Had my hair cut for the first time in about 4 months.
RIP: Fluffyhair - I am not amused.
[QUOTE=MasterFen007;36395676]Had my hair cut for the first time in about 4 months.
RIP: Fluffyhair - I am not amused.[/QUOTE]
Dude I went without cutting for about 3 years.
[QUOTE=Calkkuna;36395753]Dude I went without cutting for about 3 years.[/QUOTE]
same
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For a long time I couldn't pin down what made me feel odd about Splurgy's posts and now I've figured it out. Splurgy is like an incredibly verbose lad. I've got it all figured.
Sister went into labour so we're going to the hospital.
[QUOTE=Joseph Smith;36394815]Morning fags.
The hot won't stop. Is still around 38°C. And it's that moist/wet hot!
[B]I'M MELTING.[/B][/QUOTE]
Bah, that's nothing.
[t]http://i.imgur.com/C6XVk.jpg[/t]
(About 41-42°C)
Um do you guys live in australia?
gg
Hi everyone!
[QUOTE=biodude94566;36396104]Bah, that's nothing.
[t]http://i.imgur.com/C6XVk.jpg[/t]
(About 41-42°C)[/QUOTE]
In the sun, probably.
[QUOTE=MasterFen007;36396146]In the sun, probably.[/QUOTE]
We'd been driving for a few hours so the car had plenty of time to cool off to whatever it was like outside.
It use to get up to 55C in Dubai with winter being 30, also sorry about before: felt really shitty for some reason.
I'm still complaining about it being too cold here, wearing jackets in summer, and quite often umbrellas.
But you don't [i]wear[/i] umbrellas, silly.
Well I thought we were leaving right now but it's been over an hour since I was told such so I dunno what the hell is going on.
There's this awful mist that doesn't let me see past half a block and I feel like I am in either a low visibility game of minecraft or a Stephen King novel
shit was scary riding the bus knowing the driver couldn't see too far ahead
[QUOTE=GhostProject;36396529]But you don't [i]wear[/i] umbrellas, silly.[/QUOTE]
[URL="http://www.displaycostume.com/store/files/images/large/238950.jpg"]Wearing an umbrella sir. [/URL]
Not quite sure how linking works yet, first attempt, sorry if that's broken.
You can just use [img]-image[\img] for embedding, but a forward slash instead of backslash :)
And I just got up and threw up, havent eaten anything so it was rly not nice :( I've not left the house since Friday night so I think that's it. Kind of feels like I've drank a ridiculous amount, in the sickness kinda way lol but augh need to get out the house. might just go on a walk soon.
[QUOTE=redback3;36391711]wow you seem like a really nice person, you make me realise why I hate people again.[/QUOTE]
If you think I'm being a dickhead, you haven't lived.
If you go onto the gay scene looking for a boyfriend, you're going to be chewed up and spat out. It happened to me when I was 14 and thought I knew how life worked.
Basing your idea of what life's going to be like on, say, Kurt and Blaine is ridiculous. Don't get me wrong, there's obviously gay kids about who start dating and shit, but they're the lucky ones. You're skipping over all the kids who don't go to school with another gay kid, or go to school with dubiously straight guys who will refuse point blank to come out of the closet because they're cowards and are only interested in getting their dick sucked. You're glossing over the countless hours spent trawling gay bars looking for dick, and it's all so glamorous and exciting because you're underage and a strange man has given you pills. You're glossing over the businessmen who take advantage of a vulnerable gay kid by telling him pretty little lies and then it turns out they're married, they're just secretly gay and have a fetish for schoolboys.
But most of all, you're glossing over gay men our age. I had a thing for a guy this year, as it happens. He's had a relationship in the past. Do you know what he did the morning after we went back to his? He flipped open his laptop and went through all the guys on his Facebook that he wanted to fuck. Do you know why? It was a clear message that "I'm only fucking you, this is nothing special". There's a reason gay men use Craigslist and Grindr and all those apps. People claim to want a relationship but they don't really. They'll sob to their friends about needing a guy who's there for them, who trusts them, who'll never cheat on them... they then proceed to get sucked off in the toilets of a club by a randomer. A lot of gay couples I've met have ended up breaking up because one of them couldn't keep off Grindr, or had a friend over and pretended they were in an open relationship when they weren't. Plenty of gay people see monogamy as outdated and the ones that don't tend to have issues keeping it in their pants.
There's gay guys out there who want a relationship, obviously. But they're not as common as everyone in this thread seems to be assuming. A majority of people on here are young teenagers who are pretty isolated and have "internet relationships". You've no idea about just how evil some gay men can be. I've been a bit fucked over in my life - I don't pretend to have it exceptionally hard; I went to a good school, I clawed together some decent grades, I am now at University, I have parents who ultimately love me (even if they reject the fact I'm gay); it could have been a lot worse. But there's stuff that's happened to me that has fucked me up for good. Of course, all this breaks your lovely narrative of finding a guy and having cuddles, doesn't it?
[QUOTE=Splurgy_A;36396809]If you think I'm being a dickhead, you haven't lived.
If you go onto the gay scene looking for a boyfriend, you're going to be chewed up and spat out. It happened to me when I was 14 and thought I knew how life worked.
Basing your idea of what life's going to be like on, say, Kurt and Blaine is ridiculous. Don't get me wrong, there's obviously gay kids about who start dating and shit, but they're the lucky ones. You're skipping over all the kids who don't go to school with another gay kid, or go to school with dubiously straight guys who will refuse point blank to come out of the closet because they're cowards and are only interested in getting their dick sucked. You're glossing over the countless hours spent trawling gay bars looking for dick, and it's all so glamorous and exciting because you're underage and a strange man has given you pills. You're glossing over the businessmen who take advantage of a vulnerable gay kid by telling him pretty little lies and then it turns out they're married, they're just secretly gay and have a fetish for schoolboys.
But most of all, you're glossing over gay men our age. I had a thing for a guy this year, as it happens. He's had a relationship in the past. Do you know what he did the morning after we went back to his? He flipped open his laptop and went through all the guys on his Facebook that he wanted to fuck. Do you know why? It was a clear message that "I'm only fucking you, this is nothing special". There's a reason gay men use Craigslist and Grindr and all those apps. People claim to want a relationship but they don't really. They'll sob to their friends about needing a guy who's there for them, who trusts them, who'll never cheat on them... they then proceed to get sucked off in the toilets of a club by a randomer. A lot of gay couples I've met have ended up breaking up because one of them couldn't keep off Grindr, or had a friend over and pretended they were in an open relationship when they weren't. Plenty of gay people see monogamy as outdated and the ones that don't tend to have issues keeping it in their pants.
There's gay guys out there who want a relationship, obviously. But they're not as common as everyone in this thread seems to be assuming. A majority of people on here are young teenagers who are pretty isolated and have "internet relationships". You've no idea about just how evil some gay men can be. I've been a bit fucked over in my life - I don't pretend to have it exceptionally hard; I went to a good school, I clawed together some decent grades, I am now at University, I have parents who ultimately love me (even if they reject the fact I'm gay); it could have been a lot worse. But there's stuff that's happened to me that has fucked me up for good. Of course, all this breaks your lovely narrative of finding a guy and having cuddles, doesn't it?[/QUOTE]
This made me kinda sad.
[editline]19th June 2012[/editline]
I was in Qruiser (a gay community online) for a while but after seeing most of the people contact me just wanting sex or something I quit it. And now Splurgy posts that, makes me really think about the overall image gay people are giving to straight people.
[QUOTE=Splurgy_A;36396809]If you think I'm being a dickhead, you haven't lived.
If you go onto the gay scene looking for a boyfriend, you're going to be chewed up and spat out. It happened to me when I was 14 and thought I knew how life worked.
Basing your idea of what life's going to be like on, say, Kurt and Blaine is ridiculous. Don't get me wrong, there's obviously gay kids about who start dating and shit, but they're the lucky ones. You're skipping over all the kids who don't go to school with another gay kid, or go to school with dubiously straight guys who will refuse point blank to come out of the closet because they're cowards and are only interested in getting their dick sucked. You're glossing over the countless hours spent trawling gay bars looking for dick, and it's all so glamorous and exciting because you're underage and a strange man has given you pills. You're glossing over the businessmen who take advantage of a vulnerable gay kid by telling him pretty little lies and then it turns out they're married, they're just secretly gay and have a fetish for schoolboys.
But most of all, you're glossing over gay men our age. I had a thing for a guy this year, as it happens. He's had a relationship in the past. Do you know what he did the morning after we went back to his? He flipped open his laptop and went through all the guys on his Facebook that he wanted to fuck. Do you know why? It was a clear message that "I'm only fucking you, this is nothing special". There's a reason gay men use Craigslist and Grindr and all those apps. People claim to want a relationship but they don't really. They'll sob to their friends about needing a guy who's there for them, who trusts them, who'll never cheat on them... they then proceed to get sucked off in the toilets of a club by a randomer. A lot of gay couples I've met have ended up breaking up because one of them couldn't keep off Grindr, or had a friend over and pretended they were in an open relationship when they weren't. Plenty of gay people see monogamy as outdated and the ones that don't tend to have issues keeping it in their pants.
[B]There's gay guys out there who want a relationship, obviously.[/B] But they're not as common as everyone in this thread seems to be assuming. A majority of people on here are young teenagers who are pretty isolated and have "internet relationships". You've no idea about just how evil some gay men can be. I've been a bit fucked over in my life - I don't pretend to have it exceptionally hard; I went to a good school, I clawed together some decent grades, I am now at University, I have parents who ultimately love me (even if they reject the fact I'm gay); it could have been a lot worse. But there's stuff that's happened to me that has fucked me up for good. Of course, all this breaks your lovely narrative of finding a guy and having cuddles, doesn't it?[/QUOTE]
and that's all I care about, I am aware that there are promiscuous gays and that you have had a bad experience, and I am sorry that you have had that experience, but I am in a loving relationship where sex isn't the only aim and I am happy. so that "narrative" I have I'd prefer not to be shit on.
once again, I'm sorry you've had a shit experience with gays: so have I. (and who the fuck uses Grindr? That shit is dangerous)
Sex without love worth nothing.
[spoiler]Or at least very little.[/spoiler]
[QUOTE=redback3;36396908]and that's all I care about, I am aware that there are promiscuous gays and that you have had a bad experience, and I am sorry that you have had that experience, but I am in a loving relationship where sex isn't the only aim and I am happy. so that "narrative" I have I'd prefer not to be shit on.
once again, I'm sorry you've had a shit experience with gays: so have I. (and who the fuck uses Grindr? That shit is dangerous)[/QUOTE]
I'm not looking for you to be sorry; I don't need some pity party in this thread. I'm looking to get across the message that what you have is uncommon.
So many people in this thread are all like "I just want a man for cuddles <3 <3" or "Internet relationship yay!" and they're going to have that beaten out of them at some point. Maybe not soon, but the moment they move to a big city or start using the internet to find guys, they're going to have a bad time of it. Inevitably.
It's not so much that there are "promiscuous gays", it's that they're men. Women have a sex drive too, obviously, I'm not looking to further the patriarchal image of women being asexual, but they're often a limiting factor on the sex lives of straight men. Social pressures force many women to at least "put up a fight" or "play hard to get". If a bloke went up to a woman in a club and said "You have a really nice arse. Do you want to come back to mine and fuck?" he'd get slapped. Gay men, on the other hand, do not have any social pressure so can get as much action as they want. That's why there's such things as "Cottaging" and "gay bathhouses". You ever been to a dark room? It's so dark, you can't see who you're having sex with. They're in a few clubs here and there and you literally walk in and people who you've never met and will never meet again will try and have sex with you without ever having seen you.
Also, everyone uses Grindr. Every single gay man I've met at Uni uses Grindr, every gay guy I know back home has a Grindr. Even gay guys in relationships have Grindr, ostensibly to "just look for friends" but we all know that's not true. The only reason I don't have a Grindr is because I don't have a smartphone.
This is the message I'm trying to convey to the people in this thread. Gay guys aren't all lovey-dovey. Most of them are just looking for some leg over. I've done it before and I want a relationship. You just get horny sometimes. Some gay guys are different, but most gay guys are fundamentally horny men. This isn't just a scene queen thing, your sexually ambiguous hipsters are all bohemian and post-modern and think monogamous committed relationships are outdated and old fashioned.
My straight friends say all the time that they wish it was as easy to get laid for them as it is for me. Literally, you just have to go to a gay bar, stand there, and eventually someone will try and have sex with you. You can meet someone on the internet and within half an hour be balls deep in them. This isn't some aberrant promiscuous gay thing, [b]this is most gay men[/b].
Went to be at midnight, woke up at 5:45 with a nosebleed. I feel strangely more rested than when I get 8 hours of sleep. Let's see how that works out going to work today.
And I've never really read a personal view into the gay dating/relationship scene, or experienced it myself. I suppose if you're both after the same thing it works out great, moreso than straight relationships even, but stable relationships must be rough. I can totally see that one-sidedness happening though.
Do you believe it's possible that it's just an young age issue, or is the "sex agenda", so to speak, a serious issue for all people in the community regardless of age?
[QUOTE=Splurgy_A;36397022]I'm not looking for you to be sorry; I don't need some pity party in this thread. I'm looking to get across the message that what you have is uncommon.
So many people in this thread are all like "I just want a man for cuddles <3 <3" or "Internet relationship yay!" and they're going to have that beaten out of them at some point. Maybe not soon, but the moment they move to a big city or start using the internet to find guys, they're going to have a bad time of it. Inevitably.
It's not so much that there are "promiscuous gays", it's that they're men. Women have a sex drive too, obviously, I'm not looking to further the patriarchal image of women being asexual, but they're often a limiting factor on the sex lives of straight men. Social pressures force many women to at least "put up a fight" or "play hard to get". If a bloke went up to a woman in a club and said "You have a really nice arse. Do you want to come back to mine and fuck?" he'd get slapped. Gay men, on the other hand, do not have any social pressure so can get as much action as they want. That's why there's such things as "Cottaging" and "gay bathhouses". You ever been to a dark room? It's so dark, you can't see who you're having sex with. They're in a few clubs here and there and you literally walk in and people who you've never met and will never meet again will try and have sex with you without ever having seen you.
Also, everyone uses Grindr. Every single gay man I've met at Uni uses Grindr, every gay guy I know back home has a Grindr. Even gay guys in relationships have Grindr, ostensibly to "just look for friends" but we all know that's not true. The only reason I don't have a Grindr is because I don't have a smartphone.
This is the message I'm trying to convey to the people in this thread. Gay guys aren't all lovey-dovey. Most of them are just looking for some leg over. I've done it before and I want a relationship. You just get horny sometimes. Some gay guys are different, but most gay guys are fundamentally horny men. This isn't just a scene queen thing, your sexually ambiguous hipsters are all bohemian and post-modern and think monogamous committed relationships are outdated and old fashioned.
My straight friends say all the time that they wish it was as easy to get laid for them as it is for me. Literally, you just have to go to a gay bar, stand there, and eventually someone will try and have sex with you. You can meet someone on the internet and within half an hour be balls deep in them. This isn't some aberrant promiscuous gay thing, [b]this is most gay men[/b].[/QUOTE]
What depresses me the most is that this is all mostly true.
[QUOTE=Splurgy_A;36397022]I'm not looking for you to be sorry; I don't need some pity party in this thread. I'm looking to get across the message that what you have is uncommon.
So many people in this thread are all like "I just want a man for cuddles <3 <3" or "Internet relationship yay!" and they're going to have that beaten out of them at some point. Maybe not soon, but the moment they move to a big city or start using the internet to find guys, they're going to have a bad time of it. Inevitably.
It's not so much that there are "promiscuous gays", it's that they're men. Women have a sex drive too, obviously, I'm not looking to further the patriarchal image of women being asexual, but they're often a limiting factor on the sex lives of straight men. Social pressures force many women to at least "put up a fight" or "play hard to get". If a bloke went up to a woman in a club and said "You have a really nice arse. Do you want to come back to mine and fuck?" he'd get slapped. Gay men, on the other hand, do not have any social pressure so can get as much action as they want. That's why there's such things as "Cottaging" and "gay bathhouses". You ever been to a dark room? It's so dark, you can't see who you're having sex with. They're in a few clubs here and there and you literally walk in and people who you've never met and will never meet again will try and have sex with you without ever having seen you.
Also, everyone uses Grindr. Every single gay man I've met at Uni uses Grindr, every gay guy I know back home has a Grindr. Even gay guys in relationships have Grindr, ostensibly to "just look for friends" but we all know that's not true. The only reason I don't have a Grindr is because I don't have a smartphone.
This is the message I'm trying to convey to the people in this thread. Gay guys aren't all lovey-dovey. Most of them are just looking for some leg over. I've done it before and I want a relationship. You just get horny sometimes. Some gay guys are different, but most gay guys are fundamentally horny men. This isn't just a scene queen thing, your sexually ambiguous hipsters are all bohemian and post-modern and think monogamous committed relationships are outdated and old fashioned.
My straight friends say all the time that they wish it was as easy to get laid for them as it is for me. Literally, you just have to go to a gay bar, stand there, and eventually someone will try and have sex with you. You can meet someone on the internet and within half an hour be balls deep in them. This isn't some aberrant promiscuous gay thing, [b]this is most gay men[/b].[/QUOTE]
I wouldnt deny a lot of gay men are like what you describe but honestly I don't agree that it's "most gay men".
A larger amount of that type of man compared to straight men? Probably. But I wouldn't argue that it's most.
I've personally never heard of Grindr and have no intention of using it now that I have. I'm in a relationship of 1.5 years and have always saught realtionships of the sort. I've recently gotten to know someone who's been in a mutual and commited relationship for 10 years with his partner. My manager-in-training who can into cover for our actual manager is gay and getting married. All of the relationships I've been in didn't involve gay men who wanted to just fuck and couldn't control themselves. Are they out there? Probably, but that's not the type that I've been interested in and that's not the type I've ever gotten to know. Have I gotten burned? Yes, I have. My ex really brought a reality check upon me when he broke up, but he didn't break up because he wanted to fuck around.
I think a lot of this has to do with where you live, and what kind of "gay scene" you have in your area. If your local gay scene is very big I feel like there's going to be a lot of guys who fuck around. Compared to Ohio, where there is no gay scene, so its much harder to run into guys, but much "easier" to get into a legit relationship if you know where and how to look for one. Sure you could probably get a quick fuck here but you'd honestly have to be looking just for that if you wanted it. There are plenty of websites out there anyways that cater to actual dating - if someone wanted to fuck they'd use the usual channels for that (gay bar, craigslist, etc).
IMO the biggest problem gay men face when they are young and inexperienced is simply the fact that it's hard to get relationship confidence and experience due to the nature of being gay, and being in the closet and such. Not because of gay guys only wanting to fuck around IMO, but those types of guys are certainly a side effect of "lack of relationship experience". But because you don't have much experience with relationships by the time you "find someone", it's almost inevitable that your first relationship as a gay guy will fail one way or another, and/or give you some kind of reality check with how you went about things.
Anyways, point being, there are plenty of gay guys who want a relationship out there. All the gay guys I've known are like that. You just have to align yourself with that type of person and know what to look out for. And it depends on where you live. Just like going to school at a big party university will surround you with a large party atmosphere, living in a city with a lot of fast-paced fun and a huge gay fuck scene will surround you with that atmosphere.
I can see where Splurgy comes from - it's difficult enough in the current society, so I'm not surprised that alot of us just want it for the sex, as the opportunities for a proper relation are alot more slimmer in comparison.
Still, I just came and found [url=https://fbcdn-sphotos-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/229945_3653732855706_1806904222_n.jpg]this[/url] on my Facebook regarding the person I am hoping will eventually understand himself.
I mean... goddamn... rate me optimistic or whatever, I found this really sweet. <3
Got back from the doctor, had to get a transfusion, was losing too much blood.
And i found out that some of my veins/artery was being retarded and i had to cauterize them. And probably that was caused me to have headaches, passing out and that general feel of illness.
So, good evening gat chat, good evening.
And splurgy i was sorry to read you had to experience that kind of stuff, but the gay" trend" varies from place to place.( As Korjax said as well).
That sucks dude. Over here we've got a tolerance of up to 45 celsius
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