The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v2 - General

don't worry about the wording, just make sure you're not nervous and forced, it's easy to be casual about it. just get talking to her and all, and slip in "hey, do you wanna go out with me to (the shopping complex) on (day) after school?" if she asks details, just say you were thinking you could just walk around, get something to eat

[QUOTE=Haloscott3;34025800]If you are on FacePunch, you have zero/none chance of communicating with women. That's a fact, not an opinion.[/QUOTE] First page and already someone posts the oldest joke on the internet. This joke stopped being funny in the 90's man. Anyway just wanted to say the OP is an improvement over the last, and I plan to be around more often. Help where I can and whatnot. AmericanInfantry, sounds like you got this but I'll wish you luck anyway.

Go get her AmericanInfantry!

Met this girl on New Year's Eve (had lots of guests) and she was super shy. Anyhow next day she adds me on Facebook (exactly the same time as I was looking for her). Then we talk (rather slowly) about stuff for like 2 days and yesterday I told her this line which worked miracles (it's a translation so it sounds rather stupid in English): "Damn, you're so perfect :D Beautiful, smart, don't smoke, barely drink [alcohol], is it possible that you don't have any faults? :D". And with the help of that sentence I'll be going on the first date of my life (lame, yes, but whatever, worked out rather well) on Thursday.

So... My ex-girlfriend is in town, and I'm reasonably good friends with her. I mentioned a while ago in the old thread that her and one of my oldest friends have feelings for eachother. I'm cool with that. I'm fine with them dating. I don't care if they make out and shit while she's in town. Hell, I don't even give a shit if they leave to makeout while we are hanging out with a bunch of other people... Where I draw the line is when they get ahold of me to hang out... Come to my house... And start feeling eachother up and tonguing in the same fucking room as me, when there is no one there but me and them. The best part? They were on my FUCKING bed. That's where it gets close to the point of me being ridiculously fucking angry. The point where I get ridiculously fucking angry? When I tell them to stop and they take that as a challenge to makeout MORE passionately and even fucking LOUDER. I'm not an angry person. If they pull this shit again, I'm kicking them the fuck out of my house.

that's a shit friend and you need to tell him that's not okay

That's just being trashy and annoying. Tell them to fuck off and don't ever call him again unless he gives you an honest reason for his childish behaviour. You're better than this.

Any advice on how to approach this girl? She stands out in the hall before class, by herself, and sits by herself in class.

[QUOTE=AmericanInfantry;34045455]Any advice on how to approach this girl? She stands out in the hall before class, by herself, and sits by herself in class.[/QUOTE] that doesn't really say a lot about her now does it. maybe she just enjoys privacy or maybe she secretly wishes people would talk to her.

[QUOTE=Octyl;34045083]So... My ex-girlfriend is in town, and I'm reasonably good friends with her. I mentioned a while ago in the old thread that her and one of my oldest friends have feelings for eachother. I'm cool with that. I'm fine with them dating. I don't care if they make out and shit while she's in town. Hell, I don't even give a shit if they leave to makeout while we are hanging out with a bunch of other people... Where I draw the line is when they get ahold of me to hang out... Come to my house... And start feeling eachother up and tonguing in the same fucking room as me, when there is no one there but me and them. The best part? They were on my FUCKING bed. That's where it gets close to the point of me being ridiculously fucking angry. The point where I get ridiculously fucking angry? When I tell them to stop and they take that as a challenge to makeout MORE passionately and even fucking LOUDER. I'm not an angry person. If they pull this shit again, I'm kicking them the fuck out of my house.[/QUOTE] Stop being a push over, you dont let them back in your house again pulling shit like that man Id crack you did well to not snap. Also forget that "mate" of yours hes a cunt.

[QUOTE=AmericanInfantry;34045455]Any advice on how to approach this girl? She stands out in the hall before class, by herself, and sits by herself in class.[/QUOTE] you cant really just know, you just have to talk to her like any other human being. how would you approach a friend who was standing in the hall by themself?

I'd be friendly and just start talking to them, of course. I have to stop asking stupid quesitons; I'll get the hang of this eventually.

[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;34045516]you cant really just know, you just have to talk to her like any other human being. how would you approach a friend who was standing in the hall by themself?[/QUOTE] maybe he wants advice for himself. i would say be confident and relaxed. don't barge in like you're gonna attack her. think about how you'd like to be approached when standing in a hall by yourself. people generally like you if being around you is enjoyable.

lol that's what i was trying to say by asking how he would approach a friend

I think I'm set here. Go up to her all friendly and shit, talk to her, get her number then ask her out. Easier said than done.

[QUOTE=AmericanInfantry;34045455]Any advice on how to approach this girl? She stands out in the hall before class, by herself, and sits by herself in class.[/QUOTE] Just do it. I think you need to accept that no matter how awesome you're, you might still be declined. Once you get that, you'll be able to ease a bit and maybe influence the results. [editline]4th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=AmericanInfantry;34045677]I think I'm set here. Go up to her all friendly and shit, talk to her, get her number then ask her out. Easier said than done.[/QUOTE] It is easy, you're just dwelling in what might go wrong with your proposal. Don't do that, you're awesome. You need to let go, as I've said in the post above/below. Also, pro tip, break it to parts. Be friendly, then take the number, then call her that same night / tomorrow. You're going too quickly.

[QUOTE=AmericanInfantry;34045677]Easier said than done.[/QUOTE] Not really. Is this girl a friend of yours, or someone that matters in some other way? If not, you have [I]nothing[/I] to lose. Even if she does say no, the embarassment will last minutes at most... and of course, you'll know for sure that you have the balls to do it. Ask away, and remember that rejection does not mean failure, it just means she probably doesn't see you that way. Not a big deal, but you won't know until you do it. [QUOTE=Octyl;34045083]So... My ex-girlfriend is in town, and I'm reasonably good friends with her. I mentioned a while ago in the old thread that her and one of my oldest friends have feelings for eachother. I'm cool with that. I'm fine with them dating. I don't care if they make out and shit while she's in town. Hell, I don't even give a shit if they leave to makeout while we are hanging out with a bunch of other people... Where I draw the line is when they get ahold of me to hang out... Come to my house... And start feeling eachother up and tonguing in the same fucking room as me, when there is no one there but me and them. The best part? They were on my FUCKING bed. That's where it gets close to the point of me being ridiculously fucking angry. The point where I get ridiculously fucking angry? When I tell them to stop and they take that as a challenge to makeout MORE passionately and even fucking LOUDER. I'm not an angry person. If they pull this shit again, I'm kicking them the fuck out of my house.[/QUOTE] Talk to your friend privately. Calmly inform him that he crossed a line with what he did. Leave it at that. If he keeps being a dick about it later, do what you need to do.

Shit this thread disappeared off of my 'Read Threads' for ages, I didn't even realize the old one got locked. [editline]5th January 2012[/editline] I feel like I've grown complacent with these threads. My own social life is so stagnant these days, and I'm somewhat lonely most of the time so I don't really feel motivated to post as much as I maybe once did. I'll try post some more now that there's a fresh thread though. [editline]5th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=FlakAttack;34043566]I plan to be around more often. Help where I can and whatnot.[/QUOTE] This is also nice to hear ^^

Just want to get this off my chest, not really asking for advice. Well, I really balls'd up the past couple of months with this one girl I was interested in. She was in my math class, and I never really knew her, and as it turned out, she was in my (yes this is going to be funny) science competition club, I decided to talk to her. I was pretty successful, and for the next few weeks we'd talk comfortably, though never was much for talking. Soon she becomes a stat girl for my wrestling team, and I try to talk to her some more. Then I don't really know what happened. I just stopped talking to her, probably because she hung out with this whiny white kid, but man do I feel bad now. Its funny, I think she's kinda mad at me now, but whatever, just keep on going. Just needed to let this out, thanks.

I think the only reason they were making out on my bed is because I repeatedly said that I don't give a fuck if they do stuff together.... That being said, if I ask them to stop doing it, they should fucking stop. Gah. I don't want to break off a friendship over this, because aside from this, he is an awesome friend.

[QUOTE=Octyl;34050107]I think the only reason they were making out on my bed is because I repeatedly said that I don't give a fuck if they do stuff together.... That being said, if I ask them to stop doing it, they should fucking stop. Gah. I don't want to break off a friendship over this, because aside from this, he is an awesome friend.[/QUOTE] I think both sides, us and you, took this way over the edge. After reading what you said right now, I can clearly see it was blown out of proportions. Breathe and have a chat with him.

Incoming dramatic high school bullshit rant. That girl wasn't here today. Oh well, try again tomorrow. But there's a whole lot of dramatic bullshit going on and people won't just leave me alone and let me do my own thing, and it's stressing me out to the point where I'm not sure if I can do it. My friend has a plan for me to not "get ahead of myself" and to put off asking her out until i get comfortable around her. Two guys that I know want her too, and this seems to have become a competition as to who can get this girl first, and it's becoming more of a rush than just doing my own thing. I really want people to leave me alone, leave her alone, and let me do my thing. I'm certain she likes me but I'm just doing going for it. Like usual, I will say I'll do it, but I end up not doing it. I hate this. For some reason I just can't push myself.

Tell your friend to shut up.

[QUOTE=AmericanInfantry;34051423]Incoming dramatic high school bullshit rant. That girl wasn't here today. Oh well, try again tomorrow. But there's a whole lot of dramatic bullshit going on and people won't just leave me alone and let me do my own thing, and it's stressing me out to the point where I'm not sure if I can do it. My friend has a plan for me to not "get ahead of myself" and to put off asking her out until i get comfortable around her. Two guys that I know want her too, and this seems to have become a competition as to who can get this girl first, and it's becoming more of a rush than just doing my own thing. I really want people to leave me alone, leave her alone, and let me do my thing. I'm certain she likes me but I'm just doing going for it. Like usual, I will say I'll do it, but I end up not doing it. I hate this. For some reason I just can't push myself.[/QUOTE] This is going to be, probably, very verbose. I am going to dissect what you've said into pieces and address as following; [quote] But there's a whole lot of dramatic bullshit going on and people won't just leave me alone and let me do my own thing, and it's stressing me out to the point where I'm not sure if I can do it.[/quote] [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NSfXolCmnFo[/media] You're stressed out. Confused, I understand. I want you to watch this and actually do as he says. I think this would be satisfy the ghosts and demons in your head. It works, I have tried this with people. [quote]My friend has a plan for me to not "get ahead of myself" and to put off asking her out until i get comfortable around her. Two guys that I know want her too, and this seems to have become a competition as to who can get this girl first, and it's becoming more of a rush than just doing my own thing.[/quote] Tell your friend you're fully capable of doing what you want, because you are. From experience, I'd say don't do as he says. If you hang around her like a crow not making a move you'll soon realize you're in the friend-zone, especially with that sort of "competition". If you did what I told you above, you should understand there's actually no competition, as you're awesome. You could have any woman in your life, why would you compete? she should be competing for your heart. Understand this; [b]Victories are not what makes you great, but rather the ability to rise from failures and be even greater than before[/b]. Honest truth is you might fail, but that should encourage you because you're as far as I see, are more than capable of achieving any woman you want. Why would you feel obliged and rushed when you know this? :) [quote]I really want people to leave me alone, leave her alone, and let me do my thing. I'm certain she likes me but I'm just doing going for it. Like usual, I will say I'll do it, but I end up not doing it. I hate this. For some reason I just can't push myself.[/quote] Finally, you seem to know you're the one in control here. She likes you, you feel this, why wouldn't she, as I've proved above? But then again... you put your head in the ground like a scared cat. Fuck everybody around you, by now, by the time you're reading these words you should be fully capable of fully realizing what I am saying. You can't push yourself because you've never tried, how else would you know you can? The power to control your faith is with you. All you have, in the end, is your own hands and self-esteem. I find this simple tactic of war to come true in life, with every hard task people go through - "Why are you backing away from your enemy? If you want to kill him, you should come closer". It is our fear that doesn't let us approach what we actually want. In war, as in life, conquer your fears and let your true-self shine so that others can feel it as well, especially her. Very dramatic and shit, very "magic" NLP shit here. It works, hopefully even through lines of text on a forum.

[QUOTE=AmericanInfantry;34051423]I really want people to leave me alone, leave her alone, and let me do my thing.[/QUOTE] unfortunately this will never happen

[QUOTE=Seith;34052037]-inspirational text-[/QUOTE] Nice breakdown, I know I am confused, stressed, tense, and I have demons in my head. I will take into account what George Clooney says, and take it to heart. I know I'm capable but this useless competition holds that back a bit. I'm just simply blown away by your posts and your words of wisdom. Thank you.

[QUOTE=AmericanInfantry;34052356]Nice breakdown, I know I am confused, stressed, tense, and I have demons in my head. I will take into account what George Clooney says, and take it to heart. I know I'm capable but this useless competition holds that back a bit. I'm just simply blown away by your posts and your words of wisdom. Thank you.[/QUOTE] Thank you. This makes me extremely happy my friend. I have another tool you could use, I'll PM you the information. It will help you deal with the situation, further more than just plain motivation. P.S Make sure you read the description, as they took out the interesting parts such as burning the bag.

[QUOTE=Seith;34052485]Thank you. This makes me extremely happy my friend. I have another tool you could use, I'll PM you the information. It will help you deal with the situation, further more than just plain motivation. P.S Make sure you read the description, as [B]they took out the interesting parts such as burning the bag.[/B][/QUOTE] trust me, there are better ways to dispose of a corpse

[QUOTE=Seith;34052037]This is going to be, probably, very verbose. I am going to dissect what you've said into pieces and address as following; George Clooney You're stressed out. Confused, I understand. I want you to watch this and actually do as he says. I think this would be satisfy the ghosts and demons in your head. It works, I have tried this with people. Tell your friend you're fully capable of doing what you want, because you are. From experience, I'd say don't do as he says. If you hang around her like a crow not making a move you'll soon realize you're in the friend-zone, especially with that sort of "competition". If you did what I told you above, you should understand there's actually no competition, as you're awesome. You could have any woman in your life, why would you compete? she should be competing for your heart. Understand this; [b]Victories are not what makes you great, but rather the ability to rise from failures and be even greater than before[/b]. Honest truth is you might fail, but that should encourage you because you're as far as I see, are more than capable of achieving any woman you want. Why would you feel obliged and rushed when you know this? :) Finally, you seem to know you're the one in control here. She likes you, you feel this, why wouldn't she, as I've proved above? But then again... you put your head in the ground like a scared cat. Fuck everybody around you, by now, by the time you're reading these words you should be fully capable of fully realizing what I am saying. You can't push yourself because you've never tried, how else would you know you can? The power to control your faith is with you. All you have, in the end, is your own hands and self-esteem. I find this simple tactic of war to come true in life, with every hard task people go through - "Why are you backing away from your enemy? If you want to kill him, you should come closer". It is our fear that doesn't let us approach what we actually want. In war, as in life, conquer your fears and let your true-self shine so that others can feel it as well, especially her. Very dramatic and shit, very "magic" NLP shit here. It works, hopefully even through lines of text on a forum.[/QUOTE] this was a really good post, and i applaud you. it was well-written and easy to understand, and didn't sound arrogant in its delivery. more like this, Seith.

[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;34053160]this was a really good post, and i applaud you. it was well-written and easy to understand, and didn't sound arrogant in its delivery. more like this, Seith.[/QUOTE] Stop being a patronising little fuck. Your on his back in 2 threads hell probably more, stop judging peoples post your not a moderator more to it stop acting like one.