How my best friend actually got raped and wasn't just saying it for attention
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[QUOTE=Contag;30120632]Is the girl a virgin?
Does she wear revealing clothing?
Is she involved with any 'bad crowds', or do anything illegal?
Has she ever harmed herself?
Has she ever seen a psychologist for any reason?[/QUOTE]
Did you even read the OP, She's been raped you moron of course she's not a virgin.
What state are you in by the way?
[editline]30th May 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=AimlessGiant;30120683]Did you even read the OP, She's been raped you moron of course she's not a virgin.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, that's very obvious.
Therefore it would be obvious I was talking about before the rape.
[QUOTE=SomTervo;30120647]fuck you, what does being a pussy have to do with being gay[/QUOTE]
Never said it did. Assuming makes an ASS out of U and ME. I did imply it though, so no offense. I'm just wondering why is he not standing up for his girl.
Well, the lack of past tense would make it seem as though you were talking about the present.
[QUOTE=Eonart;30118037]infact why would anyone hate someone if that someone was raped
that would be just plain heartless[/QUOTE]
Unless they also drowned kittens. I'd hate anyone who puts kittens in a sack and throws it into a river, rape victim status nonwithstanding. Hell, I'd take that slut to pound town a second time.
If there's one thing you should know, it's that you shouldn't handle your friend like a fragile piece of glass just because of that
It's the ONE thing not to do
Don't also trivialize her pain
Why is it that every rape story has the big dilemma of ''I can't notify the police!'', it's so frustrating. The solution to all of your current problems is right there at the police office, just go down there [I]personally with her[/I] (they never take phone calls like that seriously) and explain to them what's happening face to face.
Become a police officer and apprehend him yourself.
[QUOTE=WillerinV1.02;30119075]Yeah. You've all made me realize that any blocks in my path mean nothing. First thing in the morning Im marching down to the station directly and telling them. Or calling them. whichever works.[/QUOTE]
Personally being there makes things way easier than explaining over the phone. The most obvious thing being that they know you're not pranking them.
edit: my merge :(
[h2]Decisions to prosecute[/h2]
[B]Reasons to proceed[/B]
Victim/survivor is:
credible, reliable
consistency in evidence
can recall the facts
distressed
corroboration: visible injuries, eye witnesses, medical evidence
Recent offence
[B]Reasons to discontinue[/B]
Material that will undermine victim credibility (e.g. mental illness)
Inexplicable internal inconsistencies
Memory affected by drug or alcohol use, or even shock of attack
Vindictiveness or other motive to lie
Victim’s account conflicts with other evidence
Delayed complaint
Lievore, D. 2004 “Victim Credibility in Adult Sexual Assault Cases, Australian Institute of Criminology.
[B]Prosecutor tactics:[/B]
[quote=Peter Faris QC, “Why I no longer defend rape cases” ]My client was said to have forced a 16-year-old girl (a virgin) out of a party, into his car, where allegedly he had sex without her consent. The defence was consent, that is, intercourse was admitted. I did my job, which is to say I destroyed the girl*during cross-examination.*As she was leaving court*after finishing her evidence, and the door to the courtroom had not quite shut, she gave a howl which sounded like a mortally wounded animal.*
The jury subsequently acquitted my client. My tactical view (then) of a rape trial was that an acquittal was best obtained by destroying the alleged victim. In most cases it was possible to paint the victim so that she lost the sympathy of both the men and women on the jury. Obviously, this was not stated in words but was rather the atmosphere created in the trial.
The aim was to get the men on the jury to put themselves in the place of my client and to feel that “she asked for it” and to be a bit envious of him in having sex with her. Titillated, perhaps.
On the other hand, my tactic was to get the women on the jury to dislike the girl because of her lack of virtue (“a slut”) but also to feel jealous of her sexual attraction and powers.
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[B]Jury Response[/B]
[quote=Findings from Clark, H. Judging Rape, Honours thesis, Department of Criminology, University of Melbourne.]98% considered factors such as those relating to the victim’s dress, behaviour, chastity and alcohol consumption, as well as prior acquaintance and the offender’s social status - as ‘relevant’ in determining the seriousness of any particular offence.[/quote]
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Just call the police.Would you want your friend to be raped for the rest of her life?I wouldn't.So if I were you,I would act,not pussy out.
We should make all rapists go through a nether portal.
She should see therapist
Kill the bastards.
Rape him.
With a steak knife. In his back.
Okay, okay, that's going a tiny bit too far.
Just give him a piece of your mind.
'Mind' being the name of your steak knife.
Rape can utterly destroy a victim's self esteem and will. You've seen it, with how she doesn't eat or sleep. She'll be hesitant to give out the details at first because of the horrid memories that will come up, and due to feeling guilty about the situation. You can't expect her to give all of the details, especially not all at once. Rape happens way more often than you think, so don't immediately dismiss these claims as just cries for attention, even if the person doesn't act as you would expect.
She probably feels 'tainted', that it's her fault somehow, that she's useless. You need to make her understand that she isn't. She's not 'dirty' in any way for having sex, and [b]ESPECIALLY[/b] not for being raped, you're living in a first world country in the 21st fucking century, sex is not 'evil', and rape does not make a person 'dirty' or bad. She also needs to know that this is, in absolutely no way at all, her fault. The blame for rape should go squarely on the rapists.
She is not to blame. She is not a bad person. She is not useless or worthless. She is not 'dirty' or 'tainted' or anything like that. She will not be hated for being a survivor, and anyone who does hate her for such is a shitwipe. Her parents will not abandon or hate her; and if they do scold her for it, then they are horrible parents. She needs to know this.
Also, as many others have said, [b]go to the fucking police as soon as fucking possible[/b].
[url]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_trauma_syndrome[/url]
[url]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Effects_and_aftermath_of_rape[/url]
[url]http://www.rainn.org/get-help/sexual-assault-and-rape-international-resources[/url]
Get her the fuck away from those monsters, she needs someone to step in and help.
You could contact the police, launch a lengthy investigation, possibly put yourself and Beocca at risk to her friends... OR
You could make a mastermind plan to ruin the rapists and his friends lives totally and horrifically.
[QUOTE=Last or First;30121744]Rape him.
With a steak knife. In his back.
Okay, okay, that's going a tiny bit too far.
Just give him a piece of your mind.
'Mind' being the name of your steak knife.
Rape can utterly destroy a victim's self esteem and will. You've seen it, with how she doesn't eat or sleep. She'll be hesitant to give out the details at first because of the horrid memories that will come up, and due to feeling guilty about the situation. You can't expect her to give all of the details, especially not all at once. Rape happens way more often than you think, so don't immediately dismiss these claims as just cries for attention, even if the person doesn't act as you would expect.
She probably feels 'tainted', that it's her fault somehow, that she's useless. You need to make her understand that she isn't. She's not 'dirty' in any way for having sex, and [b]ESPECIALLY[/b] not for being raped, you're living in a first world country in the 21st fucking century, sex is not 'evil', and rape does not make a person 'dirty' or bad. She also needs to know that this is, in absolutely no way at all, her fault. The blame for rape should go squarely on the rapists.
She is not to blame. She is not a bad person. She is not useless or worthless. She is not 'dirty' or 'tainted' or anything like that. She will not be hated for being a survivor, and anyone who does hate her for such is a shitwipe. Her parents will not abandon or hate her; and if they do scold her for it, then they are horrible parents. She needs to know this.
Also, as many others have said, [b]go to the fucking police as soon as fucking possible[/b].
[url]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_trauma_syndrome[/url]
[url]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Effects_and_aftermath_of_rape[/url]
[url]http://www.rainn.org/get-help/sexual-assault-and-rape-international-resources[/url][/QUOTE]
Or better yet chop off his dick and his friends dick's too.
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[editline]29th May 2011[/editline]
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60% report rate is absurdly high.
[QUOTE=WillerinV1.02;30117920]Numerous drama llamas in school ended up resulting in our two friend groups hating eachother, and as a result, even though we didn't speak to eachother, was that we hated eachother too.[/QUOTE]
You guys are like Romeo and Juliet.
Anyway, that's pretty sad. If I were you, I'd talk to her about telling both of your guys' parents. Her parents will believe her, will go to the cops, and the guys will go to jail.
[QUOTE=WillerinV1.02;30119075]Yeah. You've all made me realize that any blocks in my path mean nothing. First thing in the morning Im marching down to the station directly and telling them. Or calling them. whichever works.[/QUOTE]
Good, finally.
Was about to call you troll.
[QUOTE=Hana-San;30119240]That's the best thing to do. My friend has been raped before. Several times I guess. But she took it a lot differently to how Becca did.
My good friend became a prostitute and "having fun" with a [b]LOT[/b] of guys who all take advantage of her. She was a really sweet girl. She used to play the guitar and sing at lunch time with us. Now I hardly see her.
But she's been on suicide watch and on several types of anti-depressants. Now she's trying to manage without any drugs. :smith:[/QUOTE]
Is rape such a common thing in the U.S.A? I have never hear about annyone getting raped here in the Netherlands, exept for some occasional report in a newspaper. But there everyone seems to know at least one person who was raped.
You should [i][b]really really[/b][/i] get her to read [url=http://www.rainn.org/get-information/legal-information/reporting-rape]this page[/url] and the other stuff of [url=http://www.rainn.org/]RAINN.[/url]
[editline]29th May 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=taipan;30122266]Good, finally.
Was about to call you troll.
Is rape such a common thing in the U.S.A? I have never hear about annyone getting raped here in the Netherlands, exept for some occasional report in a newspaper. But there everyone seems to know at least one person who was raped.[/QUOTE]
according to nationmaster.com the .8% of people in the netherlands have been raped and .4% of people in america have been raped
If I found one of my closest friends was raped I'd feel physically sick.
Hard to believe tbh.
wow she faked cuts and bruises to make you think she was raped?!
she really isn't into you i'm sorry
"ext ext."
Hmm... I dunno. Sounds kind of implausible how OP didn't do shit about it for ages.
There are a lot of bullshit threads like this on Facepunch so I'm gonna be cynical about this.
[QUOTE=xeonmuffin;30121189]She should see therapist[/QUOTE]
Oh come on, am I the only one who saw what he did there?
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