How my best friend actually got raped and wasn't just saying it for attention
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[QUOTE=WillerinV1.02;30117920]This story is pretty depressing for me to tell, but I thought it'd be best to share it with someone, and facepunch is the best release.
A year or so ago, I went out with this girl. Adruptly, she broke up with me and stopped talking to me. Her name was Becca. This was a bit of a bummer but I got over it. Fast forward to a few months back, and she opens up a chat on facebook. we start talking and she reveals that her true motive was to explain to me why she broke up with me. So I listened.
She gave me a bare basic story of what happened. She got raped, apartenly, while we were going out and couldn't 'cope with it'. Her being 14 at the time, I didnt believe it, I thought it was just an act for attention and I simply dismissed it, I said some stock "Thats horrible" and such, but still didn't believe her. She made up some bullshit sounding excuses for why she didnt tell anyone, notify the police or such, and she kept saying she couldnt tell me who the guy was. So of course, I thought she was making up TOTAL bullshit, maybe to cover up for how heartless she was, and the conversation ended. we no longer spoke.
Numerous drama llamas in school ended up resulting in our two friend groups hating eachother, and as a result, even though we didn't speak to eachother, was that we hated eachother too.
Then, a few months later she suddenly says she wants to become friends again. I accept, and we hit it off hugely. We start talking about all the old times and we share alot, she matured greatly and it was all good and well. We became incredibly close, pretty much as close as two people can be before going into a relationship. After a few months I begun to fancy her, and just as I was persuing that, I remembered how she told me about the 'rape'.
I questioned her about it one night, asking if it actually happened. She got defensive, and then told me much more. She told me how around the time I asked her out, she was being asked out by another guy. When she said yes to me, he got jealous, and raped her. Apartenly she chose not to tell anyone because she was afraid of her parents finding out her "innocence was lost". I still didn't believe her.
She went on to tell me how as time went on, she neglected to tell people and he repeated it. He would beat her and cut her in areas that would be covered by clothing normally, and asked his friends to help keep her quiet. In the end I found out that his friends also got invovled. This was when she finally told me the infamous man behind it all. His name was Aiden. This is where the story got a bit complicated for me, as I had never heard of a guy named Aiden.
Apartenly Aiden knew all about me, though, and got insanely jealous. After raping her, Aiden would explain to her that "I would just want to do the same thing", causing her to break up with me.
This whole thing seemed TOO surreal though. I still refused to believe it, althought I didnt tell her that. One day when we were hanging out, she pulled me aside to show me something. Massive scars, bruises all across her stomach, back, chest, ext ext. Its then I realised she wasn't bullshitting.
I decided to get serious about it, I felt like an ass ignoring it before, always telling myself "That stuff doesn't happen [I]here,[/I] and most certainly not to people like [I]her[/I]", but it had. I sat down and told her, we NEEDED to get help. Apartenly, she did before. She contacted a youth centre, who denied her help because of lack of proof. This led Aiden to get angry, and she suffered the consquences. So now, she's completely terrified to tell anyone, incase her parents find out, incase Aidens friends find out and track her down, ext ext.
Since then we've contuined to talk. Since we've been talking I've learnt about some of the stuff they do. Five of them will find her, not sure how, but they find her and force her to get into a car with them. They drive her out to no where...and just do it. Since she's told me this I've advised her on how to avoid them and it hasn't happened for awhile, but I dont know what to do.
I'm looking at a 15 year old girl, that has been gangraped. Multiple times, for a year now. The result of the trauma has ended up with her not eating, not sleeping and not socialising properly. She'lll never have a proper teenage relationship because of this, never truly have fun without thinking back to those events. and the worst part is, even if she told someone, no one will believe her. It took me months to finally accept that what she was telling me was real and that she wasn't doing it to get sympathy off me.
I don't know what to do. Currently, this is my best friend who's living through a life of hell, barely avoiding a full on rape each day and she actually feels like she CAN'T tell anyone without it ending badly for her. I've explained multiple solutions that don't even involve her parents or anyone else finding out about it, but she won't do it in fear of it happening again.
Discuss.[/QUOTE]
Anything that happens in the future will be equaly your fault if you fail to notify authorities. Sometimes people have to suck it up for their own good, this would certainly be one of those times. Get her parents, and the police involved regardless of what the parents and or the daughter think.
If you can actually confirm that this is happening, and not just her saying this and showing you some cuts on her back, beat the shit out of Aiden, break his legs with a baseball bat
Or you could go eye for an eye on him, and rape him
[QUOTE=devotchkade;30133734]Oh, shit, you were being sarcastic. Sorry. I'm ridiculously sick, and I misread your posts. My bad.[/QUOTE]
That's fine it was a crappy joke anyway.
[QUOTE=Kopimi;30133754]If you can actually confirm that this is happening, and not just her saying this and showing you some cuts on her back, beat the shit out of Aiden, break his legs with a baseball bat
Or you could go eye for an eye on him, and rape him[/QUOTE]
Oooorrrrr he can notify police and her parents, and get an investigation started and if her story proves true, then this "Aiden" would be screwed far harder than any beating could do.
[QUOTE=Gaza Pen Pal;30133772]That's fine it was a crappy joke anyway.[/QUOTE]
No, a huge amount of people use it and think it's completely valid. Using it in a sarcastic way to mock those people and their shitty logic is an appropriate use, I think.
Again, I'm sorry. My reading comprehension skillz are evidently zilch right now.
[quote]How the fuck are you going to get a citation for something like that. Stop fucking posting that everytime someone has an opinion you don't agree with [/quote]
you weren't stating an opinion you fuckwad you were posting something as objective fact. which requires a citation
jesus fuck how do live
[QUOTE=Gaza Pen Pal;30133607]If women just stopped dressing so slutty then men wouldn't be forced to rape them.[/QUOTE]
i is like a caged beast
unable to control my urges
is not my fault
how can i possibly have any control in what i do?
u tel me how???
[QUOTE=Lazor;30133899]you weren't stating an opinion you fuckwad you were posting something as objective fact. which requires a citation
jesus fuck how do live[/QUOTE]
I can't stop laughing over this.
I'll be buying him a spineless coward title linking to this thread if he doesn't go through with telling the police today.
[QUOTE=Profanwolf;30133942]I'll be buying him a spineless coward title linking to this thread if he doesn't go through with telling the police today.[/QUOTE]
"everyone on facepunch told me to help a rape victim, i didn't and now she's dead"
[QUOTE=Gaza Pen Pal;30133998]"everyone on facepunch told me to help a rape victim, i didn't and now she's dead"[/QUOTE]
Well... How about you all do your internet stalking thing and find out who this is and where and call the police over the internet![IMG]http://outofprintmag.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/04/Problem-Solverz-logo.png[/IMG]
[QUOTE=s0m3_guy;30131457]Bro you live in NZ, where you at?
I'll back you up[/QUOTE]
Yeah, if screaming redrum, crying, and going into a fetal position can back someone up, go for it.
[QUOTE=WillerinV1.02;30117920]
I'm looking at a 15 year old girl, that has been gangraped. Multiple times, for a year now. The result of the trauma has ended up with her not eating, not sleeping and not socialising properly. She'lll never have a proper teenage relationship because of this, never truly have fun without thinking back to those events. and the worst part is, even if she told someone, no one will believe her. It took me months to finally accept that what she was telling me was real and that she wasn't doing it to get sympathy off me.
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if you look at his avatar, it's seems like he's above 20 years.
Of course this photo might not be his, but I don't think there's some other reason he would use this weird looking guy as avatar.
so he has underage sex with that girl... doesn't sound very legal either.
[QUOTE=Jimbojib;30117966]I think this is a good lesson for people who go around thinking 'That will never happen to me'[/QUOTE]
Then suddenly: RAEP.
[url]http://www.facepunch.com/threads/996544-My-sceience-teacher-was-a-pretty-damn-cool-guy?highlight=[/url]
[url]http://www.facepunch.com/threads/1023017-So-there-was-a-huge-fight-at-my-school-and-I-caused-it?highlight=[/url]
See the times? Apparently he's left school, but then after that he had a fight in school. OP is a bullshitter, /thread.
I've been talking to Willerin on steam and he's said:
He's been to the police and needs to go back again later
He's found out who Aiden is through facebook and he used to go to his school. He's known to be a cunt
He still doesn't know much about the situation however and what he really needs is the police to question this Aiden guy
Scratch that, he contacted the police.
Excellent.
She will view you as a hero later in life, you did the right thing.
Make sure to tell comfort her and encourage her in this situation, it is critical that she reveals everything to the police in order for proper justice to be done.
[img]http://images.wikia.com/dragonball/images/a/a6/Mr.PopoLookOut02.png[/img]
The Popo gon get dat boi
If anything like this happened to my sister, I'd be buying a gun and finding this Aiden fellow.
Aiden sounds gay.
I wish I could report a rape in my town. We have like 30 police officers which is way too many for my town and they all the latest police tech too.. If I reported a rape those cops would be all over that because they have hardly anything else to do and plus every damn teenager would be after the culprit.
It would be kicking rad to see some hometown justice.
You should kick there ass like try do in the movies
Find out where they hang out and teach them a lesson
My friend told me about a girl that got raped. They call her drip now.
I'd kill them all. :ohdear:
quite honestly there really isnt much you can do without it blowing up in your face. either u get her help and she hates u for it or u dont and she continues to get raped. but if i was in ur position id get her help at all cost even if that ment losing her friendship cause at least shes getting the help she really needs and hopefully in the future she will forgive you.
I'd love to torture those guys for hours on end. I'd remove their fingers, toes and cut off their tongue. Then I would blindfold them and pour very strong acid onto their crotch. It would only get better from there.
My desire asside, I am so sorry to hear about your friend, words cannot fathom the shock and sympathy I feel for her... I know there isn't much that we can do (unless one of us happened to live locally near Aiden.) but please know that some of us really do care. Rape is one thing. But gang rape? continuously? this is unheard of. And hopefully they will not go by unpunished.
So, If he gets caught?
7 times whipping and 7 years in jail?
im horny now
[QUOTE=FlapadarV2;30136090][url]http://www.facepunch.com/threads/996544-My-sceience-teacher-was-a-pretty-damn-cool-guy?highlight=[/url]
[url]http://www.facepunch.com/threads/1023017-So-there-was-a-huge-fight-at-my-school-and-I-caused-it?highlight=[/url]
See the times? Apparently he's left school, but then after that he had a fight in school. OP is a bullshitter, /thread.[/QUOTE]
Timezones? You're in the UK and he's in NZ.
I'm not going to judge OP for being hesitant about going to the police, I've never been in any situation near that so I wouldn't know how it feels, but most of the time, the objective standpoint is the best one.
[QUOTE=blown25;30154069]im horny now[/QUOTE]
you ain't getting your funnies, you're not on page 1 so :frog:
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