The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v2 - General

[QUOTE=fruxodaily;34126774]Me and her were good friends, we talked for at least 15 hours and half of that was over skype. We talked about many things and at some point we liked each other. So we were best friends. She didn't have much IRL male friends in the first place. Ever since she came back from the coast she was starting to be a mega ass. [editline]9th January 2012[/editline] I'm still my old, happy, exciting self to everybody. I knew she changed because she didn't have any interest in what I was saying unlike before and she expected me to care for her shit.[/QUOTE] Have you taken the time to try understand why she's being different? It sounds like you've just spat your dummy at the first sign of her not being as accommodating for you as she's always been. You even said yourself that as soon as she changed you "told her you dislike it," and then you went on and called her a prick for not talking to you as much. Tbh you sound like the prick. Give her the space she clearly needs instead of making her feel bad over something which is probably not even in her control.

[QUOTE=Dark_Light;34126879]Have you taken the time to try understand why she's being different? It sounds like you've just spat your dummy at the first sign of her not being as accommodating for you as she's always been. You even said yourself that as soon as she changed you "told her you dislike it," and then you went on and called her a prick for not talking to you as much. Tbh you sound like the prick. Give her the space she clearly needs instead of making her feel bad over something which is clearly not in her control.[/QUOTE] I went for 2 weeks thinking "what is happening" and then in the middle of a chat she tells me something that happened on new years eve that was all dealt with (most was dealt with) and THAT's when I spat the dummy

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;] So the relationship is starting thanks to your friend? That's like you letting him/her taking care of things while you're out.[/QUOTE] The girl Im with now told her best friend she got a crush on me, since we were good friends with her she told me about it and i acted. God im horrible.

[QUOTE=Autumn;34118014]what on earth makes you think that? or think that you have any right to say it like it's fact?[/QUOTE] It's a fact. It's a fact that there are differences between men and women, not only physically but mentally. so what? It's not as I'm saying any blasphemy or being sexist. It's as true as Women liking flowers as a gift better than men. (ok, there are exceptions). Statistically Men are more keen on staying hours and hours in front of a computer or TV than women. This proves something, right? Women do like active men and men in general like to settle down at a certain age. And men have a bigger tendency to finding comfort in routine than woman. I actually heard lot's of women telling this to me. It may not be a universal truth but so what? Is there a woman out there who likes a lazy and inactive boyfriend?

huge generalizations ahoy!

[QUOTE=Contag;34127575]huge generalizations ahoy![/QUOTE] I'm just speaking statistically. As a man I wouldn't like a lazy inactive girlfriend either. I'm just speaking based of what I've heard from some girl friends of mine. It's not like it's an universal law.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;34127786]I'm just speaking out of my arse.[/QUOTE] [editline]9th January 2012[/editline] and for the record, i doubt many people want a lazy partner; their gender has nothing to do with it

Well, ok, ok I get it... You're right...

I'm new to this thread, but first things first I'd like to thank the OP and the people who wrote the quotes in the OP. My New Year's Resolution was to go big or go home (which I subdivided into smaller resolutions that are tied into the larger one), and I'm going to take the advice in the OP and any advice in here to achieve this goal. The three parts of the resolution that this advice will help is get my act together, get a girlfriend (which isn't really that important to me, compared to the other things I plan on doing), and being happy. Right now I'm sick, but once I get back on my feet, I'm going to start working on this goal. Any tips, besides those in the OP?

[QUOTE=Makol;34106899]My friend keeps a baby picture of me in her wallet. What does this mean?[/QUOTE] She plans to travel back in time and kill you. [QUOTE=SaWAH;34111000]I'm so frustrated I don't even have words for it. My boyfriend is in uni. The first year was hard on him, because he's a smart guy, so he has always been used to not doing anything to get good grades. However, first year of uni really made him realise that with no work, he only barely passes the classes. When I say no work, I mean literally no work. He went to classes sometimes, when he managed to get out of bed, he didn't open any of the books during the semesters, and he barely studied for his exams. Passing with THAT little effort shows that he's smart, however, he said he'd pull together this year. However, he hasn't. At all. He has an exam tomorrow at 9, but he only started studying for it NOW, and it's almost 16 a clock. It makes me so sad to see him waste his potential, and I know it'll come back to bite him in the ass in the future when he's going to apply for a job. I'm so conflicted because one part of me want to comfort him and tell him that it's going to be all right but another part of me just want to tell him to get his shit together - but no matter how many times I try to motivate him, he never changes his attitude towards studying. I'm at loss, I really don't know what to do about it, but I know something needs to be done, however, it doesn't seem like he's able to do it alone, even though he's the only one who can do something about it.[/QUOTE] Yeah, hate to say it but that was me. I had a girlfriend who really cared about me pushing from behind and all it did was drive me crazy. Of course there were other issues there as well but the reality is... I didn't want to be there. So I went to work for awhile and gather funds for my next foray into college/university... and it was during this time that I learned how important that education would be. Nothing but minimum wage jobs or factory work. Nothing I could live on. I started to turn my life around, got into an accelerated programming course (I had wasted enough time in school frankly) and I'm now doing fucking great. But all this started from bad habits in high school: school was boring and I got 3 hours of homework a night, so I just stopped doing it. Didn't matter, I got 90+ in most of my classes (save french... damn that language is a pain in the ass) without even trying and in college it came back for me. Not because I didn't understand or remember the material, but because essay writing is a skill on its own and when teachers say they want 1000 words, they want 1000 words, regardless of how clear and concise your writing might be. Anyway I lacked the motivation and money to move on with my psychology courses, but programming is different. I think partially because of my experiences in the workplace and partially because I'm not just learning mountains of theory without understanding the implications or applications of it. Maybe your bf just needs some time out of school? Maybe he needs to follow a different path through school? On a somewhat unrelated note: I never felt the school system was well suited to very intelligent people. Those who are less creative struggle to find ways to entertain their minds. I mean, if it wasn't for a twist of fate that put a TI-83 in my hands, and me wanting to program myself some shortcuts (some of the math was quite tedious for no reason), I never would have started programming. I never should have taken Social Sciences in college. Not that I regret it, but I couldn't apply my brand of creativity to anything in the program. [QUOTE=Seith;34091564]I shall assume you're fully immersed inside the friend zone. This is what you need to do, generally; Set goals; What do you want to get from her? Have sex? Long term, short term relationships? Change state of mind; Be awesome. Feel awesome. I'll give you an example - I want you to take yourself back to when you had sex. Be in that moment, dwell in it for a second. The air - was it thick, hard to breathe? The weather, was it raining, sunny? Where was it - in the kitchen, in the bedroom, on the floor? How did you feel, did you feel aroused? excited? amazing? Now I want you to feel her. How does she feel? smooth and maybe sweaty? What does she smell like? fruity, or maybe is it, just intoxicating you can't tell? You guys just had sex. How do you feel? Do you feel amazing, yet you're still uncertain but you feel like you've done something that have changed you life, right? That's what you need to feel. That's that state of mind men have every time they have sex. As if everybody can feel it. But it's not them, it's just you showing your pride in yourself. Achieve your goals; this should be easy now. Suddenly, the facts escape you. You don't need them, you know she wants you. Approach her with the intent to have her and a better state of mind and everything shall be revealed instantly. Very general, very helpful as a general advice. Let's see if you can put this to use. Once you get into a real predicament in your interaction with her, I'll give out more specific advice.[/QUOTE] I think there is only one word that can describe what I just read: lolwut

[QUOTE=PortalGod;34123976]I'm absolutely terrible at meeting new people. Like 90% of what I talk about with the few friends I do have is either inside jokes or sarcasm, neither of which is very useful when talking to new people. It's at the point where unless the other person takes the initiative for the first month or so (when I'm so bad at small talk that I never have anyhing to say), they end up just being one of those people that I occasionally say "hello" to, and that's it. It's not that I'm nervous, but I tend to avoid awkward moments when I can. Could I get any advice on improving upon that?[/QUOTE] I just ask questions like, "so where are you studying again?" "how was your weekend?" "what do you do in your freetime" At some point she will answer something actually interesting to me, and the rest goes really automatically. When we both go silent again, i just ask another thing, like "what kinda music do you listen" and the conversation is relaunched.

So yesterday I travelled to my place again after spending some time at home. My trainride takes about 12 hours and I need to take several trains to arrive. My second train was really late and that is the moment I saw this pretty woman on the trainstation. She looked lovely, so I walked to her and started talking to her. We spend tons of hours in the next train, talking, laughing and just having a good time. Unfortunately she lives like 500 km away from me and I will probably never see her again. We really connected well and everything just felt fine. I love those kinds of situations, nevertheless the chance to see her again is pretty low. Still a nice acquaintance.

Those situations are always so bittersweet.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;34127786]I'm just speaking statistically. As a man I wouldn't like a lazy inactive girlfriend either. I'm just speaking based of what I've heard from some girl friends of mine. It's not like it's an universal law.[/QUOTE] Relationships aren't about statistics, last time I checked.

[QUOTE=Pascall;34128986]Relationships aren't about statistics, last time I checked.[/QUOTE] your response was statistically predicted

[QUOTE=Pascall;34124388]use the Boomhauer technique and just ask any girl that walks by until you get a yes[/QUOTE] Actually, one of my friend's sister got together with a complete foreigner, as he told her that she looked nice (As in, a nice person), and they took it from there. They've lived together for some years now, apparently.

-bad link- This was pretty useful to be honest. :smile:

[QUOTE=orcywoo6;34130763] This was pretty useful to be honest. :smile:[/QUOTE] thank you avast! for saving my ass for the fiftieth time [h2]don't click that link[/h2]

[QUOTE=Dark_Light;34126264]I just wish I had a friend like Johnny ):[/QUOTE] I am here for you

The Emperor is always there for us. The emperor Protects!

With most girls i'm totally alright, but some, such as my ex, who I kinda want to be friends with still, I find it a bit difficult to find things to talk about.

We are all here for some special reason. Stop being a prisoner of your past. Become the architect of your future.

I'll be afk for a week or so, LA. :love: Also, airports are awesome (alliteration!).

[QUOTE=Seith;34133649]We are all here for some special reason. Stop being a prisoner of your past. Become the architect of your future.[/QUOTE] Why would you do either when you could live in the now?

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;34127530]It's a fact. It's a fact that there are differences between men and women, not only physically but mentally. so what? It's not as I'm saying any blasphemy or being sexist. It's as true as Women liking flowers as a gift better than men. (ok, there are exceptions). Statistically Men are more keen on staying hours and hours in front of a computer or TV than women. This proves something, right? Women do like active men and men in general like to settle down at a certain age. And men have a bigger tendency to finding comfort in routine than woman. I actually heard lot's of women telling this to me. It may not be a universal truth but so what? Is there a woman out there who likes a lazy and inactive boyfriend?[/QUOTE] -make up shit -call it statistics

[QUOTE=orcywoo6;34130763]-bad link- This was pretty useful to be honest. :smile:[/QUOTE] [img]http://dl.dropbox.com/u/12024286/What%20the%20fuck%20man%20this%20is%20insane.PNG[/img] What the fuck?

[QUOTE=Contag;34121968]I'm not saying this in a racist way or anything, but white people are really attractive and smart (I would know, I'm white) [editline]9th January 2012[/editline] The awkward moment when you take the dinner and leave because her personality is so bland you didn't even notice she was physically attractive [/QUOTE] nope, her personality is not bland at all

[QUOTE=Seith;34133649]We are all here for some special reason. Stop being a prisoner of your past. Become the architect of your future.[/QUOTE] you sound like a fortune cookie

Funny how I always end up giving relationship advice to people who SHOULD be better at this kind of thing than me. I guess it is what I get for being an observer.

I wish my fucking girlfriend would get her ass back to fucking school goddamn. Im stuck here doing this interterm class here with like only 5 friends