The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v2 - General

i knew it.

i hate capital letters too.

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[QUOTE=Autumn;34263470]i knew it.[/QUOTE] Found out with your crystal ball I persume ?

Big juicy hugs for everyone. [IMG]http://www.sherv.net/cm/emo/hug/tackle.gif[/IMG] Because this thread is the coolest ever and makes me laugh :swoon:

I suggest never let anyone (mainly lady-friends) throw a pity party for you over your breakup. It just makes you sadder.

A pity party? That just sounds like an awful idea.

so guys a friend of mine gets really emotional when i talk to his girl last time i did he cried, and we're bros so i don't like seeing that happen - but i'm good friends with his girl, and i don't want to break anything off wat do

[QUOTE=Mon;34266658]so guys a friend of mine gets really emotional when i talk to his girl last time i did he cried, and we're bros so i don't like seeing that happen - but i'm good friends with his girl, and i don't want to break anything off wat do[/QUOTE]The only reason he would do that is because he doesn't trust either you or his girl. Talk to him about it, it seems like there are some pretty big issues there

[QUOTE=Dark_Light;34266601]A pity party? That just sounds like an awful idea.[/QUOTE] I dunno if you'd know what the expression means but it's pretty much when a bunch of people are like "AWW WHAT HAPPENED THAT'S SO SAD WHAT A JERK" for 20 minutes around you, not an actual party lol. [editline]17th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Mon;34266658]so guys a friend of mine gets really emotional when i talk to his girl last time i did he cried, and we're bros so i don't like seeing that happen - but i'm good friends with his girl, and i don't want to break anything off wat do[/QUOTE] what the shit. Your friend has a lot of problems, and trust issues. Why would he fucking cry over you talking to his girlfriend. Tell him to trust her.

Why does he cry/get emotional? That's kinda weird.

[QUOTE=Makol;34266731]Why does he cry/get emotional? That's kinda weird.[/QUOTE] i don't know, when we were talking, she was laughing a lot, and i guess ignoring him a little - that was the point where he started tearing up. she told me about it later, it was just some stuff about jealousy. i talked with the friend after, and it really seemed that he felt like an ass about it, but i'm still really confused about what i should do.

My dad got tickets. I gotta ask for a date tomorrow. Fuck I hope I don't get cold feet.

[QUOTE=Mon;34266780]i don't know, when we were talking, she was laughing a lot, and i guess ignoring him a little - that was the point where he started tearing up. she told me about it later, it was just some stuff about jealousy. i talked with the friend after, and it really seemed that he felt like an ass about it, but i'm still really confused about what i should do.[/QUOTE] Reassure him you aren't going to steal his girlfriend and that you're just good friends with her.

This is going to sound weird, but my boyfriend of three years has put me in the friend zone. I've heard all kinds of advice about girls doing that to guys and what guys should do to get out of it, but what about girls? What should I do to get out of the friend zone, cause I'm pretty sure I'm in it.

Wait how are you in the friendzone? Are you apart or together?

We're together.

So is he just basically not treating you like his girlfriend anymore? If so, talk to him about it. Ask him what's up with him and if there's something going on.

I just tried to talk to him, he got mad. It's really hard to talk to him about anything really, he gets pretty grumpy about most everything. -edit What happened to my English? ha

he sounds like hes pissed at you, it doesn't sound at all like the friend zone

He doesn't have the capacity to get more than grumpy, as long as I've known him I've never seen him pissed or angry at anyone. He has crazy mood swings though and treats me like a friend rather than a girlfriend. He's completely stopped doing anything romantic for me or even holding my hand when we walk together. But what bothers me the most is when he ignores me and runs off with one of his friends instead. I really enjoy doing nice things for him (I'd think I could expect at least something small in return), I buy him dinner, wash his clothes, bake him cookies, I plan all our dates which usually he blows me off and stays in bed the whole day instead. I've walked 8-9 miles in the freezing cold or the rain to see him some days and he can't even get out of bed to let me in.

I honestly don't think that his heart is in it anymore. It might be time to start considering separating.

Shit.

If you can't get him to talk about it first, then take time for yourself to think. Do you really want to invest yourself in a relationship that is only one-sided? Relationships should be beneficial for both sides, not just the one. And if he can't put forth the effort, then why stay with him? In the end, it's up to you. You can always keep trying to talk to him, but if you simply can't get through, then you might be better off without him.

but thats still not really the friend zone, its just a failed relationship

Thanks a ton, I mean really. This is the first real relationship I have ever been in, and fuck I love this boy. I just can't get through to him for some reason and you're probably right. I'm pretty much miserable and I think giving myself some time to think will probably be the best thing.

Just out of curiosity Smokes, how old are you?

Nearly eighteen.

[QUOTE=Smokes;34268434]He doesn't have the capacity to get more than grumpy, as long as I've known him I've never seen him pissed or angry at anyone. He has crazy mood swings though and treats me like a friend rather than a girlfriend. He's completely stopped doing anything romantic for me or even holding my hand when we walk together. But what bothers me the most is when he ignores me and runs off with one of his friends instead. I really enjoy doing nice things for him (I'd think I could expect at least something small in return), I buy him dinner, wash his clothes, bake him cookies, I plan all our dates which usually he blows me off and stays in bed the whole day instead. I've walked 8-9 miles in the freezing cold or the rain to see him some days and he can't even get out of bed to let me in.[/QUOTE] i don't think he cares about you anymore, i'm afraid.

Smokes the way you describe him is awfully shitty especially about the not getting out of bed to see you after having gone a retardly long distance if that's indication of where your relationship is headed.