1. Facebook friends
2. Ask to hang out
3. ?????
4. Profit
It just gets worse dude.
I'll put out some tips though...
Don't start drinking.
Don't try to quit school (trust me... worst fucking mistake I've ever made.
Stop looking at cars passing on the street, and do something on the street.
Live near any lakes/rivers? Go fucking fishing. My friends, and I use to do that all the time in NY. (Lived next to Lake Erie <3 )
BB Guns + Seagulls/Rats = Great Fun
Try to act like a kid again. People are too anal now a days about being a kid...
If your in Arizona area(mountains ,and dust) go hiking or buy a shitty metal detector, and go metal detecting.
That's a good majority of my advice.
[QUOTE=massaki;22808616]Clean yourself up, Get a haircut if you have long hair, Get rid of any acne, Make yourself look nice, Get a Girlfriend, Have her introduce you to a social life and all her friends, Get more friends along the way.
Worked for me.[/QUOTE]
Pretty much this :v: Wasn't that hard.
Oh shit! I see now that it worked for you. High-five! :smile:
Start making models for TF2 or make some maps.
Go to parties, all the cool kids do
I'm kind of in the same situation, but I'd be all for going out and hanging with my friends, and I get called occasionally to come, but I live really far outside of my town, down in the wilderness, 25 minutes away.
I also can't drive. Damn it why did I miss that driver's ed class :argh:
I wish I lived in town so I could see my friends, but I'm stuck here most of the time, The only time I ever get to go out is on the weekends, and sometimes I'm just not motivated enough to leave my house. :sigh:
I'm going to a three day party (national holiday). Going to drink my damn ass off. :smug:
[QUOTE=lettuce_head;22808869]yeah I know. I get the feeling that because they see me like that though, they would be wierded out when I ask to hang out, and then that may put them off further.
I guess if they're put off by me asking to hang out then I don't really need them as a friend though. So fuck them.[/QUOTE]
I blatantly asked my party-goer friends if they mind if I accompany them to a party or so. It worked. Worth the few risks, I say. And why'd they be weirded out? If they are, they don't deserve to be even your acquaintances.
[QUOTE=hl2poo;22808512]It feels bad when a girl you have a crush on is more social and outgoing than you are.
:frown:[/QUOTE]
It's worse when the girl you like isn't actually allowed out, and when you go to her house the atmosphere is very uncomfortable thanks to the family. Because then you [I]know[/I] you have everything, it's just one little thing that stops it from all coming together.
[QUOTE=G71tc4;22809727]From experience, it sucks more than that when you actually date the girl. You get forced into events and parties and such with people you'd rather not hang around, then you meet this guy she says is like a brother to her, so you figure "Hey, this guy can be my stepping stone to a social life!" So, you invite him over, he's a pretty cool guy, hang out a while, then your gf starts hanging out with him too, inviting him everywhere you go, then, next thing you know, he fucks your girlfriend on your birthday and you become emotionally dead for a few days and spend the next year recovering.[/QUOTE]
Okay, you win, that's worse. I feel your pain though man.
But hey, you know what you guys should do? [B]Eat some fucking Avocado[/B]. You guys sound like your dopamine levels have reached the shithouse, and Avocado helps you along. Sitting down, doing nothing, and playing video games decreases the level of it working. That's why you feel really tired while sitting down in car trips. Dopamine has many functions inside your brain. It helps you get motivated, and is used in the "reward" part of your brain. Eat some Avocado to get motivated enough to go outside. And then do you know what you do?
[B]Kick. Fuckin'. Ass.[/B]
Now go out there and DO it, GO GO GO!
Actually, someone suggested cutting your hair if it's long.
Trust me, that's gold.
I had medium to long hair for two years and literally only had two friends and was never invited to any parties or outings. I'd constantly attempt to be noticed by the people I wanted to be friends with but the majority of them thought I was just weird or annoying.
Then, being sick of not having more friends and no proper social life, I cut it all off. My self esteem went through the roof and suddenly EVERYONE was my friend.
The group I wanted to be friends with? They started trying to get me to notice them.
Parties? I was invited to 5 consecutive different parties 3 days after cutting my hair.
I reckon people take long hair on guys as being "The Wannabe Loner".
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[QUOTE=Lonestriper;22819757]Go to parties, all the cool kids do[/QUOTE]
You sound Jealous.
OP and I have the exact same problem.
But, from previous experience, I know I really don't like parties and social settings like that. I much prefer hanging out with a small group of friends. I generally remedy those mood swings and stuff by walking over to my friends house, 'cause she lives, like, a block away.
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Actually, having read most of these posts, we're all probably the same person. This is weird. Commonalities, man.
All those agree ratings, damn facepunch is full of sad sacks... Get outside and have some fun guys!
These days I only hang out with my girlfriend.
All I need.
[QUOTE=SnakeFace;22820408]All those agree ratings, damn facepunch is full of sad sacks... Get outside and have some fun guys![/QUOTE]
I just got a job and for a lot of it I'm out in the sun. I never thought it'd make a difference, but it certainly does. I'm much more tired at the end of the day, but much happier feeling.
[QUOTE=JohnnyNapalm007;22820456]I just got a job and for a lot of it I'm out in the sun. I never thought it'd make a difference, but it certainly does. I'm much more tired at the end of the day, but much happier feeling.[/QUOTE]
Working is fun if you like your job.
I'm an IT-Support person and I like helping nice people.
No, I'm not one of those guys who give advice through a phone.
[QUOTE=massaki;22808616]Clean yourself up, Get a haircut if you have long hair, [b]Get rid of any acne[/b], Make yourself look nice, Get a Girlfriend, Have her introduce you to a social life and all her friends, Get more friends along the way.
Worked for me.[/QUOTE]
Easier said than done.
I personally can't stand parties, even family gatherings drain me rather quickly.
Hah, I used to be like all of you guys.
AND THEN OUT OF NOWHERE my self-esteem skyrockets, I start going out more, talking more to girls etc, etc.
And most importantly, I started working out.
[QUOTE=NotMeh;22820582]And most importantly, I start working out.[/QUOTE]
I really do recommend working out if you want a self esteem boost, even if you don't make a ton of progress you still feel a shit ton better about yourself as long as you keep with it. Even if it's just doing pushups, you should really try it.
For my own situation, I'm a pretty popular guy but I still manage to be somewhat of a loner. I have a ton of friends who aren't exactly very close to me and I get invited out a lot, but I prefer to go home alone and do my own thing because that's what makes me happy. People think it's a little odd but they live with it and it mostly never gets commented on, unless there's a party coming up and I get a few comments mainly telling me I'm welcome to come along but they doubt I'll actually turn up or something along those lines.
Yeah, I'm working on a six-pack right now.
(and technically I already have it, but my abs just aren't too big)
As soon as I finish chiseling and toning it my self-esteem (and ego) will be bigger than ever :smug:
Am i the only one who hates parties and getting 'wasted'
It took me 2 whole god damn years to convince people i don't like being out downing beer and vodka.
I've reduced my friend count to 2 people from about 90~ and i have never felt better about my life :buddy:
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Am i the only one who hates parties and getting 'wasted'
It took me 2 whole god damn years to convince people i don't like being out downing beer and vodka.
I've reduced my friend count to 2 people from about 90~ and i have never felt better about my life :buddy:
I hate how most of my friends are night dwellers. They always want to be social and go to parties or come over at like midnight. It fucking pisses me off because I'm exhausted from the rest of the day then they want to do something from half way across town.
And I thought I was the only one...
You say you're drifting away from your friends, so stop that from happening! Get in touch and hang out!
I used to think this would happen to me, then I lost interest in games a 13 or 14.
At that point teenage life was in it's beginnings, and now it's really fufilling :)
Holy crap, I feel the same way, only this summer.
Bring alcohol to school
[QUOTE=Aries;22819884]It's worse when the girl you like isn't actually allowed out, and when you go to her house the atmosphere is very uncomfortable thanks to the family. Because then you [I]know[/I] you have everything, it's just one little thing that stops it from all coming together.[/QUOTE]
...Are you me? The girl I like has incredibly strict parents and they don't let her do anything not school organized. It probably doesn't help that her parents found and read the entire chatlog of our IMs from when we were dating though.
Just ask your friends if you can hang out with them. Tell them that you wanna hang out with them more often.
All sociophobic persons are probably geniuses. Find it, op.
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