• Anxiety over living on my own?
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Thank you! I'll keep in mind!
Why are they putting you in a house? Why not a studio or 1 bedroom appartment? I'm 21 and still hate living alone, it's a huge pain in the ass if you grew up with parents who cooked and cleaned and did your laundry. [editline]6th August 2013[/editline] That is unless you enjoy being a massive slob [editline]6th August 2013[/editline] Or rooming with massive slobs
[QUOTE=POLOPOZOZO;41733216]Why are they putting you in a house? Why not a studio or 1 bedroom appartment? I'm 21 and still hate living alone, it's a huge pain in the ass if you grew up with parents who cooked and cleaned and did your laundry. [editline]6th August 2013[/editline] That is unless you enjoy being a massive slob [editline]6th August 2013[/editline] Or rooming with massive slobs[/QUOTE] Your parents cooked/cleaned/did your laundry up until you moved out?
I mean we all cleaned and did yard work they both cooked, when I cook it's like a can of green beans beans with half a pack of bacon for the whole day only my mom does laundry, if it weren't for her me and my dad would wear the same clothes for a week I still live with them weekends, breaks, summers etc. my school town is only half an hour away [editline]6th August 2013[/editline] is that weird or something
Living on your own is great. Yeah, the bills are stressful, but the freedom of having your own place is well worth it. Nobody will ever tell you to put on pants. I didn't wear clothes at home for six months after getting my first apartment, and I don't care who knows it! That is what it's all about, my friend. And besides, it sounds like your parents are extremely supportive. If they're doing this for you, I don't imagine they'll ever leave you high and dry should you need some help with things. [editline]6th August 2013[/editline] [QUOTE=POLOPOZOZO;41733216]Why are they putting you in a house? Why not a studio or 1 bedroom appartment? I'm 21 and still hate living alone, it's a huge pain in the ass if you grew up with parents who cooked and cleaned and did your laundry. [editline]6th August 2013[/editline] That is unless you enjoy being a massive slob [editline]6th August 2013[/editline] Or rooming with massive slobs[/QUOTE] Honestly, I'd also recommend going somewhere smaller. I have a multi-level three bedroom apartment, and aside from being too expensive for me to comfortably afford, it's just [I]way[/I] too big. It's a pain in the butt to maintain, the heating and cooling bills are way higher than they should be, and it's just a huge waste of space. I would much rather live in a generous studio apartment than a house.
Damn OP, I'll trade you. I'd love to live on my own, but I can't afford it without government assistance and I'm not looking to go on a welfare program just so I can scrape by enough to afford a shitty apartment, especially when my job security is meh at best. If they're just handing you a house, take it. I personally love having the house to myself for long periods, because I set my own schedule, interact with people on my terms when I want to, and get to handle things at my pace and not at the pace set by other people in the house. I also tend to be far more productive because when I do something, like housework or a project, I'm doing it because I'm motivated to, not because someone else pushes you to do it or expects it. Living alone is great, OP. I understand your anxiety on a job and payments, but honestly if you can find a fair paying job that you can at least live with, then you should be fine. I'm lucky that I enjoy my job, it just sucks that it pays low.
[QUOTE=MEOWTFLOL;41728704]OP, heres a tip - Make a conservative budget. If you make, for example, 2000/month, dont spend 2000/month. Spend less then you make. Theres many benefits to this, the main one being that you save money. Also, don't be afraid to splurge every so often.[/QUOTE] I think that is pretty common sense advise, but I do my budgeting a bit differently: I allocate myself $50 a week for groceries. So with that I get bread, milk, food to make lunch and dinner etc but what I do is I round up the cost of goods until I get to that budget. Say I buy a bottle of pasta sauce that costs $2.50, well in my budget that costs me $3. I buy a $1.50 loaf of bread, that costs me $2. So with that, I make a list where when I round everything up it costs $50 but when I actually go through the check out I might only be spending $45. That is my way of creating a 'conservative' budget. Every little bit of money saved helps, you don't know how far even that $5 can actually take you. [editline]7th August 2013[/editline] [QUOTE=Zeke129;41733267]Your parents cooked/cleaned/did your laundry up until you moved out?[/QUOTE] I know you're responding to him but yeah I cleaned and did the laundry when I still lived with my parents but I never cooked. However (just saying for the OP at least) cooking is actually pretty easy and once you know the basics you can start experimenting with stuff. Learning how to cook can also save a bit of money over microwave meals while tasting better. Last night I created a pasta (mince included) which only cost me $9.25 but I got two feeds from that, could have even got three feeds if I wasn't such a fat fuck.
[QUOTE=POLOPOZOZO;41733470]I mean we all cleaned and did yard work they both cooked, when I cook it's like a can of green beans beans with half a pack of bacon for the whole day only my mom does laundry, if it weren't for her me and my dad would wear the same clothes for a week I still live with them weekends, breaks, summers etc. my school town is only half an hour away [editline]6th August 2013[/editline] is that weird or something[/QUOTE] I doubt it's weird If you have a parent that always cooks or does the laundry in big batches it makes little sense to make them split the job up just so you can do some two people can't unclog a toilet faster etc I just started cooking for myself when my diet took a radical departure from my parent's and started doing my own laundry when they bought a High Efficiency washer (they couldn't figure it out)
Also, if you have someone live with you, don't rely on their word no matter how close of a friend they are. It isn't necessarily being distrustful, it is looking out for the both of you. Make a co-tenant agreement that states all of the rules and responsibilities you guys are bound to during whatever length of time they will be staying with you. I say this because I am in the process of getting an apartment with three other people and if there was a situation where one refused or forgot to pay rent, I want a document that can later be used to hold them accountable for the missing funds. Same goes for insurance liabilities.
Thank you everyone, for helping me!
If you're just anxious about being alone all the time I'd say get a roommate. It'll also help financially if you properly split rent, etc. [QUOTE=G3rman;41752104]Also, if you have someone live with you, don't rely on their word no matter how close of a friend they are. It isn't necessarily being distrustful, it is looking out for the both of you. Make a co-tenant agreement that states all of the rules and responsibilities you guys are bound to during whatever length of time they will be staying with you. I say this because I am in the process of getting an apartment with three other people and if there was a situation where one refused or forgot to pay rent, I want a document that can later be used to hold them accountable for the missing funds. Same goes for insurance liabilities.[/QUOTE] Roommate Agreement à la The Big Bang Theory? ( All I could think of when you said that :P )
I'm a bit nervous to move out as well, as I'm planning on moving out soon, I'm 20. I would like the independence, but I'm worried I'd get lonely. I may get a two bedroom apartment and have friends over most of the time, which is how it is already anyway at another friend's apartment. Money isn't a problem for me, fortunately, so it just comes down to making a decision. A lot of things have changed in my life recently, big things, and I think it's time I start a new life and move on. I have a pretty decent paying job and a supporting family, so I think all will end well. [editline]8th August 2013[/editline] You could have friends stay with you a good portion of the time and just have them pay a share of the rent, and if that goes well, maybe you'd look into having them move in, if they're trustworthy, of course. I think you'll be alright, man. This is a part of life, independence, making your own way, and you're really just getting a good head start on it. Stay strong and try and look on the bright side of things.
If you have an entire house to yourself you should rent out some rooms or get some of your friends to move in and split the bills [editline]11th August 2013[/editline] Oh god this thread is pretty old now
If you really get anxious over it, rent out a flat, or something similar, that doesn't have a yard to look after, and isn't too big, so that you don't need to worry about bills (cos you rent) and the whole maintainence isn't really up to you...
Thank you everybody!
[QUOTE=Tacooo;41799169]If you have an entire house to yourself you should rent out some rooms or get some of your friends to move in and split the bills [editline]11th August 2013[/editline] Oh god this thread is pretty old now[/QUOTE] Moving out with friends is a terrible idea, unless you want to end up hating them then go ahead. Sometimes I can't even stand my brother who I'm renting with at the moment. [editline]13th August 2013[/editline] [QUOTE=Brismo;41803326]If you really get anxious over it, rent out a flat, or something similar, that doesn't have a yard to look after, and isn't too big, so that you don't need to worry about bills (cos you rent) and the whole maintainence isn't really up to you...[/QUOTE] Depends on the landlord but sometimes maintenance of the yard is the responsibility of the landlord. Sometimes it isn't. I have to take care of my backyard but all it needs is a quick mow every few weeks. Done. Reminds me that I should probably do mine tomorrow.
[QUOTE=Antdawg;41820025]Moving out with friends is a terrible idea, unless you want to end up hating them then go ahead. Sometimes I can't even stand my brother who I'm renting with at the moment. [editline]13th August 2013[/editline] Depends on the landlord but sometimes maintenance of the yard is the responsibility of the landlord. Sometimes it isn't. I have to take care of my backyard but all it needs is a quick mow every few weeks. Done. Reminds me that I should probably do mine tomorrow.[/QUOTE] I don't know about having friends sign the lease and depending on them, but I think it'd be cool to have a friend stay a while and just pay you for whatever they use. If you don't have complete trust in someone, I wouldn't really sign a lease with them. I'm probably renting an apartment and having friends over all the time, and they can just pay me for their stay. I know it's not technically allowed, but no one will really know.
[QUOTE=jbthekid;41829728]I don't know about having friends sign the lease and depending on them, but I think it'd be cool to have a friend stay a while and just pay you for whatever they use. If you don't have complete trust in someone, I wouldn't really sign a lease with them. I'm probably renting an apartment and having friends over all the time, and they can just pay me for their stay. I know it's not technically allowed, but no one will really know.[/QUOTE] I probably wouldn't risk it, my landlord is scheduled to visit us every fortnight. She'd probably pick up on it if someone was staying over without being listed as a tenant. Also, although you trust someone doesn't mean that they are trustworthy. In the first few weeks things will be smooth sailing, but then small issues (someone pouring fats down the sink or stealing your sugar) will pop up which will really piss you off and then blow up into huge issues.
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