For the Record: I missed out on life (and gained nothing as a teen) - General

Heh, my teenage years were pretty shit. I was a fat nerd, played Magic: the Gathering for a fair bit and video games for the rest. Had few friends for the early years and picked up a few in the later years when all the guys started becoming not so shitty. Went to Uni when I was 17 and missed out on heaps of drinking events, I even lied about having a girlfriend back in my home town to my housemates to seem cooler. Grew up a hell of a lot in that year and the next. I made some actual friends, got an actual girlfriend, had heaps of fun. Of course I was still a stupid kid, I was a slave to my impulses and was either quiet all the time or a massive loud mouthed asshole with a glass jaw. Strangely enough when I joined up on FP is when I started changing. Things here are much slower than in normal conversation, you can come up with things, reflect back on others, I studied the things I said and really learned who I was and how to change. I took a lot of inspiration from Stewart and Colbert, watching them whenever they were on. I also learned heaps from the various news articles, videos and discussions. I became incredibly articulate, analytical and able to write well from participating in debates about politics or just game lore. It all really helped me. So yeah, I did nothing in my teen years but be a fat nerd but I still managed to turn around in a few years and am now in a much better place. All the lost experiences aren't worth worrying about, the future ones are what should be worked on. You hear people up to 30 saying the same stuff as you, about wasting their youth, learn from it now and know it's not over.

You can have more fun as a "kid" in the 20-40 range than you can in the 13-18 range anyway, you're not a minor anymore so you can pretty much just go do whatever They won't let you in the ball pit at McDonalds but you can fucking build your own if that's what you want

[QUOTE=Mr_Razzums;28813252]I don't "really" know how bad your situation really is. But the only thing I can think of is getting another job. Working 2 min wage jobs isn't that uncommon. Sure you might have little to no free time, but you'll be able to eat along with increasing your job experience. Offing yourself at age 39.999 because you are a virgin is a p bad reason to kill yourself imo. You still have your youth. 21 is still young and you still have a lot to do before you settle down with a final career. You said something about air cadets but I'm not too familiar. Maybe you should try doing military service to meet more people and to get free food/board/cash etc. Trust me there are much more people worse off than you. Hang in there.[/QUOTE] this join the navy the training you do is based in bc

[QUOTE=Zeke129;28911236]You can have more fun as a "kid" in the 20-40 range than you can in the 13-18 range anyway[/QUOTE] fuck yes i hated my teenage years, now i'm having a ball i'm eating ramen noodles upside down OH SHIT

How can you [B]not[/B] be eligible for financial aid in your position? Sounds really fucked up. Where do you live?

Why don't you try something new? Sign up for a university and try to qualify for financial aid?

[QUOTE=demoguy08;28921081]How can you [B]not[/B] be eligible for financial aid in your position? Sounds really fucked up. Where do you live?[/QUOTE] Canada. There's a bunch of loopholes and weird requirements to get money out of the government. It pisses me off as I see people who get paid more than me by the govermnent and have never worked. [quote]Why don't you try something new? Sign up for a university and try to qualify for financial aid? [/quote] Community colleges here in the lower mainland do not do a lot of all-around educating. There's a lot of specialty post-secondary institutions here in Vancouver for shit like gmain and media. I personally want to go to VFS and get into movie production as video editing (The second thing I love is A/V but barely get to tinker around with shit as the gear is so expensive) is one of the few things that have not changed in the last twenty years. Audio was ProTools then and still is. Video editing was Avid and Autodesk and still kinda is depending on the package you use. It's also one fo the few things that would not require me to upgrade my English and Math marks. Unfortunately, each semester is far too expensive for me to afford, even with government support or a regular scholarship.

[QUOTE=MIPS;28925461]Canada.[/QUOTE] Definitely easier to get financial aid here than in the US. You sure you don't qualify?

They need to invent a generator that runs on excuses and then shove MIPS into it. Energy crisis solved.

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28925730]They need to invent a generator that runs on excuses and then shove MIPS into it. Energy crisis solved.[/QUOTE] Let's put you in one that runs on ego

My suggestion is to walk or take a bike to where you need to go. Maybe even take a bus if so inclined. That way you wont have to worry about the car until you can afford it.

No no. NO No jesus christ NO!! [b]FUCK!![/b] The landlord emailed us a reminder that the annual lease expires May 1. He also stated that when it expires, he will be downgrading us to a monthly lease. The other two roommates are not liking this and Purple ahs already started to ramp up plans to move out. If that's the case, it's possible the other roommate is pissing off as well. With my $533 rent jumping to $1600, I can't afford the rent, nor can I source replacement roommates that would be reliable enough for me to draft out with the landlord another annual lease in time. Son of a bitch, I lost my life, now I'm losing the roof over my head. I have to keep calm. There has to me a miscommunication. I can't be on the verge of losing all my stuff. This can not happen. Normal people don't ahve to worry about shit like this. They are well off. They have a job that's making them at least $30000 a year. WHY THE FUCK IS THIS HAPPENING TO ME?!?!?! I CAN NOT BE THIS BADLY FUCKED THAT I'M SUFFERING A MENTAL BREAKDOWN AT 2AM AND HAVE TO BE AT THE OFFICE IN SIX HOURS.

[QUOTE=Zeke129;28925737]Let's put you in one that runs on ego[/QUOTE] you get one for sitting in your moms basement at 20

I know this might sound kind of harsh and what not, but (unless you have an actual medical problem) you need to learn to control your emotions. We've all had hard things happen to us. Don't even try and think that your alone with that. I've had close family members die young, collage plans go up in flames, crazy financial problems, etc. but in the end I've decided that complaining about all of them doesn't help me at all... not even a little bit. So instead of that I consciously decided to myself that I wasn't going to allow myself to be depressed... it just simply isn't helpful. Sure, it was a long process, but I can honestly say that at this point in time my life is happy... whether things are going my way or not.

[QUOTE=MIPS;28993667]No no. NO No jesus christ NO!! [b]FUCK!![/b] The landlord emailed us a reminder that the annual lease expires May 1. He also stated that when it expires, he will be downgrading us to a monthly lease. The other two roommates are not liking this and Purple ahs already started to ramp up plans to move out. If that's the case, it's possible the other roommate is pissing off as well. With my $533 rent jumping to $1600, I can't afford the rent, nor can I source replacement roommates that would be reliable enough for me to draft out with the landlord another annual lease in time. Son of a bitch, I lost my life, now I'm losing the roof over my head. I have to keep calm. There has to me a miscommunication. I can't be on the verge of losing all my stuff. This can not happen. Normal people don't ahve to worry about shit like this. They are well off. They have a job that's making them at least $30000 a year. WHY THE FUCK IS THIS HAPPENING TO ME?!?!?! I CAN NOT BE THIS BADLY FUCKED THAT I'M SUFFERING A MENTAL BREAKDOWN AT 2AM AND HAVE TO BE AT THE OFFICE IN SIX HOURS.[/QUOTE] Work with your existing roommates to find a different place. Frankly I'd be trying get the hell out of the most expensive city in the country but I can understand why you don't want to. [editline]5th April 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=Mr.Dounut;28994645]you get one for sitting in your moms basement at 20[/QUOTE] I applied for nine jobs in the last month A 16 year old such as yourself may be able to get by fine on 12 hours a week at mcdonalds but that isn't an option for me

[QUOTE=MIPS;28993667]No no. NO No jesus christ NO!! [b]FUCK!![/b] The landlord emailed us a reminder that the annual lease expires May 1. He also stated that when it expires, he will be downgrading us to a monthly lease. The other two roommates are not liking this and Purple ahs already started to ramp up plans to move out. If that's the case, it's possible the other roommate is pissing off as well. With my $533 rent jumping to $1600, I can't afford the rent, nor can I source replacement roommates that would be reliable enough for me to draft out with the landlord another annual lease in time. Son of a bitch, I lost my life, now I'm losing the roof over my head. I have to keep calm. There has to me a miscommunication. I can't be on the verge of losing all my stuff. This can not happen. Normal people don't ahve to worry about shit like this. They are well off. They have a job that's making them at least $30000 a year. WHY THE FUCK IS THIS HAPPENING TO ME?!?!?! I CAN NOT BE THIS BADLY FUCKED THAT I'M SUFFERING A MENTAL BREAKDOWN AT 2AM AND HAVE TO BE AT THE OFFICE IN SIX HOURS.[/QUOTE] Don't most apartments have a system where they can fill in spots with random roommates? Plenty of people have problems like this. It's called life. Instead of breaking down, they look for solutions. Put up an add for roommates. Look for a cheap efficiency apartment to live in. It's not the end of the world, calm the fuck down.

I rarely ever post on this forum. I can honestly say I rarely ever fully read through 8 pages on a thread. I have had a normal life and can not really relate to you MIPS but I do feel for you. I must say that my personality used to be similar but I changed it over the past year or so. I, too am 21 but am in a different boat for you but still can understand where you're at. I used to very quiet and kept to myself. I changed that since I love talking to people and listening. Friends around me have always told me I was a great listener. So I broke from my shell and changed my lifestyle significantly. My recommendation to you is to change your lifestyle. Before you say anything, I understand that money is a big issue. What I mean is try something new. The old quote "you'll never know if you like something if you don't try it." I am in the same situation with money recently since paying for school here in America is a joke and is debt inducing. Just go out and try something new, anything. I, for all of my high school life was anti-drinking. I changed from that and it can actually be a big help. The drinking part no but being social with others. Parties are a great way to socialize and the best part is bud, though you may think you'll make a fool of yourself, you won't. It in a way is to start fresh because nobody knows you and you can mold yourself anyway you want. I am not saying go out every night drinking but just go out and socialize. I used to be a person who kept only to himself. I changed that by just being myself and making others laugh. I am very good at joking with people and have always had a good humor in life. As to the thoughts of suicide, that like many others here have agreed is not a recommended idea. I know it seems like the only way to end your unhappiness but it isn't. My only complaint with your entire problem is this whole idea of "i have to have sex to succeed in life." It is not true in the slightest bit. Yes it makes you happy but it complicates things in the same way also. I just recently have started my life in this area so I know how you feel when you're this age and in you're situation. Ending on this note, try something new in life, something you can look back on and been like "wow 2 years ago I never would have thought i'd ever do this." Life is basically what you make it and you only live once. Going out and trying new things can be scary, trust me I know. Like others have said, join a club, volunteer somewhere? Volunteering could be good for you, meeting new people can never hurt.