The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v2 - General

[QUOTE=ryfry99;34249495]She cheated on me with the other guy. I had my suspicions that she was but I'm too damn naive and if I feel like I can trust someone I'll give them all of my trust. Never making that mistake again. After our last big fight she straight out told me that I'm a mistake and "oh yeah I've been seeing this other guy for months and I'm going to be marrying him". The maddest I've ever been right there I just wanted to punch something but refrained. The whole thing is a fucking mess and the worst relationship I've ever been in but it still stings. [editline]16th January 2012[/editline] Just be honest and make your feelings about her known. Just be casual "Hey want to know something?" " What?" "I like you." She's probably just really shy. Getting her a gift would probably be a nice way to show you care but don't go overboard and buy something really expensive.[/QUOTE] I ordered LoZ 25th Anniversary Posters from Club Nintendo a while ago. If they get here in time I might give her one of the posters (there's a total of 3). Also don't linger on the girl you just dated. The nicest of people are the ones who get abused the most.

[QUOTE=RIPBILLYMAYS;34249473]Hello thread. I recently decided to throw my hat into the ring with the whole love thing. Recently I've been trying to get this girl I like over to my house to privately tell her I like her (we're both Nintendo fans so I figured we could play SSBB or Mario Kart on the Wii). Every time I ask her over she says she'll check with her parents to see what she's doing this weekend, and every time she's busy or her parents aren't home or she's doing stuff at her Church. I'm not sure if she's kindly rejecting me or not. We're both in advanced classes so we have a lot of homework, her parents seem very restrictive (they bought her and iPhone but disabled calling/texting functions. I have no way of talking to her outside of school :smith:) and she's one of the nicest girls I've met. We share 3 classes together so we get to talk a lot. I've never dated before and I don't know how to go about expressing personal feelings to another person without making myself feel awkward. If I can actually get her over, how should I tell her how I feel? And what should I do next? Also we're both 15 turning 16 next month (6 days apart from each other). Should I get her a gift maybe?[/QUOTE] hahahahaha holy shit this has to be satire if this is serious i don't even know where to begin [QUOTE=ryfry99;34249495] Just be honest and make your feelings about her known. Just be casual "Hey want to know something?" " What?" "I like you." She's probably just really shy. Getting her a gift would probably be a nice way to show you care but don't go overboard and buy something really expensive.[/QUOTE] don't do any of this i'd say you'd first have to work on your self and understand that you're almost 16 and your ideal idea for a date is to bring this girl over to play Mario cart then confess your feelings for her? you need to look at the guides posted on the first page

[QUOTE=Mr.Dounut;34249970]hahahahaha holy shit this has to be satire if this is serious i don't even know where to begin don't do any of this i'd say you'd first have to work on your self and understand that you're almost 16 and your ideal idea for a date is to bring this girl over to play Mario cart then confess your feelings for her? you need to look at the guides posted on the first page[/QUOTE] Its not an ideal date. Its to tell her privately that I like her since her friends always show up when I talk to her. I'd rather not have people know I like this girl and then get rejected. Then I probably won't hear the end of it.

[QUOTE=Mr.Dounut;34249970]hahahahaha holy shit this has to be satire if this is serious i don't even know where to begin don't do any of this i'd say you'd first have to work on your self and understand that you're almost 16 and your ideal idea for a date is to bring this girl over to play Mario cart then confess your feelings for her? you need to look at the guides posted on the first page[/QUOTE] what part of super friendly did you not understand don't mean to offend but you're shitting up the thread

[QUOTE=RIPBILLYMAYS;34249473]Hello thread. I recently decided to throw my hat into the ring with the whole love thing. Recently I've been trying to get this girl I like over to my house to privately tell her I like her (we're both Nintendo fans so I figured we could play SSBB or Mario Kart on the Wii). Every time I ask her over she says she'll check with her parents to see what she's doing this weekend, and every time she's busy or her parents aren't home or she's doing stuff at her Church. I'm not sure if she's kindly rejecting me or not. We're both in advanced classes so we have a lot of homework, her parents seem very restrictive (they bought her and iPhone but disabled calling/texting functions. I have no way of talking to her outside of school :smith:) and she's one of the nicest girls I've met. We share 3 classes together so we get to talk a lot. I've never dated before and I don't know how to go about expressing personal feelings to another person without making myself feel awkward. If I can actually get her over, how should I tell her how I feel? And what should I do next? Also we're both 15 turning 16 next month (6 days apart from each other). Should I get her a gift maybe?[/QUOTE] Dude A) Don't blurt out that you like her. Just ask her out on date. Asking her to come over to your house is not a date. (in general) B) Do NOT get her a gift. (yet) You want her to like you. You're not trying to buy her. [editline]16th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=RIPBILLYMAYS;34250623]Its not an ideal date. Its to tell her privately that I like her since her friends always show up when I talk to her. I'd rather not have people know I like this girl and then get rejected. Then I probably won't hear the end of it.[/QUOTE] Who gives a flying fuck what her friends think? Asking her out in front of her friends shows her you've got a nutsack and there's probably things in it, though you obviously don't have to ask her out in front of people, it's best to get comfortable taking whatever opportunity you can get.

I don't let men buy me things until I know they're not just doing it to get into my pants. Even then, whenever they buy me expensive things, I feel terrible. But I can't bring myself to refuse it most of the time.

How do you talk to someone you're crushing on about someone you're crushing on when they're that person? It wouldn't be hard if she was single. I don't want her to know that I like her and have it make our friendship weird, but I don't want her thinking that she's someone who I won't go to when I need help.

[QUOTE=Pascall;34251323]I don't let men buy me things until I know they're not just doing it to get into my pants.[/QUOTE] hahah when exactly does that come to light?

[QUOTE=thisispain;34251418]hahah when exactly does that come to light?[/QUOTE] It rarely does that's why I don't get bought a lot of things~

[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;34251259]Dude A) Don't blurt out that you like her. Just ask her out on date. Asking her to come over to your house is not a date. (in general) B) Do NOT get her a gift. (yet) You want her to like you. You're not trying to buy her. [editline]16th January 2012[/editline] Who gives a flying fuck what her friends think? Asking her out in front of her friends shows her you've got a nutsack and there's probably things in it, though you obviously don't have to ask her out in front of people, it's best to get comfortable taking whatever opportunity you can get.[/QUOTE] Alright. I'll try. I wanted advice since I've never done this sorta thing before. I've also been nervous because my parents haven't dealt with one of their kids dating. My sister is 23 and hasn't had a boyfriend. And I've always been the one who mocked teen dating, saying its a waste of time and money. Telling my parents I wanna date would be unexpected.

[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;34248848]sorry what were you the one she was cheating on or was she with him first because if she's marrying a guy she's been with for 3 months she's not worth giving a shit about[/QUOTE] my parents knew each other for only six months and were dating for five and are still happily married with two children twenty seven years later.

[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;34252562]my parents knew each other for only six months and were dating for five and are still happily married with two children twenty seven years later.[/QUOTE]There is a very small percentage of relationships that have that happen to them, in the dating world it's pretty rare

[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;34252562]my parents knew each other for only six months and were dating for five and are still happily married with two children twenty seven years later.[/QUOTE] That's great but it's not something anyone should gamble on

RIPBILLYMAYS sounds like a troll, but anyways, even if the girl also shows interest in Nintendo and video games and shit, please don't base your relationship around mutual interest of video games. And giving her one of your posters to get her to "like" you is a bad idea unless your in 3rd grade, and you probably aren't doing it for that reason, probably as a nice gesture but she can interpret it that way. And holy shit, don't ask her out or confess your feelings while playing video games. Doing it in public or at school is better in my opinion, as it shows that you have a sack, and are ~~alPHa as fcukk~~

[QUOTE=Ladowerf;34253065] ~~alPHa as fcukk~~[/QUOTE] Shiiiiiiiiiii

Well, my friend keeps a list of the people he wants to ask out, and he has an order, so his favourite is at the top.

[QUOTE=cardfan212;34232954]Newcomer in these parts, just want an unbiased opinion since my friends just laugh at me when I try to ask them. There's this girl that I've known for a while. Basically everything between us shows classic symptoms of friend zone. However, whenever it's just me and her she's always flirting with me and other stuff. She's also admitted on multiple occasions that she likes me. So kind of it's like a bit above friend zone. When I did ask her out, she told me "Not now, but wait and I will." What am I supposed to do about this?[/QUOTE] I used to get this all the time. It means "No", in case you haven't figured it out yet. [QUOTE=CommanderPT;34240126]Do I have a tale for you guys. I've been a nerd sitting in front of the computer most of my life. But recently I started to change. I changed clothes so I looked somewhat decent, shaved my beard and got my act together a bit. Last week I asked out a girl from my class for the first time. I told her we could go see a movie. She said "I'm not sure when I can next week but I promise to let you know." As time went on I realized that she most likely didn't get that I was asking her out. Since I did it very casually. Fast forward to today, Monday Jan 16th. I asked if she came up with a day she was free yet and she said she couldn't this week either. I told her "You know that you can say that you don't want to." She said again that she indeed was very busy. At this point I went "fuck it" and told her why I wanted to go out with her. She was surprised and said that it would be too awkward/weird for us to go out since we've been friends for too long. She had this happen before, when a male friend asked her out and she said no. She then lost contact with him. I told her I wouldn't do that and went on with my day. Obviously a bit bummed out I was still determined to talk to her once more. After class I talked to her some more: "Give me five minutes." "Okay." "So our problem here is that we've known each other for too long. Well I know how to fix that." This is the part where things get really weird. I tell her to close her eyes and I pull out my keys and dangle them infront of her and tell her to open her eyes. I basically started to "hypnotize" her and I told her: "You have never met a guy named Toby, who has a cool beard and whose secret shame is that he likes to play with plastic soldiers. (Warhammer 40k miniatures) When I snap my fingers you will have forgotten all you know about him." She began to smile once she saw what I was trying to do. I snap my fingers and she plays along. "Hi, I'm Toby. Who are you?" "I'm Mary!" "So what do you like to do Mary?" "I like to paint and whatnot." "You seem like a nice person. Could I take you out for a cup of coffe sometime?" "Yes." She said yes! How that worked.. I have no idea. Maybe I know how to hypnotize people or something. I am still surprised that she said yes. We will most likely be going out next week. This is a huge achievement for me seeing as how just a few months ago. All I did was, go to school, go home and play videogames. This was the first girl that I have ever asked out. (I'm 18 by the way, so took me long enough.) I feel like I'm the king of the world. I can't believe I just did that. So what I am trying to get across here is that it was incredible how little I had to change.[/QUOTE] Rate this man fucking WINNER. Not just for what he did, but for posting it here and showing people how wit and confidence can charm a lady. I was going after a girl I've known since we were kids... Liked her for a long time but I didn't feel ready for a girl like her... until I had dated a bit. After a few other girls and some life lessons, I decided it was time to go for her. She told me no one had ever gotten her flowers, so I got a painting made for me of her favourite flower, and I gave it to her for her birthday. Everyone just looked at it like a painting and thought it would go great on the bare walls in her room. They didn't know that the card said "I got you flowers, without breaking my promise that I would never get anyone flowers". It was the only card she didn't read outloud. She just smirked and gave me a look; she knew. So I let that sit for a few days, and then I sent her an email: "Dear Jessica, We should go on a date Sincerely, Me" Worked like a charm. She does expect me to break that promise some day... I'm just wondering how I should go about doing it.

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[QUOTE=Dark_Light;34255894]brb reading ~300 posts[/QUOTE] No...don't do it.... :|

I have an issue with my female flatmate. She is pretty awesome and neat but lately she is annoying me very much. So we both live in a flat that is divided into 2 main rooms, everyone of us lives in one. My room has more space than hers, therefore we decided that we can both eat in my room and chill when we want to. A living room of some sort. At first it was awesome, perhaps because I was slightly in love with her at first and blinded. I basically allowed her to do anything, which I kind of regret now. But now she constantly occupies my room and watches television in my room. It is fairly annoying because she just hangs like a lazy cunt on my couch. I will talk to her tonight, but I want to explain it in a good way. Because living with someone that you can't stand is a pain in the ass. I just need to find the right words to put in a good friendly way. Our friendship is cool but this shit needs to stop. Although we both pay the half price of the flat, she could demand to pay less because she lives in a smaller room. So sometimes I feel this struggle inside of me :v:

[QUOTE=junker|154;34256873]I have an issue with my female flatmate. She is pretty awesome and neat but lately she is annoying me very much. So we both live in a flat that is divided into 2 main rooms, everyone of us lives in one. My room has more space than hers, therefore we decided that we can both eat in my room and chill when we want to. A living room of some sort. At first it was awesome, perhaps because I was slightly in love with her at first and blinded. I basically allowed her to do anything, which I kind of regret now. But now she constantly occupies my room and watches television in my room. It is fairly annoying because she just hangs like a lazy cunt on my couch. I will talk to her tonight, but I want to explain it in a good way. Because living with someone that you can't stand is a pain in the ass. I just need to find the right words to put in a good friendly way. Our friendship is cool but this shit needs to stop. Although we both pay the half price of the flat, she could demand to pay less because she lives in a smaller room. So sometimes I feel this struggle inside of me :v:[/QUOTE] That's a tough situation dude. Just choose your words carefully, don't blame her, just tell what you feel about it. Empower her. Tell her "Hey, sis, you gotta move a little bit, you know, I don't mind you being in my room but I need my space too"

I love you guys. My tip of the day: Before making any potentially-regrettable decisions involving females, specifically exes, have a fap. Works wonders.

[QUOTE=FlakAttack;34255556] Rate this man fucking WINNER. Not just for what he did, but for posting it here and showing people how wit and confidence can charm a lady. [/QUOTE] Thanks! I also got her number today by the way! [IMG]http://i.somethingawful.com/forumsystem/emoticons/emot-buddy.gif[/IMG] And well done on your end as well. [QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;34251259] Who gives a flying fuck what her friends think? Asking her out in front of her friends shows her you've got a nutsack and there's probably things in it, though you obviously don't have to ask her out in front of people, it's best to get comfortable taking whatever opportunity you can get.[/QUOTE] I was constantly trying to find the right moment to do it as well. By the end of my whole hypnotization shenanigan we were a few meters away from her friends who were staring if I am not mistaken. But like you said, it doesn't matter and she didn't care either.

[QUOTE=Ladowerf;34253065]RIPBILLYMAYS sounds like a troll, but anyways, even if the girl also shows interest in Nintendo and video games and shit, please don't base your relationship around mutual interest of video games. And giving her one of your posters to get her to "like" you is a bad idea unless your in 3rd grade, and you probably aren't doing it for that reason, probably as a nice gesture but she can interpret it that way. And holy shit, don't ask her out or confess your feelings while playing video games. Doing it in public or at school is better in my opinion, as it shows that you have a sack, and are ~~alPHa as fcukk~~[/QUOTE] I'm not trolling. I'm just that bad at this sorta thing which is why I thought dropping by here would be a good idea. Also I asked my dad to get tickets to a hockey game (he works for the Penguins). If he can get tickets I'll ask her out.

[QUOTE=Dark_Light;34259033]I love you guys. My tip of the day: Before making any potentially-regrettable decisions involving females, specifically exes, have a fap. Works wonders.[/QUOTE] Personally, after having a wank I go numb. I need the extra juice down there to be able to want the women I have a chat with more fiercely. [editline]17th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=CommanderPT;34259132]Thanks! I also got her number today by the way! [IMG]http://i.somethingawful.com/forumsystem/emoticons/emot-buddy.gif[/IMG] And well done on your end as well. I was constantly trying to find the right moment to do it as well. By the end of my whole hypnotization shenanigan we were a few meters away from her friends who were staring if I am not mistaken. But like you said, it doesn't matter and she didn't care either.[/QUOTE] That was playful and I like that a lot. Way to go.

[QUOTE=Seith;34262596]Personally, after having a wank I go numb. I need the extra juice down there to be able to want the women I have a chat with more fiercely. [editline]17th January 2012[/editline] That was playful and I like that a lot. Way to go.[/QUOTE] what the fuck

extra juice with pulp

[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;34262680]what the fuck[/QUOTE] Are you under 18 ?

[QUOTE=Seith;34262801]Are you under 18 ?[/QUOTE] are you

no