• Is picking up girls harrassment?
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[QUOTE=bunguer;42194811]Saying cheesy stuff or chatting up randomly etc I think is usually fine, but doing stuff like this, crosses the line imo:[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Mr. Epicness;42205818]Well, that depends on your culture, where I live it's standard to greet people with a kiss.[/QUOTE] Yeah, I thought this was about greeting people with a kiss on the mouth before I saw the video, but a kiss on the cheek is pretty damn normal around here. People will think you're in the middle ages if you say that's "crossing the line" in Brazil. From what I experienced in America, almost all physical contact with strangers is considered awkward. Here where I live, when you walk up to a group of people to talk to one person, you usually have to greet them all (handshake and stuff) exactly the same way you greet your friend. In the US though, everyone I saw just kinda went "hey" from a distance to their friend's friends, or simply ignored them. You don't seem to be from America but you know, just my experience in another culture, because that really matters in situations like these
It's a tiny practical joke, if people get worked up over this then I don't know what the world is coming to... They're just using puns / allusions to games to produce comedy by seeing how other react, it's not a breach of human rights or harassment god no.
[QUOTE=Zukriuchen;42206363]Yeah, I thought this was about greeting people with a kiss on the mouth before I saw the video, but a kiss on the cheek is pretty damn normal around here. People will think you're in the middle ages if you say that's "crossing the line" in Brazil. From what I experienced in America, almost all physical contact with strangers is considered awkward. Here where I live, when you walk up to a group of people to talk to one person, you usually have to greet them all (handshake and stuff) exactly the same way you greet your friend. In the US though, everyone I saw just kinda went "hey" from a distance to their friend's friends, or simply ignored them. You don't seem to be from America but you know, just my experience in another culture, because that really matters in situations like these[/QUOTE] Kissing friends or people you know on the cheek is quite normal, but kissing random strangers on the cheek in the street or something like that, is not normal at all and could get you in trouble. In the video they even try to kiss on the lips, which would most likely get you a slap across the face.
[QUOTE=bunguer;42257018]Kissing friends or people you know on the cheek is quite normal, but kissing random strangers on the cheek in the street or something like that, is not normal at all and could get you in trouble. In the video they even try to kiss on the lips, which would most likely get you a slap across the face.[/QUOTE] Depends which society you live in, if i were to visit another culture and they kissed me on the cheek I'd respect it. The issue with this I guess is that it isn't exactly normal in the US but as I said before it's still a joke and they seem to laugh afterwards if they are told it's a joke not slap them or call the police or something.
[QUOTE=bunguer;42257018]Kissing friends or people you know on the cheek is quite normal, but kissing random strangers on the cheek in the street or something like that, is not normal at all and could get you in trouble. In the video they even try to kiss on the lips, which would most likely get you a slap across the face.[/QUOTE] Kissing random strangers on the cheek is what we do here though. You meet a woman for the first time, kiss on the cheek. I'd assume most people would just go like they do it in the video and think it's someone they know. And in that case, they don't know them, but hey, pretending to know someone can be quite funny sometimes, they're not doing anything terrible. Though yeah, kissing people you don't know on the lips is definitely considered harrassment in most places. Still, it sounds more like something people would only use for YT videos and not as an actual pick-up technique.
I should've have made my post more clear when I posted the video I see, there's nothing wrong or weird with kissing on the cheek, especially to someone you are already acquainted to, it's also pretty common to kiss someone you don't know but you are meeting for the first time, the thing is that in this situation they are expecting a kiss. What I was trying to convoy is that kissing someone randomly, a person that isn't expecting a kiss for instance, is a bad move, especially when you try to kiss them on the lips (like in the video). That's what I meany by crossing the line, there's no way to know the boundaries and culture of the other person and saying hello is a lot less invasive than going for a kiss.
I would say that picking up girls is only harrassment if you continue when asked to stop, as said before. I mean, how else would anybody meet anybody? The conversation needs to start somewhere.
[QUOTE=Zenreon117;42257598]I would say that picking up girls is only harrassment if you continue when asked to stop, as said before. I mean, how else would anybody meet anybody? The conversation needs to start somewhere.[/QUOTE] Good point. Also if this thread was "Is picking up guys harassment?" would we receive the same feedback? For example, Bunguer, would you say that video above you posted of that YouTuber kissing girls would be "crossing the line" if a female did the same to a male?
[QUOTE=IncogMouse;42257744]Good point. Also if this thread was "Is picking up guys harassment?" would we receive the same feedback? For example, Bunguer, would you say that video above you posted of that YouTuber kissing girls would be "crossing the line" if a female did the same to a male?[/QUOTE] Of course, I would feel uncomfortable having a girl trying to kiss me like that without warning, especially since I have a girlfriend. I don't mind giving kisses on the cheek to someone I'm acquainted with like I said before, I just don't want a random girl I don't know from anywhere to kiss me like that, especially if she was trying to kiss me on the lips.
it's only harassment if you're ugly
When the convo pretty much goes like this: You - "Hi" Him/Her - "Hey there" You - "How are you" H/H - "Fine, how about you?" You - "I have a raging boner, can I fuck you?" H/H - "No thanks" You - "Please" H/H - "I said no" then you keep pressing it.
Tbh, if a girl comes and says "i wanna fuck you", i dont think all guys would be like "oh yeah" (no matter how she looks or whats her boobage). Guys are not much more perverted than girls, in fact, Girls fap too, a lot.
I know for a fact some of my girlfriends enjoy it. Hell some of them would go out with their friends scantily clad and have a kind of competition to see who gets flirted with the most.
[QUOTE=Angie^^;42588990]Tbh, if a girl comes and says "i wanna fuck you", i dont think all guys would be like "oh yeah" (no matter how she looks or whats her boobage). Guys are not much more perverted than girls, in fact, Girls fap too, a lot.[/QUOTE] If she was moderately attractive I'd be like 'why not?'.
Only if when picking them up you touch them inappropriately or when you go to place them down you drop them.
[QUOTE=Neckbird;42549147]it's only harassment if you're ugly[/QUOTE] Funny how I've gotten banned under the reason of 'this is not debating' for LESS than that. Guess it's the nationality or something.
[QUOTE=Bat-shit;42594261]Funny how I've gotten banned under the reason of 'this is not debating' for LESS than that. Guess it's the nationality or something.[/QUOTE] PM a mod about it, they aren't robots that scan every single thing that gets posted. In my opinion, if a girl says to stop, stop, and don't touch her or anything like that without her consent. But approaching a girl like the guy in the video does is fine.
[QUOTE=thelurker1234;42594816]PM a mod about it, they aren't robots that scan every single thing that gets posted.[/QUOTE] Or just click the little 'report button' and choose one of the 3 options. It doesn't really matter because it's just to get the attention of a mod.
[QUOTE=benbb;42595566]Or just click the little 'report button' and choose one of the 3 options. It doesn't really matter because it's just to get the attention of a mod.[/QUOTE] I know, and I did. But I don't think anyone specifically reported any of my MD ban posts, but just sharp-eyed moderators that time around.. [editline]21st October 2013[/editline] Oh well.
Girl's sexuall intencions are not that different from a guy's. It's just that girls don't talk about it much and they love to play "fragile" and "hard to get". The society today thinks that if a girl loves to talk about sex and is a little perverted she's automatically a bitch.
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