The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v2 - General

I'm absolutely terrible at meeting new people. Like 90% of what I talk about with the few friends I do have is either inside jokes or sarcasm, neither of which is very useful when talking to new people. It's at the point where unless the other person takes the initiative for the first month or so (when I'm so bad at small talk that I never have anyhing to say), they end up just being one of those people that I occasionally say "hello" to, and that's it. It's not that I'm nervous, but I tend to avoid awkward moments when I can. Could I get any advice on improving upon that?

[QUOTE=PortalGod;34123976]I'm absolutely terrible at meeting new people. Like 90% of what I talk about with the few friends I do have is either inside jokes or sarcasm, neither of which is very useful when talking to new people. It's at the point where unless the other person takes the initiative for the first month or so (when I'm so bad at small talk that I never have anyhing to say), they end up just being one of those people that I occasionally say "hello" to, and that's it. It's not that I'm nervous, but I tend to avoid awkward moments when I can. Could I get any advice on improving upon that?[/QUOTE] I'm the same way and what helped me is trying to find out what the other person is interested in or if you have anything in common and just talking about that. It's not as hard as it sounds and everything else will fall into place.

[QUOTE=PortalGod;34123976] Could I get any advice on improving upon that?[/QUOTE] maybe it's because you have a social anxiety that manifests in thinking you don't have anything interesting to say?

[QUOTE=Fish_poke;34123918]Best choice of action. However, acquisition of targets appears to have a high chance of failure. It would appear most are taken and/or disinterested.[/QUOTE] If you continue to make the same mistakes then you're always going to get the same results. Read the OP and then post if you think there's still something different that needs addressing. [QUOTE=PortalGod;34123976]I'm absolutely terrible at meeting new people. Like 90% of what I talk about with the few friends I do have is either inside jokes or sarcasm, neither of which is very useful when talking to new people. It's at the point where unless the other person takes the initiative for the first month or so (when I'm so bad at small talk that I never have anyhing to say), they end up just being one of those people that I occasionally say "hello" to, and that's it. It's not that I'm nervous, but I tend to avoid awkward moments when I can. Could I get any advice on improving upon that?[/QUOTE] Small talk came up just on the previous page, but to summarize that, conversations generally go: Question Response Interesting comment/story/opinion based on response. Either another question or they will reply with their own statement. And so on. So long as you're actually listening to what they're saying and not stuck in your head, conversations will just flow. Say whatever, and remember that it's only ever awkward if you think it is.

[QUOTE=Fish_poke;34123918]Best choice of action. However, acquisition of targets appears to have a high chance of failure. It would appear most are taken and/or disinterested.[/QUOTE] increase rate of acquisition attempts

use the Boomhauer technique and just ask any girl that walks by until you get a yes

increase probability of success ask men too [I]online[/I]

[QUOTE=Pascall;34124388]use the Boomhauer technique and just ask any girl that walks by until you get a yes[/QUOTE] gottdang ole pray and spray

well, i'm heading to basic tomorrow. i'll be out in about 8 weeks, probably one or two more until i'm back on facepunch though. so i'm gonna go get my ass kicked and stuff, can't really edit the op, but continue doing what you do, LA. I love you.

i love u2

Godspeed, faggot.

[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;34124976]well, i'm heading to basic tomorrow. i'll be out in about 8 weeks, probably one or two more until i'm back on facepunch though. so i'm gonna go get my ass kicked and stuff, can't really edit the op, but continue doing what you do, LA. I love you.[/QUOTE] what speciality?

airfield systems. i wanted sensor operator, air traffic control, or loadmaster. those were the only three i really wanted. my recruiter got me my fourth option. although i'm gonna see about getting it switched in job processing at zero week of basic. otherwise i'm just gonna see how i like it and do my best and crosstrain out after a few years if it's awful.

So if you are all men you will do this next time you get friendzoned. Agreed? Agreed you pansy. [video=youtube;Z4QGmyPNfus]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z4QGmyPNfus[/video]

i'm going to go ahead and not watch that but assume from the thumbnail and its title "Going Out Big" in relation to the friendzone that it's talking about rape because that's more humorous to me

[img]http://i.imgur.com/WucVc.jpg[/img] eeeeeeeeee cringe worthy

I feel bad for that guy

Yeah what he is doing is pretty fucking miserable but for the girl to be like "wait wait wait stand there whilst I get my camera so I can put this on Facebook and publicize your humiliation for the rest of your life" is pretty rough. One day he'll look back on that and cringe big time.

someone's jealous

I just wish I had a friend like Johnny ):

good christian boy [editline]9th January 2012[/editline] surely johnathon is spelt wrong, right? [editline]9th January 2012[/editline] and that face

I don't know whether to frown at that feeling bad, or to cringe at it.

Holy shit, that guy's desperate. Even [I]I[/I] wouldn't do that. :v:

My lady friend who I used to talk till from night to dawn has changed and I told her I dislike it. I've tried reasoning with her to stop being a prick and all and now she's ignoring the fact that I'm like only 2 people who are males who she talks to the most (if not more or less), I don't know what to do so I am just going to let this settle for a while see if that does anything.. Anything I can do? She was so nice.

[QUOTE=fruxodaily;34126655]I've tried reasoning with her to stop being a prick and all[/QUOTE] *sharp inhale through teeth*

[QUOTE=Dark_Light;34126686]*sharp inhale through teeth*[/QUOTE] If you knew her, you'd do the same.

why should she change for you?

that might of gone the wrong way, I always reason with people. It was hurting me

[QUOTE=fruxodaily;34126655]My lady friend who I used to talk till from night to dawn has changed and I told her I dislike it. I've tried reasoning with her to stop being a prick and all and now she's ignoring the fact that I'm like only 2 people who are males who she talks to the most (if not more or less), I don't know what to do so I am just going to let this settle for a while see if that does anything.. Anything I can do? She was so nice.[/QUOTE] maybe she's not the one who has changed.

[QUOTE=Contag;34126760]why should she change for you?[/QUOTE] Me and her were good friends, we talked for at least 15 hours and half of that was over skype. We talked about many things and at some point we liked each other. So we were best friends. She didn't have much IRL male friends in the first place. Ever since she came back from the coast she was starting to be a mega ass. [editline]9th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Autumn;34126768]maybe she's not the one who has changed.[/QUOTE] I'm still my old, happy, exciting self to everybody. I knew she changed because she didn't have any interest in what I was saying unlike before and she expected me to care for her shit.