderate drug use, and whatnot.
Keep smoking the good herb my friends, and don't take your accepting and chill parents for granted.
Peace and love <3.[/QUOTE]
amen to that bro
i wonder what they would say if you told them:
"the human body consists of THC receptors; therefore, our bodies are made to smoke weed."
Hey man, I told my parents about this when they questioned the religion part of weed:
Later in Matthew 15:10-20, Jesus called the crowd to him and said to them, "Listen and understand! It is not what goes into your mouth that makes you ritually unclean; rather, what comes out of it makes you unclean." Then the disciples came to him and said, "Do you know that the Pharisees had their feelings hurt by what you said?" "Every plant which my Father in heaven did not plant will be pulled up," answered Jesus. "Don't worry about them! They are blind leaders of the blind; and when one blind man leads another, both fall into a ditch." Peter spoke up, "Explain this saying to us." Jesus said to them, "You are still no more intelligent than the others. Don't you understand? Anything that goes into your mouth goes into your stomach and then on out of your body. But the things that come out of the mouth come from the heart, and these are the things that make you ritually unclean. For from your heart come the evil ideas which lead you to kill, commit adultery, and do other immoral things; to rob, lie, and slander others. These are the things that make you unclean. But to eat without washing your hands as they say you should-this doesn't make you unclean."
If you are not ritually clean, then yeah, I could see their reason.. But if you are not bothering anyone and am keeping to yourself when high, then you're good. Hope this helps.
stop smoking for a while, show them that you haven't smoked for a while etc, give them hope for you and make sure they know you're "thinking straight" or "not under the spell of the demon" or whatever
then after some time has passed, confront them in your "right mind" and have a discussion about it, make it hypothetical if you want, just figure out where they're coming from and give them a chance to do the same
Become Rastafari, if it's against their religion then NOT smoking is against yours.
There is a difference between religious, and fundamentalist. I my self am Christian. My mother is Christian and so is my father. My mother is one of the crazy fundamentalist. But my father is really chill. He was diagnosed with a very bad disease lately, so I recommended he try salvia in small dosages. Although not as effective as pot would be for him we are still seeing if salvia would help him enough where he wouldn't need to use pot. (to make a long story short) my parents divorced but my father moved in to our house again because of his illness. So after my mother goes to bed (she is in a room down the hall from my fathers) He will light up a little bit of salvia. And if im in the room he'll let me light a little up. He will even give me a little (because he got a bunch in the mail) to light up the next time I have an all nighter for MW2. :350: THAT is the difference between a normal person and a fundamentalist.
What kind of disease can be treated by Salvia? :raise:
Your dad is the real problem here, I'd say piss him off, and call Child Services if he hits you/destroys your room/throws something/verbal abuse.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;19790406]What kind of disease can be treated by Salvia? :raise:[/QUOTE]
Not really treated, just helps calm him down a little. He has ALS.
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