The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v2 - General

So I saw this lecture at school about this project which interested me. It's a social/business education thing where they want to teach you how to be successful and stuff. It's free. Should I go for it and try it out? Does anyone have any experience with such programs? I'm afraid its going to be mostly dumb people from the lower classes because none of my classmates seemed to be interested.

life isn't worth living if you don't take risks. I say try it for yourself before you disqualify it for stupid reasons

They give you lectures on stepping outside of your box, setting long term goals for yourself and seeking them and general 'being a better person' stuff. I'm interested, but my friend tells me it's stupid.

[QUOTE=DeadKiller987;34228861]So I saw this lecture at school about this project which interested me. It's a social/business education thing where they want to teach you how to be successful and stuff. It's free. Should I go for it and try it out? Does anyone have any experience with such programs? I'm afraid its going to be mostly dumb people from the lower classes because none of my classmates seemed to be interested.[/QUOTE] I would say, go to everything that interests you, because even if you don't learn anything, you might meet some interesting people.

stupid as in "it didn't work for me, so it shouldn't work for you" ? :)

go. if anything it's something you could put on a resume'.

[QUOTE=Seith;34229200]stupid as in "it didn't work for me, so it shouldn't work for you" ? :)[/QUOTE] Probably. I need new friends. :c [editline]15th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=GoldenGnome;34229220]go. if anything it's something you could put on a resume'.[/QUOTE] I highly doubt this is something I can put on my resume.

I think about this all the time. Love. There are so many people in the world how do you know which one is your true soulmate. Sure you might like someone, go on dates, marry them and spend the rest of your life with them but there has got to be someone out there in the world that's better fit for you. Or is it, you like someone and and then you get to know them and you grow together.. ya know? That's my question.

[QUOTE=DeadKiller987;34229457]Probably. I need new friends. :c [editline]15th January 2012[/editline] I highly doubt this is something I can put on my resume.[/QUOTE] but it can surely make your resume worthwhile.... trust me. [editline]15th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Errorproxy;34229615]I think about this all the time. Love. There are so many people in the world how do you know which one is your true soulmate. Sure you might like someone, go on dates, marry them and spend the rest of your life with them but there has got to be someone out there in the world that's better fit for you. Or is it, you like someone and and then you get to know them and you grow together.. ya know? That's my question.[/QUOTE] When you accept there's no such thing a soulmate, you'll be able to feel complete and find the woman you want in your life

Alright, fuck it, I'm registering for it right now.

[QUOTE=Seith;34229695]When you accept there's no such thing a soulmate, you'll be able to feel complete and find the woman you want in your life[/QUOTE] The question is: Is there one absolute person who would be the most perfect for you or do you choose someone and become compatible. Nothing about soulmates. It's a hard question to word.

[QUOTE=Errorproxy;34230237]The question is: Is there one absolute person who would be the most perfect for you or do you choose someone and become compatible. Nothing about soulmates. It's a hard question to word.[/QUOTE] The truth for me is this; I choose who I see fit. "compatibility" is not even a issue. I don't believe in it, as people of most extreme views can become greatest lovers.

I have a bit of a different question. When you ask a girl on a date, and then another and you're starting to get to know each other, when do you assume that you're a couple? Is it after you kiss, or do you just know or how do you tell?

So my girlfriend's mum is a control freak, and she has said she's not letting her come over to my house for at least a year to see me and is not letting me come over there until may because she wants to see the relationship "develop in a stronger and in a healthier way". My gf is 18. I don't know what to do at this point, but I still want to be with her and we both agree we don't want to wait that long. And yes we have been together in person semi-frequently as a long-distance relationship.

[QUOTE='[CWG]RustySpannerz;34230670']I have a bit of a different question. When you ask a girl on a date, and then another and you're starting to get to know each other, when do you assume that you're a couple? Is it after you kiss, or do you just know or how do you tell?[/QUOTE] What the fuck. If kissing means me and a girl are a couple that means I have at least 10 girlfriends. If you can't figure out when your a couple how are you going to figure out anything else. You'll know when you'll know. [editline]15th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=E1025;34230745]So my girlfriend's mum is a control freak, and she has said she's not letting her come over to my house for at least a year to see me and is not letting me come over there until may because she wants to see the relationship "develop in a stronger and in a healthier way". My gf is 18. I don't know what to do at this point, but I still want to be with her and we both agree we don't want to wait that long. And yes we have been together in person semi-frequently as a long-distance relationship.[/QUOTE] If you like her that bad you'll break the rulz like bad boys and girls and meet up somewhere.

[QUOTE='[CWG]RustySpannerz;34230670']I have a bit of a different question. When you ask a girl on a date, and then another and you're starting to get to know each other, when do you assume that you're a couple? Is it after you kiss, or do you just know or how do you tell?[/QUOTE] You tell her. No need to assume, be a man and talk about it. If you feel it's fine with you and you see she wants to have a permanent relationship, then tell her you want to take it to the next level. No need to go "wanna be my gf?" wtf lol

[QUOTE=Dr. Disciple;34230846] If you like her that bad you'll break the rulz like bad boys and girls and meet up somewhere.[/QUOTE] Yeah we already have on some occasions but it's expensive so it's not something you can do frequently for single days at a time. We want to do it for a week which means explaining where the hell she went to her parents.

[QUOTE=Mon;34207247]goddamnit this girl i like started to date one of my friends a few weeks ago, and just yesterday i found out that she actually liked me too. the kicker is she's just so goddamn happy with my friend though, like happy in a way that i don't think i've ever been able to make her. i'm just a little jealous, but i know that she wouldn't work as well with me as she does with him, even if she did actually like me.[/QUOTE] so i was talking with the friend she's dating just today - i found out why she never asked. in short she was about to, but i basically told one of her friends that i wouldn't say yes if she asked - even though i actually would have - and then he turned around and told her. god damn

Newcomer in these parts, just want an unbiased opinion since my friends just laugh at me when I try to ask them. There's this girl that I've known for a while. Basically everything between us shows classic symptoms of friend zone. However, whenever it's just me and her she's always flirting with me and other stuff. She's also admitted on multiple occasions that she likes me. So kind of it's like a bit above friend zone. When I did ask her out, she told me "Not now, but wait and I will." What am I supposed to do about this?

ask her why

[QUOTE=Dr. Disciple;34230846]What the fuck. If kissing means me and a girl are a couple that means I have at least 10 girlfriends. If you can't figure out when your a couple how are you going to figure out anything else. You'll know when you'll know.[/QUOTE] Yeah, depends on the culture.

[QUOTE=cardfan212;34232954]Newcomer in these parts, just want an unbiased opinion since my friends just laugh at me when I try to ask them. There's this girl that I've known for a while. Basically everything between us shows classic symptoms of friend zone. However, whenever it's just me and her she's always flirting with me and other stuff. She's also admitted on multiple occasions that she likes me. So kind of it's like a bit above friend zone. When I did ask her out, she told me "Not now, but wait and I will." What am I supposed to do about this?[/QUOTE] Confront the hoe. Players gotta eat cuz. It's better to talk to her than waste time she might just be messing with you. But that's assuming the worst, but hey girls do it.

[QUOTE=cardfan212;34232954]Newcomer in these parts, just want an unbiased opinion since my friends just laugh at me when I try to ask them. There's this girl that I've known for a while. Basically everything between us shows classic symptoms of friend zone. However, whenever it's just me and her she's always flirting with me and other stuff. She's also admitted on multiple occasions that she likes me. So kind of it's like a bit above friend zone. When I did ask her out, she told me "Not now, but wait and I will." What am I supposed to do about this?[/QUOTE] at your current situation I'd tell her to fuck off. She's toying with you and you wouldn't enjoy yourself in this kind of relationship, trust me, I know it. It's friendzone, think about it, what is there to wait if she obviously is in to you? hmm.... BUT, she's giving you signs "I like you", she wants you to be a man and act not wait for her approval. two choices, move on peacefully or grab life by the throat

Moved to this country 8 months ago. Still don't know anyone how do i friends I just want someone to shoot the shit and drink beer with :(

[QUOTE=Asmaedus;34239541]Moved to this country 8 months ago. Still don't know anyone how do i friends I just want someone to shoot the shit and drink beer with :([/QUOTE] Do you know anyone at work/education you can just go for a beer with after work/class? Also for anyone who was concerned I got my sense of perspective back and I out of my self pity rut now! Although I did also find out I spent like £200 this week on shit, which was a bit of a ball ache but it makes you realise there are bigger problems in life than dem women ting.

[QUOTE=Asmaedus;34239541]Moved to this country 8 months ago. Still don't know anyone how do i friends I just want someone to shoot the shit and drink beer with :([/QUOTE] Start talking to people at work, or school , or uni... (I don't know the reason you're there). You'll eventually have to speak to someone, right? So when it happens befriend the people you talk to and start asking questions, like, "Hey, where do people here usually go hang out?". That's what I'd do. better to ask the way than go astray

[QUOTE=TheDKer;34223174]I was at a party at my school yesterday, and I asked a girl out near the end. We had never had a conversation before, and she had no real idea of my existence, as I have only started at this school 2 weeks ago. I walked up to her and we had a nice little one-on-one for maybe 5-10 minutes. We have quite a bit of mutual friends, who will definitely speak good of me if she would happen to ask them about me, and that also put her at ease around me when we talked. As we were leaving the party, I asked her out to the cinema. She said she'd like to reply once she wasn't so drunk. My problem now is, I don't know how she can reply to me. We're not friends on Facebook, don't have each others numbers, and don't go to same class. I could feel she had no big interest in this, so I'm afraid that if i simply add her over Facebook, she'll give me a no, and i don't expect her to make much effort meeting me at school, so i have to do something myself, but what? Would it be a good idea to pull her aside as she enters school and charm her a little more, or?[/QUOTE] I waited for her outside school today, and when she arrived I walked up to her and she smiled, gave me a kind of awkward hug and said hi. Don't think it meant much. She didn't stop up and talk to me but kept moving. I just followed her and made a couple of jokes about how we were drunk and she laughed. I said my offer still stands, but she said she was busy and had to hurry to class, and didn't give me a yes or no. 99% sure that was an excuse to get away from me though. I asked if we should exchange numbers so she could reply to me, but she replied to add her on Facebook, and then left. If i add her on Facebook she'll most likely give me a no, unless our mutual friends have persuaded her during the day, so for me that looks like a bad option. The chance of getting a no face-to-face is probably just as big, but i atleast have a chance of using a little bit of charm and show persistance, without looking like an idiot over a chat, and hope to get her to go out with me anyways. As said I still have to get in contact with her, so I'm thinking about doing what i did today, and wait for her outside school, and hope she isn't as busy as she was today. On top of that, it [I]could[/I] be a possibilty to send her a message over Facebook, telling her I'll be standing outside school again tommorow, without adding her so she can't respond, so she'll know I'm there. That just sounds a little lame though, so any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Do I have a tale for you guys. I've been a nerd sitting in front of the computer most of my life. But recently I started to change. I changed clothes so I looked somewhat decent, shaved my beard and got my act together a bit. Last week I asked out a girl from my class for the first time. I told her we could go see a movie. She said "I'm not sure when I can next week but I promise to let you know." As time went on I realized that she most likely didn't get that I was asking her out. Since I did it very casually. Fast forward to today, Monday Jan 16th. I asked if she came up with a day she was free yet and she said she couldn't this week either. I told her "You know that you can say that you don't want to." She said again that she indeed was very busy. At this point I went "fuck it" and told her why I wanted to go out with her. She was surprised and said that it would be too awkward/weird for us to go out since we've been friends for too long. She had this happen before, when a male friend asked her out and she said no. She then lost contact with him. I told her I wouldn't do that and went on with my day. Obviously a bit bummed out I was still determined to talk to her once more. After class I talked to her some more: "Give me five minutes." "Okay." "So our problem here is that we've known each other for too long. Well I know how to fix that." This is the part where things get really weird. I tell her to close her eyes and I pull out my keys and dangle them infront of her and tell her to open her eyes. I basically started to "hypnotize" her and I told her: "You have never met a guy named Toby, who has a cool beard and whose secret shame is that he likes to play with plastic soldiers. (Warhammer 40k miniatures) When I snap my fingers you will have forgotten all you know about him." She began to smile once she saw what I was trying to do. I snap my fingers and she plays along. "Hi, I'm Toby. Who are you?" "I'm Mary!" "So what do you like to do Mary?" "I like to paint and whatnot." "You seem like a nice person. Could I take you out for a cup of coffe sometime?" "Yes." She said yes! How that worked.. I have no idea. Maybe I know how to hypnotize people or something. I am still surprised that she said yes. We will most likely be going out next week. This is a huge achievement for me seeing as how just a few months ago. All I did was, go to school, go home and play videogames. This was the first girl that I have ever asked out. (I'm 18 by the way, so took me long enough.) I feel like I'm the king of the world. I can't believe I just did that. So what I am trying to get across here is that it was incredible how little I had to change.

thats the perfect example of why you just need to be confident she definitely wasn't interested in you, but then you did this weird confident/funny thing, and she was like "hey maybe I'll give him a chance" good job!

Such an amazing story. Good luck Mr. Commander.