[QUOTE=Roll_Program;36998926]That's not good at all.[/QUOTE]
WHY ARE PEOPLE DISAGREEING WITH THIS POST?
Not talking to people for weeks at a time is not good at all. It's unhealthy and sad. We need to encourage him to start socialising, not encourage him to be a shut in.
[QUOTE=DanTehMan;36999299]I've never really understood the need to have a completely different personality online than you would in real life.[/QUOTE]
I doubt it's a need. It's more a temptation; you're anonymous and you have a perceived audience. You can just invent a new personality that's better than your irl one and go from there. I'd hazard a guess that this is why we often saw so much underage creepy flirting in this thread; sexual repression irl because you're not out and your parents are hyper-Christian -> overt sexuality on the web
[QUOTE=Joseph Smith;37001219][url]http://vocaroo.com/i/s094j00pmuD8[/url][/QUOTE]
Where are you from?
[QUOTE=eurocracy;37001344]Where are you from?[/QUOTE]
The land of pizza and lovemaking
[sp] Yes, its italy[/sp]
[QUOTE=Joseph Smith;37001353]The land of pizza and lovemaking
[sp] Yes, its italy[/sp][/QUOTE]
I think it's more like the land of spaghetti and people that flail their hands around when they talk.
[QUOTE=Splurgy_A;37001192]WHY ARE PEOPLE DISAGREEING WITH THIS POST?
Not talking to people for weeks at a time is not good at all. It's unhealthy and sad. We need to encourage him to start socialising, not encourage him to be a shut in.[/QUOTE]
how do i find people to talk to
[QUOTE=Joseph Smith;37001353]The land of pizza and lovemaking
[sp] Yes, its italy[/sp][/QUOTE]
Too bad my mums sauce recipe is better than yours >:3
[QUOTE=Gar~;37001728]Too bad my mums sauce recipe is better than yours >:3[/QUOTE]
You wish gar, you wish...
[QUOTE=Joseph Smith;37001996]You wish gar, you wish...[/QUOTE]
I'll let you come over today when you try the sauce you'll be begging for more guaranteed!
[QUOTE=Gar~;37002017]I'll let you come over today when you try the sauce you'll be begging for more guaranteed![/QUOTE]
Well, it actually depends on the sauce itself at this point.
I don't know how to deal with my mom as a person anymore.
When my grandma passed away she had a severe case of dementia. After she passed away, my mom’s biggest fear in life was to end up as “loopy and unpleasant” as grandma was. With the hormone altering drugs she’s had to take for the last year to prevent the cancer coming back, mom’s been much more unpleasant than grandma ever was. The starting phase of her medication was understandable, and things were relatively okay.
For the last six months she's been getting meaner and meaner. Right now she’s to the point where she isn't a person, but the caricature of a bitter old woman. Pops and I are trying really hard to try to help her in every way possible, while being as nice as possible, so she can simmer down and maybe enjoy a book like she used to. However, within two minutes of waking up she’s already so mad at both of us that we might as well not exist. We can’t even say “good morning” before we get berated on how ‘useless’ and ‘stupid’ we are. She's also given up on trying to find a medicine that works which also makes her feel like her happy old self.
It’s getting really hard to be around her, and I’ve only been here for summer break. After being yelled at for a straight 50 minutes last night I got in the car and drove down the highway until three in the morning to keep me occupied.
I don’t know what to do at this point. Suggestions?
(Sorry for wall of text/blogpunch and all that)
I really don't think you're going to find much useful advice here, I don't think any of us are psychiatrists or anything of the sort.. but maybe a psychiatrist? I really have no idea. I never heard of medicine that makes you unpleasant.
Either way, have a heart.
[B]Edit[/B] I just realised you probably live in the USA and a psychiatrist would cost money.. dunno.
Social worker.
Looks like she needs to go to a home or just live away from you.
I'm assuming you have a dad who can look after you.
[QUOTE=DainBramageStudios;37001531]how do i find people to talk to[/QUOTE]
Bars? Clubs? Any kind of social gathering? Groups at college/uni? If you don't go to college or uni, there's either high school or work. Both have people. There's loads of places to meet people, and those who say there aren't obviously don't try. Starting out is the hardest part. Once you start meeting people you'll realise how much more interesting and fun it is than spending the majority of your life sitting on the computer.
People absolutely should not have been disagreeing with Roll_Program's saying it's not good to go weeks without speaking to people. It really is not good at all.
Friends and the ability to interact with people easily are very important. You can't really get anywhere in life without them and if you have neither you need to work on it or you're stuck, honestly.
Lol, you don't go to bars or clubs if you just want to find someone to talk to.
[QUOTE=mikeyt493;37002720]Bars? Clubs? Any kind of social gathering? Groups at college/uni? If you don't go to college or uni, there's either high school or work. Both have people. There's loads of places to meet people, and those who say there aren't obviously don't try. Starting out is the hardest part. Once you start meeting people you'll realise how much more interesting and fun it is than spending the majority of your life sitting on the computer.[/quote]
I'm not 18 yet so no bars or clubs, I'm unemployed and I barely know anyone in school, plus school is geographically quite far away and no one who goes there lives nearby.
[quote]People absolutely should not have been disagreeing with Roll_Program's saying it's not good to go weeks without speaking to people. It really is not good at all.
Friends and the ability to interact with people easily are very important. You can't really get anywhere in life without them and if you have neither you need to work on it or you're stuck, honestly.[/QUOTE]
yeah I'm not in denial that this is a big problem for me, just that I don't have any idea how to solve it
Man, this is one awesome thread. Wish I'd noticed it sooner, might have started posting awhile ago. ^^;
[QUOTE=Super Muffin;37002628]I don't know how to deal with my mom as a person anymore.
When my grandma passed away she had a severe case of dementia. After she passed away, my mom’s biggest fear in life was to end up as “loopy and unpleasant” as grandma was. With the hormone altering drugs she’s had to take for the last year to prevent the cancer coming back, mom’s been much more unpleasant than grandma ever was. The starting phase of her medication was understandable, and things were relatively okay.
For the last six months she's been getting meaner and meaner. Right now she’s to the point where she isn't a person, but the caricature of a bitter old woman. Pops and I are trying really hard to try to help her in every way possible, while being as nice as possible, so she can simmer down and maybe enjoy a book like she used to. However, within two minutes of waking up she’s already so mad at both of us that we might as well not exist. We can’t even say “good morning” before we get berated on how ‘useless’ and ‘stupid’ we are. She's also given up on trying to find a medicine that works which also makes her feel like her happy old self.
It’s getting really hard to be around her, and I’ve only been here for summer break. After being yelled at for a straight 50 minutes last night I got in the car and drove down the highway until three in the morning to keep me occupied.
I don’t know what to do at this point. Suggestions?
(Sorry for wall of text/blogpunch and all that)[/QUOTE]
Sounds a little like my situation.
My Grandmother died about two years ago now.. Man, it does not feel like two years - didn't even realize it'd been that long until typing that. Anyways.. She'd been in declining health, and her mind was slipping gradually. I honestly didn't notice it the same as some did, perhaps I turned a blind eye to it and wasn't realizing it, or maybe I simply was lucky enough to never see it. Either way, she passed on in an altogether unfortunate way.. It was rough and drawn out, and my mother more or less cracked as a result of it.
Not to say my mother was ever truly cheerful, she had anger issues from as long as I've known her, but she DID mellow out a bit over the years.. After my Grandmother passed though, she lost herself for awhile, and became someone unpredictable. Worse still, she was diagnosed as having a few months back, which was safely removed - but doctors remain unsure if it's helped as of yet.
In any case, with all that's happened to her she can be very spiteful and angry at times. She'll snap my head off over nothing some days and I just do my best to avoid her. Doesn't help that I've gotten nothing but mixed signals over the whole being gay thing either. I get the feeling to her it's nothing more than yet another burden she has to deal with, which is dejecting..
I wish I had some advice for you, but truth is I think this is I'm not sure what to tell you.. It's rough, and you have my sympathies.
[QUOTE=DainBramageStudios;37002878]I'm not 18 yet so no bars or clubs, I'm unemployed and [b]I barely know anyone in school[/b], plus school is geographically quite far away and no one who goes there lives nearby.
yeah I'm not in denial that this is a big problem for me, just that I don't have any idea how to solve it[/QUOTE]
Let's address this point.
If you're still at school, why not consider joining a school club? Do you have any hobbies? Perhaps there's some group of gamers at school who do LAN parties (there was at mine, although granted this was a few years ago when LAN parties were more of a thing). Books? Drama? Just join a random club as an excuse to get talking to people. Even if they live far away, at least that's [i]something[/i]. How old are you?
You can also look for a job while you do it. Any job. I'd recommend a customer service job like working in McDonalds which forces you to talk to people - once you've done it enough times you'll stop worrying about it.
[editline]30th July 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=MonkeysLP;37002698]I really don't think you're going to find much useful advice here, I don't think any of us are psychiatrists or anything of the sort.. but maybe a psychiatrist? I really have no idea. I never heard of medicine that makes you unpleasant.
Either way, have a heart.
[B]Edit[/B] I just realised you probably live in the USA and a psychiatrist would cost money.. dunno.[/QUOTE]
It really unnerves me when I hear Americans say stuff like "We couldn't afford to go to hospital" or "I can't go to a psychiatrist because it's too expensive". There's African countries with more accessible health care.
[QUOTE=Splurgy_A;37002926]Let's address this point.
If you're still at school, why not consider joining a school club? Do you have any hobbies? Perhaps there's some group of gamers at school who do LAN parties (there was at mine, although granted this was a few years ago when LAN parties were more of a thing). Books? Drama? Just join a random club as an excuse to get talking to people. Even if they live far away, at least that's [i]something[/i]. How old are you?
You can also look for a job while you do it. Any job. I'd recommend a customer service job like working in McDonalds which forces you to talk to people - once you've done it enough times you'll stop worrying about it.
[editline]30th July 2012[/editline]
[B]It really unnerves me when I hear Americans say stuff like "We couldn't afford to go to hospital" or "I can't go to a psychiatrist because it's too expensive". There's African countries with more accessible health care.[/B][/QUOTE]
People seem to ride that as an excuse a lot, to just never fix things.
[QUOTE=DainBramageStudios;37002878]I'm not 18 yet so no bars or clubs, I'm unemployed and I barely know anyone in school, plus school is geographically quite far away and no one who goes there lives nearby.[/QUOTE]
Finding people to talk to isn't easy. I'd suggest just making friends online however you can and talking with them on a regular basis. I live in a horrible place, nowhere to go and nothing to do. And the few friends I had as a youth have long since moved away. The only good friends I have, and probably the truest ones I've ever had at that - are online.
I've known some people online now for well over a decade, and we still talk almost every day.. Face to face communication isn't everything, though it is nice.
[url]http://vocaroo.com/i/s0grFRW8iJsb[/url]
:v:
[SP]Terrible voice is terrible[/SP]
[editline]30th July 2012[/editline]
Also, just as I was about to go hom from work, it starts raining heavily. And as soon as I reach my hoom, the rain stops. Hooray.
That's not a terrible voice at all. Just sayin'
[QUOTE=Jubey93;37003363]That's not a terrible voice at all. Just sayin'[/QUOTE]
Ye, I kinda like it.
[QUOTE=Naught;36999122][url]http://vocaroo.com/i/s05td5rRUm6u[/url]
I sound so scripted im not used to this oh god[/QUOTE]
Not loud enough.
OPEN UP 'DEM CHEEKS BOY.
[editline]30th July 2012[/editline]
No, not THOSE one's, the other one's!
[editline]30th July 2012[/editline]
holy shit redback got banned
[QUOTE=Krisan Thyme;37002920]
I wish I had some advice for you, but truth is I think this is I'm not sure what to tell you.. It's rough, and you have my sympathies.[/QUOTE]
Thanks. And I'm sorry you're going through this too. [IMG]http://fi.somethingawful.com/images/smilies/frown.gif[/IMG]
[QUOTE=Roll_Program;37002705]
I'm assuming you have a dad who can look after you.[/QUOTE]
I'm only here for the summer, I head back to college at the end of August
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Good news with my mom!
I followed a hunch and signed her up for a summertime membership at a local private pool. She used to go lap swimming every day, and she stopped fairly recently.
So I drove her to Wendy's (which has the only hamburgers in town that she likes) and I handed her the paperwork for the membership. She was happy, which is good to see. She's also agreed to see the Oncologist again!
Now if I could just do something about my uncle sneaking in at 2am and stealing our food. :v:
[B]e:[/B]Gotta go fill out a prescription, the chores keep on coming. Oh well!
guard dog or alarm system
Call Batman.
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